Miss_Lollipop said:
JoleneBrody said:
I have one thing to say in regards to statistics for sex workers being at a higher risk for psychological damage....
When was the last time you saw a study on the risk of psychological damage from working in a Comcast call center? Let alone, THOUSANDS of studies.
Just like the percentage rate of girls in porn being sexually abused. I bet 100 bucks if they actually studied other common fields of work they would find almost identical results.
Reality is though, that society doesn't care about the bank teller, or the call center worker or the dude who plugs into a cubicle day after day enough to even have a study for comparison. Their is not one single tongue in cheek thing to be fascinated with so nobody focuses on it. I can tell you from my experience that the 4 years working in a call center for a large telecom company was by FAR the most psychologically damaging job I've ever had. And I can tell you for a fact that not one single person in that HUGE building enjoyed their job in the slightest, and most every person I knew well there had an emotional come apart as a direct result of their misery in their jobs often... but nobody talks about it because nobody gives a shit if it's not dramatic and oh-la-la RISKAY!
Taking charity is humiliating. There is nothing more psychologically damaging than being out right humiliated every day, and that's how it feels to a lot of people who actually NEED charity and have no other choice.
Speaking from personal experience, camming has been the most isolating job I've ever had. However that really has been the only negative I personally have encountered psychologically.
For me, camming was an escape from a job where I was being psychologically damaged every day. I live with the deaths of thousands of animals that died because of my decisions.. and im still feeling that damage. But I'd never tell someone *not* to do that job because of it. I'd also never tell my friend who is a psychiatric nurse that she might want to consider a different career path. She is in nursing because she feels like its the best option for her lifestyle, to financially support her two children. She felt like it was the smartest career path not because she 'loves' the job but because she felt like it was the smartest financial long term choice for her family. I know she's suffering psychological damage all the time. My S/O joined the army because he had a family to support and felt he had no other reasonable career/job prospects. He suffers from PTSD because of his job. Nobody says 'its not ok to join the army because you feel like it will be a stable source of income for you" yet everyone knows soldiers are likely to be damaged psychologically.
food for thought.
Great post. However, we disagree on something. Same thing Jicky and I disagree on. You seem to think money is more important than a parents mental health. I put a parents mental health ABOVE money. Yes, money is important. However, it's not the MOST important. As I stated before, being poor had very little impact on me. My moms mental health had a HUGE impact on my well being. Because she suffered, I know suffer.
I don't believe anyone should enter a job that's psychologically damaging, if they do not like it. They do not hAve to LOVE it but when you are at a high risk job and dislike it, the chances of you receiving damage from it, increases. And whether you want to believe it or not, a parents mental health WILL impact a child, possibly for life.
As a parent, your number one priority should be your mental health. Before anything else. Definitely before money. Money comes and goes. Psychological damage can stick with you until you die.
Now, I know most people disagree with me, and that's okay. We all have the right to parent differently. When I become a parent (hopefully
ray: ) my first priority will be my child's mental health. Which means my first priority has to be MY mental health.