I'm not sure if I want to do this

[Unicole]

Which means I probably shouldn't do it, I know... I just want to hear your thoughts. I'm wondering if anyone else on here ever has moments of doubt. Sometimes I do think this is something I want to do. Sometimes I want to say "screw what anyone who knows me thinks of me. Screw caring about what people think of me. I should do what makes me happy."

But after my first show, I'm not sure if I can do this. The compliments I got made me happy. The money I got made me happy. But performing sexual acts in front of strangers for money? That made me feel extremely vulnerable. I didn't mind flashing my tits and bouncing my ass. That wasn't too scary. But penetrating myself and actually getting off on camera... that felt so fucked up. Like, that's not something strangers should be able to see. I know a lot of you guys might not get where I'm coming from (no pun intended) because you guys are obviously comfortable doing this, but seriously... did any of you have weird feelings about that initially? Does it take time to get used to? Or is this something I should just never do again?

 

[TashaRose]

If it genuinely makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. Although that being said, not being comfortable with doing more hardcore acts like penetration doesn't mean you can't cam- it is possible to be non nude or non explicit and still do well.

 

[SatanJonez]

If it genuinely makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. Although that being said, not being comfortable with doing more hardcore acts like penetration doesn't mean you can't cam- it is possible to be non nude or non explicit and still do well.

This is probably the best advice you can get. Some people prefer to do penetration, some don't. Some people prefer public shows, some keep stuff to gold shows/privates/group chat. It's all about knowing your limits & knowing when you're okay venturing outside of them.

 

[Phoenix4987]

Agreed, nothing says you can't be a successful non-nude cammer or even just doing teases, whatever your boundaries are. If my favorite model went non-nude it wouldn't affect me. I enjoy her company and conversation and haven't gotten a "show" in like 2 months. She feels bad sometimes because she gets really into what she's talking about, explaining, detailing and talks more than me for the hour or whatever. But I don't mind. I just enjoy listening. I don't know if she gets that opportunity often...

 

[LaceyRoyce]

You can ALWAYS start slow and see if it's just discomfort cos you're new or if it's actually something that .. you are simply not comfortable with. Everyone has boundries, they can change over time.

Honestly, every time i do thigns that i'm just not comfortable with.. i feel Ugh and it makes me less money cos i end up not being able to hide it.

Camming with bootyshakes/teases/flashes or even completely non-nude is an entirely possible thing you can do. Your body is your own, and what you do with it is your choice. Don't ever let money or camming make you feel otherwise

 

[snowwolf87]

Just to emphasize what everybody has been saying - there has been at least one and sometimes as many as 3 or more non-nude/non-explicit models in the top 100 each month for the last year. Often, one of them makes the top 10 and several times one has been #1. It takes more creativity, but it is doable.

 

[Magnolia]

Fuck expectations, do whatever you want and change it up however many times you want.

There is a customer for every type of show. If you're comfortable then they're comfortable.

 

[RogueWarrior]

But performing sexual acts in front of strangers for money? That made me feel extremely vulnerable. I didn't mind flashing my tits and bouncing my ass. That wasn't too scary. But penetrating myself and actually getting off on camera... that felt so fucked up. Like, that's not something strangers should be able to see.

Everyone has pretty much the same thoughts as I, but I'll expound a bit on my experience as a tipping member.

It's not all about shows and penetration. Do you have to entertain to be successful? Yes. Do you have to do penetration shows to be successful? No.

There are models I visit who are non-nude. There are models I visit that do public penetration shows. There are models I visit that fall everywhere in between. It's not a one-size-fits-all type of thing. There are models for every member and there are members for every type of model.

There are over 1000 models on at all times at MFC (and that's a conservative estimate). There's a pretty good chance they aren't all doing the same thing. That would be boring.

 

[xXDollFaceXx]

I was afraid at first as well, as I was so focused on what others would think of me. I keep having to remind myself though that if it's something that makes ME happy, I will continue with it. However, it is a bit easier for me perhaps because I don't have much of any family to find out or disappoint? That would be the only thing to personally bother me. I've had to cut so many people out of my life I've gotten pretty good at doing me and not caring what others think.

Others have said it, but again, do what makes YOU comfortable. I am NOT comfortable with penetration thus far and so I don't do it. It doesn't mean I can't change my mind. Maybe down the road when I'm more comfortable I will do it in privates, or when i do my own videos. For now, I only get topless, and am willing to play with vibrating toys through my undies (like my hitachi) and when people ask for more, I simply and politely tell them no. Being a cam girl does not mean you HAVE to do anything, it doesn't even mean you have to take off anything if you don't want to. Don't think either that when you're on camera you can't change your mind. My first night, I wasn't sure what to do, and I was intimidated by doing a cumshow, so I didn't. I had fun talked with people, teased and danced and then logged off, and still I got tons of people loving it.

One thing I keep reminding myself of is that our society is silly and dumb for making sex a taboo subject. Everyone has a naked body, most people end up having sex/being sexual. Sex sells like crazy (obviously since these sites never have a lack of traffic) . Singers sing sexual songs all the time about the bump and grind, Women wear barely anything on the red carpet, even nipple pasties and are called daring, actors act out having sex all the time in shows and movies and are hailed as artists. Yet we do it and it's different? Nah, no thanks, not in my book. Be the entertainer you are, however you want to be it.

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

Sometimes I do think this is something I want to do. Sometimes I want to say "screw what anyone who knows me thinks of me. Screw caring about what people think of me. I should do what makes me happy."

if you know people who'd think less of you for it, then maybe it's time to get new people anyway.

