Just need to get this off my chest.

[tokensarentforkids]

I had a similar experience. I gave a model a fairly large sum of money. She did not ask, but because I was her friend I knew that she needed it. I was at the right place and time to help - so I did. It lightened her burden and gave some confidence to me and her.

Fortunately, by some instinct, I did the right thing. I never asked her what she did with the money and I did not ask for anything in return. 3 years later and after she quit webcam, we still talk regularly.

In general – the virtue of giving and being generous to someone is in the intention and the act of giving itself. It is not in the expectations of the results. Usually there is some level of trust before giving something to someone. A trust that the gift will be used wisely. But at the same time there should be a respect for her freedom to choose how she uses the money – after it is given. She has the right to make her own decisions and use the money as she sees fit. It can also be said that from her standpoint she should be responsible and use her opportunities wisely.

She pays her friends back.

 

[LilyLaughing]

To me, it's just wildly inappropriate for a cam viewer to insert themselves into potential addiction or serious emotional issues of any performer. I have issues in spades with my mental health tbh but there is no universe in which someone sending me messages on a cam site would help with that. I tell my viewers my cam time is when I don't think about my problems and neither should they, my cam room is for fun and escaping.

I do not welcome input into my physical or mental health from clients nor do I offer it. Too often, viewers want to talk about their depression/trauma and I shut that down - I'm not qualified, don't want to, chose not to do that sort of work for my own mental health. Then I send a link to free online resources or hotlines, because I'm not an uncaring jerk, but there is a time and a place for some types of help - both giving and receiving. Boundaries are important.