Should I visit a cam girl from Romania ?

[JoleneBrody]

Dude, when old people talk about life regrets, they aren't fucking talking about going to another country to fuck a woman you met on a free cam site who is just as likely as to not be trying to scam you, behind their wife/gf and 2 kid's backs.

Guys, I'm pretty sure we're posting in a troll thread.

wake up little girl. most of guys do cheat...most of them do it just because of sex...most of them never tell to anybody...and take it from me...when old people talk about life regrets it may not be about a webcam experience because they didnt have one 50 years ago...but are far worse situations then mine...oldtimers are far away from innocent people that we like to beleive they are...they just look it and express themselves a little different...if they say "she was so romantic" it would mean "we fucked like crazy all night" nowdays.

You're a douche canoe. Please give me your girl friends number, I'll take over from here.

)) thank you but no thank you
if you were in my position and single would you do it?

But your position isn't single so that question makes no sense. But no, I'm not a moron.

 

[AmberCutie]

Not english! Definitely dumb.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Dude, when old people talk about life regrets, they aren't fucking talking about going to another country to fuck a woman you met on a free cam site who is just as likely as to not be trying to scam you, behind their wife/gf and 2 kid's backs.

Guys, I'm pretty sure we're posting in a troll thread.

wake up little girl. most of guys do cheat...most of them do it just because of sex...most of them never tell to anybody...and take it from me...when old people talk about life regrets it may not be about a webcam experience because they didnt have one 50 years ago...but are far worse situations then mine...oldtimers are far away from innocent people that we like to beleive they are...they just look it and express themselves a little different...if they say "she was so romantic" it would mean "we fucked like crazy all night" nowdays.

I have a feeling this is a troll thread too.

You would regret it a lot more when you're old if you went to meet this woman and then lost your family over it, and this woman wasn't even interested, than you would not having met a woman you had an infatuation with for a few years because you were bored and she knew how to make you feel wanted.
Imagine when you're old dying alone, having barely been able to see your kids on weekends, and having the mother tell them exactly why you're not there, and them hating you for it. Because they will. And your wife would find out.

I do know what it's like to meet someone online who you genuinely want to be with, and the difference between meeting someone and just being lonely/clinging onto something. You haven't met your soul mate. You've just met a woman who treats you nicely because it's her job.

Like I said before, you may just want to meet her for coffee or "a quick fuck" to try and get it out of your system (you're deluding yourself). Well if she is interested and not trying to scam you, then I assure you she won't be. And if you do sleep with her etc, or even if you don't, she holds a lot on you. She could easily tell your wife what's going on.

Anyway, calling someone a little girl who's probably not much younger than you when you're acting like a 12 year old brat is not really going to get you far.

Either you're a troll and this is a piss take, or you are in fact retarded and your dick has taken over.
I always find it's the people who write really stupid posts who then say "I'm a really clever guy", has anyone else noticed that?

I have never had to tell people I'm clever in writing, or even felt the need.

 

[Meoff_69]

)) thank you but no thank you
if you were in my position and single would you do it?[/quote]

*those reading this who know me here and who've seen my replies before, I apologize for sounding like a broken record*

Okay, I'll play along....

When you started this thread, I responded back to you and I sincerely wished you luck. That was before I read the rest of it, when you announced that you were married, and a father. So, you asked a model "if you were in my position and single would you do it?" Let's take the cam models out of this for a quick minute, shall we? I am single, and to a degree...I am in your position. I have become friends with a few cam models during the short time I've been on the camsite that I visit regularly. And like you, I would absolutely love to meet them in person. Also like you, it's not necessarily a "sex thing." Remember, what these ladies do first and foremost, is entertain. It's their profession. Their job. Where you and I differ, is that I have not had a cam model tell me that she'd like to meet me, in person. I admit, that would be very tempting. But please, man! Use your brain! You know...the lump of matter that resides behind your eye sockets, and between your ears? If not for the sake of your own sanity, and to protect your wife and family.

