Cam model and just married, how to go on?

[nightwish]

I would like to exchange thoughts about a cam model that just is married and wants to continue her business. Me personally, as a good friend, am not in favor for the idea of continueing, specially because i know that her husband is not fully aware of what she's doing on her job. I'm asking myself does she have to be completely honest to her man and try to get his consent or should she better stay silent about it (for the record, i don't think he's open for it, but i don't know him very well).
So, if you happen to have the same experience as model or as user, how did you handle it? if you have tips or comment on this, please do so.

 

[Diana_Devil]

I would like to exchange thoughts about a cam model that just is married and wants to continue her business. Me personally, as a good friend, am not in favor for the idea of continueing, specially because i know that her husband is not fully aware of what she's doing on her job. I'm asking myself does she have to be completely honest to her man and try to get his consent or should she better stay silent about it (for the record, i don't think he's open for it, but i don't know him very well).
So, if you happen to have the same experience as model or as user, how did you handle it? if you have tips or comment on this, please do so.

he is not aweare what she does ?? and did they married and .... uhh sorry but this is too much !

how the hell and why the hell in the world did she married him then if she cant be completely honest with him , and do her job of choice ?

 

[nightwish]

he is not aweare what she does ??

correction, he is not fully aware (that's what i stated). He knows were she works, what kind of job, but he does not know how far she goes...

 

[Diana_Devil]

correction, he is not fully aware (that's what i stated). He knows were she works, what kind of job, but he does not know how far she goes...

yeah exactelly i understood ... same question why the hell in the world would you marry then ? and how can you marry if you cant be completely honest with your partner about it !?

Sorry dont understand me bad i am married , and my husband knows all details of my work and what i do every single day , and i find it completely fair so . when not then why the hell i would have him married !?

if i cant be complete honest with my husband then i prefere to have a fuck buddy and mind my busssines .

dont understand me bad .. for me the marriage its something very serious and if i cant share with my husband all aspects ofmy life then what the hell of a marriage its that ! and if my husband cant accept me as i am with all that i do then why the hell i would stay married or marry him ?!

so thats why i am so intrigued .

and i bet there are a lot other models in this forum that are happy married for many years and see it same way.

 

[throwawayacc71]

If what you said is true then...thats just terrible.
There is absolutely no scenario where i would lie \ keep details from my partner about work if i thought it would bother them. that's one of the shittest things you can do to someone imo

what would i do? tell her to sort that shit out or we aren't friends anymore. I don't surround myself with those kinds of people.

 

[AudriTwo]

She could be lying that he doesn't know... so many people ask me if my husband knows. Sneaking behind your spouse to be a slut is a common porn trope.

Members are sometimes turned off if we tell them we are married, so she could be saying that so she doesn't lose much of her audience.

I think you shouldn't be judgmental. You don't know the circumstances of her life and her choices.

 

[Marceline]

Even if she is being totally honest about her situation, it’s her situation to deal with. Not yours as a cam member. If you believe she is telling the truth about her relationship and you find it morally reprehensible, then don’t visit her cam room anymore. That’s how you handle it.

Other than that, it’s not your place to to do or say anything else. What she does or does not do in her marriage is, quite frankly, none of your business.

 

[nightwish]

Even if she is being totally honest about her situation, it’s her situation to deal with. Not yours as a cam member. If you believe she is telling the truth about her relationship and you find it morally reprehensible, then don’t visit her cam room anymore. That’s how you handle it.

Other than that, it’s not your place to to do or say anything else. What she does or does not do in her marriage is, quite frankly, none of your business.

don't get me wrong, it is not my intention to interfere in her marriage. Ofc is what she does in her marriage totaly her business, and not mine. But as a good friend i am entitled to give her advise and i am just trying to make the best of it.

 

[Marceline]

But as a good friend i am entitled to give her advise

You’re not entitled to anything. As good as your onsite friendship may be, it is just that, an online friendship between a cam model and a cam member. Or to put it more bluntly, someone selling a sexual service and someone paying for that service.

