Best/Most Satisfying Private

[Teagan]

I have had a lot of privates i think of fondly often. Some are the guys who just say sit back and relax and get off while i watch. Some give ideas about what they would like to see like positions or toys. And a few are detail oriented and specific as all get out. I dont worry about the detail ones as i know if im doing it wrong theyll let me know, and i ask any questions i have before hand.

I guess the only thing in common they all have is the members letting me know how much they enjoyed one with me. To me thats most enjoyable. I can get off to the fact that i know theyre enjoying themselves. It may not always be my fetish or likes, but i know its theirs and i enjoy pleasing. Thats what does it for me most. Thats my personality though, i know its not every ones.

 

[UncleThursday]

Some thread necromancy here...

But, I took a model private tonight, and I hadn't taken her private in over a year. But, even after so long, and I'm not really a reg in her room, she still remembered my first name.

So, either our first private made a good impression, or she's just really good at names.

I would say, then, that little things like that make for a very memorable/great private.

I'd assume, as well, that if a model remembers things like that even a year plus later, it was memorable to her, as well.

 

[dustinxxxizzle]

Some thread necromancy here...

But, I took a model private tonight, and I hadn't taken her private in over a year. But, even after so long, and I'm not really a reg in her room, she still remembered my first name.

So, either our first private made a good impression, or she's just really good at names.

I would say, then, that little things like that make for a very memorable/great private.

I'd assume, as well, that if a model remembers things like that even a year plus later, it was memorable to her, as well.

Awesome. I had a slightly similar experience with a model, but it was only 5 months between privates and I had only taken her private once. We had been trying to work another one in for quite some time, and when we finally did she said, "I'm wearing some pink shorts I remember you liked." I was like, "Wow, I was actually going to request those! That's amazing." "See you were special!" Made me feel like a million bucks. :thumbleft:

 

[UncleThursday]

Awesome. I had a slightly similar experience with a model, but it was only 5 months between privates and I had only taken her private once. We had been trying to work another one in for quite some time, and when we finally did she said, "I'm wearing some pink shorts I remember you liked." I was like, "Wow, I was actually going to request those! That's amazing." "See you were special!" Made me feel like a million bucks. :thumbleft:

Yeah, I took the model I mentioned on page one of this thread private a few months later, and she knew I liked socks. So before I even hit the private button, but had told her I was going to take her private, she said in PM "Let me get some socks."

 

[FridaysFun]

The best I've had was a long scripted one. I'd taken her pvt before, a few times.. I know her really well, I think that's what made it so great. We're comfortable with each other. In the request I mailed, I made it about both of us, things I knew she liked and things she knew I liked. We both had a lot of fun and she really got into it.. it was amazing! Started out with some music, a dance, then a striptease.. etc I don't think I'll ever get another one like it.

 

[Jupiter551]

Long John Silver*


*edit: nm, misread thread title

 

[bob]

hmmm....interesting topic....personally, the idea of a heavily scripted private is a big yawn for me....but the idea of something open ended, and started with a fantasy that i create is a complete turn on.....

with that in mind, then, i, too have a specific way of going about finding a partner, when so moved...there is discussion in PM of course, but it's not to determine an ending so much as to find the beginning....something as simple as sitting behind you on airplane, for example, seeing you flirt with the guy (or girl) that handed you your drink, and leaning forward and saying something softly in your ear -that usually involves some sort of touch (depending on my mood, the touch can be a caress, or something more aggressive)

at this point, it becomes a sort of choose your own adventure: tips may or may not be involved....it doesn't really matter

what matters is how you respond, and where you wanna take it....but if it doesn't feel personal to me, then we'll never make it too private.....and that's ok: it can fun just to talk about fantasies, without really connecting the body and the mind in an exploration of one.

needless to say, i don't do a lot of privates.....i'm damn picky, and in some ways, a non scripted private that is slow to build and requires that kind of involvement takes a certain suspension of the work ethic......or a such a thorough enjoyment of it that we can both leave camland for a while.

i suppose its part mind fuck...except i only will play if your mind wants to fuck back :-D

 

[AprilCarroll]

For me, the best privates are interactive and spontaneous. A bit of direction can be nice because it lets me know that the guy is getting exactly what he wants (e.g., "Could you turn around? I'd like to see your ass" or "Could you use that hooked-shape toy?"), but I also prefer for the guy to be open to whatever I enjoy. When guys start directing me as if I'm a pornstar, I get nervous and lose focus on what I know works for me, and it makes it harder for me to have an orgasm.

