Yes, another "Am I falling for a cam model?" post.

[AmberCutie]

45 minutes is too damn long.


Now gimme a Snickers ice cream bar.

 

[Deleted member 45270]

Two of the lap dancers said to me for $100 I could fuck them. I politely declined the offer.

Thing is, in bed, I'm not one of those guys that pops his load in 5 minutes or less. I'm an endurance fucker and generally can go 45 minutes (or longer) including the foreplay before popping off. Half the time in my personal experiences, the women I've fucked couldn't handle it anymore for the night because of the multiple orgasms I gave them. That's one of the reasons I declined. But I also declined because I have no idea if the stripper has a boyfriend or husband or what not and to fuck some stripper because I think I look at it from the perspective what if I was involved with some woman and she moonlighted as a stripper and getting fucked on the side? It'd piss me off big time.

This quote says it all. You were offered a service for $100, and both reasons why you rejected them involved their personal lives. You're not differentiating between business and personal offers.

If this camgirl said to you, "I'd left you fuck me for $100," what would you think? Would you see it as being offered a service or see it as being offered a relationship? It's the former. What she's doing right now is continuing to offer you a service on camsites.

But in the pandemic world we live in, this might be the only option for some people at the moment for when or if pre pandemic life returns to normal.

Go on a dating site. Camsites are not dating sites. This is coming from someone who was physically isolated for years pre-covid life: you are making excuses to justify sticking around in this dead-end transactional "relationship." Adult sites are meant to be for entertainment, and if you're in a lonely, isolated situation, take responsibility and don't put yourself in a situation where you'll get suckered out of your money.
Some people will say they love you for money. Every camgirl's moral code and boundaries are different, including whether or not to remind people to not go over budget.

Money investment = transactional relationship.
Time and energy investment = actual relationship.
Is she still going to talk to you outside of camsites, after you stop paying her at all? You'll find out how she really feels if you do. The amount of unnecessary detail you have given us only signals that you're too emotionally invested --

One time we had bit of a disagreement and said felt like I was being ignored. Just stupid me getting a little greedy.

-- and potentially jealous, too. Why does almost every single one of these "does she love me too?" stories have the member have a ""disagreement"" with the model? Food for thought right there. Speaking of which, give me a snickers ice cream.

 

[AudriTwo]

or the alternate

OP- "I'm an endurance fucker and generally can go 45 minutes (or longer) including the foreplay before popping off. Half the time in my personal experiences, the women I've fucked couldn't handle it anymore for the night because of the multiple orgasms I gave them."

Rest of us -

ps: stupid peanut allergy, i wish i could eat a snickers D:

 

[DJ_Pioneer]

The same old story although it was longer than usual. Since all of these kinds of posts are written by men I would like to take the opportunity to apologize on behalf of my entire gender and ask for the same kind of patience that people would have with a young child or a golden retriever.

 

[englishmuffins]

The same old story although it was longer than usual. Since all of these kinds of posts are written by men I would like to take the opportunity to apologize on behalf of my entire gender and ask for the same kind of patience that people would have with a young child or a golden retriever.

He’s a grown man.

 

[DJ_Pioneer]

He’s a grown man.

I meant men in general, the evidence is starting to point at that we are exceedingly stupid when it comes to not falling in love with cam models.

 

[AudriTwo]

I meant men in general, the evidence is starting to point at that we are exceedingly stupid when it comes to not falling in love with cam models.

i think we are just experiencing an annoying vocal minority. its not "men are the issue" problem more so an individual problem who all happen to be men.

the only one who has to apologize for their shit behavior is the person with the shit behavior.


but seriously thanks for not being anything like op and all those other dudes. we models appreciate you bbs.

 

[englishmuffins]

I meant men in general, the evidence is starting to point at that we are exceedingly stupid when it comes to not falling in love with cam models.

I wouldn’t say stupid, just lacking comprehension skills. When men, like OP, have stated “another love story” or “I’ve read the others but my love is different”, those men have out right admitted that they read the other posts, but don’t seem to understand the message or lesson behind them.

So now at this point, their posts are just up for scrutiny. That means even calling out the bad behaviors or traits of the situation.

We give the same advice over and over again, so now instead of talking to a brick wall, we have a snickers ice cream in hand while talking to a brick wall.

 

[melanieoncam]

45 minutes is too damn long.


Now gimme a Snickers ice cream bar.

Yeah 45 minutes to me indicates some type of dysfunction, ugh....

When I was younger I was with a guy like that. He went on and on and could not cum until I got so bored and dry I faked an orgasm several times to get him to finish and get the hell off me. (the things we do when young and inexperienced, lol)

Turns out he had an addiction to violent and extreme porn and fucked up his mind so that any type of ordinary sexual activity wouldn't get him off. So glad to be rid of him, yuk...

