Models who are single vs models who are not

[JigglesJane]

So today I was on cam, feeling cute and sassy, and had a member come through who was very interested in spending time and tokens on me. However he read my MFC profile and noted that I am "involved." So he politely excused himself and left.

I've removed my answer for relationship status on my profile, but I almost feel like that doesn't portray Jane accurately.

Is it a turn off when a model is in a relationship? Have i been missing out on tips because of this? You do realize MFC isn't a dating site, right?

I don't want to alienate any members who feel that way, I would just like to understand better.

 

[Lelo1]

Do you say you're married or single??

Some youtube and twitch stars make their career about being single. And then sooner or later they out themselves.
There will always be some one who IS and ISN'T into you because of some thing.
Even if you said you were single and ready to mingle, they could have found some other reason to bail.

 

[Talia Tate]

Definitely do what you feel is right for your persona and path. As you mentioned, it's not a dating site and the guys that tend to get mad about you having a partner are usually pushy and truly think they have a chance of being with you.

I play up the fact that I'm taken. It works for me bc I do mostly femdom so I rub it in guys faces that someone else gets to fuck me while they just get to jerk off to me.

Either way you choose to go about it, just please don't change your whole gameplay bc one asshole is insecure about your relationship status

 

[Gia_Xo]

I once had a high tipper in my room, back when I started out, who said he was young and single and eventually he asked me if I was single. I am not fake, and feel icky lying, so I told him the truth- no I am not single. Never saw him again. I definitely got the vibe that he was looking for a potential girlfriend, but nooo- we are not on dating sites! All of his tokens weren't worth it to me to lead him on. I am always honest. My boyfriend of almost 8 years gave me permission to say I was single if I thought it would help, but I told him nah.
I do, however, have some tippers who get turned on by the fantasy that we are doing something 'behind my boyfriends back'- so it is what it is. Some will be turned on by it, and some turned off.

 

[briandf255]

As you mentioned, it's not a dating site and the guys that tend to get mad about you having a partner are usually pushy and truly think they have a chance of being with you.

The OP said the member "politely excused himself and left" - so he didn't exactly "get mad".

Some guys would be comfortable with their partners doing sex work and some guys would not be. Some guys only consider it cheating if their partner has sex with another man, while other guys would consider online sex work cheating. Different people draw the line at different things, so maybe it's quite simple: Some members would feel weird flirting or doing sexual things (even virtually) with a girl who they know is taken and they prefer to interact with models who are (or pretend to be) single - and it's not always because they want a relationship with the model.

The reason I don't flirt with girls who are married or have a boyfriend in real life is not because I'm mad at them for being taken, but out of respect for their husbands/boyfriends and out of respect for the girl having chosen to be in a relationship with that someone. Now, maybe many models have boyfriends who don't mind them doing sex work, but nevertheless some guys may still feel uncomfortable working with girls who are not single.

For example, some girls post things like "I'm horny and my boyfriend is asleep in the next room. Come get me off."... How is a respectful guy supposed to feel about something like that? Sure, maybe it's not true. Maybe she doesn't even have a boyfriend. Or maybe her boyfriend knows or wouldn't care that she typed that. Maybe he gets off on other men wanting his girlfriend... Either way, some members would see that as a challenge to take someone else's girl and get her off - that's why posts like this work. Other members would feel like they would be doing something inappropriate if they took the bait - by their own standards, even if both the model and her boyfriend would think there is nothing wrong with it.

It's just different comfort levels, rather than some members being possessive and they can't stand the idea that they have to share the model with a real life boyfriend. I'm sure sometimes that's the case, but I think most members know it's all fantasy - that's why the possessive/pushy members stand out.

For the record, I personally don't care if a model is taken or not and I don't ask. I'm aware that girls could lie about it in both directions: A single model could say that she's taken so her customers don't start thinking she's available and a model in a relationship could say she's single in order to be more appealing to some customers. It's a personal choice for the model and likewise it's a personal choice for members to decide what type of image their preferred model would portray - the unfaithful girlfriend with a boyfriend who plays video games all day and doesn't satisfy her sexually, the model in a steady relationship with a boyfriend who is supportive of her work; the single model who is enjoying life and is "available" (even though she's really not), etc.

 

[Sillykitty]

I'm married and my cam persona is single. The reason being, while my husband is 100% supportive of my career choice, when I started we decided to keep our personal lives as completely separate from the cam world as possible, for as long as possible. Even when I was in the service industry I would say that I was single, because I hated the intrusive questions people would ask (drunk men, especially). On MFC I found that guys really wanted to get to know me, and it was emotionally/mentally exhausting. I left mfc, because after years of the impersonal vibe I curated for myself on streamate, I couldnt adjust to how many members wanted to feel invested personally in someone on mfc, and i started to feel bad saying I was single. On streamate no one really asks my relationship status, or gets too personal.

You gotta do what's right for you. There will always be members who will feel turned off by something, it is the nature of the industry and the nature of the world. I look at it as a good thing when they excuse themselves early, usually saves you both grief in the long run!