A few simple things that make privates really fun (for me):
- a guy who talks but isn't too crass right off the bat. I like knowing that what I'm doing it turning you on, but I don't want to hear "let me see you fishhook that wet little pussy" ( :shock: ) the second the private starts.
- a guy who is polite and says something along the lines of "Thank you, that was really amazing. Mind if I head back to your room?" instead of just clicking "end show" the moment he's finished.
- privates with regulars. I feel the most open and comfortable with them. They already know me and know what I do and don't enjoy, which allows me to relax and enjoy their company without having to explain why I don't want to put a butternut squash in my ass.

 

[Violet October]

I actually had an hour and a half long exclusive on SM yesterday that was very satisfying. Most of it was just really hot, dirty chatting. And then the customer only let me tease myself while he got off.


It was a lot of fun. :X

And made a lot of money. ;D


.......And then he came back for more.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

My favorite privates are ones where we just talk. I love talking and getting to know people better. These privates have lasted over an hour sometimes. But that doesn't mean I don't like sexy privates, too.

 

[LacieLaPlante]

My longest privates ever have just been talking and learning about each other. I had a regular show off his gun collection once and it was pretty nifty.

I also like privates where they want me to try on all my clothes and panties. This is just pure fun. I love posing and being silly, trying to figure out cute outfits for them.

My favorite sexual private is when they let me do what i want and don't try to dirty talk to me the whole time. I love a silent private because I don't get distracted and I can really get into my head and fantasize about schtuff and get off hard.

 

[DudeExtreme]

I have had quite a few satisfying ones. Since July though, I've had four which I will say here and you know who you are.

1) At the end of one private, my response was: I walked in to see a goddess. I walked out with a friend. It was a defining moment for me.
2) After an emotional night witnessing huge tips in her room, I talked to her about growth concepts that were dear to both of us and received some great advice on where to begin. I also begin dreaming big.
3) Date night: we planned the whole thing in tumblr: the time, what to wear for each of us, etc. It was super fun for me.
4) Last month, a lot of time just chilling out and talking while she is preparing tickets. It was great to chill with her.

I've def have build up confident when talking to her. She took me by the hand and encourage me to be me. I can never thank her enough for being there.

 

[PinkiePixi]

Honestly my favorites are the ones where I just get to talk to the guy and get to know him better - or even better, when we have a lot in common and get to geek out over it. My favorite was a guy who took me exclusive on SM - he bought a block of time. He had me get off for him, but let me choose how to, and wasnt overly crass or anything else, after I came he said he had cum also - but he stuck around for at least half an hour afterwards and we just talked about Doctor Who and World of Warcraft. It was AWESOME.

Sexually wise though, I like the privates where the guy gives me some sort of direction - like what he wants to see, dildo, vibrator, position, BJ, some assorted activity - whatever. But leaves it vague enough that I can run wild and enjoy myself. I hate when a guy takes me private and then just stays completely silent, I have no clue what to do, so I default to a short strip and then masturbate. Then when they leave I feel weird cause Im not sure if thats what they even wanted! Similarly though, I hate it when a guy dirty talks too much, paying attention to the screen is so distracting when Im trying to have a good time. Its even worse when its c2c, honestly I hate those.

The worst for me though are the super scripted ones though, I wont do them. I may do them as a custom video, but not as a private. Too much pressure, Im a horrible actress, and it just makes me really anxious and I end up hating it. Also fetishes... some Im alright with, most I just dont know enough about or feel confident enough to accept privates for, and then a few that I just hate.

Being a bbw - I hate when I get privates that revolve solely around my size. Ive worked very hard to try and keep my size from defining me, but when some guy takes me private and just wants me to tell him how much I weigh, pose in ways that are super unflattering, or jiggle myself around - it just makes me very very uncomfortable to be objectified like that.

Mostly I avoid privates. I very rarely take them on MFC (where the super high prices and constantly seeing the tokens tick away give me massive anxiety), and on SM I prefer to do gold shows - but still do privates because 90% of them are just plain masturbation, and the c2c screen is super tiny.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

She did it to a T, had fun, and I got this little fantasy out of my system.

