Guys always fall for cam models. Do cam models ever fall for guys?

[lost_angel]

Hi, new here. I occasionally use cam sites as customer and I came across this forum.

I must have spent the last 2-3 hours reading threads where guys fall in love with a cam model who basically says she loves them too and but is really just milking them for more money.

I personally cam with girls because it's more convenient for me, I don't like watching porn and I definitely enjoy the interactive component. Yes, there are like 2 or 3 that I prefer to have fun with but I'm aware it's always a business transaction.

So here's my question: If you're a cam model have you ever *liked* one of your customers? What does that relationship end up looking like?

 

[Danigirl]

Nope.

It's business and for me, I'm happily married. I do have tons of fun camming and enjoy some of the conversations. I even get really happy seeing some guys come into the room and it's not all about the tokens buuut no, it's definitely not as much on the cam model side falling for dudes (assuming they aren't the ones willing to meet or provide full service) as it is the dudes willing and searching for meaning in the most minute of details. Have some models fallen for some members? Sure. But the percentages is probably 99% dudes liking and 1% models.

 

[AmberCutie]

I must have spent the last 2-3 hours reading threads where guys fall in love with a cam model

Why is it that someone new to the idea reads all the threads, but the sappy sad people who have fallen for scamming cam models have NOT read the threads! This is baffling, but thank you for reading the stickied threads.

I personally cam with girls because it's more convenient for me, I don't like watching porn and I definitely enjoy the interactive component.

You're doing it right, and make up the majority of the supportive cam member pool. THANK YOU!

Yes, there are like 2 or 3 that I prefer to have fun with but I'm aware it's always a business transaction.

It's great you know how to have favorites without feeling like you're in love.

If you're a cam model have you ever *liked* one of your customers? What does that relationship end up looking like?

I've been married since long before I started camming, but sure I've felt a connection with people. However, even if I was single, I don't see myself ever having tried to escalate it from a very flirty, and money driven, flirty online relationship.

 

[MarieElise]

I've been in a monogamous (i.e. we don't ever fuck or make out with other people, so not swingers or poly or anything) relationship for 4 years now, and camming for 6.

During the first 2 years I did have a huge crush on one member, and lighter crushes on a few more. That was out of thousands of guys that I interacted with. I liked hundreds more, as just cool, sexy, fun dudes. But if you mean *liked*, as in fantasized about what it might be like to meet irl and have a relationship (something I never did), only 1 guy of thousands, honestly. It wasn't a commonplace feeling for me, and even with the one, I knew deep down it wasn't practical or likely to happen. Even if the feeling had been mutual (which it wasn't) .

 

[yummybrownfox]

Sorta happened to me once. Lmao. I wasn't in love or anything, but surprisingly found myself attracted enough to tell myself I'd be willing to travel to go see him (I didn't, btw). Smh. Eventually he turned all "What would Jesus do?" on me, talking about how he can't be visiting these sites anymore. Well I wonder what he did with those worn panties he'd bought from me. Did he glance at them and ask himself WWJD?

 

[PrincessNikole]

Not on cam, but I did fall in love with my customer from the strip club. Terrible mistake, 0/10.

 

[LenaSexton]

Nope. At the end of the day this is business. We are entertainers. It is not in a cam girl's best interests to fall in love with a member(s), because she can be manipulated and taken advantage of.
Not to mention it does not benefit her financially to fall in love unless she is trying to be a sugarbaby and he is showing and proving that he can provide an elevated lifestyle for her, but that's a whole other can of worms!
While I enjoy what I do and have made some great friends at the end of the day this is transactional. I think members should always keep that in perspective to keep from making themselves miserable and getting in over their heads.. Just enjoy the show.

 

[CheeseMoon]

Well I wonder what he did with those worn panties he'd bought from me.

Kept as a holy relic in the local church is what I'm thinking.
Worst case: invitation-only raffle in the sacristy.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

Yes and I pursued him and now we’ve been together for 5 years. He was a regular in my room, we started using kik to chat while I was off cam. Then we started Skyping like several hours a day and constantly texting. 9 months later he flew from New England to Hawaii where I live and we’ve been together since.

Now here is my big disclaimer for men:

I always want to point out to guys don’t let my story give you false hope. We’re both American so it was very easy to connect, no language barriers or studio associated with all this.
I made it completely clear I was into him and there was no murky “does she like me for me/she keeps asking me to send more money” stuff. I want all members to know that getting a camgirl girlfriend should never the goal because you will end up confused and heartbroken if that’s what you use cam sites for.

