I understand that girls who use emotional manipulation to garner tips usually do so out of necessity (like
@JoleneBrody said). I also understand that the majority of members
do only tip when they feel like the model "
really needs it, " and therefore getting a (sometimes unrealized) sense of White-Knightery and heroism.
I completely understand that. We all have to do things that we don't like/agree with/enjoy for our jobs. Some of you have to kiss your boss's ass just to keep a minimum-wage job. Some of you have to compliment customers to get them to buy your shit. Some of you have to befriend people you abhor just to "network." We all do things at work that aren't ideal to us because of how the fucking world works. That's not going to change. The only thing that will is how we react to these situations. You learn to adapt yourself to further your career (in whatever field). That's cool. We all just keep doing what we need to simply to stay afloat.
The part about the 'emotional manipulation' that bothers me the most is when I
can't tell if it's an act. Dommes doing their angry, man-hating thing or whatever? Sure, I get it. Camgirls whining about how they can't get 5 people in their room and rent is due Friday? I get it. But when these same people post
self-deprecating things publicly (or say them aloud in chat), it makes me feel too many emotions. Like when a camgirl friend of mine
publicly Tweets that she's feeling suicidal? I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION. Sure, I've learned previously that she likes to cry for attention/tips/whatever. But is this just an act? Is she
genuinely feeling suicidal? I think it's kind of a catch-22. We can use our social media and camrooms to do/say/be whatever we want. That's a perk of the job. But if you do it
so often and in increasingly more negative ways, it starts to lose its effect (on me, at least). I'm less likely to tip a girl who constantly is complaining about not making enough money than one who seems to just occasionally remind people. (This is just my personal preference and opinion. Take it with a grain of salt.) And if/when she gets to her breaking point and posts publicly about things being the worst ever, she's gonna quit camming, etc, I have to overlook it. It's similar to the 'Calling wolf' scenario.
tldr; Do what you need and want to do. But
please don't talk about being suicidal unless you're genuine and want help. Because I
will go out of my way to assist you in finding help. But I think you should have more respect for me, your viewers,
and yourself than to stoop that low if it
is an act.
*This post is somewhat off-topic, but still in the general realm of conversation, so I thought it pertinent to post while we're on the subject.*
