How to cope with GF being a Cam Girl?

[Dani Picas]

@Mikey_P you just implied / said that @Tilly has nothing of value to say.

That's exactly the opposite of accepting disagreement.

 

[Mikey_P]

@Mikey_P you just implied / said that @Tilly has nothing of value to say.

That's exactly the opposite of accepting disagreement.

I actually think she has had a lot of valuable things to say. Also, my post isn't against what she said I was just fleshing out the other poster's logic and how it wasn't really a closed minded post.

 

[SexySteph]

Thank you all for your replies even though this thread turned into a shit show with Mikey, My girlfriend is and has said she is doing this for me which is why i wanted to ask on how to cope with this issue rather than just make her quit as it does allow her to have more free time to enjoy uni, friends and myself. she has said that she is happy to stop camming if i cannot be happy with it, and we have both agreed to see how it goes when she is in university. I appreciate your replies and advice but i just feel that she should have at least waited until i was okay somewhat before she started rather than just starting as soon as she turned 18 to somewhat get back at me, it is quite hard especially as we have been dating a year before any of this happen but we will just see how it goes. obviously some partners will be okay with their partner camming but as not everyone is the same i am struggling to be content with it, but thank you for the replys

I wish you'd mentioned some more of this in your previous posts (if you did, I missed it). I think you guys might have bigger problems than her camming considering she started up on this without even having a chat with you first. Good luck with everything, I hope this is just a little bump in the road for you guys instead of something bigger!

 

[gfk2]

I wish you'd mentioned some more of this in your previous posts (if you did, I missed it). I think you guys might have bigger problems than her camming considering she started up on this without even having a chat with you first. Good luck with everything, I hope this is just a little bump in the road for you guys instead of something bigger!

I did mention it ealier in one post but we did have a very bumpy couple of months right before she turned 18 to which im very ashamed about but all is lovely now, we spoke about this literally yesterday to which she has apologised for starting so early and other than the camming issue i have never been happier with her, hence why i am so against breaking up with her. we did talk about it before she started camming of course but as i said she didn't wait for me to be more contempt with it before she started it. i mean obviously she didn't start just to get back at me but she was just very eager to start camming which i can understand and has allowed her to make a bit of money before uni and before her loan comes through. and thank you, as soon as the camming issue is sorted i will be a very happy and am already a very lucky guy.

 

[SexySteph]

I did mention it ealier in one post but we did have a very bumpy couple of months right before she turned 18 to which im very ashamed about but all is lovely now, we spoke about this literally yesterday to which she has apologised for starting so early and other than the camming issue i have never been happier with her, hence why i am so against breaking up with her. we did talk about it before she started camming of course but as i said she didn't wait for me to be more contempt with it before she started it. i mean obviously she didn't start just to get back at me but she was just very eager to start camming which i can understand and has allowed her to make a bit of money before uni and before her loan comes through. and thank you, as soon as the camming issue is sorted i will be a very happy and am already a very lucky guy.

Just some unsolicited advice for her, if camming is her first ever job, she might want to consider doing something super part time as well. If she's successful enough to make camming good for her long term, she still needs that real world experience that a soul-sucking minimum wage job gives. And it helps with social stuff as well (though less of a concern since she'll make friends in class).

I've been in the industry for 4 years now and I am suuuuper against girls starting right at 18 because I think it can really stunt maturity and understanding the value of money when you're rolling in it as soon as you're on your own, but as with any advice that should be taken with a grain of salt.

 

[halfmoonxoxo]

I agree with her getting a regular, part time job. She needs the experience, especially if it involves customer service. Dealing with good customers and bad ones in that will help her when she deals with them camming too. And doing a lot of research ie forums like these, watching other girls cam, etc.

I am a married woman and have been with my love for several years altogether now. We communicate very openly, from everyday things to the sexy stuff to the really hard stuff. Communication is very important and will be as she goes on this journey with camming. You will need to be open and supportive as you can be, with whatever boundaries you both need to make the camming comfortable for both of you.

I am considering doing something with camming or modeling of some fetish sort, so I am personally doing a lot of research myself and talk about it with my love. Keep those lines of communication going is the best thoughts on this I can give.

 

[Guy]

When he gets older he might be able to figure out how to bypass parental controls. BTW: I agree with everything you just said and support you 100%. I just wanted to give you a heads up.

Which parental control software do you use?

 

[dropkat]

we did talk about it before she started camming of course but as i said she didn't wait for me to be more contempt with it before she started it.

Sorry, but that little Freudian slip made me chuckle.

My main thought on this matter is that you should consider yourself lucky to have a girlfriend who values your relationship enough that she is making decisions that give you more time together.

 

[wolverine0007]

me and my gf we are okay with that ,as long you trust you be okay

 

[Cherry Bomb]

I wish you and your GF the best of luck and many years of happiness.

Talk...talk a lot about this and very clearly discuss boundaries and rules. There are many nuances to this and it is vitally important you both understand them and agree on what is acceptable and what it not.

Research it...Coming to ACF was a very good move, you need to read everything here....everything.