 

[thinkinboutit]

No, never past the point of online friendship. I'm there to entertain, and I enjoy my work much more when there's no expectation to keep up with things off-site.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Yes... im also married to someone i met on cam. Like carmita I pursued. The moment i was interested we took $$$ off the table. I paid for half of everything as far as meeting. He was not looking for a gf... in fact when i told him i was looking at flights lol he almost said no...

10 y later im wifey

People meet their significant others lots of places. The advantage to dating a member is they already know all about your job. There's no scary "when do i tell them" moment. But overall... thats the only big plus and there are a LOT of potential cons.

 

[Cheeseonmyfriesplz]

Yes, I was an idiot, he was my first big tipper and I didn’t know any better.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Now here is my big disclaimer for men:

I always want to point out to guys don’t let my story give you false hope. We’re both American so it was very easy to connect, no language barriers or studio associated with all this.
I made it completely clear I was into him and there was no murky “does she like me for me/she keeps asking me to send more money” stuff. I want all members to know that getting a camgirl girlfriend should never the goal because you will end up confused and heartbroken if that’s what you use cam sites for.

So true on what the sites are intended for: enjoyment only. IMO, it's like going to a bar or club for me. If I go, it's strictly to get out of the house and maybe strike up a conversation with someone (usually the bartender). I have zero intentions of taking anyone home, or trying to get into a relationship. Though, I will (respectfully) flirt heavily with the bartender if she's got a great personality. Again, innocent in nature and never lewd/crude/etc. I also tip quite well for her having to put up with me.

That being said, I am also quite a romantic at heart and like to think there's someone out there for everyone (else but me). Relationships are far from perfect. But, when it's right then they can be incredible (see? there I go with the romantic BS again... )

 

[lost_angel]

Quite interesting responses, thanks.

Sorta happened to me once. Lmao. I wasn't in love or anything, but surprisingly found myself attracted enough to tell myself I'd be willing to travel to go see him (I didn't, btw). Smh. Eventually he turned all "What would Jesus do?" on me, talking about how he can't be visiting these sites anymore. Well I wonder what he did with those worn panties he'd bought from me. Did he glance at them and ask himself WWJD?

That took an unexpected turn. Last sentence made me lol

 

[Kipsmith27]

Some say that I am "special", but I usually find it hard to believe because though I am respectful and considerate, I don't frequent their rooms unless I have tokens, and when I do, I don't try to be the man with the big wallet and go crazy. My thing is just talk and joke with them, have fun, and tip just to support mostly. To me, it's never a model falling for me, but mutual respect. (May have gotten off topic. if so just delete).

 

[GoddessKaeli]

Ewwww, no. I'm still waiting for someone to actually be gentleman enough to sweep me off my feet. All I get are selfish pricks trying to get their nut for less than $5. No thank you. I do have polite findom guys, but they don't ever push that boundary...and I guess you could say those are the ones I "fall" for lol. $$$$$$

 

[AudriTwo]

even when my husband and I weren't monogamous, I never considered anyone i met cam being a potential love interest.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

Have never, would never. There are some clients who are more fun to take the money from than others, but that's it for me.

 

[KenzieCams]

Ok there's no way for me to NOT sound like a total stuck up meanie when I say this. I swear I'm not and I have nothing but gratitutde for anyone who has ever spent time in my room or spent a token.

... I have 3 kids I'm trying to be a good role model for despite my camming career lol. I'm single handedly raising them because my ex husband abandoned, so I'm extra cautious who I waste my time on. I'm super straight edge. I show up to every school meeting and dance recitals and swim meet and karate class and dr appointment and on and on. I have plaques on my wall for my community service, I wrote grants for a homeless shelter, helped a UPS driver perform CPR on someone he was delivering to, helped police stop an armed assailant and was honored by the fire chief at a town hall meeting for my 911 dispatcher work. I bake cupcakes for my neighbors and host a book club. When I have extra money, I pay off people's payday loans anonymously at my local cash checking place. Ok, like not to toot my own horn, but I'm a literally super mom haha.

I'm just not compatible with any man who spends his free time on cam sites blowing his money on sex stuff. Most of my regulars hang out on those sites more than I do. They teach me all kinds of stuff about the site, industry, models, etc. Well, I got stuff to do. I'm not even compatible with a local dude who has a regular 9-5 just getting by in life. I've got the whole weight of the world on my shoulders supporting 3 entire people on boner money, so I can't ever let myself mix business and pleasure. How would I even introduce him to my kids? "Hey kids, this is BigPhatCock69, he bought mommys GFE and well, we made it permanent" haha yeah. It won't happen for me.