 

[JoleneBrody]

There is no requirement to list or discuss your relationship status at all if you don’t want to. It seems that many think they have to choose between single and taken but you don’t have to talk about it at all, you can just be a camgirl who’s personal life is private regardless of status.

 

[JigglesJane]

Thank you everyone for the comments! And thank you to @briandf255 for the in depth member perspective.

I am glad this member was polite about it. It seems some of you have experienced rather rude members under similar circumstances.

It was a bit of a bummer to lose him from my room, since overall he was holding pleasant conversation with me. (Besides him I had bottom feeders calling me bb and asking for freebies.)

I won't take it personal. I had never come across this sort of thing before, so it threw me for a loop!

 

[WickedTouch]

I believe that models... like members too... can leave all that info blank on their profile, because realistically we members don't ever need to know. I have never asked... because I know that I don't require that info to use the site. I have never understood why so many members get hung up on all the minute personal details of a model's life. It's not a dating site after all...



IT'S NOT A DATING SITE!!!!

 

[AudriTwo]

I am too open about my marriage. Not only because I don't like lying about it, but the potential of leading someone on. If I was single, I'm pretty sure I would still be adamant on not having a chance still and Audri is a fantasy. I actually talk about my husband on cam and other relationships regularly. Sexual or not. I am very much in love with my guy, so I can never seem to shut up about him. I see it does turn some people off, but I always try to discuss things that are relatable which will keep them around when they first enter my room. Noticed that most don't care, because they also may be in a relationship or simply not bothered. I think it also adds to the hotwife and cuck fantasy. After 2016, everyone wants to get cucked. Also, my husband, lowkey digs that dudes are envious of him. it has helped his confidence some for sure.

The OP said the member "politely excused himself and left" - so he didn't exactly "get mad".

She was talking in general, because generally speaking, this is a thing. I'm assuming Talia assumed she has experienced those types.

 

[SaffronBurke]

You do realize MFC isn't a dating site, right?

It amazes me how many seem incapable of jerking off to a woman who seems "less available" than the rest, when exactly zero percent of the models online are actually available. I've had dudes get mad that I'm gay and demand "why are you even on here" - uh, cause I don't have to be straight to wiggle my butt at you for money?

On the other hand, I've had someone take me exclusive to taunt him about how he'll never get to fuck me because I dig chicks, which was an absolute blast.

 

[Lelo1]

I don't have to be straight to wiggle my butt at you for money

That would be a great t-shirt or bumper sticker.

 

[Ambers Troll]

When I list my status as 'going my own way' I get similar rejection (or people just ignore my status), as a human being just lie; it is one of those things that doesn't matter to anyone who doesn't care about you.

 

[Ambers Troll]

This isn't exactly an answer for the OP. Single compared to involved is actually different from a male POV... it cuts off a whole set of fantasy with some models. There is some fantasy from a male perspective that is on the surface inappropriate with married models. In reality most emotional fantasy isn't off limits to involved models; many will happily go there... but members are not to know that.

Men are very considerate of such things, those who feel put off by involved models are usually just being respectful... If only they knew how little such consideration mattered to the models they are fantasizing about, as a member you won't affect their relationships it is based on something else other than emotion (their relationships I mean).

 

[kylexy]

Also believe that it's individual. Some don't care about the models relationship status, some gets more turned on if she's taken and some if she's single. As for the latter, it might not necessary has to be that the member strongly believes that he can end up in a relationship with the models, but rather the fantasy of it.

 

[JickyJuly]

I've always listed myself as married. I think doing so (or not speaking about it at all) attracts more respectful dudes. I, personally, don't want to interact with men who feel like they have the capacity to step on my husband's toes (as one poster said blah blah blah disrespecting the man). My marriage is on a completely different level than jiggling my tits on the internet. Folks who don't understand that are not for me.

Also, if I didn't talk about my husband, my Twitter would be way, way less funny.

 

[marymoody]

I'm open about my relationship status, but if I could go back in time I might try to keep it more private. It's hard to pretend I live alone when there's a man walking around the house when I'm on cam, so they hear him anyway. It's unfortunate but appearing "single" tend to be better for one's career.

 

[callmepete]

Some members would feel weird flirting or doing sexual things (even virtually) with a girl who they know is taken and they prefer to interact with models who are (or pretend to be) single - and it's not always because they want a relationship with the model.

@briandf255 said it perfectly from my perspective. I have no issue at all with models in a relationship working online, certainly no judgement whatsoever, but I'll never feel comfortable in that room either. It's no different online than in the non-cam world for me. If I learn the girl I'm talking to at the bar has a significant other, I'm out. Even though I wasn't looking for a relationship, even though she might be ok with it, I'm not. That's not a judgment of her, it's just not ok with me is all. Went down that road a total of one time and I've never felt like a bigger piece of shit than I did the next day. I'm sure that a few of the friends I have online are in perfectly functioning relationships. I respect their right to decide whether they publish that or not, and I'm perfectly content living in the dark

 

[GoddessValkyrieRose]

I'm married and I have a very bizarre sex life which I completely play up on cam. Dammmmn it sells.