I don't proclaim to be the poster child for morality. Nor am I a psychologist. But go back and re-read what you said, when you started this thread. You answered your own question. You had/have legitimate concerns about this woman. Walk...away! The fact that you are married, with a family, should force you to come to your senses! There's no "in between" or "gray area" when it comes to that. Look, remember I said I'd love to meet some of the cam models that I've become friends with? As much as I'd like to, that will probably never happen. It sucks, but I've accepted reality. For me personally, I'm just happy to be able to interact with some really great and down to earth ladies. And I consider myself lucky. The ladies I'm friends with, aren't fake and they aren't scammers. We interact via emails, tweet, on blogs such as these. They ask how I'm doing outside of the camsite, and I ask how they're doing as well. Out of respect, I don't ask about sensative info. I'm satisfied w/ the relationships, even with the limitations. It's a respect thing. Understand?

Last...you really need to drop this idea. To me, the fact you're married, brought out the concerns you had with your first post. Listen to that little voice in your head. It's telling you to move on. At the very least...do it for your kids!! Oh and as far as your "most guys cheat" theory...don't fall into that trap. You have a woman that you go home to every night. If you're not getting whatever you feel you need from her, try a novel concept....TALK TO HER!! Remember, she's a person who has wants, desires and fantasies, just like you! Have you tried to ask her to incorporate them, as a couple? If you're not getting enough sex, try asking her what gets her in the mood for sex! You'd be surprised! It could be something as simple as doing the dishes or cooking dinner, one night!

Remember...any "boy" with a dick and some hormones can get a woman pregnant, and become a father. But it takes a MAN to try and control his urges, be a partner and lover to his lady, and be a Dad...a Daddy...a Papa...to his children!

 

[jackie_O]

I'd just like to reproduce this from an email conversation I exchanged with one of my regulars on Chaturbate:

Just had an opportunity to meet someone on here many states away on a trip. That led to us becoming close, but it kind of turned bad from there. Some of her lies are starting to unravel, and unfortunately I've already helped her out in a very significant way financially. Could get very ugly from here, but we will see what happens.

[edit] He ended up thanking me for being firm on not meeting anyone in real life

Definitely a good idea that you have on your bio that you will not meet with anyone.

 

[JickyJuly]

I despise when men who are planning to do something stupid and questionable blame it on their gender. No. All men don't cheat. You can be a douche all you want, but you don't have the right to try to drag everyone who has a penis into it. And why is this guy just assuming that he's going to get laid out of it? She might, upon meeting you, find you as unattractive as some of us have. Her being a camgirl really doesn't improve your odds.

 

[AnaVictoriaXO]

OK...I see its hard for most of you to get this but what if I would say that I think i literally found a soulmate on a fucking porn webcam site.
And that I just want to meet her once. For a drink or a fuck. I don't care whats it gonna be. I just want this 2 years to turn into 5 minutes of reality
even if over a coffe on the airport or a quickie at the Mcdonalds. I dont care about the fucking sex.
Then I am planing to end all this and focus on my family. There is NO fucking way I am leaving my family.
Just NO fucking way. But if I am for so long with my wife and my kids...that doesnt mean I live with a soulmate.
I am not gonna leave them even if I see "Pink" is perfect for me. Would hurt a little bit at first but then I would forget with time.
But just dont wanna be somewhere in 50 years on a bed with shit in my pants waiting to leave this fucking world and thinking why the fuck didn't
i just go and meet her. I am young now. This is the time. I have listened to to much old people confessing what they should have done.
I don't wanna be the person that should have done it. I wanna be the person who did it.
I realise that a partnership demands a lot of compensation and then its never perfect. I am not hoping or dreaming of a partnership with "Pink".
Told her that millions of times. She knows it very well. I wanna meet her. Its not the other way around. I know its wrong from me.
I was just asking more because of my safety consirn going to that place as oppose to the moral value which I know is totaly wrong.
Would simply like to meet her to cut the fucking phantasy line so to speak and then just end all this and focus on my real life.
I can't go on with this double life...2.5 years is enough.
And to everyone...she never fucking demanded anything from me. NEVER. The only thing she did is told me she lost her documents. Thats why I sent her the money.
Here is kind of a formula of our relationship: 85% of time we joke, 5% of time we talk about kids, 5% of time we talk about our feelings,
3% of time i try to find out who she is (here she mostly freezes when it comes to technical information, but she tells me anything else),
the last 2% are probably me falling asleep over the web cam

Wow.

"Piece of shit" kind of sums you up.