Just out of curiosity, do you tip these models for taking the care to do this? I mean 5-6 minutes? You're talking under 500 tokens! Yet she would have to read through, memorise what you want, put the items of clothing on/gather the props, get a specific place/set up her cam for you, probably in this case actually arrange a time to come on cam for you specifically, meaning she has to do all the normal camming preps too, like make-up, lighting etc. For um... 300-500 tokens? This is like an hours work +
If you're going to script something like that and not do another tip then I think surely the private should be a very long private, talking more like 2000 tokens+
Guys often ask, can I wear x in private? Well if someone's going to take me in a private for 1000 tokens+ then yes it's worth my time putting that item on, but if they're hoping for something under 500 tokens? Well an outfit change in my room is 600 tokens, little things I'll do for less. But I don't see why just because someone is taking me private they should get this treatment.

I ONCE had someone mfc mail me about a fantasy like this (different fetish). His script was similar to yours, perhaps even more detailed. He wanted it as a custom vid, had 3 different scenes, so I'd have to set up different rooms, I also had to spend about £6 on props. Well I added up how long a 20 minute true private would be, then I added the price of the props. I rounded it up to saying it'd be about 2000 tokens. The guy was outraged, apparently I should have performed this for more like 400 tokens.... even though for 400 tokens with the props I would have earned 0. Actually I would have done it, but as he was a total cheapo and his fetish has a certain amount of hilarity to it, it has been something that over the last year I have read out to all of my friends giving them hysterics and occasionally read out in my room. (always remember with camgirls, that we are not doctors, what you tell us is in no way confidential, if you don't tip us/treat us right, we have no reason to keep your secrets)

Best private I've ever had I think was from someone off here, was my longest private, and I think that's one of the reasons why, there was lots of time to tease, to talk, to play, then chill and enjoy the time afterwards, and then play again. Was more like one of those awesome sex sessions where you just stay in bed fucking/chilling all day! It was all very relaxed. I do enjoy privates, but I often feel rushed. Majority of guys want to spend around 500-600 tokens for a private, which is cool, it's enough time and I enjoy myself, but it means I have to strip fairly quickly and really get right to the point. Those privates feel more like work/chores just because there's a time limit, it's more serving a purpose. One of my favourite things about sex is the feeling I get afterwards, when you feel really euphoric, if I'm in a private with someone it's nice to lay back and enjoy it with someone, and then once I've stopped buzzing play again (always more sensitive second time). Usually though people leave as soon as I've cum and go back into the main room. I may be a camgirl, but just like any other girl, intimacy is part of the best part of sex. For a girl sex starts the moment you meet up with her from the moment you leave. So however good you are at sex, if you're a douche beforehand, and get straight up afterwards and leave, most girls will still count you as shit in bed, as it was a bad experience. I feel the same with privates. I like a few cuddles/chat afterwards. Doesn't have to be for long, but a little bit at least

 

[UncleThursday]

My favorite privates are ones where we just talk. I love talking and getting to know people better. These privates have lasted over an hour sometimes. But that doesn't mean I don't like sexy privates, too.

Our only private, so far, ended up being a little of both. We did sexy time, then talked for a few minutes before it ended. It was fun... Then you had to go and move to, like, normal person hours, so now I hardly ever see you.

Obviously, I always assume the models find me completely boring and unmemorable in privates.

 

[RylieBradford]

I'm unearthing a bunch of interesting threads.

I just thought I'd throw out there that I'm still new enough that doing a private is a little bit scary. What if I'm not sexy enough to get this guy off even though he's spending a pretty significant amount of money on me? Eeeep!

I had a private the other day that was really nice. We PMed a lot beforehand and he's been in my room every day I've had it up in the week I've been camming. I felt like I probably couldn't really mess this up since if he's a regular there must be something there he likes, right?

It was a Skype session without the pressure of tokens ticking away, but at the same time, not having that counter made it really hard to get down to business. So we just sat there chatting about whatever. His dogs and tattoo mostly. It was really awkward for me to finally bring up the reason that we're there. As far as elephants in the room go, this one was wearing a neon tutu and tap dancing all over the place.

I need to learn how to control the flow better. And I found that if you start getting too offtopic and making a ton of small talk it becomes so hard to bring things back to the sexy stuff. Which is great in some contexts, but I doubt that anybody is really going to pay me money to just be their buddy for half an hour.

How do you ladies keep a Skype session from running long? Or hell, how to you get things rolling really? So far my guys haven't been very aggressive, which is polite and all, but really hard for me to work with.

 

[Alcon]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

 

[Evvie]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

 

[Alcon]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

My own pleasure (both sexual and social).

 

[Evvie]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

My own pleasure (both sexual and social).

Even though you believe the majority of models don't want to interact with you and they only do it for money?

 

[Alcon]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

My own pleasure (both sexual and social).

Even though you believe the majority of models don't want to interact with you and they only do it for money?