 

[CheeseMoon]

but don’t seem to understand the message or lesson behind them.

The lesson for me: if I ever make a sock account and start a thread like this, I'm making damn sure there are car chases, explosions, secret agents, female supervillains and gunfights in it. Oh, and at least a couple of musical interludes with a chorus line!

... and lots of Snickers product placements.

 

[englishmuffins]

The lesson for me: if I ever make a sock account and start a thread like this, I'm making damn sure there are car chases, explosions, secret agents, female supervillains and gunfights in it. Oh, and at least a couple of musical interludes with a chorus line!

... and lots of Snickers product placements.

just make sure to throw in a dildo launcher!

 

[CheeseMoon]

just make sure to throw in a dildo launcher!

 

[Marceline]

I wouldn’t say stupid, just lacking comprehension skills. When men, like OP, have stated “another love story” or “I’ve read the others but my love is different”, those men have out right admitted that they read the other posts, but don’t seem to understand the message or lesson behind them.

So now at this point, their posts are just up for scrutiny. That means even calling out the bad behaviors or traits of the situation.

We give the same advice over and over again, so now instead of talking to a brick wall, we have a snickers ice cream in hand while talking to a brick wall.

Just wanted to tag on,

I feel like most of these new "I'm in love with a camgirl" posts fall in one of a few categories:

1. They are normal, albeit lonely, dudes who really want to believe that this beautiful camgirl giving them attention actually loves them or has romantic feelings for them. They did a Google search in hopes of finding some threads or posts or articles where a cam model and cam member got into a serious relationship and lived happily ever after that will serve them as confirmation bias. That led them to the numerous threads here, all with the same general advice: If she doesn't make moves to take your interactions offsite and make them non-transactional, she doesn't have feelings for you. If she is still taking your money through camsites or is asking for you to send money for her sick grandmother or bills or whatever else, she isn't into you. And if she is doing this while saying she loves you, then you are being love scammed. However, the guys who make new threads after reading this blatantly ignore everything in those threads because they want to believe that their situation is different. Their situation is special. When really, it's not. It's the same thing we've been hearing time and time again for years.

2. They are trolling for attention. Whether that be to get a rise out of the people here, create some sort of discussion or to play out their sexual fantasies, what they want out of it is the same. Attention. I believe the majority of people creating these threads for attention do it for the latter reason, they want an audience for their written out sexual fantasies. That's why so many of these read like camgirl fanfictions and have a ton of unnecessary sexual details in them that isn't relevant. It could also be because they have a humiliation fetish and enjoy people dunking on them in the subsequent posts. Either way, I really believe there's a good amount of men who have created posts like these for the sole purpose of getting fap material from the responses.

3. They are mentally ill. They have paid for interactions with beautiful women online and have deluded themselves into believing that they are now in a relationship. It's sad and sometimes scary, but it's not at all uncommon for mentally ill men to be attracted to sex workers. This isn't a new phenomenon. Long before camsites became a thing, mentally unstable men would go to sex workers in real life. For people who have trouble interacting with the opposite sex, paying for that interaction becomes their go to. But then, they forget that they are paying for the attention, kindness and sexual gratification and their minds twist these interactions into something that it isn't. These men come here because they have a similar outlook to the men in category 1, but a key difference is in a lot of these cases, the model isn't trying to love scam him and is just doing her job.

Unfortunately with a lot of these threads, no matter which category they fall into, when the responses don't go the way they want them to they lash out and begin insulting everyone here. When their behavior keeps getting called out they double down on it. Most likely because they are so used to paying for their interactions with women online, so they are treated with kindness and not called out as much because they are paying to be coddled. So when people don't treat them like that they don't like it at all and freak out.

At this point, no one is going to get brand new advice on any of these threads. It's all already been said. They just don't want to hear it.

If she's not treating you like any normal person treats their SO, she's not into you. In typical relationships, your interactions won't be limited to the camsite they work on. In typical relationships, people aren't asking for exorbitant amounts of money at the beginning.

Take a step back from camsites if you feel like you're overstepping cam model/member boundaries. But they don't want to do that.

Try dating sites, because camsites aren't for dating or finding love. But they also don't want to do that. Why? Because you generally can't pay the women you meet on dating sites to act the way you want them to act. You're getting real, genuine interactions. And if you have a shitty personality, those interactions won't be pleasant. It takes more work. And also, let's be real, a lot of men probably don't think they'd match with women who look like the women they find on camsites.

It really does get frustrating trying to talk to the majority of people who create these posts.

