In love with a camgirl

[justjoinedtopost]

There are a small handful of members I had to send similar messages to who realized they were making me unhappy and have respected my wishes to leave me alone. I think doing so has a higher success rate than just ignoring and hoping they get the hint.

(This is just my opinion/experience, too, again - you do you. I hope more girls will weigh in on this though because it's a fairly common problem!)

Your opinion needs to carry much more weight than mine with her. You have had to deal with this exact situation.

The opinion I offered was based mainly on this bit @Offdutybatman shared: "but I've blocked him on these accounts before and he just gets really upset." So she has at least made some half-hearted attempts to lay down some boundaries. Failed attempts from the sound of it.

My experience is not that of a camgirl (which is what she needs to be listening to). My experience is that of someone whose last attempt at dealing with a boundary crosser went very badly. I had an opportunity to have this person locked up, and could not bring myself to do it. Shit went on for months. By the end of it, this person was lying to try and have me locked up. Didn't work, but it taught me a lesson. If they don't give a shit about your boundaries, they don't give a shit about you. You don't feel sorry for these people.

If this guy is just a member in her chat room, then I think your view is correct, and mine an over-reaction. But there are times when it goes beyond that, and real identities, home addresses, real phone numbers etc. are found out (shared willingly even). If that is the case, he is no longer just a member in her chat room. So I guess the real questions here are what kind of access does he have to her, and what is he capable of?

The part in your post I highlighted in blue...I do not suggest that she ignore because she is hoping he will get the hint. I am suggesting that she ignore with the intent of deliberately provoking his negative behaviour.

Plot twist: @metalguy1906 is in love with @Offdutybatman

 

[metalguy1906]

Plot twist: @metalguy1906 is in love with @Offdutybatman

That would be a great Saw like twist, but i don't send pictures of me crying and i don't beg for naked photos

 

[justjoinedtopost]

That would be a great Saw like twist, but i don't send pictures of me crying and i don't beg for naked photos

I know, right? I mean, who even does that? And does it work?

Pathetic really. But I'm not going to write this technique off just yet. First I want to pick 100 models at random and send them tear stained sketches of their boobs just to see what kind of reactions I get. This could be a game changer.

 

[Offdutybatman]

I know, right? I mean, who even does that? And does it work?

Pathetic really. But I'm not going to write this technique off just yet. First I want to pick 100 models at random and send them tear stained sketches of their boobs just to see what kind of reactions I get. This could be a game changer.

It doesnt work lol it just makes me get angry lol.

 

[ACFFAN69]

I know, right? I mean, who even does that? And does it work?

Pathetic really. But I'm not going to write this technique off just yet. First I want to pick 100 models at random and send them tear stained sketches of their boobs just to see what kind of reactions I get. This could be a game changer.

In my experience cam models LOVE when you draw pictures for them.

Here's one I made for @VeronicaChaos :

And here's one I drew of @JoleneBrody :

 

[justjoinedtopost]

@Magnolia_Snow, seated at her keyboard. Took some artistic liberties with the underboob here, but then I'm hoping to get a song request out of this.

 

[Phoebe]

This topic is my favorite now.

 

[metalguy1906]

This topic is my favorite now.

Yes this escalated quickly

 

[mynameisbob84]

I drew this picture of FayGalore and her dog Floor a while back. It might just be my masterpiece.

 

[RedHerby]

The other way around also allowed? Below a drawing of me by a model friend.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

HELP WITH ID! ANYONE RECOGNIZE THIS MODEL?

Thread thoroughly derailed. Don't know where this girl works, but if she looks familiar don't hesitate, give me a name.

 

[Shaun__]

I want to post my fancy arts too! Notice the lack of skill, vision, and talent. That is what makes it truly valuable, most peeps can only do one or two at a time my parents tell me.

 

[Offdutybatman]

Relevant to thread (not OP but my posts)

 

[justjoinedtopost]

I want to post my fancy arts too! Notice the lack of skill, vision, and talent. That is what makes it truly valuable, most peeps can only do one or two at a time my parents tell me.

It this piece is any indication, then you do indeed lack talent. But certainly not vision. I find the palette you used here simply exquisite.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

And here's one I drew of @JoleneBrody :

I would recognize those legs anywhere.