How the hell would you feel if this "wife" of yours had some man on her brain all the time, planned on meeting and fucking him while still keeping you around and in the dark?

Im kind of hoping you go through with this, get fucked over, your "wife" finds out and realizes what a scumbag you are, then gets the fuck away from you.

Youre not only stupid, which is made obvious by pretty much everything said in this thread, you're a fucking douchebag.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

:?
oh... wife... kids...cyber mistress... dude you are messed up.

I'd waste my time posting something but I think I can just say "I agree with everything JoJo said" and cover it.
:lol:

Dude I'm getting old and I regret lots of stuff but.... Really. Jeeze. Running off to another country to get 5 min of strange while my wife and kids sit at home wouldn't be on the list.

:? That's fucked up.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

if you were in my position and single would you do it?

But you aren't single, you fucktard. You have a "wife" and kids. WTF?

 

[Nordling]

Wait...

Is this really Governor Mark Sanford?

 

[curiousone]

Thank you all for your opinions.

I would like to thank Isabella_deL[/b] here cause I feel like she truly understands what kind of situation I am in.
And for explaining me what a troll thread means. English is not my native language. And no, I am not trying to get attention.
I simply want to let it out and maybe it will be of use to anyone else. I didn't find any existing forums about this particular topic
and that is why I decided to open one. I think there a lot more situations like mine out there but I also beleive it is to shameful for a man to talk it out loud.
Thank you Isabella_del once more. Thanks also for everybody else who has given me a reality slap in the face. Needed it.
Im far away from ok. But I am kinda starting to sobber up. I think its kind of a addiction, like i am hypnotised.
Ironitiy of this is that I love psychology and I like to analyse the way people interact and blabla. But this time maybe I got a boomerang.
I dont drink, dont use drugs, dont smoke do a lot of sports but this is the worst kind of drug i could have.
You guys started to make me think (what is left of my brain that it is) on the whole situation.
I have to agree that my education and common sense have nothing in common with my stupidity on this topic. Its morronic. We all agree on that.
Since I had children my wife, like any good mother, she had to pay a lot of attention to them. Because of my stresfull and 14 hour working schedule I have
I had to move from our bedroom to the living room to get some sleep cause otherwise I just couldn't manage all the work.
It is soon after that I went from porn sites because of lack of sex to webcam chats. And thats when I met "Pink".
And even though in this 2.5 years my sex life has approved a lot becasue children have grown up I stayed in contact with "Pink".
I basicly can't and will not admit that she is scamming me. I consider myself a very rational person in real life. Need absolute proof to beleive in something.
About a year ago I gave "Pink" one of most sensintemental things of mine. A neckless from my late granma who gave it to me when I was a boy.
Beacuse my parents were working hard as I was growing up she was basicly my mom so to speak...She was the one I would go when I had problems. She was the one to run to.
I have a lot of luxurious stuff but that one was by far most important to me. I gave it to Pink because I beleived she was special.
And I am grasping to that thought that I didn't give it to a scammer...and its not easy to let go of that idea.
I am beging for someone to try to understand me. Thats all. I should be in a hospital right now because of some cardio issues and I think all this double life
has a great deal to do with it.

Thank you all once more. I hope this will be of any help to some other brainless douchebag.

 

[Swirl]

Forget showing this thread to the model you are planning to meet.

Let's show this thread to your wife instead.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Ok semi serious question is there a cam girl anonymous support group? Porn can be addictive, and probably Cam Girls more addictive than most forms of porn.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are being honest.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=porn+addiction+therapy

 

[Jupiter551]