Also this just reminds me. I is lonely.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Some of comments piqued my curiosity and wanted to inquire. Please don't think this is judgmental in any way and I hope it doesn't come across as so.

I'm just not compatible with any man who spends his free time on cam sites blowing his money on sex stuff. Most of my regulars hang out on those sites more than I do. They teach me all kinds of stuff about the site, industry, models, etc.

It sounds as if you're saying that cam work is good enough for you to make money. But, you condemn a man who visits sites supporting your profession? Sounds a bit contradictory, especially since I'm sure you might not be open about your line of work just as they most likely wouldn't be open to discussing this. At least in the beginning. Though I completely understand if you're referring to spending well over their budget, or spending vast amounts of time on a cam site. But casual and responsibly spending of money and time? I don't see it as being much different than watching an hour of TV or playing a video for equivalent time. For some, it's just how they decide to spend their downtime instead of TV or games.

Well, I got stuff to do. I'm not even compatible with a local dude who has a regular 9-5 just getting by in life. I've got the whole weight of the world on my shoulders supporting 3 entire people on boner money, so I can't ever let myself mix business and pleasure. How would I even introduce him to my kids? "Hey kids, this is BigPhatCock69, he bought mommys GFE and well, we made it permanent" haha yeah. It won't happen for me.

Also this just reminds me. I is lonely.

Curious as to why you say you aren't compatible with a local person who's just getting by. Do you know their life, what responsibilities they have? Perhaps they also have children &/or do equal amounts of volunteer work or have accolades such as you proclaim to have? It seems a bit presumptuous to make such a claim. Though, in reality, yes the chances of being compatible with someone in general is pretty small even in a vanilla context. If you're lacking in time due to staying busy, I can completely understand that. But, it doesn't necessarily make you incompatible. It's more a matter of where you place your priorities.

As to if such an introduction ever were to happen, you could just say "We met on the internet" like so many relationships tend to start now. Not that it would ever happen. But, people really don't need to know the exact context of how people meet.

Of course, I could be off base due to looking at things from different perspectives.


to you on the lonely part. It can be very lonely being extremely busy and responsible. I was that way for many years by choice since I didn't have the time to get involved with someone as I couldn't give them the time a relationship required. Now, I have the time and the world falls apart. So, I just enjoy company of people such as yourself and others here and other aspects of life.

 

[LylacDoll]

Some of comments piqued my curiosity and wanted to inquire. Please don't think this is judgmental in any way and I hope it doesn't come across as so.



It sounds as if you're saying that cam work is good enough for you to make money. But, you condemn a man who visits sites supporting your profession? Sounds a bit contradictory, especially since I'm sure you might not be open about your line of work just as they most likely wouldn't be open to discussing this. At least in the beginning. Though I completely understand if you're referring to spending well over their budget, or spending vast amounts of time on a cam site. But casual and responsibly spending of money and time? I don't see it as being much different than watching an hour of TV or playing a video for equivalent time. For some, it's just how they decide to spend their downtime instead of TV or games.



Curious as to why you say you aren't compatible with a local person who's just getting by. Do you know their life, what responsibilities they have? Perhaps they also have children &/or do equal amounts of volunteer work or have accolades such as you proclaim to have? It seems a bit presumptuous to make such a claim. Though, in reality, yes the chances of being compatible with someone in general is pretty small even in a vanilla context. If you're lacking in time due to staying busy, I can completely understand that. But, it doesn't necessarily make you incompatible. It's more a matter of where you place your priorities.

As to if such an introduction ever were to happen, you could just say "We met on the internet" like so many relationships tend to start now. Not that it would ever happen. But, people really don't need to know the exact context of how people meet.

Of course, I could be off base due to looking at things from different perspectives.


to you on the lonely part. It can be very lonely being extremely busy and responsible. I was that way for many years by choice since I didn't have the time to get involved with someone as I couldn't give them the time a relationship required. Now, I have the time and the world falls apart. So, I just enjoy company of people such as yourself and others here and other aspects of life.

