Isabella_deL said:
I'm trying to work out what in these situations the model's actually say. Maybe I'm just being dense, but I can't work out if it's like a model saying something that might come across that a member isn't important/would never be someone they're attracted to in real life, or if the model is outright saying "you're all clearly losers".
I have seen some models do this, I don't take offence at all as usually I think most members are retards anyway. Any model I know who has said something like that with me or any of her regulars present shouldn't be worried about her core group of members taking offence, because trust me - we get it! If I was told she only hung out with me because I was a paying client, I would probably take some offence - but venting at other members I actually find funny!
I guess if you really wanted to compliment your members, while at the same time venting at a fucktard you could try something like, 'you know its a common misconception that most members on a site like this are drooling Neanderthals, but I have an awesome bunch of members hang out with me. Then someone like you shows up and reminds me of all the bad things models think about members.'
RainyDayGuy said:
I can only speak for myself, but it has to do with making assumptions about me based on a very limited amount of information about who I am. It seems that the one of bit of info they do have, that I'm a MFC member, is all they need to know that I'm undesirable. One of the more common ways this comes across is the "I would never date or be attracted to someone from MFC in real life". It isn't just about romantic relationships though. It's like any kind of real life interaction with someone from MFC would be undesirable. I could do a whole rant about making judgments about people when you don't know them, but I'll spare the internet any more of that.
I think you are being offended for no reason, every member comes into each models room as an equal the first time they visit, they can only go up or down in a models esteems by how they behave! (If your user name is FistURass - well before you open your mouth you have lost points!) Have you looked at the posts in a busy models room? Do you think most of the guys there are people you would want to be friends with? 80 - 90% probably don't say anything at all and most of the rest have sexual requests. A model could answer more accurately, but out of all the traffic that hops through your room what would be the percentage that might stay and become regulars? Way less that 1% I would say?
Models will find a few members that they click with and chat with because they enjoy doing it rather than it being part of the job, look for when they log in, but that is a tiny percentage. These members ARE the type of people they might hang out with in real life, but it isn't an option because of how they met, or personal circumstances, or geography. In every community there are going to be one or two people we gravitate to because they share common interests or humor or music tastes, but surely you must see on a site like MFCs that this isn't a reason to do a road trip or plane trip to meet? There are customers I get on with incredibly well with at my work, and friended on facebook and catch up online sometimes - I would say were friends, but not one of them have I ever hung out with after work - and they are not offended!
When you say, One of the more common ways this comes across is the "I would never date or be attracted to someone from MFC in real life". you are assuming that is what the models are meaning. Of course most models will never meet members in the flesh that they've first meet online, but that's not 100% of models. I think, and models can disagree with this if its not true, that there are two parts to that statement - 'I would never date someone from MFC in real life' The first part is easy to understand. I would probably go into a job like cam model with that rule from the start. If you make it obvious you are there for online fun, and not offline meeting - no grey areas, it's probably going to at least prevent some awkward situations later.
'I would never be attracted to someone from MFC in real life'. - I don't personally think I have ever seen a model say that. I could understand this though from the way the majority of members behave. Would you want to hang out with someone whose opening conversation with you was 'How are you bb, horny - stand, show ass' - because this is what I mainly see as the primary level of conversation there! I'm not saying that's wrong - its an adult site, but its not leading to bbf status is it?
As I member I'm certainly not offended by models having the no meeting policy! Most probably mean 'please don't assume I would ever date or be attracted to someone from MFC in real life' Its on profiles because there are so many retards on MFCs - better to put it in simple terms so no one has any ideas about it being a dating site. What is accepted and tolerated on a adult site is totally different from what is acceptable in the real world, girl are just not looking for the qualities that most members bring to the table when joining up at MFCs. That's not to say that models and members can't become great friends.
I personally have met 2 models from the site. One came into my shop, I knew who she was straight away, and I served her as normal and didn't say a thing. Neither of us were put in a strange situation and life goes on. I guess that really doesn't count though!
The second was a model friend in the 'I'll never meet you in real life' category, but we became such good friends online, and I mean - friends with her family on facebook, she became friends with my wife on facebook(!), exchange Christmas cards, and she has sent my son birthday gifts, and we still caught up every couple of day even when she left cams. So when I was in her part of the world and I said, 'Well I don't want to freak you out but if you like...', and her answer was don't be silly of course I'll meet you. But I wasn't a member to her by that stage anyway. And you know what - that was still a little weird for both of us - weird, but nice all the same.
That said, I have been friends with other members from MFCs that have had awesome online relationships with models, and said it 'feels' stronger and better than their best friends, and they have been utterly shattered and heart broken when the models moves on from Cams, and the friendship hasn't lasted more than a few months, or even worse models leave with promises of being friends forever, and are never heard of again. I've taken from this, just realize in your head any relationship with a model is an online while she is at work thing. That way you can only be presently surprised rather than bitterly hurt.
Sorry if that's long and off topic, just had some experience in that area!