 

[yummybrownfox]

ps: stupid peanut allergy, i wish i could eat a snickers D:

My son is allergic too, and he's home from college for a few more weeks. So when I get one out of the freezer, I wait 'til I'm back upstairs in my room to open it and eat it. Then I wrap up the empty wrapper with a paper towel before throwing it away, and then I wash my hands and face.

 

[MarieElise]

Just wanted to tag on,

I feel like most of these new "I'm in love with a camgirl" posts fall in one of a few categories:

1. They are normal, albeit lonely, dudes who really want to believe that this beautiful camgirl giving them attention actually loves them or has romantic feelings for them. They did a Google search in hopes of finding some threads or posts or articles where a cam model and cam member got into a serious relationship and lived happily ever after that will serve them as confirmation bias. That led them to the numerous threads here, all with the same general advice: If she doesn't make moves to take your interactions offsite and make them non-transactional, she doesn't have feelings for you. If she is still taking your money through camsites or is asking for you to send money for her sick grandmother or bills or whatever else, she isn't into you. And if she is doing this while saying she loves you, then you are being love scammed. However, the guys who make new threads after reading this blatantly ignore everything in those threads because they want to believe that their situation is different. Their situation is special. When really, it's not. It's the same thing we've been hearing time and time again for years.

2. They are trolling for attention. Whether that be to get a rise out of the people here, create some sort of discussion or to play out their sexual fantasies, what they want out of it is the same. Attention. I believe the majority of people creating these threads for attention do it for the latter reason, they want an audience for their written out sexual fantasies. That's why so many of these read like camgirl fanfictions and have a ton of unnecessary sexual details in them that isn't relevant. It could also be because they have a humiliation fetish and enjoy people dunking on them in the subsequent posts. Either way, I really believe there's a good amount of men who have created posts like these for the sole purpose of getting fap material from the responses.

3. They are mentally ill. They have paid for interactions with beautiful women online and have deluded themselves into believing that they are now in a relationship. It's sad and sometimes scary, but it's not at all uncommon for mentally ill men to be attracted to sex workers. This isn't a new phenomenon. Long before camsites became a thing, mentally unstable men would go to sex workers in real life. For people who have trouble interacting with the opposite sex, paying for that interaction becomes their go to. But then, they forget that they are paying for the attention, kindness and sexual gratification and their minds twist these interactions into something that it isn't. These men come here because they have a similar outlook to the men in category 1, but a key difference is in a lot of these cases, the model isn't trying to love scam him and is just doing her job.

Unfortunately with a lot of these threads, no matter which category they fall into, when the responses don't go the way they want them to they lash out and begin insulting everyone here. When their behavior keeps getting called out they double down on it. Most likely because they are so used to paying for their interactions with women online, so they are treated with kindness and not called out as much because they are paying to be coddled. So when people don't treat them like that they don't like it at all and freak out.

At this point, no one is going to get brand new advice on any of these threads. It's all already been said. They just don't want to hear it.

If she's not treating you like any normal person treats their SO, she's not into you. In typical relationships, your interactions won't be limited to the camsite they work on. In typical relationships, people aren't asking for exorbitant amounts of money at the beginning.

Take a step back from camsites if you feel like you're overstepping cam model/member boundaries. But they don't want to do that.

Try dating sites, because camsites aren't for dating or finding love. But they also don't want to do that. Why? Because you generally can't pay the women you meet on dating sites to act the way you want them to act. You're getting real, genuine interactions. And if you have a shitty personality, those interactions won't be pleasant. It takes more work. And also, let's be real, a lot of men probably don't think they'd match with women who look like the women they find on camsites.

It really does get frustrating trying to talk to the majority of people who create these posts.

Exactly. This ^^^^

And AWOMEN too! or APEOPLE anyways.
Also... 45 minutes would throw my hip out. No Fucking thanks!

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

just make sure to throw in a dildo launcher!

I want to see this film.

 

[Deleted member 57737]

So, during that conversation (or some other) she asks me am I seeing anyone (offline)? I thought "Why TF would a camgirl ask me a question like that or even care?" I truthfully answered and said if I was seeing someone in my real world life, I certainly wouldn't be here.

I had to stop there. That tells me enough to see that your imagination is very limited. And that you don't know the difference between a Cam site and a dating site.

last year an Icecreamshop with self made ice cream opened in my street. I can't wait until it opens again. Its pricey, but man the slightly bitter chocolate ice cream is fantastic. All organic

 

[Finchomatic]

The lesson for me: if I ever make a sock account and start a thread like this, I'm making damn sure there are car chases, explosions, secret agents, female supervillains and gunfights in it. Oh, and at least a couple of musical interludes with a chorus line!

... and lots of Snickers product placements.

I wonder if Dana Carvey and Mike Myers would want to reprise their roles as Wayne and Garth for the Snickers placement such as what they did for Pepsi, Doritos and Reebok.

