Would you be willing to date a guy that doesn't like having oral sex?

[Deleted member 37064]

I am probably in the minority, but I don't enjoy getting oral. It does nothing for me so I happily skip it. A bit to get wet is helpful but that's all. I don't mind giving it though and do so all the time because my partner does enjoy it.

I once was with someone that didn't like oral, nor fingering. She said the tongue was too rough on her, and same with most of the fingers. I can understand the hands, especially if they're calloused or dry from manual labor. But, I've never heard of someone say the tongue was too rough (think of like a cat). I tried to go down on her, and she would stop me. If I tried to finger her, she wouldn't let me either (for the record, my hands are not rough, nor are they overly soft). Interestingly enough, she had no issues with toy or penile penetration.

Just chalked her up to someone that's a one and one and moved on...

 

[MissJasmineUK]

Yes! Not everyone enjoys every aspect of sex. In my opinion, when dating someone who you genuinely care about, naturally you learn to respect their own preferences, and in turn are willing to compromise on your own desires, even if they are not completely aligned because you want to make your lover happy.

You may not like having oral sex, but discover other sexual acts that you both immensely enjoy, therefore the fact that oral sex is absent may be overlooked as long as the overall experience remains enjoyable and fulfilling for you both

 

[Bocefish]

Guy, you seem to have an innate interest in the porn industry, so perhaps a paralegal or legal assistant in that realm might help put your curiosity/speciality to good use... and who knows... it may even help get you laid.

 

[ThePrincessLuxy]

Hell No! I love suckin dick

 

[IsabellaSnow]

No I don't think so, simply because I would get a complex about it, I would almost certainly take it as an insult to my pussy and would end up feeling insecure. Plus I often find sex feels better after I've had an orgasm and I can't always orgasm through sex, so if someone weren't willing to give oral that could be a lot of pleasure gone for me. I also enjoy giving, I have issues with my current boyfriend because (and I thought this would never happen), my jaw just isn't big enough and there's nothing I can do about it, and I miss giving good head, but fuck man, it's just not fun if it hurts and you can't get to the deepthroat part! If I had a partner who had a very genuine reason, like it caused them pain, then I would accept it. I have had guys in the past who have wanted to receive but not give, I would not date anyone who seemed like that now though as it's a pretty telling character flaw. Selfish lovers can be taught, but as far as I can tell, once someone establishes a selfish sexual pattern with you, it's really hard to fully shake it.

 

[MDouble00]

I'm not totally into receiving oral, so it's not a sexual desire that I couldn't live without. So if my partner indicated that they don't like doing it, I wouldn't be a hindrance to the relationship. I don't mind giving oral, but if my partner was similar to me and didn't desire it. I would respect that.

I will say that I have had issues with past partners because of it not necessarily being a thing that gets or enhances my mood. And then I've had some wild hook-ups that getting caught up in the moment I'm like man what is going on here lol.

 

[Dbstorm_]

I'm new here, but after reading a lot of threads I can honestly say that Guy is one of my favorite members. A straight shooter who isn't afraid to put himself out there, I admire that.

As far as the mouth sex goes, I love giving it. One of my first fantasies as a young lad was putting my mouth on/in/around a girl's special marriage zone (I was raised Christian). I always felt oddly self conscious about receiving oral, and I can enjoy it from time to time but it's never going to be my favorite thing. I would be mortified if my partner hated it. I would feel like Batman without his utility belt.. It's a huge part of my act and the show might never be the same. I would prefer to go without it than to go without giving it.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

if i liked someone enough and we were compatible honestly I wouldn't even care if they didn't want to be sexual at all. I'd need physical intimacy but ... that doesn't always mean sex to me. I don't like getting oral from men very much.. so it wouldn't be a big deal.

 

[Deleted member 43650]

Straight guy here - hope you don't mind my chiming in One thing I LOVE about my wife is that she enjoys oral sex very much. I find oral sex can be extremely intimate and engaging - even more so than penetrative sex at times. I love giving my wife oral - it seems to make her feel less self-conscious, bolster her self-esteem, and let's face it...it feels freaking good! All things I want for her, always.

Sooo, no, I don't think I could do a relationship wherein oral sex was null and void. Sex is a language, with many many dialects...oral is a HUGE one. I feel like excising oral sex from a relationship inhibits so many opportunities to love and grow closer to your partner.