Getting back into camming - worried my ex will see

[CutieLolo]

Can anyone help me out in figuring out a solution or confirming whether or not I can block a specific user from seeing my feed? I have the state I live in blocked, and I removed him from my friend's list, but I know he's still active on MFC. I want to get back into camming, but worry about him seeing it. It was an emotionally abusive relationship. I realize I might have to find a new website for camming.

Any advice/knowledge/help on this would so super appreciated! He got me into camming, but was incredibly controlling about it. I'm excited to do it on my own this time.

Thank you

 

[a_haze420]

Make sure to give him a lifetime ban and ignore if you know his mfc username.

But he could just view you not logged in as a guest.

There will be ways he could figure out how to watch and contact you. Basically nothing is 100%.

 

[yummybrownfox]

If MFC is the site you love camming on and you're excited to get back into it, I think you should.

I don't think you should quit just because you're worried about some controlling asshole finding you. Even if you did switch sites, he may just look for you and find you elsewhere anyway.

Besides, it would suck for you to put all that work into your MFC profile...MFC tip menus...show ideas...gaining new regulars...maining a decent camscore...etc. only to have all of it come to an end...because of some stupid-ass man.

Just continue blocking your state...perma-ban him...put him on ignore...block him from posting on your MFC wall (or just disable your wall altogether)...

I love that MFC has that feature where, in addition to banning someone from your chat, you can clear the chat, so all the shit he posted in public chat would be instantly removed. I think that's great.

 

[AudriTwo]

You can always cam on a different site and start fresh.

 

[thecandiiclub]

Hello...alll.... why you worried?

 

[CutieLolo]

I mostly feel uncomfortable with the idea that he would be able to see me in that context. He ruled over my bodies and actions for so long I don't want him to have the satisfaction of it. It's not like he can do anything to hurt me, I just feel deeply anxious of at the idea of him knowing I'm doing this again (since he was the one that got me started then made me quit even though I liked it). It's more of an emotional thing! I know his MFC profile name, he's always logged in under that account. I removed him from my profile list, and have my state blocked. He shouldn't be able to see me at this point I should think.

I have so much work into my MFC profile - but honestly since I haven't been active in a while it might be better to start on a new site since I didn't have the largest following. I really appreciate the emotional support and advice!

 

[dilligaf0]

If he made you quit, then look at it this way. What better satisfaction than knowing he knows you're "defying" his wishes and doing what you want to? Take the steps you can to block him, but don't worry about it beyond that point.
There's no need to worry about things you have no control over.
Adapt to what happens and keep living your life.

 

[Meganxx]

Screw him!! Do as much blocking as you can of course but don’t let him stop you. You’ll be camming your way this time. Ignore the shit out of him it gives him no power and he will get bored and try to find himself a new victim. So sorry that he did that to you also. Make sure you take care of yourself and build yourself back up from whatever shit he put you through.

 

[MadJohnson]

I mostly feel uncomfortable with the idea that he would be able to see me in that context. He ruled over my bodies and actions for so long I don't want him to have the satisfaction of it. It's not like he can do anything to hurt me, I just feel deeply anxious of at the idea of him knowing I'm doing this again (since he was the one that got me started then made me quit even though I liked it). It's more of an emotional thing! I know his MFC profile name, he's always logged in under that account. I removed him from my profile list, and have my state blocked. He shouldn't be able to see me at this point I should think.

I have so much work into my MFC profile - but honestly since I haven't been active in a while it might be better to start on a new site since I didn't have the largest following. I really appreciate the emotional support and advice!

Like @Songbird_Shelly said, I don't think you should leave MFC over it. It's my favorite platform, so I'm biased, but you also seem to have liked it and you already are setup to get started. Plus, leaving MFC doesn't really solve your problem. If he's obsessed enough to evade the multiple levels of banning and hiding you've put into place, do you really think he won't check for you on other sites too?

I'm with @dilligaf0 here. Get back at him by defying him. Go back on MFC if that's where you want to cam and run things your way!

 

[CutieLolo]

Thank you everyone I feel inspired as heck! I'm going to see if I can make MFC work for me again despite coming back after a while and not having the new model status. I'm also trying Streammate out! I appreciate the support so much!

 

[Deleted member 43650]

If he pops up, ban him. Remember, your fans are most often on your side. You'd be surprised how quickly fans can turn into a 'protection mob' when someone is harassing you. If you block your ex (if and when he pops up) and he comes back under a different username, don't hesitate to make it known. Your fans won't be very welcoming to him. Depending on the site, you can also block his IP. The only way he could bypass this is by using a VPN protocol, which most people don't know how to do.

Don't let this dude scare you - it is furthering the abuse. It is YOUR body and YOUR decision to cam. If he wants to be a petty asshole and follow you around, boot his ass. If he is overtly harassing you, you can let the site you use know about it and they can ban his IP for you along with a desist warning. Online harassment is illegal in the States; it won't fare very well for him if he is being abusive in your cam-room.

Just remember you have a huge community on your side. He can't do shit about that.