 

[yossarian]

HELP WITH ID! ANYONE RECOGNIZE THIS MODEL?

Thread thoroughly derailed. Don't know where this girl works, but if she looks familiar don't hesitate, give me a name.

That's Virginia Woolf. She's hot, but don't ask her to do a bath show.

 

[Phoebe]

This is not my favorite topic anymore.

 

[Magnolia]

@Magnolia_Snow, seated at her keyboard. Took some artistic liberties with the underboob here, but then I'm hoping to get a song request out of this.

I am simultaneously confused and pleased with this thread.

This is so going in my Saturday Morning Cartoons album on my profile. Also, you can never have too much underbewbz.

 

[Silent_Meg]

What's the end of the story?

 

[metalguy1906]

What's the end of the story?

Our relationship is stronger than ever, she asks for my advice for everything and we continue spending days together. Days ago she said where i was all her life. She likes our relationship like this and i will wait until she is ready to meet

 

[justjoinedtopost]

Our relationship is stronger than ever, she asks for my advice for everything and we continue spending days together. Days ago she said where i was all her life. She likes our relationship like this and i will wait until she is ready to meet

It almost sounds like you are accepting a passive role here. A terrible, terrible idea. I hope I am misreading your post.

The only time a woman should be allowed to take charge of a relationship is when she is standing over you with a whip, and you are paying her to do it.

Do not “wait until she is ready to meet”. If “she likes your relationship like this”, then you are in a bad spot (assuming that you are wanting to meet her). You must seek out her vulnerabilities, look for chinks in her armor; you use these things to prod her, manipulate her, into believing that she not only “wants” to meet, but simply must meet you.

My condolences, sir. I am sorry to hear that your relationship has taken such an awful turn.

 

[Nordling]

Ha! Well, personally, I don't like manipulation from either party. Just honestly say what you want and if she/he refuses, move on.

 

[Jappie]

Yeah, no one should be in charge. But justjoinedtopost is right when he says

It almost sounds like you are accepting a passive role here. A terrible, terrible idea.

 

[Silent_Meg]

Damn, I still think there is something wrong about her

 

[Offdutybatman]

Those are bad signsss. I use those exact lines to stave off my stalker.

 

[ACFFAN69]

Those are bad signsss. I use those exact lines to stave off my stalker.

You tell your stalker that he "means everything to you" and "you're happy how good the relationship is"? Meanwhile asking him for advice on everything in life? Is that the best way to stop a stalker?

Legit question, I'm not being condescending or sarcastic. It just seems kind of counter-intuitive to me but sometimes counter-intuitive answers are the best solution.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

You tell your stalker that he means everything to you and you're happy how good the relationship is? Meanwhile asking him for advice on everything in life? Is that the best way to stop a stalker?

Legit question, I'm not being condescending or sarcastic. It just seems kind of counter-intuitive to me but sometimes counter-intuitive answers are the best solution.

Yes, this is a question that needs answering. Been wondering about this for over half an hour now.

http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse18.html
Better resources than this out there, but I like this one a lot.

 

[ACFFAN69]

Yes, this is a question that needs answering. Been wondering about this for over half an hour now.

http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse18.html
Better resources than this out there, but I like this one a lot.

Interesting, it sounds like he does recommend saying things like that to one of the types: "narcissistic stalker". Basically mirror their actions. Good read!

I wonder if that is a universally accepted solution, or the authors opinion? It makes some sense, but it seems like playing with fire.

 

[justjoinedtopost]

Interesting, it sounds like he does recommend saying things like that to one of the types: "narcissistic stalker". Basically mirror their actions. Good read!

I wonder if that is a universally accepted solution, or the authors opinion? It makes some sense, but it seems like playing with fire.

I think some of what the article was referring to was if you plan on maintaining a relationship with a stalker. He seems less to be recommending it than saying, should you choose to manipulate, this is what makes them tick. At least that was my take.

 

[Offdutybatman]

You tell your stalker that he "means everything to you" and "you're happy how good the relationship is"? Meanwhile asking him for advice on everything in life? Is that the best way to stop a stalker?

Legit question, I'm not being condescending or sarcastic. It just seems kind of counter-intuitive to me but sometimes counter-intuitive answers are the best solution.

No I was referring to the " liking things the way they are"