She doesn’t need your advice in regards to her relationship or on whether or not she should continue camming. Especially since it does not seem like she even asked for it. You offering up your unsolicited “advice” is you trying to interfere in her marriage.

Like I said before, if you don’t like what she is doing, don’t go to her cam room anymore. But getting this personally involved in a cam model’s real life issues is not healthy for anyone involved.

 

[AmberCutie]

i am entitled to give her advise

only if she asks you for it.

 

[LeftistLibbie]

If you gave me unsolicited advice about my personal relationships, I'd ban you. So. Be careful thinking you're a good enough "friend" to do that.

 

[Chiara_Montague]

correction, he is not fully aware (that's what i stated). He knows were she works, what kind of job, but he does not know how far she goes...

How do you know what he knows? What do you mean you don't know him "very well"? Do you know him at all? You've met or at least spoken? How? When?

Think about this: is this all just based on what she's telling you? Like @AudriTwo said, she could be lying because being married isn't exactly a huge turn on but if a model says she's married she can use that to her advantage because guys sometimes like the idea that a woman is sneaking around to be a slut. The husband could be fully aware of all of what she does and she's just playing the part for her job.

When I'm on cam I'm sometimes honest and sometimes not. It depends on the guy and what he's into. Sometimes they like the idea that I have a husband and am completely unavailable but sometimes I can tell they'd prefer if I'm just a single camgirl doing this "for fun" and because "I'm really into it".

 

[AudriTwo]

But as a good friend i am entitled to _______

but this isnt how friendships work.

 

[MarieElise]

If a “good” friend of mine crossed a line like that, I’d boot their ass. I would tell them to fuck off and stop responding to their calls and emails. Tend to your own life and mind your own business, this is way too gossipy a thread topic for my tastes .

In other news love the new pic @AmberCutie

 

[MarieElise]

Plus I just want to add real “friends” don’t go to public forums to discuss your personal business. That’s what enemies do. Just saying ...

 

[nightwish]

only if she asks you for it.

Mmm, i think entitled is the wrong word than? Sorry for my English, it sounded good.

Oh, and by the way, I haven't gave her the "advise" , like i put in my OP: am not in favor for the idea of continueing, I never said i gave that advise, I was just thinking so and i told her that, it's just my feeling. You people have to read the lines exactly before making any conclusions please.

 

[ElektraDivine]

Am I the only one who doesn’t think it’s such a big deal he doesn’t know all the details?

He knows she’s a cam girl, I’m sure he knows what goes on. What help would it be if he knew all the things she said and did while on cam? What good is that doing anyone? I’m not advocating lying but I think some things are better left unsaid.

Agreed though their relationship is no ones business but her and her husbands. Plus, erm, we sell a fantasy. I hate to break it to you folks but not everything we say is the utmost truth. We are performers there for your entertainment for a price, so just enjoy it for what it is! Jerk, have some fun, and don’t take it too serious.

and if you think she’s so morally reprehensible that you can’t bear to spend more time with her, then just find another model. There’s thousands!

 

[yummybrownfox]

You're doing too much.

So she did tell him about her job. Just didn't give explicit details of "how far she goes." Yeah, so you're being extra for no reason. I'm curious if this "friend" of yours happens to be a girl you've been wanting to fuck?

Our boyfriends/husbands do not need a daily rundown with explicit details of everything we did on cam that day.
Him: Hey, babe. How was your day?
Her: Hey! It was good! Today I recorded a humiliation custom video where I yelled at a dude...demanded he eat a bar of soap in front of me...while I called him names like 'Pussy ass bitch'. What do you want for dinner?"

 

[Danigirl]

You do realize you're "a really good friend" to a fictitious persona and given cherry picked information which is most likely altered to suit the fictitious persona. Then seeking marital advice for the most likely made up/embellished situation on a public forum for a problem you weren't solicited to give advice for. I would ban you if I thought a member was doing this to me.

