Dating while camming

[Daphny Meyer]

Since I've started working in this industry I find myself in a dilema. It's really hard to date someone while doing this job. How do you do it ? Any suggestions ?

Thanks a lot !
Daphny

 

[AubreyMaexo]

The best suggestion I can give would probably just to make sure you take time for your SO, Do your thing when your on cam, have fun, but when you get off cam give him/her some attention and love be able to separate the two. And if they want to know the details, talk about your show with them! (new members, funny things that happened, what you did... etc) not only is it someone for you to talk about it with, but it also makes them feel all the more involved.

Camming has actually improved my sex life/ over all relationship with my boyfriend, it has increased my sex drive like no tomorrow and he finds what I do unbelievably sexy. So more often than not I have my boyfriend telling me to go on cam so that we can have fun later. I have been lucky enough to have the most supportive boyfriend ever when it comes to being a cam model and it makes all the difference.

*side note* if your SO is into it, get him/her verified on the site you cam on so you can do shows together. I do that with my boyfriend once a week and it makes the experience all the more enjoyable!!

Hope my novel helps you out a bit!

 

[Alex_M_21]

Since I've started working in this industry I find myself in a dilema. It's really hard to date someone while doing this job. How do you do it ? Any suggestions ?

Thanks a lot !
Daphny

I always like to be around open minded and fun people. If someone had an issue, or if I felt they'd have an issue with what I do I'm not sure if I'd want to date them anyway.

You can't hide it as it'll eat you up inside and could cause issues if things got very serious. Maybe broach the subject and ask how they feel about camsites, or say your friend does it and you think it's kinda cool, see how they react.

 

[ShyCollegeSlut]

I actually met my current boyfriend on Chaturbate so I didn't have to worry about telling him what I do. The biggest hurdle will be to know whether or not you can trust the person to tell them (there is always the possibility of them outing you to friends/family). My ex did in fact do that, after several years of dating because he got jealous and upset about the whole situation even though I kept him in the loop and told him everything he wanted to know. I offered to let him cam with me as well.

As a suggestion look for guys on fetlife or another fetish/sex related group/website. That way they're more likely to be comfortable with sex work, and they may also participate in some activities that they wouldn't want family to know about. That way if you break up and they play dirty you have leverage and can play dirty back (forgive me that sounds terrible but I think you'll understand).

 

[Alex_M_21]

I actually met my current boyfriend on Chaturbate so I didn't have to worry about telling him what I do. The biggest hurdle will be to know whether or not you can trust the person to tell them (there is always the possibility of them outing you to friends/family). My ex did in fact do that, after several years of dating because he got jealous and upset about the whole situation even though I kept him in the loop and told him everything he wanted to know. I offered to let him cam with me as well.

As a suggestion look for guys on fetlife or another fetish/sex related group/website. That way they're more likely to be comfortable with sex work, and they may also participate in some activities that they wouldn't want family to know about. That way if you break up and they play dirty you have leverage and can play dirty back (forgive me that sounds terrible but I think you'll understand).

Was the guy you met a viewer?

Just curious

 

[ShyCollegeSlut]

Was the guy you met a viewer?

Just curious

Yes he was.

 

[heybarkeep]

As a suggestion look for guys on fetlife or another fetish/sex related group/website. That way they're more likely to be comfortable with sex work, and they may also participate in some activities that they wouldn't want family to know about. That way if you break up and they play dirty you have leverage and can play dirty back (forgive me that sounds terrible but I think you'll understand).

Sounds like a really bad mindset to have towards dating. Your plan also relies on the other persons family caring or you have no leverage.


The only thing that I would suggest is to take your time. Depending on how serious it is, I see no reason to tell the person right away if you don't feel comfortable with them knowing your work. See if you really even like the person before putting some info out there. They will probably understand why you were hesitant or felt like you needed to lie when you do decide to tell them.