OK...I see its hard for most of you to get this but what if I would say that I think i literally found a soulmate on a fucking porn webcam site.
And that I just want to meet her once. For a drink or a fuck. I don't care whats it gonna be. I just want this 2 years to turn into 5 minutes of reality
even if over a coffe on the airport or a quickie at the Mcdonalds. I dont care about the fucking sex.
Then I am planing to end all this and focus on my family. There is NO fucking way I am leaving my family.
Just NO fucking way. But if I am for so long with my wife and my kids...that doesnt mean I live with a soulmate.
I am not gonna leave them even if I see "Pink" is perfect for me. Would hurt a little bit at first but then I would forget with time.
But just dont wanna be somewhere in 50 years on a bed with shit in my pants waiting to leave this fucking world and thinking why the fuck didn't
i just go and meet her. I am young now. This is the time. I have listened to to much old people confessing what they should have done.
I don't wanna be the person that should have done it. I wanna be the person who did it.
I realise that a partnership demands a lot of compensation and then its never perfect. I am not hoping or dreaming of a partnership with "Pink".
Told her that millions of times. She knows it very well. I wanna meet her. Its not the other way around. I know its wrong from me.
I was just asking more because of my safety consirn going to that place as oppose to the moral value which I know is totaly wrong.
Would simply like to meet her to cut the fucking phantasy line so to speak and then just end all this and focus on my real life.
I can't go on with this double life...2.5 years is enough.
And to everyone...she never fucking demanded anything from me. NEVER. The only thing she did is told me she lost her documents. Thats why I sent her the money.
Here is kind of a formula of our relationship: 85% of time we joke, 5% of time we talk about kids, 5% of time we talk about our feelings,
3% of time i try to find out who she is (here she mostly freezes when it comes to technical information, but she tells me anything else),
the last 2% are probably me falling asleep over the web cam

LOL well you're asking us our opinion! And calling her a soulmate doesn't indicate that you'd be happy with only meeting her for 5 minutes, and nor does saying you'd regret it on your deathbed if you didn't - like I said, you asked our opinions and my opinion is you are probably a little bored, but not unhappy, in your marriage and looking for some excitement and mystery and if you are able to self-justify this and do it anyway I think there's a good chance you could end up destroying your marriage.

Is it possible to ask what her cam name is? I can't imagine anyone here is going to go stalk her, it just might be easier to form an impression of what it is you're talking about if we can actually see how she interacts with people. Also, we're naturally nosy. It's not HorrrnyHelen is it?

 

[Jupiter551]

If your life falls apart because of your mid-life crisis over some Eastern European model you don't even trust... I think that will haunt you far longer than never meeting the girl you never intended to live life with. :roll:

If you can't call it quits and move on to being that dedicated family man you speak of without meeting her once, Then you're weak! Stop being a weak ass pussy and man up. No one likes a bitch boy!

Just reading this already made my cooter shrivel up and hide.

You've turned into such a badass since your avatar went undead, it scares me but I kinda like it

 

[curiousone]

Out of respect of her I will not tell her model name. You are missing the point.
If you would go into her room you would see nothing special exept that
she looks really good. She scams members as said and she tells me everything about it
and is not hidding it from me. She is also kind of a tutuor to the rookie camgirls that come to
the studio that she works in. She teaches them how to behave, what to say, what to do, aso...
She has a lot of experience with camming and truly knows what she is doing.

Like i said...I am gonna let some time pass...and then I am gonna probably send her this thread
so she can look why I have this second thoughts of meeting her.
But actually we went of topic...I am not trying to justify if its right or not what I do.
I know its wrong. The question is...is it likely i will be scammed on the location of meeting.

 

[Zoomer]

So you have a wife and kids. Are probably middle aged, and chatting to a young lady in a foreign country.
You want to meet her because of the "what-if" scenario plaguing your mind in the future, yet you claim to love your wife and family and would never leave them.

Life is about choices, but it's also about responsibility and trust, loyalty and love.

You are willing to betray your wife's trust, loyalty and love. You are willing to betray your children's trust, and all for what? To see if some young thang really likes you or not?

You've a family and with that comes commitment and responsibility. Ditching said responsibility by endangering all that - just to massage your ego over whether a young lady can find you attractive, is utterly selfish and moderately despicable. But you aren't the first to do that - we've all watched American Beauty I'm sure

But lets not lie. Your motivation in going is because this seriously hot chick may find you attractive, and that really makes you feel good...
Reality is, she probably doesn't. Reality is, your family deserves better... be a man, live up to your responsibilities and don't be a selfish prick. In relationships we all make trade off's.
If you do go and see this girl, be a man about it and tell your wife - she deserves the honesty. She deserves to know so that she can make an informed decision as to whether you are really what is best for her and the kids. After all, you've nothing to fear right? If you have, then you know what you're doing is wrong... so stop being selfish.