It didn't read as contradictory to me. The men who spend large enough amounts of time to really start "falling" for a cammodel are usually there at least a few hours every night. When you're as busy as @MissCJ described those few extra hours could be used for things that she may prioritize more highly and could be really important to her. It doesn't sound like judging members for using the sites to me, it just sounds like she knows what she needs from a partner and what things would conflict with that. There are a lot of people I would never be compatible with but it doesn't mean I look down on them.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

It didn't read as contradictory to me. The men who spend large enough amounts of time to really start "falling" for a cammodel are usually there at least a few hours every night. When you're as busy as @MissCJ described those few extra hours could be used for things that she may prioritize more highly and could be really important to her. It doesn't sound like judging members for using the sites to me, it just sounds like she knows what she needs from a partner and what things would conflict with that. There are a lot of people I would never be compatible with but it doesn't mean I look down on them.

I get that, and is why I called out the difference between spending large amounts of time & money on the site vs a casual user as I didn't see that from her post. And yes to knowing what we all are looking for in a partner. I was inquiring to her based on how she wrote things.

 

[KenzieCams]

Some of comments piqued my curiosity and wanted to inquire. Please don't think this is judgmental in any way and I hope it doesn't come across as so.



It sounds as if you're saying that cam work is good enough for you to make money. But, you condemn a man who visits sites supporting your profession? Sounds a bit contradictory, especially since I'm sure you might not be open about your line of work just as they most likely wouldn't be open to discussing this. At least in the beginning. Though I completely understand if you're referring to spending well over their budget, or spending vast amounts of time on a cam site. But casual and responsibly spending of money and time? I don't see it as being much different than watching an hour of TV or playing a video for equivalent time. For some, it's just how they decide to spend their downtime instead of TV or games.



Curious as to why you say you aren't compatible with a local person who's just getting by. Do you know their life, what responsibilities they have? Perhaps they also have children &/or do equal amounts of volunteer work or have accolades such as you proclaim to have? It seems a bit presumptuous to make such a claim. Though, in reality, yes the chances of being compatible with someone in general is pretty small even in a vanilla context. If you're lacking in time due to staying busy, I can completely understand that. But, it doesn't necessarily make you incompatible. It's more a matter of where you place your priorities.

As to if such an introduction ever were to happen, you could just say "We met on the internet" like so many relationships tend to start now. Not that it would ever happen. But, people really don't need to know the exact context of how people meet.

Of course, I could be off base due to looking at things from different perspectives.


to you on the lonely part. It can be very lonely being extremely busy and responsible. I was that way for many years by choice since I didn't have the time to get involved with someone as I couldn't give them the time a relationship required. Now, I have the time and the world falls apart. So, I just enjoy company of people such as yourself and others here and other aspects of life.

Oh lordly. That's I warned it will sound stuck up. To be clear, i specifically mentioned men who spend more time on cam than i do. I also wouldn't date a guy who plays video games 20 hours a week. I cam 10am-2pm, so lots of my regulars are watching me at work, not necessarily their down time lol. I'm not judging. But would I view it differently in a partner? Maybe. For me personally, its not a good fit. Any guy who spends that kind of time on there as a hobby is going to be very disappointed when I mostly just want to cuddle and eat pizza rolls together, since my business is sex stuff. Plus then I'm going to want him to stop getting on there, because what if he falls for another cam girl? I just know how I am. I'm not condemning anyone. It's not a good fit for me and so it isn't a good fit for them.

Regarding local guys, I intended to mean exactly how you put it. Connections are hard period. Not sure who would want this overachieving mom of 3 with no time for herself who looks at dick pics for a living. I'm not generalizing that either, I'm going off my experience. Been single sooooo long, I honestly don't think I'm cut out for any relationship at this time.

 

[uzhvecher]

This topic always reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel flirts with the obstetrician and he says "are there days when you come home from work and say 'if I see one more cup of coffee...'"

 

[KenzieCams]

This topic always reminds me of the Friends episode where Rachel flirts with the obstetrician and he says "are there days when you come home from work and say 'if I see one more cup of coffee...'"

Yessssss. My room is hardcore. I've had 3 UTIs this year from riding my dildo too hard and for too long. I'm so used to walls of tips making my domi go off for hours at a time that I hardly have any feeling in my clit and have had to take extensive breaks. On any given day, I've watched a dozen cum shots and I spend every second of day dirty talking and hustling. Content, customs, non stop communication. At my daughter's swim meet like "great breast stroke baby girl!" While texting "I wish you were stroking my breasts right now." To like 45 dudes on snap. It is a business. Its fun and I love it, but still a business.