 

[Maria Raye]

Years ago when i was in college and camming i quit because the guy i was dating at the time was not okay with me being a camgirl. Looking back i shouldve just let that be a sign, but instead quit to pursue the relationship. Fast forward maaaany years and the man im dating now is wonderful and supportive of whatever i do that makes me happy.

I think it tends to be one of those things where communication needs to be very clear and upfront. Both parties need to be comfortable with it. And if your s/o is not okay with it maybe discussing exactly WHY they arent can help you find the next step to take or possibly even make them open up to the idea.

As for meeting guys that are more likely to be open to the idea off the back (painting with a broad brush here, sorry!) The above poster did a great comment on fetlife and the like. (Edit: disclaimer that i dont support the leverage idea. Just the info that using sites with others that may be more open to sex work is probably an easier way to break that ice)

Being upfront helps a lot. If they cant handle it initially than it may not be worth pursing further.

 

[EmiliaSong]

As a suggestion look for guys on fetlife or another fetish/sex related group/website. That way they're more likely to be comfortable with sex work, and they may also participate in some activities that they wouldn't want family to know about. That way if you break up and they play dirty you have leverage and can play dirty back (forgive me that sounds terrible but I think you'll understand).

I totally agree about Fetlife and other kinky sites/apps if you like BDSM/fetishes, but I don't think you need leverage. It is extremely rare that kinksters out each other or out sex workers because they'll get shunned by the community even if they are public about their sex/sensual proclivities.

 

[Val Vega]

I actually met my boyfriend, whom is the love of my life, on OK Cupid while I was escorting. He's been with me every step of the way through my ventures in sex work. You absolutely should try OKC. I cannot imagine my life without my boyfriend. He means everything to me and I owe it to OKC for finding him.

Whether you are okay with being open about it soon into dating is up to you, but the sooner you cross that bridge, the sooner you'll know if you will be compatible with that person. One good thing about OKC is that it has the question/answer system where you can see a person's attitudes towards things pretty easily. And that might give you some barometer by which to judge their receptiveness before even broaching the subject personally.

 

[ShyCollegeSlut]

I understand what you say about leverage, I may be jaded due to being outed.

 

[PrincessSnowAngel]

The best suggestion I can give would probably just to make sure you take time for your SO, Do your thing when your on cam, have fun, but when you get off cam give him/her some attention and love be able to separate the two. And if they want to know the details, talk about your show with them! (new members, funny things that happened, what you did... etc) not only is it someone for you to talk about it with, but it also makes them feel all the more involved.

Camming has actually improved my sex life/ over all relationship with my boyfriend, it has increased my sex drive like no tomorrow and he finds what I do unbelievably sexy. So more often than not I have my boyfriend telling me to go on cam so that we can have fun later. I have been lucky enough to have the most supportive boyfriend ever when it comes to being a cam model and it makes all the difference.

*side note* if your SO is into it, get him/her verified on the site you cam on so you can do shows together. I do that with my boyfriend once a week and it makes the experience all the more enjoyable!!

Hope my novel helps you out a bit!

you nailed that! in the end you gotta find someone supportive100 percent. if you find someone with the confidence and the trust that it requires to be in a relationship with a camgirl keep them! my man is my partner in business and life and my best friend. we have a ton of fun and it pushes boundaries in such an exciting way and i couldn't imagine any other way of living.

 

[PrincessSnowAngel]

I actually met my boyfriend, whom is the love of my life, on OK Cupid while I was escorting. He's been with me every step of the way through my ventures in sex work. You absolutely should try OKC. I cannot imagine my life without my boyfriend. He means everything to me and I owe it to OKC for finding him.

Whether you are okay with being open about it soon into dating is up to you, but the sooner you cross that bridge, the sooner you'll know if you will be compatible with that person. One good thing about OKC is that it has the question/answer system where you can see a person's attitudes towards things pretty easily. And that might give you some barometer by which to judge their receptiveness before even broaching the subject personally.

im another ok cupid success lol! 2 years so far and still going so strong congrats