Join her room and watch what goes on. Join other models rooms and 'research' as much as you need to.

Get involved. Become her mod (if she agrees) - if you want to be her partner in real life, become her partner in her cam life. Support her, relax and enjoy it.

Briefly my SO and my story.
I started on Skyprivate a year ago, hated it and it caused a lot of tension between my SO and I. Roll forward to now. I am now on Chaturbate and over a few months we learnt a lot and made mistakes and learnt from them. I do not 'fly alone' anymore, he is by my side for every show. He is now my fully involved partner. My regulars say Hello to both us when they come to my room. He chats with them, encourages them and controls the room. One of our rules is that someone visits my room and says something that makes either of us uncomfortable, for any reason, they are kicked without question.

Guess what...we now HAVE SO MUCH FUN!!! What started out as an issue between us is now a shared very enjoyable past-time and a much needed source of income for us.

 

[MFCGod]

I haven't read the full thread but I just wanted to comment on the topic of the anxiety

You should think about what bothers you about her camming and why

Are the things that bother you rational or irrational?

If you come to the conclusion they're irrational then you should come up with a rational response instead (this is important because if you have nothing to change to, how can you change)

When you start to think negatively, try and remind yourself to down the path of the new rational thought instead

I find the above helps me, but I realise we're all different.

 

[mutantdonut]

I've been in the industry for 4 years now and I am suuuuper against girls starting right at 18 because I think it can really stunt maturity and understanding the value of money when you're rolling in it as soon as you're on your own

I think this would make for a reeeeaaal interesting topic of conversation.

 

[Camgirl]

People disagree with facts, strange. I'll try to explain. Dating is different for everyone. What might be ok for some won't be ok for others. Dating a sex worker is no big deal, can walk away at anytime. Having a kid with one is a lifelong commitment. Two very different things.

I'm confused on what the facts are? Is it a fact that no one would want to have a child with a cam model? Or are you just saying the fact is some are ok with it and some are not?

I agree dating, marrying, having children with a sex worker isn't for everyone. And thats okay! But you really never know how perceptions may change if you meet the right petson. At one point I was worried that being with a cop might not be for me (high stress, worry, etc) but my perceptions changed.

Btw - Camgirl mom here in a ltr. No issues with bullying (related to my profession anyway) and I started camming 7ish years ago. My daughter is 17.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Which parental control software do you use?

Guy is now asking himself questions. It's Guyception

 

[dilligaf0]

Hello, recently my girlfriend has started to cam on chaturbate for around a month and is also thinking about starting on another site, we have been dating over a year and I'm really struggling with this. She is doing this to help with the costs of University and have the flexibility to see me more than a normal part/full time job would allow her too, i am also in education and work evening shifts so travelling to stay at hers may be more difficult if she has to work a regular job. As we don't get to stay with one another that often as we are a few towns apart it can be quite hard seeing each other frequently.

I am really struggling to cope with this and it has quite severely affected me at points i.e. struggling to eat and sleep for 1-2 weeks and having anxiety whenever she is online (i never have anxiety issues normally). whats the best way to cope with this? i have tried being supportive towards her, helping her with ideas and other bits and bobs but some days it is so painful to know she is getting naked for other guys. What would anyone suggest?

Thank you guys in advance

As someone who has dated strippers in the past (I'm old and it was before there was camming) keep reminding yourself that no matter what, you're the one she's choosing to be with in real life.

 

[heybarkeep]

I'm confused on what the facts are?

That two very different things are different lol. I made a simple statement of fact that having a kid with a sex worker is different than just dating one. People disagreed and facepalmed, many laughs were had. Some here seem to be so defensive that they take everything as an insult.

 

[JoleneBrody]

Just some unsolicited advice for her, if camming is her first ever job, she might want to consider doing something super part time as well. If she's successful enough to make camming good for her long term, she still needs that real world experience that a soul-sucking minimum wage job gives. And it helps with social stuff as well (though less of a concern since she'll make friends in class).

I've been in the industry for 4 years now and I am suuuuper against girls starting right at 18 because I think it can really stunt maturity and understanding the value of money when you're rolling in it as soon as you're on your own, but as with any advice that should be taken with a grain of salt.

I've been trying to find a way to make a PSA with this exact same message and feel like I'll just look like an old wrinkly know it all but yes! YES!

 

[CharlieCharma]

Which parental control software do you use?

I'm not the original one who posted about parental controls, but most electronics now-a-days have built in parental controls. They're super nifty to keep your grandpa from downloading malware on his new laptop or keep your 13 year old from looking at porn. Yes, you can get around parental controls, but I bet most kids whose parents are sex workers aren't trying to find their parents online(and with the wide array of cam girls and porn stars, the risk of a kid seeing their parent on cam is about the same as a kid with "vanilla" job parents risk of finding their parents home sex tape).

 

[EspiKvlt]

Not even just sex tapes. Most people I know have nudes nowadays. It's not a big deal anymore. But the risk of a kid finding them isn't just with sex workers.