When I tell a guy what I do for a living, he usually either assumes I sleep around or he gets pumped because he thinks I'm just going to want sex all day. I. Just. Want. Pizza. Rolls.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Oh lordly. That's I warned it will sound stuck up. To be clear, i specifically mentioned men who spend more time on cam than i do. I also wouldn't date a guy who plays video games 20 hours a week. I cam 10am-2pm, so lots of my regulars are watching me at work, not necessarily their down time lol. I'm not judging. But would I view it differently in a partner? Maybe. For me personally, its not a good fit. Any guy who spends that kind of time on there as a hobby is going to be very disappointed when I mostly just want to cuddle and eat pizza rolls together, since my business is sex stuff. Plus then I'm going to want him to stop getting on there, because what if he falls for another cam girl? I just know how I am. I'm not condemning anyone. It's not a good fit for me and so it isn't a good fit for them.

Regarding local guys, I intended to mean exactly how you put it. Connections are hard period. Not sure who would want this overachieving mom of 3 with no time for herself who looks at dick pics for a living. I'm not generalizing that either, I'm going off my experience. Been single sooooo long, I honestly don't think I'm cut out for any relationship at this time.

Thanks for the explanation, and is why I wanted to inquire as it didn't sound like enough distinction between casual visitors and those who immerse themselves in it. Absolutely nothing wrong in wanting to do things not related to your line of work. Nor anything against cuddles and eating pizza rolls together.

As to being super busy and not feeling wanted, can completely relate. I spent years with little to no time for myself, almost always on the go. Always told myself that if I ever was lucky enough to meet someone, I'd cut back hours and make time for her. Instead, I kept piling more on because subconsciously I was wanting to avoid any chance of getting hurt again by someone who got too close. I also had two jobs with insane on call demands that didn't allow for a personal life.

When I relocated, I left all that behind and told myself that I wouldn't get into a similar situation again. Have help up to that part of it. But, thanks to our pandemic it's helped keep me single. I still don't think I'm quite ready for a relationship myself and it's been years since I was last in one.

 

[Walkergrogan]

I know a girl in my city who married a member and had a son

 

[squirtalot]

Why is it that someone new to the idea reads all the threads, but the sappy sad people who have fallen for scamming cam models have NOT read the threads! This is baffling, but thank you for reading the stickied threads.

They probably do but think their scenario is "unique"

 

[melanieoncam]

No, never, and it makes my job hell sometimes when I get a string of guys asking me to meet them. I'm here to provide masturbation material and entertainment in exchange for money and that's all. Would be a lot more enjoyable if customers would understand this. I never ever give any indication that I would be interested in meeting but still get harassed about it daily.

 

[StellaSontag]

What I've noticed is that little crushes from your regs are inevitable. I'm also biased towards the members i have more in common with / enjoy some occasional offline chats. It is human interaction, after all. But as a model, imo, you should be really cautious not to let the lines get blurred.

Remember that Sopranos scene where Tony thinks he's in love with his therapist? It's kinda like that. You become a supportive presence in a lot of your regs' lives, and that might be confusing to some, but 90% of the time it's not malicious, and something anyone with healthy amounts of empathy can understand. It also passes. Most members know full and well that there isn't a chance of romance. What they can expect, however, is a rather genuine friendship. Which is so much more valuable than a skewed hypothetical Pretty Woman fantasy.

I've found myself attracted to a member's personality more than once. That too, passes. The initial awe of having someone new pop in, who's great at conversation and interaction with the rest of the room. The member who makes great jokes, who tips and plays the games you spent time creating for your shows. And ultimately you just have to always instinctively know that your room is a place of work, a place of business. Tippers come and go, and getting too attached is merely setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt feelings.

(Then, every so often, a member comes around and doesn't get it. It's awful every time and while it's uncommon, it's still painful and emotionally exhausting. There is that segment of camsite visitors who seem to genuinely believe the platforms are a dating site. From my experience, they're also the ones who try to woo you into compliance and overspend like crazy, only to then, when they finally end up broke and decide it's time to declare their love like prince charming on a white horse, end up butthurt when you tell them a loud and clear "no".)

Friendships happen, connections are formed, but bottom line is still that camming is a JOB and it's important to keep the right balance / not have the scales tip too much in the wrong direction.

Also, you sound like you have a healthy relationship with the platforms. Good on you, there's nothing worse than members who don't understand the concept of boundaries.