 

[curiousone]

to ZOOMER

You are right about all except for my age...I am not middle aged...my children are still little...me and the model are only 2 years apart.
And as far as I was told I am not the worst thing to look at...so its not a typical Beauty and the Beast story as you applied earlier.
Far from that.

 

[ScarletVixen]

me and the model are only 2 years apart.

As far as you know...but then again I recall you saying that she gets evasive about 'technical details'...

 

[bob]

But actually we went of topic...I am not trying to justify if its right or not what I do.
I know its wrong. The question is...is it likely i will be scammed on the location of meeting.

nah...it's still on topic....everybody here is still talking about being scammed....it's just that the interest has shifted from your concern about being scammed by this model, to our concern about you scamming your family.

which makes the question:
if it's ok for you to scam your family, why isn't it ok if that model scams you?

 

[LailaBaise]

Out of respect of her I will not tell her model name.

Yeah, but what are you going to do out of respect for your wife and children?
How the hell do any of us know if you are going to get scammed? None of us knows this girl! Seriously? If one of us blindly says yes, you will get scammed, just to shut you up, what will that change?


YES YOU WILL GET SCAMMED IF YOU MEET THIS GIRL.

 

[sweetiebatman]

What a mess!

I would run a million miles in the other direction.

You have a wife and kids to lose over this fantasy
You have given away a sentimental family heirloom over this fantasy
Youve have given hard earned $$$ away over this fantasy
You've "known" her for 2 years yet she is still elusive
You KNOW shes a scammer, I bet she says what shes saying to you to all the boys...BB

I'm in two minds wether this is someone winding us up or there are actually people out there that stupid that in the face of all the evidence still cant decide between what is physically real i.e a loving family and the fantasy of onlime camlife

IMO if you cannot seperate the two you shouldn't be allowed on Camsites!

 

[FrenchKitty]

to ZOOMER

You are right about all except for my age...I am not middle aged...my children are still little...me and the model are only 2 years apart.
And as far as I was told I am not the worst thing to look at...so its not a typical Beauty and the Beast story as you applied earlier.
Far from that.

And even though in this 2.5 years my sex life has approved a lot becasue children have grown up I stayed in contact with "Pink".

Ok then , you have magical children who grow up while remaining small.

 

[JickyJuly]

Thank you all for your opinions.

I would like to thank Isabella_deL[/b] here cause I feel like she truly understands what kind of situation I am in.
And for explaining me what a troll thread means. English is not my native language. And no, I am not trying to get attention.
I simply want to let it out and maybe it will be of use to anyone else. I didn't find any existing forums about this particular topic
and that is why I decided to open one. I think there a lot more situations like mine out there but I also beleive it is to shameful for a man to talk it out loud.
Thank you Isabella_del once more. Thanks also for everybody else who has given me a reality slap in the face. Needed it.
Im far away from ok. But I am kinda starting to sobber up. I think its kind of a addiction, like i am hypnotised.
Ironitiy of this is that I love psychology and I like to analyse the way people interact and blabla. But this time maybe I got a boomerang.
I dont drink, dont use drugs, dont smoke do a lot of sports but this is the worst kind of drug i could have.
You guys started to make me think (what is left of my brain that it is) on the whole situation.
I have to agree that my education and common sense have nothing in common with my stupidity on this topic. Its morronic. We all agree on that.
Since I had children my wife, like any good mother, she had to pay a lot of attention to them. Because of my stresfull and 14 hour working schedule I have
I had to move from our bedroom to the living room to get some sleep cause otherwise I just couldn't manage all the work.
It is soon after that I went from porn sites because of lack of sex to webcam chats. And thats when I met "Pink".
And even though in this 2.5 years my sex life has approved a lot becasue children have grown up I stayed in contact with "Pink".
I basicly can't and will not admit that she is scamming me. I consider myself a very rational person in real life. Need absolute proof to beleive in something.
About a year ago I gave "Pink" one of most sensintemental things of mine. A neckless from my late granma who gave it to me when I was a boy.
Beacuse my parents were working hard as I was growing up she was basicly my mom so to speak...She was the one I would go when I had problems. She was the one to run to.
I have a lot of luxurious stuff but that one was by far most important to me. I gave it to Pink because I beleived she was special.
And I am grasping to that thought that I didn't give it to a scammer...and its not easy to let go of that idea.
I am beging for someone to try to understand me. Thats all. I should be in a hospital right now because of some cardio issues and I think all this double life
has a great deal to do with it.

