I just broke up with my mom

[MiaCherri]

I told her what I do and she is firmly against it. We have been having a really hard time making a good relationship work for years anyways but I feel that it's the end since neither of us can come to terms with each other in anyway. It's like an unstoppable force meetings an unmovable object.
I have to say, it's scary to let her go.

 

[Jupiter551]

Well, sometimes these things work themselves out over time. People often say and do stuff in the heat of the moment that they'll regret later, so maybe she'll look back in a few days and feel horrible and call you.

 

[SoTxBob]

I understand your description all too well. Mine was the matriarch of the family and 'in control' till the day she passed. The day I 'left', it was such a relief to me and yet the void that was created was measurable for some time. Chin up, you'll be ok.

 

[MiaCherri]

I do have a good feeling that now I can make my life my own.

 

[StarrieNights]

When i was completely honest with my mom, i was basically called a lowlife smutty whore. I was told i make horrible choices ( i have never been in any trouble my whole life) and that obviously i should not be left to make decisions on my own...

Before this we were best friends.

Now, she acts like she thinks i quit or something, and i dont mention anything related. But i never implied i quit either...

its a shitty situation....

 

[Rose]

Ouch, that sucks. I feel your pain though. Standing up to my mom and being honest about everything in my life was for the better though (this was before I started camming). It hurt at first and we were alienated from each other for awhile but she eventually came around. She realized that she would rather have me in her life than not so she has learned to be accepting and it's helped in other areas of her life. It's going to hurt and suck for awhile, but eventually things will get figured out. Keep your head up and focus on you for now. You deserve to be happy and not have judgemental people in your life.

 

[BettyBallistic]

I haven't had any contact with my parents in almost 2 years. My mother (despite being a terrible parent) and I were really close, but I just couldn't handle her hurting me over and over. I can honestly say that things are better without them making my blood pressure skyrocket on a regular basis, but sometimes it's hard not having a mom. There are times where I just want to go curl up on her couch and ask for advice, talk about life, or just vent. If you ever need to talk to someone about it, you're welcome to PM me. It's really hard on you to cut your parents out of your life, especially in the beginning.

 

[Poker_Babe]

I told my mom and it broke her heart. I later told her that I had stopped camming and went back to just doing graphics and web design only. I can tell you this, my mom just passed away a couple of months ago, and I sure am glad that I lied by telling her I quit, therefore putting her mind at ease and being able to get along without fighting during the last few months of her life. I know that you want to be accepted for who you are. And so did I, that was the reason why I told her in the first place. I mean she used to be a topless dancer herself back in the 70s. But IDK, I guess I figured that it would be better to let her believe what she wanted and make things a lot easier, because I knew that no matter what, my mom was never going to see me be a cam model as acceptable. My mother died very unexpectedly BTW, so it's not like I saw it coming, and made my decision based on that. It was completely by chance that I decided to swallow my pride to make it easier on my mom.
the point i'm getting at is this, you only have one mom, and you never know what life has in store for us each day. So treasure your relationship, and if that means maybe having to keep some things out of sight from her, so what?
At least that's how I feel about it. Good luck. hugs

 

[missmeowmixx]

I hope you guys get to a better understanding someday. I like to think it might happen with my mother too but, I dunno.

I'm morally okay with what I do, but i think i would leave out some of the harsher words in describing my job/camlife/world to her and focus more on the chat and dancing aspect of it. that is about 80% of what i do anyways.

and if you're reading this, mum, well, hopefully you still love me even though i have e-video-sex online with people sometimes for money. we've always known i was a little sexually odd, it makes sense doesn't it?

i still love you dearly and think you're a great person and i'm sure you did some things i don't need to know about too. or at least i'd hope so, otherwise you're missing out! :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

 

[JoleneBrody]

No parent wants to think about their kid masturbating for money. Some are going to handle the news better than others but it's always going to be uncomfortable. I'm sure they would react the same way if you told them you masturbated for free in front of a crowd of strangers.
Even though I know she would get over it and still love me I've opted to not tell my mom. Not because I'm ashamed but because I don't want her thinking about me doing sexual things... she's my mom... that's just uncomfortable, so I'll avoid making her uncomfortable as long as I can.

I'm sure your mom is just in shock, this is indeed very shocking news to get about your baby you raised. I hope in time it heals and you both can move on.

I think sometimes we get so used to our jobs that we forget the nitty gritty details are still things family doesn't want or need to know.

 

[Keithy]

Man, if my mom thought I masturbated for money I'd probably here something like "at least you're doing something you love" or "at least you found one thing you're good at"

 

[Poker_Babe]

No parent wants to think about their kid masturbating for money. Some are going to handle the news better than others but it's always going to be uncomfortable. I'm sure they would react the same way if you told them you masturbated for free in front of a crowd of strangers.
Even though I know she would get over it and still love me I've opted to not tell my mom. Not because I'm ashamed but because I don't want her thinking about me doing sexual things... she's my mom... that's just uncomfortable, so I'll avoid making her uncomfortable as long as I can.

I'm sure your mom is just in shock, this is indeed very shocking news to get about your baby you raised. I hope in time it heals and you both can move on.

I think sometimes we get so used to our jobs that we forget the nitty gritty details are still things family doesn't want or need to know.

You said perfectly! Couldn't have worded it better myself.

 

[Poker_Babe]

Man, if my mom thought I masturbated for money I'd probably here something like "at least you're doing something you love" or "at least you found one thing you're good at"

Baaaaahahahahahaha :lol:

 

[Nordling]

Man, if my mom thought I masturbated for money I'd probably here something like "at least you're doing something you love" or "at least you found one thing you're good at"

Baaaaahahahahahaha :lol:

Ha! My mom would pretend she didn't know what it means, but would refuse to discuss it further.

 

[Rose]

Man, if my mom thought I masturbated for money I'd probably here something like "at least you're doing something you love" or "at least you found one thing you're good at"

After my mother got over the initial shock that's almost exactly what she said....lol. She also added, "no wonder you're always playing with that damn camera so much."

 

[LadyLuna]

I told her what I do and she is firmly against it. We have been having a really hard time making a good relationship work for years anyways but I feel that it's the end since neither of us can come to terms with each other in anyway. It's like an unstoppable force meetings an unmovable object.
I have to say, it's scary to let her go.

My parents and I had a huge fight when I was in college. I ended it by ending communication for 6 months. The hardest part was not responding when they were practically begging. When we did start talking again, it was really rocky. Now, I got comfortable enough to tell them what I do.

I don't know the future, no one does. relationships are weird, and parent/kid ones are even weirder. Give it time. Maybe six months, maybe five years. Family is family, whether by blood or by choice. But once someone is family even once, they are never not family again.