That's what I believe, in my case. I interact with plenty of women off of MFC, so I'm fine with that.

 

[Albert_1]

I'm not good at giving direction in the moment so I usually outline a few things ahead of time like anal or not etc. but the only things I really need to have a good time in private is for the model to talk dirty to me and moan my name while getting off. :dance:

 

[Evvie]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

My own pleasure (both sexual and social).

Even though you believe the majority of models don't want to interact with you and they only do it for money?

That's what I believe, in my case. I interact with plenty of women off of MFC, so I'm fine with that.

ETA: You know what... never mind.

 

[Deleted member 8603]

This is just me, but I never expect the model to get sexual pleasure out of the private. I do view it as a rather cold transactional sense. I think it's great of the model enjoys it too, but if I wanted a genuine experience where both sides are really having fun, it makes no sense that one party is sending money to other party.

So...

Why do you watch cam models at all, then?

My own pleasure (both sexual and social).

Even though you believe the majority of models don't want to interact with you and they only do it for money?

That's what I believe, in my case. I interact with plenty of women off of MFC, so I'm fine with that.

If you don't expect her to get anything but money from it, you're probably treating her less like a person and more like an object for your pleasure only.
Which means women you cam with will probably never enjoy being in private with you except for the money.

 

[Alcon]

If you don't expect her to get anything but money from it, you're probably treating her less like a person and more like an object for your pleasure only.
Which means women you cam with will probably never enjoy being in private with you except for the money.

I would never come on a cam site looking for romance, friendship, or anything like that.
I get that cam models are people and deserve to be treated as people, however I believe that objectification also goes both ways. Models objectify members just as members objectify models. If you are only willing to talk to us and Skype with us for money, then you are treating us just like human vending machines. This is inherent in a commercial transaction. On the other hand, if you want to interact with me without objectifying me, then be my friend off cam and off line. Fortunately, not all of life is a commercial transaction! OkCupid is free! But on MFC, it is, and I don't want to lose sight of that.

 

[Evvie]

If you don't expect her to get anything but money from it, you're probably treating her less like a person and more like an object for your pleasure only.
Which means women you cam with will probably never enjoy being in private with you except for the money.

I would never come on a cam site looking for romance, friendship, or anything like that.
I get that cam models are people and deserve to be treated as people, however I believe that objectification also goes both ways. Models objectify members just as members objectify models. If you are only willing to talk to us and Skype with us for money, then you are treating us just like human vending machines. This is inherent in a commercial transaction. On the other hand, if you want to interact with me without objectifying me, then be my friend off cam and off line. Fortunately, not all of life is a commercial transaction! OkCupid is free! But on MFC, it is, and I don't want to lose sight of that.

:roll:

 

[UncleThursday]

I'm unearthing a bunch of interesting threads.

I just thought I'd throw out there that I'm still new enough that doing a private is a little bit scary. What if I'm not sexy enough to get this guy off even though he's spending a pretty significant amount of money on me? Eeeep!

I had a private the other day that was really nice. We PMed a lot beforehand and he's been in my room every day I've had it up in the week I've been camming. I felt like I probably couldn't really mess this up since if he's a regular there must be something there he likes, right?

It was a Skype session without the pressure of tokens ticking away, but at the same time, not having that counter made it really hard to get down to business. So we just sat there chatting about whatever. His dogs and tattoo mostly. It was really awkward for me to finally bring up the reason that we're there. As far as elephants in the room go, this one was wearing a neon tutu and tap dancing all over the place.

I need to learn how to control the flow better. And I found that if you start getting too offtopic and making a ton of small talk it becomes so hard to bring things back to the sexy stuff. Which is great in some contexts, but I doubt that anybody is really going to pay me money to just be their buddy for half an hour.

How do you ladies keep a Skype session from running long? Or hell, how to you get things rolling really? So far my guys haven't been very aggressive, which is polite and all, but really hard for me to work with.

Eventually you'll learn to keep it from 'running too long.' But, in this case, it might have been what you needed to relax and get comfortable with the member. When I do Skype with a model, it is normally a few minutes of talk, then sexy time, then some more talk afterwards. I think it helps keep the feeling between the member and model that this wasn't all just about a business transaction, and that having the normal talk seems to ensure we're both relaxed enough with each other in a very private setting.