I got married while being a cam model. Best relationship I've ever had bar none. It works for us. I don't tell him everything I do but that's because I don't want to talk his ear off when he gets home from work not because I'm hiding. He loves my job. It allows for so much freedom and extras for the family along with being able to retire decades earlier. Not every dude is a jealous asshole who thinks a woman belongs to him once married. Her relationship is just that; hers.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Am I the only one who doesn’t think it’s such a big deal he doesn’t know all the details?

He knows she’s a cam girl, I’m sure he knows what goes on. What help would it be if he knew all the things she said and did while on cam? What good is that doing anyone? I’m not advocating lying but I think some things are better left unsaid.

THIS! My last bf knew, but I didn't tell him the site name and my model name (I don't give those details to IRL people anyway). All that mattered to him was that we weren't dating/fucking anyone else IRL besides each other.

 

[AudriTwo]

Am I the only one who doesn’t think it’s such a big deal he doesn’t know all the details?

YUP. some spouses dont want to know all the details too. i dont want know the details my husband does as a paramedic because it will make me really uncomfortable. like how he doesn't want to know about how i regularly watch a dude lick up his cum off the dirty toilet after he masturbates to my butthole, because it might make him uncomfortable too. we are aware of each other's jobs and the gist of it.

 

[GoddessV]

How will this woman navigate her marriage without the help of customers from her job?! And how will said customer know how to help her if total random strangers do not advise him?!

Tell her to annul/get divorced and you can ride in on your tiny little horse and rescue her in your shiny suit of armor.



Actual footage from OP battling the husband --->

 

[Diana_Devil]

Our boyfriends/husbands do not need a daily rundown with explicit details of everything we did on cam that day.
Him: Hey, babe. How was your day?
Her: Hey! It was good! Today I recorded a humiliation custom video where I yelled at a dude...demanded he eat a bar of soap in front of me...while I called him names like 'Pussy ass bitch'. What do you want for dinner?"

Thats what i literaly do with my husband and he always has something to add , giving me new ideas

 

[GoddessKaeli]

This might sound harsh...and I hope it does. Get a life and let her live hers. Jesus.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Thats what i literaly do with my husband and he always has something to add , giving me new ideas

I haven't decided yet if I want to list the video for sale on different platforms or not (It's a custom video, but not an exclusive custom video). I'm still laughing at the thought of myself having to be such a mean bitch in that video, holding a sudsy bar of soap in my hand and yelling "EAT IT, PUSSY!"

 

[GraysonDrake]

I would like to exchange thoughts about a cam model that just is married and wants to continue her business. Me personally, as a good friend, am not in favor for the idea of continueing, specially because i know that her husband is not fully aware of what she's doing on her job. I'm asking myself does she have to be completely honest to her man and try to get his consent or should she better stay silent about it (for the record, i don't think he's open for it, but i don't know him very well).
So, if you happen to have the same experience as model or as user, how did you handle it? if you have tips or comment on this, please do so.

Bro this is none of your business. You don't really know what's going on in her personal life, for all you know her husband is fully aware of what she does and she plays it like he doesn't because her online persona is a hotwife with a secret hobby who might get caught at any second.

Also if you think someone shouldn't cam after getting married, that says more about than them really. Loads of newly married people cam. Loads of parents cam for that matter.

Also, it's none of your business.

 

[Diana_Devil]

I haven't decided yet if I want to list the video for sale on different platforms or not (It's a custom video, but not an exclusive custom video). I'm still laughing at the thought of myself having to be such a mean bitch in that video, holding a sudsy bar of soap in my hand and yelling "EAT IT, PUSSY!"

I think it will sell very good on clips4sale , i wantclips and avn stars lol

there are a lot of subs there waiting to eat everything you could give them

 

[yummybrownfox]

I think it will sell very good on clips4sale , i wantclips and avn stars lol

there are a lot of subs there waiting to eat everything you could give them

Thanks! It was for a guy on IWantClips. I'll watch it again and try not to piss on myself from laughing, and then maybe I'll post it on the platforms just to see what happens.

 

[Chiara_Montague]

piss on myself from laughing

Careful now, you don't want us to think you're being trafficked and coerced!

 

[Danigirl]

Careful now, you don't want us to think you're being trafficked and coerced!