well since the thread's intent has sort of gotten derailed i guess ill poke my nose in.
my perspective isnt useless i dont think, though i am not nor have i ever done camming professionally. (only for individuals from whom i was separated by distance for a time)
in my life i worked as a bouncer in the local topless bars, so i knew a lot of ladies in an adult business. i dated several as well (though not while i was working there. never ever poo where you eat i say).
i never had a problem with what they did for a living, but im a known libertine.
i did run into one lady i went out with while i was bouncing who, once she found out where i bounced, dropped me like a hot brick. apparently working around scantily clad/naked women 20 odd hours a week made me untrustworthy in regards to monogamy. (or in her words "no way you can keep it in your pants")
this despite it being our second date. monogamy wasnt even an option that soon into things lol.
most of the ladies i worked with had a similar problem with dating. it isnt something you bring up immediately, and when you do it tends to be a game changer. the misconceptions and assumptions people make about any adult entertainment job are rather ridiculous. too many men (and women) assume that anyone who will share the view of their nude body with others for money are either sluts, whores or otherwise rude words. now some of them will like that idea, and that is just as problematic as those who dislike it. add to that the behavior of some men (usually a vast minority in clubs unlike cam world) towards strippers and those ladies tended to have a dismal view of dating.
now when it comes to my friends and family i have a policy of dont ask if you might not like the answer. im honest when asked directly about something, but i rarely volunteer any personal information at all unless it comes up by question or general conversation. if someone responds poorly to my choices or thoughts they are welcome to leave my presence. if it is family and i know they arent open minded enough to handle info about me i tell them exactly that "you dont want to know because you couldnt handle the truth" and leave it at that.
i try very hard to be honest in dealing with anyone. sometimes that honesty may be "none of your damn business" if i dont know them well or value them enough to deal with their opinions. that being said i understand why a "controversial" job might be something to be circumspect about. if i were dating someone i would hope that they would quickly find me open and unjudging enough to tell me they cammed. if not then i would have to think that i wasnt showing myself in the proper perspective, or that they had worries about the subject itself. as long as they didnt flat out lie why would it bother me? saying " i work online" or similar isnt a lie, it just isnt a complete truth. saying that they work as a paralegal would be (assuming they didnt also do that as well).
but all this doesnt matter much on an individual basis. if someone considers online interactions cheating then it is... for them and any partner whom they have an agreement with. knowing what does and does not equal cheating is important in a long term relationship of any kind. and that definition must be made only by the individuals involved. yes, even poly people can cheat. non monogamous doesnt mean that there isnt an agreement of fidelity within the group.
aside from that. i, as a modern, intelligent and thinking human being have no problem with any adult work. if i had a problem with it i still wouldnt bad mouth it. i would choose to not partake for myself. i certainly would not place judgement on those who do, and then frequent a forum or other website geared to that industry.
oh, btw (joking here, i know that the invisible line isnt one to be crossed) if any of you lovely models want a date, holla at yer boy
ive gotten long winded... as usual, but im going to follow up this post with a funny story about a prostitute i almost dated.
my perspective isnt useless i dont think, though i am not nor have i ever done camming professionally. (only for individuals from whom i was separated by distance for a time)
in my life i worked as a bouncer in the local topless bars, so i knew a lot of ladies in an adult business. i dated several as well (though not while i was working there. never ever poo where you eat i say).
i never had a problem with what they did for a living, but im a known libertine.
i did run into one lady i went out with while i was bouncing who, once she found out where i bounced, dropped me like a hot brick. apparently working around scantily clad/naked women 20 odd hours a week made me untrustworthy in regards to monogamy. (or in her words "no way you can keep it in your pants")
this despite it being our second date. monogamy wasnt even an option that soon into things lol.
most of the ladies i worked with had a similar problem with dating. it isnt something you bring up immediately, and when you do it tends to be a game changer. the misconceptions and assumptions people make about any adult entertainment job are rather ridiculous. too many men (and women) assume that anyone who will share the view of their nude body with others for money are either sluts, whores or otherwise rude words. now some of them will like that idea, and that is just as problematic as those who dislike it. add to that the behavior of some men (usually a vast minority in clubs unlike cam world) towards strippers and those ladies tended to have a dismal view of dating.
now when it comes to my friends and family i have a policy of dont ask if you might not like the answer. im honest when asked directly about something, but i rarely volunteer any personal information at all unless it comes up by question or general conversation. if someone responds poorly to my choices or thoughts they are welcome to leave my presence. if it is family and i know they arent open minded enough to handle info about me i tell them exactly that "you dont want to know because you couldnt handle the truth" and leave it at that.
i try very hard to be honest in dealing with anyone. sometimes that honesty may be "none of your damn business" if i dont know them well or value them enough to deal with their opinions. that being said i understand why a "controversial" job might be something to be circumspect about. if i were dating someone i would hope that they would quickly find me open and unjudging enough to tell me they cammed. if not then i would have to think that i wasnt showing myself in the proper perspective, or that they had worries about the subject itself. as long as they didnt flat out lie why would it bother me? saying " i work online" or similar isnt a lie, it just isnt a complete truth. saying that they work as a paralegal would be (assuming they didnt also do that as well).
but all this doesnt matter much on an individual basis. if someone considers online interactions cheating then it is... for them and any partner whom they have an agreement with. knowing what does and does not equal cheating is important in a long term relationship of any kind. and that definition must be made only by the individuals involved. yes, even poly people can cheat. non monogamous doesnt mean that there isnt an agreement of fidelity within the group.
aside from that. i, as a modern, intelligent and thinking human being have no problem with any adult work. if i had a problem with it i still wouldnt bad mouth it. i would choose to not partake for myself. i certainly would not place judgement on those who do, and then frequent a forum or other website geared to that industry.
oh, btw (joking here, i know that the invisible line isnt one to be crossed) if any of you lovely models want a date, holla at yer boy
ive gotten long winded... as usual, but im going to follow up this post with a funny story about a prostitute i almost dated.