Remember, though, members can be nervous about going private with models, too. They can have many of the same thoughts. What if I bore her? What if I ask her to do something she doesn't like (hint, PM beforehand to get the info as to what is acceptable to her and you)? Should I turn my cam on? If I do, what does she want to see from me? What if she thinks I'm ugly (hint, if she's professional about it, she won't let on if she does)? What if I run out of tokens before we're both satisfied (hint, they can still be bought while in the private, too). Etc.

It's part of why some members do multiple privates with the same models. They get into a comfort zone with each other, where they know what each one likes while in private and know that it will be enjoyable for both of them. Some models actually prefer when the same person takes them private multiple times over random privates. I know a few who only take privates from people on their friends list, and that placement cannot be purchased.

On the other hand, I also know a few models who tend to get a bit pushy about going private again. In some cases, they bring it up almost every day that you see them. And that's not the best way to get repeat privates, even if the member really enjoyed the private (well, at least from my personal standpoint). If it's been a while, and you want to drop some hints that you would enjoy going private with the member again, that's cool. One model I mentioned in this thread dropped some not so subtle hints after a few months since our last private. She'd PM me things like 'I'm horny,' or get done a group and PM 'those guys were impotent' and such. I finally took her private again last week, for almost 50 minutes. And the first thing she said when we got in there was "I finally seduced you until you fell for me! It took me a while." :lol:

I'm not hard to get into private, really. But I wanted to ensure we had plenty of time, so I needed to make sure I had enough money. And after I told her a few outfits she was wearing that I liked, and this really nice set of blue lingerie that just fits her so well... well, she kept wearing those things every few days for a few weeks, until I took her private. I had the money, and she wore the blue set... and I PMed her... put on some sexy socks and we'll go private. Her response was "deal" and immediately grabbed a pair of silky sexy socks. :lol:

And, yes, it was VERY memorable.

 

[Nordling]

Alcon...Well, online friendships in general are not like offline friendships...but that doesn't invalidate them as real. Yeah, some models may be like androids and are unaffected by mutual interaction. But most models I've talked with are way more than that...not just "real humans" putting on an act but real, caring individuals who simply are constrained by limits...and that limit has to do with personal security. As long as you keep the model's feelings about personal security in mind, and get out of your mind that they're just pumping you for bucks, you might find an entirely new level (for you) of human to human experience.

 

[Deleted member 8603]

If you don't expect her to get anything but money from it, you're probably treating her less like a person and more like an object for your pleasure only.
Which means women you cam with will probably never enjoy being in private with you except for the money.

I would never come on a cam site looking for romance, friendship, or anything like that.
I get that cam models are people and deserve to be treated as people, however I believe that objectification also goes both ways. Models objectify members just as members objectify models. If you are only willing to talk to us and Skype with us for money, then you are treating us just like human vending machines. This is inherent in a commercial transaction. On the other hand, if you want to interact with me without objectifying me, then be my friend off cam and off line. Fortunately, not all of life is a commercial transaction! OkCupid is free! But on MFC, it is, and I don't want to lose sight of that.

The only time I'd treat someone like a human vending machine is if they're either a dick or its their fetish.
I cam for money because its my job.
If I didn't cam for money, I would have to get a different job and wouldn't have time to cam.

Do you also to to restaurants and get mad and order the waitresses around like servants because they're "objectifying" you?
Same thing.

If you don't like cam models and can't treat them correctly, you should stop seeing them.
You obviously don't have any real respect for the people you're visiting, so give it up.

"Wahh wahh, she's charging me for her job"

 

[Alcon]

Alcon...Well, online friendships in general are not like offline friendships...but that doesn't invalidate them as real. Yeah, some models may be like androids and are unaffected by mutual interaction. But most models I've talked with are way more than that...not just "real humans" putting on an act but real, caring individuals who simply are constrained by limits...and that limit has to do with personal security. As long as you keep the model's feelings about personal security in mind, and get out of your mind that they're just pumping you for bucks, you might find an entirely new level (for you) of human to human experience.

But it's more than just personal security, it's a transfer of tokens. I'm not saying that real friendships can't develop on MFC. But once it becomes a real friendship, then it'll happen outside MFC, private shows, and paid Skype shows. It'll happen for free.

Do you also to to restaurants and get mad and order the waitresses around like servants because they're "objectifying" you?
Same thing.

I don't get mad at camgirls, I obviously don't see anything wrong with it, as I patronize MFC. At the same time, I don't consider waitresses and servants my friends or buddies. I consider them the people who bring me food. That doesn't stop me from treating them with respect as people. But whether they get personal pleasure out of bringing me food is none of my concern, as long as I will make sure to leave them a generous tip if the service was decent. This is exactly analogous to camming.