Model Rants at Hapless Member

[JoleneBrody]

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OP- "blah blah, perfect details, was I right?"

Everyone- "NO!"

OP- "more examples why I'm wrong but think I'm right because you don't agree with me."

Dude! You didn't come here for an opinion, obviously you came here for validation. Unfortunately for you, you were not in the right at all. Members and models agree... You were wrong and she reacted as most offended and disgusted people would. If you were my regular I would be EXTREMELY offended and disgusted with you and your actions.
How dare you make a kind gesture and then use it against her when her life continues forward and not around you.

You stated you knew the boyfriend paid right away... So wtf? What did you even have a problem with specifically? Assuming she lied about being broke was the only thing that sorta made sense but while you were "clarifying" you honestly just dug yourself further.

My suggestion, write her a semi short MFC mail apologizing for stepping WAY out of line, promise it will never happen again and NEVER DO IT AGAIN!
Sheesh! People...

 

[Evvie]

A few notes from the original poster...

Sure, she didn't need to "explode" when she got the tweet, but scale back her reaction a bit and it would be what I'm sure most models on here would have done.

I agree. Scale back the reaction sufficiently, and I would not have posted this topic. It's clear to me that models can do what they want and guys need to learn to deal with it. I think this is a unique case with two individuals who did some risky things and got burned.

With all due respect, I don't think this is a unique case at all. It just seems to be a regular cluster of misunderstanding that arrived at two people being offended.

A little while ago I talked to a man I cared about a lot, and explained to him that because I was assaulted last year, I don't feel comfortable with certain jokes. He thought I was telling him that I thought he was a potential rapist. It was a misunderstanding, not unique in the slightest and it hurt both of us. The fact that I am a model, and he happens to have a member's account on MFC, doesn't make it relevant to post on a camgirl forum. Definitely not dissing your post, but there seems to not really be a point here, except, "observe this situation".

 

[babe_ruth]

:roll:

My suggestion, write her a semi short MFC mail apologizing...
Sheesh! People...

The guy tried apologizing and guess what? She just yelled at him some more.

 

[Evvie]

:roll:

My suggestion, write her a semi short MFC mail apologizing...
Sheesh! People...

The guy tried apologizing and guess what? She just yelled at him some more.

I suggest he walks away, or wait until she cools down.

Based on the little we know about this lady, she seems rather feisty.

 

[babe_ruth]

:roll:

My suggestion, write her a semi short MFC mail apologizing...
Sheesh! People...

The guy tried apologizing and guess what? She just yelled at him some more.

I suggest he walks away, or wait until she cools down.

Based on the little we know about this lady, she seems rather feisty.

That is EXCELLENT advice. And thanks for considering this as carefully as you have.

 

[babe_ruth]

... I would be EXTREMELY offended and disgusted with you and your actions.
...

I don't see how you get "disgust" out of this. Offense, sure, if you make certain assumptions. But disgust, really?

 

[Evvie]

... I would be EXTREMELY offended and disgusted with you and your actions.
...

I don't see how you get "disgust" out of this. Offense, sure, if you make certain assumptions. But disgust, really?

I think it's primarily feminist in nature (for me at least). When I perceive that men try to control my life, my first reaction is usually disgust.

 

[HoldItNow]

Piling on is fun, so...

Babe, we're all assuming this is you so that's how I will speak. There is nothing unique about this case. This is how many of the interactions with models occur, even those that don't involve face-to-face meetings. Member sees model, finds her attractive, starts to tip heavily to get closer and then gets upset when she violates some rule he made for her personality(based on a flippant comment from her profile) and acts all mopey in an attempt to provoke a reaction and then gets hurt when he gets said reaction.

You wanted a relationship and then got mad when it didn't happen. The only thing that she could be out of bounds is on the piece of hardware that she borrowed. But again, from everything else I assume you freely offered it in an attempt to curry favour and only bring it up now that you've been hurt. So the hardware, along with the tips were given, were done with invisible strings attached which puts you in the position of trying to manipulate the entire relationship into being something you couldn't vocalize to her.

In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. Maybe she thought you were someone cool because you met and didn't seem like a clinger, or maybe she was through with you and saw this as a means to end contact. Who knows? But you need to focus on yourself. You got your feelings hurt and don't feel like facing up to the reality of the situation.

Everyone makes these mistakes in one form or another. Just face up to it and realize that if you can't be upfront with your feelings then you're going to find yourself in this position again and again.

 

[HoldItNow]

Oh, and trying to say the position is unique is another defense mechanism. You're trying to make the experience unassailable to the people who are reading this so their responses can't be correct because "they just don't understand".

 

[babe_ruth]

Piling on is fun, so...

I appreciate some of what you said. You make a lot of assumptions, though, that are not actually correct.

And really, "piling on" is cool in your belief system?

(not to be pissy or anything (wink))

 

[babe_ruth]

Piling on is fun, so...

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In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. ...

Once again, it was SHE that scolded HIM, not the other way around.

 

[HoldItNow]

Piling on is fun, so...

I appreciate some of what you said. You make a lot of assumptions, though, that are not actually correct.

And really, "piling on" is cool in your belief system?

(not to be pissy or anything (wink))

You really seem to be in love with the concept of the victim. JoleneJolene said it correctly, you were looking for validation and not opinion. Now you will keep trying to spin it so that we're the ones who don't understand what's going on. You keep everything rather vague because you think people can't pin you down that way.