 

[bbbbadddd]

At least you used some paragraph breaks this time.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Cool story. Just got my booster jab. It all made sense, I have to say. Good luck.

I'm making damn sure there are car chases, explosions, secret agents, female supervillains and gunfights in it. Oh, and at least a couple of musical interludes with a chorus line!

That would be a perfect and classic old-style poliziesco or poliziottesco, but I believe we have solid giallo material right here and what it takes to make it a masterpiece. Ready and fully determined to throw my reputation away for such a project. In fact, as I write, I have already in my mind the script and a possible title as well. I am also getting some help.

Spoiler: Script

English version

The Do-It-Yourself Giallo Generator

Generator Land: GIALLO TITLE GENERATOR

"Gialli often feature lurid or baroque titles, frequently employing animal references or the use of numbers."

generatorland.com

just make sure to throw in a dildo launcher!

It goes without saying. It'll be the ultimate deadly weapon.

 

[LeftistLibbie]

Anyone else gonna talk about the blatant fetishistic racism in OP's post? No? Just me? Okay.

 

[AmberCutie]

Anyone else gonna talk about the blatant fetishistic racism in OP's post? No? Just me? Okay.

I think most ppl in the thread didn't read it closely enough and may have missed many points. Care to quote the part you refer to?

 

[Deleted member 57737]

Anyone else gonna talk about the blatant fetishistic racism in OP's post? No? Just me? Okay.

Go ahead!

 

[DJ_Pioneer]

Anyone else gonna talk about the blatant fetishistic racism in OP's post? No? Just me? Okay.

I reread the post and I still don't see it.

 

[MarieElise]

Anyone else gonna talk about the blatant fetishistic racism in OP's post? No? Just me? Okay.

There's so much garbage in so many of these posts that I guess I can't speak for anyone else, but I just kind of turn off mentally, and can't even be bothered talking to these people. I mean it's more than a full-time job pointing out every single cruel sexist, ageist, racist, whorephobic, fatphobic etc etc thing they say... so... it's like a never-ending uphill battle. I kind of turned off and just don't have the time. Plus half of them are trolling for that reaction in the first place so... Honestly, for me, I see even reacting at all as feeding into it somewhat, even if it's a negative reaction. Plus when you're self-employed you kinda have to self-manage your time. I'll do it when I'm bored or understimulated, but it's not a job or anything. It does suck so many people in the world are so bigotted though.

Many, many of them fetishize by race and ethnicity. That's what we deal with all day long when we're online, so at a certain point, it's nice to have a break from having to police porn consumers.

 

[Finchomatic]

Too bad there is not a character limit per post for new members as well as a limit to the # of consecutive posts there after. Then as your account progresses with points and reaction scores, you can create longer posts.

 

[CheeseMoon]

That would be a perfect and classic old-style poliziesco or poliziottesco, but I believe we have solid giallo material right here and what it takes to make it a masterpiece. Ready and fully determined to throw my reputation away for such a project. In fact, as I write, I have already in my mind the script and a possible title as well. I am also getting some help.

I'm thinking sock account story in this style, like all the others. We still need to work that dildo launcher into the script though!

 

[GraysonDrake]

Yeah no I'm not reading that.

You're probably either making it weird for her and reading way too much into whatever is going on or she's a studio model being coached into lovecons and her grandma really isn't sick.

Or 3rd option: this is all made up.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

in this style

Ah, Yes, ah ah ah. Brilliant. I remember watching it. Honestly, a work of genius and funniest shit ever. The most hilarious thing ever, at least for me, was the fact that they weren't even speaking in Italian. The only thing that made sense were the English subtitles. They were just throwning random words which hardly made any sense at all for most of the part. I don't believe that was intentional, though.

Honestly, he set the bar, the standard by which each superhero should be measured. Anyway, you can't call yourself a fan if you haven't watched the full and uncut movie. In case you're wondering, I remeber I did. Everything was so on point. Even the music was awesome.

We still need to work that dildo launcher into the script though!

I'm on it. It won't be a problem.

 

[mediocremessages]

Giving this my 2 tkns.

The name of this thread contains the question "Am I falling for a cam model?". OP, only you can answer that and the only question that requires an answer.

Your entire post sidetracked the question towards "Has she fallen for me?". That's not a question anyone else can answer. Not us, not you. As you stated you are no stranger to these tactics of pulling people in. Use that and assume "No".

So, are you falling for a cam model OP?
If yes - move on. It's not fair to her to push your feelings into it, especially if you're testing her like you explained in your post. As the model said, she's working.

If no - OK, cool. Do you want to keep chatting with her? If so, I recommend keeping it strictly.. flirty-professional, for a lack of a better word.