 

[KristinKervz]

I've been both single and taken. When I was single, I made money from guys who prefer single girls, but now that I'm taken, I make money from cucks, and from guys who don't care either way. It's all about how you market yourself. I don't see being single or taken as a factor in income. My fiance does porn too, so we find our relationship to be mostly beneficial in the porn/cam world.

 

[Audus_Isaiah]

One other thing to add to this is remembering that if you disclose information to your regulars, its going to follow you around. If you list you are in a relationship, and then you break up with that person - depending on who you are, you might find it frustrating to deal with that with fans while also dealing with it in your real life. To me, that issue makes it not worth the trouble of giving people too many real details when it comes to this topic.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Personally, it doesn't matter to me on if a model is involved or not. It's kind of weird, but most of the rooms I go to, I don't have any sexual interest in the model. The overwhelming percentage of models I visit, is just to chat and hangout with for a bit. Cool personalities, some common interests, etc. This is how I am with nearly every woman I know as well. In fact, most of the women I know off cam are in relationships, and I probably have better personal relationships with them than I do the single ones. Their SO's are pretty chill about me as well, since they know it's a platonic relationship and that I'm not one to try something.

Some of the models I know are in relationships, so there's casual talk of how they are and how things are going with the relationship. Sometimes there'll be a comment such as "What a lucky guy" or similar. Not out of spite or jealousy. More that I'm happy she's in a relationship, and I do think he's lucky and hope he realizes just how so. I always felt that way when in a relationship with someone.

 

[Cherry Bomb]

I am open about being married. My hubbie is my mod and regulars will chat with him. I have always said that so I cannot say how it compares to being single. I do have people who ask and then leave when they know I am married, which is fine. I do have people who ask and then like that I am married...and my husband is in the room.

 

[mutantdonut]

Some youtube and twitch stars make their career about being single.

This brought a tangent thought...

Just like any other part of social internet, Twitch is yet another platform for single male prowlers, so no surprise they look for female broadcasters that might be single. When she reveals herself as taken, sometimes the viewer is like, "Oh , bye."

In more extreme cases, i've heard of male viewers getting inordinately angry when they discover the female broadcaster is taken - sending her pissed off messages of how they'll no longer subscribe or follow her, and sometimes even throwing a hissy fit in her chat. I've also heard of similar instances for female personalities on Youtube and Instagram. The camming world... no different

*This is not a dating site* - as the OP quoted - can apply to just about every social media platform, however there's going to be guys on the prowl no matter what.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

This brought a tangent thought...

Just like any other part of social internet, Twitch is yet another platform for single male prowlers, so no surprise they look for female broadcasters that might be single. When she reveals herself as taken, sometimes the viewer is like, "Oh , bye."

In more extreme cases, i've heard of male viewers getting inordinately angry when they discover the female broadcaster is taken - sending her pissed off messages of how they'll no longer subscribe or follow her, and sometimes even throwing a hissy fit in her chat. I've also heard of similar instances for female personalities on Youtube and Instagram. The camming world... no different

*This is not a dating site* - as the OP quoted - can apply to just about every social media platform, however there's going to be guys on the prowl no matter what.

On the flipside, there's people who when they find someone married, will do anything they can to try and "score". More in person, than online. Just goes to show that there's always opposite ends of the spectrum.

 

[extan]

I think a pretty significant percentage of members indulge in the fantasy of someday/somehow having a real relationship. The fantasy might be more concrete, or more subtle, but it's often there. Then are others that are more thoughtful, and really want the object of their affection to be happy in the real world without them.

In general, apart from those situations where the "significant other" is part of the fantasy, either on-screen, or off, as @CuteCuteEbisu and @KristinKervz say, I don't see much advantage to stating in your bio that you're in a relationship. If it comes up in conversation, and you prefer the straightforward approach, you can acknowledge it there

 

[SaffronBurke]

On the flipside, there's people who when they find someone married, will do anything they can to try and "score". More in person, than online. Just goes to show that there's always opposite ends of the spectrum.

Unfortunately true. Silly little young me thought that wearing an engagement ring would make men stop hitting on me on the bus. It had the opposite effect, and I had a lot of dudes reply to "I'm engaged" with "I don't care", as if not caring that I'm involved would suddenly make me change my mind and fuck them. I'm just trying to get to work, go try to get your dick wet somewhere that's NOT a bus.

 

[DJ_Pioneer]

Unfortunately true. Silly little young me thought that wearing an engagement ring would make men stop hitting on me on the bus. It had the opposite effect, and I had a lot of dudes reply to "I'm engaged" with "I don't care", as if not caring that I'm involved would suddenly make me change my mind and fuck them. I'm just trying to get to work, go try to get your dick wet somewhere that's NOT a bus.

I have learned that if you snore loudly and drool people don't want to sit next to you on the bus.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I have learned that if you snore loudly and drool people don't want to sit next to you on the bus.

It works really well! I also have a Cthulu hat (bright green ski mask with tentacles over the mouth) which, while it can be a conversation starter, nobody tries to pick me up in it.

 

[JigglesJane]

I have learned that if you snore loudly and drool people don't want to sit next to you on the bus.

Perhaps if you are a man, this is a good tactic for keeping people away. For a woman? No, it won't stop someone. Unfortunately.