I wonder if most cammodels weren't women if we'd even really have this conversation? Do we expect men in commission sales to put capitalism aside and worry for their customers who buy too many pretty cars or too many fancy suits? Or tell women they don't need the 5th pair of overpriced pumps they're trying on? Personally, I think we tend to expect women to put others before themselves.... even strangers.
Everything you said, but this is particularly interesting and true. People definitely do seem to hold women much more accountable for needing to care for others, and are much more shocked when a woman does not. When a man seems money hungry or greedy in the workplace it is often praised or just brushed off as the norm, when a woman does the same a very different picture is painted, we're seen as being cold, evil even.
Responsibility is a funny word to use in this topic, and not the word I would choose. These are the two definitions I have found for responsibility:
"the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone."
"the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something."
With those definitions in mind, I cannot see how a model ever has responsibility over a member. There is no duty to deal with their problems or have control over them. Nor is a model accountable or to blame for a member's lack of control, unless of course they used immoral ways to deliberately trick the member into the problem, which is an entirely different issue.
You could maybe say we all have a moral responsibility to not deliberately take advantage of members, especially if we are aware they are in a vulnerable state. This is something though which I believe stands for all humans regardless of the situation. I believe members also have that moral responsibility to not take advantage of models when they're vulnerable. That's just about being a good person. But just being a model and working in a legitimate way, I don't see where responsibility comes into it if a member becomes too attached. Though I am sure most models would want to help and would ban if asked, it is not their responsibility to do so.
It's interesting the different alcohol and gambling laws though on responsibility. For example, in the UK, you shouldn't serve someone who is drunk, but once they leave they are not your responsibility, and half of our pubs get the local daytime drinkers who are clearly addicted. They certainly never get kicked out unless they cause problems. I think with pubs being public houses there are certain laws which mean they are allowed to come in and order drinks so long as they aren't breaking the law or causing problems, but I am not entirely sure what they are so don't quote me on that. While when I worked as a bartender in Australia though, you did have responsibility over those who gamble and drink once you've let them onto the premises. So I guess it depends where you are perhaps on how much you believe people have a responsibility over others. As it is though, there is no law making models responsible over members porn watching and spending habits, so members should go into the world of camming assuming that they will have responsibility over their actions and if they do spend all of their money/get themselves into debt, that is their own issue. I believe it is an incredibly unhealthy attitude for members to ever believe that models should be held responsible for their actions, and on that basis alone I would never promote the concept.
A better question would be asking models what we would do if we had legitimate reasons to think a member were genuinely in an unhealthy situation in regards to us, even if he wasn't bothering us and was providing a good source of income, would we make an attempt to voice our concerns or refrain from encouraging him? Or would we just turn a blind eye and accept the income?
) ban and report. If I see animal or child abuse, I report it online via the exploited children's page or PETA. It's my job to care about children and animals who can't be expected to care for themselves. It's no ones job to protect a grown man who can't think outside of his wiener long enough to figure out how to get the credit card out of his own hand.
