What would you be passionate to talk about with a potential date?
Anything that you're passionate about! I recently had a casual first date with someone who is poly and into the kink scene. We didn't make the conversations all about sex. Instead, we talked a bit about stuff we've experienced in the past, a little about our daily life, what we are interested in, etc. Normal first date stuff. Just because she is a cam model and into the BDSM scene doesn't mean that she doesn't have other things aside from sexy stuff that she is passionate about.
What things are probably a straight bore to talk about?
Honestly, I get bored if I talk too much about work. This was especially true when I was still live streaming. There's some people that will absolutely bombard you with questions when they find out you're a cam model or a content creator, and they want to know every single detail, because it's a turn on to them. Obviously not every cam model is going to have the same thoughts on it as me, but I find that it gets tedious fast, and then that turns to straight up irritation if someone only wants to talk about that part of my life.
+ hobbies? (or does she get that from stans?)
YES! TALK ABOUT YOUR HOBBIES! Mutual hobbies and interests are great conversation topics. Do you both like to read? Do you like similar movies? Are you both into fitness? Do either of you write or draw or film? These are all great topics that can lead to further, in depth conversations.
+ myself? (that's usually a mistake on the regular, but maybe would be the opposite if you work on cam? to not have to talk might be a blessing)
Again, YES! Unless I totally misread your posts, you're not a regular. You met her out in the real world. She's already made out with you. Obviously she's into you, at least on a sexual/physically intimate level. If she is agreeing to go out with you, then obviously she is going to want to get to know more about you.
Also She kept making deprecating remarks about the size of her breasts being too small; To me its "I'm attracted so therefore they are not too small" and "your demo likes them small , if you changed them you would have to find your audience all over again" but I remained silent as I was so shocked that she would feel that (she is gorgeous), and why would she need complements, doesn't she hear it every day and always?
I'm a small titty girl who is planning on getting a breast augmentation. I sometimes make comments about how small my tiddies are that could come off as self depreciating, but it's mostly just me trying to make terrible jokes. Just because I acknowledge that I have small boobies doesn't mean that I'm fishing for compliments or necessarily hating on my boobs. Yeah, I want to get my breasts enhanced, but that doesn't mean that I hate them the way they are. They're just tiny. She could very well be feeling the same way.
what's a good way to respond that stands out and is heard as a complement?
Honestly, this really just depends on how she is. If you feel like your relationship is already to the point where it's not weird to say this, you could just say "I love/like them". Don't say "I'm attracted so therefore they are not too small". That comes off as you saying that you do find small boobies unattractive, but hers are just big enough for you to like. Also, don't say the other thing about "if you changed them you would have to find your audience again". That's not really true and I know I'd be irritated if someone was trying to actively talk me out of getting something I wanted done.
In the end, as cliché as this will sound, just be yourself and allow her to just be herself. While she may be a cam model, she is still a human being. Treat her the same way you would treat any other woman with any other occupation.
as in any healthy relationship, communication is key. instead of asking strangers who have never met her. Just because we have the same career doesn't mean we have the same preferences.