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

But after my first show, I'm not sure if I can do this. The compliments I got made me happy. The money I got made me happy. But performing sexual acts in front of strangers for money? That made me feel extremely vulnerable. I didn't mind flashing my tits and bouncing my ass. That wasn't too scary. But penetrating myself and actually getting off on camera... that felt so fucked up. Like, that's not something strangers should be able to see. I know a lot of you guys might not get where I'm coming from (no pun intended) because you guys are obviously comfortable doing this, but seriously... did any of you have weird feelings about that initially? Does it take time to get used to? Or is this something I should just never do again?

I don't get the 'should' talk. I guess that comes down to a conservative/religious upbringing. If those are your values, not just the ones imposed upon you when you were impressionable, then by all means adhere to them. There are girls with killer bodies and cute outfits who never show their face and just use a Lush and rake in thousands of tokens an hour with no more 'show' than some robotic sleepy stripper swaying. It's possible to do well without doing anything special or especially explicit, just by virtue of being especially attractive.

I get the vulnerable thing, though (perhaps even moreso, as a guy -- the cliche is 'ain't nobody wanna see that': women have 'beautiful agony', guys have 'gross o-faces' as the cliche). no one wants to hear guys in the world of porn stereotypes and brotalk I'm used to, and yet sound is one of my strongest camming attributes). It took a lot of getting used to, since it wasn't even something I had some background experience with from my normal intimate life. whereas women are used to being adored and everything they do being sexy.

I'd definitely encourage anyone anywhere to not rush to judgment after the first anything. There's a quote I remember from when I was a teen that says "Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not." (Virgil Thomson). It's a bit silly, but the general idea is reasonable--new things are uncomfortable, you have to give yourself time to get used to them to have really given them a chance, to have really given yourself a chance to see what they can be like for you.
a lot of nice quotes here, too: http://smartandrelentless.com/21-inspiring-quotes-about-moving-outside-your-comfort-zone/

 

[Ariel Rebel]

Do what you like always!
Don't push your limits too much but also remember that the first time doing something is always uncomfortable so don't base your entire judgment on webcam after trying it only once.

I say try it for a week straight and then see what you like or not. There's no better way to jump in the pool than JUMPING in.
There's customers for every type of pornography out there, doing what you like and feel comfortable to do will attract the right ones.

 

[Miss Meredith]

Do what you like always!
Don't push your limits too much but also remember that the first time doing something is always uncomfortable so don't base your entire judgment on webcam after trying it only once.

I say try it for a week straight and then see what you like or not. There's no better way to jump in the pool than JUMPING in.
There's customers for every type of pornography out there, doing what you like and feel comfortable to do will attract the right ones.

Couldn't agree more with this and every post thus far. I have only been camming since January of this year, and while I have zero problems with anyone watching me do whatever, sometimes I do think "what the hell am I doing here? This is kinda surreal." I am still trying to find my niche as well but there are things I absolutely will not do and I feel so much better drawing that line in the sand and staying true to myself and my comfort level. As said before, there are a lot of people who enjoy different things and the spectrum is huge as to what appeals to whom. Give it time...it does feel weird at first but give yourself a chance to develop your own way of doing things.

 

[EmiliaSong]

Here are some things I've seen non-nude models do:

- Paint
- Play video games (Twitch is another site you could try for this)
- Play music/sing
- Sexy teases
- Sexy dances
- Domination
- Over-the-panties masturbating

PM me if you'd like to know some examples of non-nude models.

 

[Ariel Rebel]

Couldn't agree more with this and every post thus far. I have only been camming since January of this year, and while I have zero problems with anyone watching me do whatever, sometimes I do think "what the hell am I doing here? This is kinda surreal." I am still trying to find my niche as well but there are things I absolutely will not do and I feel so much better drawing that line in the sand and staying true to myself and my comfort level. As said before, there are a lot of people who enjoy different things and the spectrum is huge as to what appeals to whom. Give it time...it does feel weird at first but give yourself a chance to develop your own way of doing things.

Sex work isn't for everyone and respecting your boundaries is super important You'll find your niche at some point so keep up the good work and have FUN with this because that's what it's all about.

You'll end up knowing so much more than the average person about your own sexuality and that should open your mind to other things about yourself you didn't know.

 

[Miss Meredith]

Sex work isn't for everyone and respecting your boundaries is super important You'll find your niche at some point so keep up the good work and have FUN with this because that's what it's all about.

You'll end up knowing so much more than the average person about your own sexuality and that should open your mind to other things about yourself you didn't know.

Thanks, mama. One of the most helpful, encouraging things anyone has said to me since I ventured down this path! XOXO

 

[uncoveredmanhole]

holy crap is that actually Ariel Rebel? (she's like a internet model celeb I remember from my adolescent days, like, before our internet had the ability to stream videos ... do cammers follow along with non-streamy own-website modelling stuff too? like, I'd never heard of 'the big names in camming' back when I'd heard of Ariel Rebels, Kari Sweets, Kate's Playground etc.))

 

[justjoinedtopost]

holy crap is that actually Ariel Rebel?

I am going to remain skeptical unless she winds up verified.

But if it is her, it would be nice if she could get in touch with Kari Sweets or TiffanyTeen, let em know folks wonder how they are doing these days.

 

[Unicole]

I really appreciate everyone's insight and advice. I didn't think it was possible to be successful doing this without doing things I was uncomfortable with, and it turns out I was wrong!

Thanks for the replies lovelies