Beach_Love said:
Isabella_deL said:
I'd take everything with a pinch of salt. People usually fall for camgirls/people they meet online because they're missing something in their life. Quite often it's company they miss/crave, sometimes even when they have lots of company they're still lonely. Sometimes life is down in other areas and it's a form of escapism.
Couldn't agree more. Until a series of setbacks in my life I used to have a good social life and met and dated a lot of great girls and I have been using MFC to fill that void recently.
On the other hand both of my friends are realtively new to camming,are very sweet and genuine girls and I would be very surprised if they weren't just like they were on cam as off. If they weren't just like IRL I wouldn't have bothered to get to know them. I guess that's the underlying problem, for me w/ Porn or a Model that I'm only physically attracted to and not on another level once I've "TCB" the relationship ends til next time. Bottom line is I had no idea camming could be so confusing at times LOL.
That said I am going to take these words to heart as I continue to be sexy online friends with these two amazing girls "We can provide entertainment/friendship/sexual relief, but do not fall in love with us."
That is where dangerous thinking lies. Now I am myself when I am on cam, but it is a very different side to myself to how I am in real life. In fact, I think I am more myself on cam after having cammed longer than I first was. It is dangerous thinking that we'll be sweet when we're off cam because we're sweet on cam. It is in our benefits to be nice/sweet to people, not saying these girls aren't. I'm still a nice person off cam, but if I met most members off cam in a general situation, chances are I wouldn't give them the time of day and I would quite likely be rude to them if they showed sexual interest in me.
I think it is a bad idea to go down the road of assuming your favourite models are going to be the lovely people who they are on cam when they're off cam. Chances are this isn't the case. We are not paid to be bitches, the main point men go to cam girls other than the sex thing is that we're generally very upbeat on camera, we chat, we're kind to strangers, we welcome you into our little camming world. But that is what it is, a very small section of our lives, our work lives! I'm a cam girl so I am definitely not saying cam girls are actually bitches/putting on a big front etc, so don't misunderstand me. For example, a girl works in a pub, a regular comes in daily and buys drinks off her, she smiles and is friendly/chatty to him, maybe goes the extra mile now and then to make him happy. It means she is a good barmaid, nothing more. Her smiling and bringing him drinks etc also doesn't mean she's a good person, or even remotely like that when she's finished work!
I had a regular fall for me a while ago, I tried making it better, pushing reality a bit, and said very openly that he may feel he's falling for me, but the person I am on cam isn't really real, it's my job. I can make friendships etc, but it is only a certain part of my life, and that my name on cam isn't even my real name (my real name is Isabel, so not much difference). Anyway at me telling him that my name wasn't mine he got extremely upset. He sent me a fairly long e-mail, not a nasty one, but really going on about a lot of things, and acting like it was my fault etc. Anyway, I was going to send something nice back, but it'd upset me enough that I ended up going for bluntness and telling him to grow up and that this is his issue and he has no right to try and make me feel bad for it. He did apologise and we still speak, but it's been months since then and he still has trouble coming into my room. He's a nice guy, but he was deluding himself. I think yes it's very easy to get wrapped up in fantasy, but in this reality the guy lives on the other side of the world and is older than my parents!
Men, please do not try to put 20 year old girls up on the "you're a goddess!" pedestals, many of us may be very mature, but we are still young! If you're over 30 and doing this, you should know better! I swear sometimes people forget about age difference when looking at cam girls, they see a beautiful, young, maybe kind woman who is available to them, who ordinarily wouldn't be. It's not fair though to stress young girls out when you can't keep your head straight.
I will also tell you, that having hurt this man unintentionally really upset me, for weeks I sometimes got upset whilst camming, a few times I went offline because I felt so guilty. Sure it absolutely wasn't my fault, but it still messed with my head. If you can't control yourself around camgirls, you're not the only one who may be potentially hurt. Don't ever forget it.