Thank you all once more. I hope this will be of any help to some other brainless douchebag.

Let's just sum this up and take all of your flowery, romantic thoughts about the unicorn camgirl out of the situation. Maybe it will give you some perspective on what you're actually up to here.

-The woman who's birthed your children (whom you're calling wife but haven't actually married) spends her attention on said kids. Most sane people would call that working.
-Apparently, you need money badly enough to work 14 hour days. So, your wife and kids don't get too much attention from you either. If the working is needed, no shame in that. BUT
-You're spending what little free time you have on a camgirl.
-You're spending money that you traded time with your family to get on a camgirl.
-You're giving gifts to a camgirl.
-You're thinking of taking a vacation for a camgirl.

Obviously, I'm all for being generous with camgirls if you've got it like that, but if you need to work that much, you don't have it. It sounds like you're spending time, money and emotions that frankly you're stealing from your family. Forget about the internet trophy. Take your family on vacation. Appreciate what you have, dude.

 

[Zoomer]

Kinda makes it worse actually That at a young age you're considering infidelity to reaffirm your stud status, whilst leaving your wife at home looking after young children whilst Daddy gets to go see if he's hot enough to get laid?

Just seems even worse for some reason

Maybe she does think you are hot - maybe you are. But if you've no intention of leaving the wife and kids, you're only doing this to massage your own ego surely? "Daddy's still got it" (irrespective of whether it includes sex - and if it doesn't, what's the point?).

I don't think, however well reasoned, you will consider anyone's opinions (after having asked for them). At which point - go for it. Maybe it'll be "true love". Maybe it won't. Maybe your wife will leave you after finding out, maybe she won't. Maybe you can pick up some lounge kudos for fucking a camgirl, maybe you won't. Maybe you two will get on well, nothing will happen, and you return home after spending thousands of dollars "just to see if she like me" - maybe you won't. Maybe you'll make a friend for life (a reason to go), maybe you won't...

But honestly, if your mind is made up and you're not really paying attention to what people write other than to argue why you should go? Then who cares

 

[Jessi]

If this is all true you're a terrible father.

 

[Anonymous]

You said "I will NEVER leave my family." That sounds nice and all, but your wife can leave YOU. I hope she finds a good man who will love and appreciate her. It saddens me that when this is all over and you're dealing with the consequences, your girlfriend will probably be the one stuck with having to explain this to the kids (that Mom and Dad aren't together anymore, but they can still visit with him).....

wake up little girl. most of guys do cheat...most of them do it just because of sex...most of them never tell to anybody...and take it from me...when old people talk about life regrets it may not be about a webcam experience because they didnt have one 50 years ago...but are far worse situations then mine...oldtimers are far away from innocent people that we like to beleive they are...they just look it and express themselves a little different...if they say "she was so romantic" it would mean "we fucked like crazy all night" nowdays.

There are no "little girls" on here...lol. Are you a man??? You sure don't sound like a man to me. And then you jokingly said that you should show your girlfriend this thread. Obviously, you were kidding around, because you wouldn't be STUPID enough to say "Honey, I have something to tell you. Oh, nevermind...just read what's on the computer screen. I'm gonna go get a beer....."

And I love how you're using the "Most guys do cheat" line to try to justify your behavior. WEAK.....

No woman should ever think to herself "Well, guys DO cheat, and I guess I just have to accept that." FUCK that.....

 

[Anonymous]

How the hell would you feel if this "wife" of yours had some man on her brain all the time, planned on meeting and fucking him while still keeping you around and in the dark?

He'd be pissed and call her a 'slut', etc.....

 

[mynameisbob84]

Ermahgerd. Ermahgerd. I've become overstimulated. There's so much stupidity up in here that I don't know what to reply to first. :?

 

[Anonymous]

Ermahgerd. Ermahgerd. I've become overstimulated. There's so much stupidity up in here that I don't know what to reply to first. :?

I'm gonna start saying 'Ermahgerd' from now on, when I'm joking around or when I'm doing impersonations of people (like teenage girls in the mall, etc.). :lol:

Ermahgerd, it's been raining, like, all morning. Ermahgerd, MAKE IT STOP!!!