Now you'll wait a bit (but not long enough) and try to contact her again. And in your mind you will construct several scenarios, from accepting friend (She realizes she was wrong! I'll take her back) to spurned lover (I knew it was all a lie! She's truly heartless!) ready to take on the appropriate personality aspect based on her reply and you'll just stay in your cycle.

 

[Rileyster]

Looks like we've got another brick wall here.

I swear, this whole thread is like talking to a brick wall.

Babe.. Seriously? He/you was/were definitely scolding her from what you've said. Scolding her because she spent a weekend in a luxury hotel with an ex, whom paid for the whole thing. But that's right, she was supposed to take your, sorry, his feelings into consideration and not tell people that she had a good weekend fucking someone she already knew IRL. Maybe she wanted people to be happy for her for having a good weekend after all of her troubles. Damn her. :naughty:

 

[HoldItNow]

Piling on is fun, so...

...
In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. ...

Once again, it was SHE that scolded HIM, not the other way around.

See how you keep jumping past the part where you told her she was being inconsiderate to you by having sex with someone?

 

[Rileyster]

Piling on is fun, so...

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In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. ...

Once again, it was SHE that scolded HIM, not the other way around.

And she was in the right for it :twocents-02cents:

If I were in her shoes and one of my regulars said something similar to what you said after having a weekend getaway that my boyfriend paid for, I'd be pretty pissed off.

Only thing for you from here on out is to get over it. Shit happens. Get your computer back. Move on.

 

[Evvie]

Piling on is fun, so...

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In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. ...

Once again, it was SHE that scolded HIM, not the other way around.

I'm sorry, but this is not the perception myself and many other people have.

In our minds, as soon as the member told the model he did not feel comfortable with her actions in her personal life, that was "scolding".

If he had NOT sent the tweet, she would have no reason to lash out.

The member had to have done something wrong or else she wouldn't have yelled.

If the member was truly blameless, why did she act out?

The member upset her by implying (yes, he did imply, regardless of his intentions) that she should not have gone on that date.

 

[HoldItNow]

There are a lot of models on page four that won't ever talk about their boyfriends. Just keep those tokens rolling in. You'll be number one, bb.

 

[babe_ruth]

This is good. I asked for reactions and I'm getting them.

 

[JoleneBrody]

Piling on is fun, so...

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In taking the passive-aggressive route and scolding her for having sex you revealed your motives to her. ...

Once again, it was SHE that scolded HIM, not the other way around.

Dude... please stop acting like the tweet you already admitted to in which she responded harshly never happened. No point to it... it's too late to edit out what you already said earlier. Telling someone

"Excuse me, I don't mean to be rude, but I didn't feel good about your last tweet."

is making it obvious that something within that tweet you do not agree with and could easily be seen as a light, but never the less, scolding.
Anywho, your last post indicates you only want us commenting on her reaction and not yours, which other have already done multiple times by saying she was in the right.
Deal with it, you were wrong.
Yes, disgusted was the word I was looking for. I would be disgusted with any member who thought he had the right to feel ANY way about my PERSONAL life. Shared on twitter or not it's no ones place to comment on or feel anything about, especially gross when a GIFT is used as leverage to shame her. That's what I'm picking up and if that not whats going on then you suck balls at explaining things.
Sorry for the harshness but dude, it's the truth and kid gloves need to come off with delusional people like you.

 

[HoldItNow]

Here you go babe, just listen to this and realize it will all be alright.

 

[babe_ruth]

Awesome! I love it!!

Here you go babe, just listen to this and realize it will all be alright.

 

[babe_ruth]

Sorry for the harshness but dude, it's the truth and kid gloves need to come off with delusional people like you.

Thanks, this is part of my process for trying to become less delusional.

 

[babe_ruth]

Only thing for you from here on out is to get over it. Shit happens. Get your computer back. Move on.

Well said!

 

[Rose]

Since this lady does seem fiesty like Evvie mentioned, my advice is to back the hell off and go sit in your quiet corner for awhile. If she's anything like me, the member in question is only fanning the flames by contacting her more even if he is apologizing. :twocents-02cents:

 

[LiLredhairedgrl]

Poor lil horsey.

*just to clarify, OP (and sidekick?) is the beater of the horse... :mrgreen:

 

[Anonymous]

Some guys need to learn that giving a model money DOES NOT mean you can control her personal life or own her. You can't send a model a gift card and then think you have the right to monitor everything she does from that point on.

And from what I've read so far, you don't even know if the model was lying. The guy she's fucking might have paid for the hotel.

 

[ComicOzzie]

When a model friend tweets that she just had awesome sex, the appropriate response is "woo-hoo"!!!!!

FYI

 

[Tristyn]

I was going to be mean. But instead I'll just echo what everyone else has been saying: you're wrong. *shrug*

 

[JickyJuly]

If women could be purchased with Amazon gift cards, we'd be listed as products on Amazon, right?
It's okay to feel jealous of her dude or ex-dude, but pretending that jealousy has logic behind it is never wise. If you'd come here saying "Does anyone feel jealousy pangs when they hear about their favorite girl's sexy exploits?" things would have gone much more smoothly for you. Trying to create some fantasy situation in which she was wrong for living like a normal human being, however, makes you a pill that no one wants to swallow. Being in touch with the source of your own feelings before speaking pays off in social situations.

 

[mynameisbob84]

I was gonna post pretty much what everyone else has said but now I don't need to 'cos everyone else has already said it :?
Did we ever get confirmation that the "friend" in question was indeed the OP? (I skimmed)