What do you tell dates you do for a job?

[PunkInDrublic]

I don't want to date guys who have slept with prostitutes. Many would think that's crazy, it's probably totally unreasonable to many

I was under the impression that the majority of women thought this way. One of the reasons why I'd never get a escort was because of how many women seemed to be disgusted by the guys who do it.

People rarely change their fundamental values, and if they do lies and deceit aren't the way to win them over.

Agreed, cool post.

 

[EmilyConrad]

It is irrational of you to act like your specific set of rules would apply to everyone.

I didn't say that. I was just giving my personal view. I think the average person's view is probably pretty close to mine, but there are all kinds of different standards that people have.

I don't think it's the average point of view. If any guy I was dating was like, "I want to start camming!" Dude, go for it. It's an awesome job. If he decided to one day leave me for someone he met on the site (and let's be real.. how many times have you ever heard of that happening?) then ok bye.. obviously wasn't meant to be in the first place. Also a lot more couples are becoming open to the idea of not having a 100% monogamous relationship. So would a guy going to a strip club and getting a boner while another woman grinds on his dick also be cheating? What about couples engaging in a threesome together? Still cheating because they're engaging in sexual activity with someone other than their partner? I think the lines of what is and isn't cheating are so blurred and that's why it's best to leave it to the two people involved in a relationship to determine what cheating is to them. :thumbleft:

 

[JoeShmoe]

It is irrational of you to act like your specific set of rules would apply to everyone.

I didn't say that. I was just giving my personal view. I think the average person's view is probably pretty close to mine, but there are all kinds of different standards that people have.

I don't think it's the average point of view. If any guy I was dating was like, "I want to start camming!" Dude, go for it. It's an awesome job. If he decided to one day leave me for someone he met on the site (and let's be real.. how many times have you ever heard of that happening?) then ok bye.. obviously wasn't meant to be in the first place. Also a lot more couples are becoming open to the idea of not having a 100% monogamous relationship. So would a guy going to a strip club and getting a boner while another woman grinds on his dick also be cheating? What about couples engaging in a threesome together? Still cheating because they're engaging in sexual activity with someone other than their partner? I think the lines of what is and isn't cheating are so blurred and that's why it's best to leave it to the two people involved in a relationship to determine what cheating is to them. :thumbleft:

I know I'm probably hitting a nerve, but I'm not trying to. I'm just being honest. And I do think the average person considers monogamy to be essential to a serious relationship. But the word "dating" is a pretty loose term.

 

[EmilyConrad]

It is irrational of you to act like your specific set of rules would apply to everyone.

I didn't say that. I was just giving my personal view. I think the average person's view is probably pretty close to mine, but there are all kinds of different standards that people have.

I don't think it's the average point of view. If any guy I was dating was like, "I want to start camming!" Dude, go for it. It's an awesome job. If he decided to one day leave me for someone he met on the site (and let's be real.. how many times have you ever heard of that happening?) then ok bye.. obviously wasn't meant to be in the first place. Also a lot more couples are becoming open to the idea of not having a 100% monogamous relationship. So would a guy going to a strip club and getting a boner while another woman grinds on his dick also be cheating? What about couples engaging in a threesome together? Still cheating because they're engaging in sexual activity with someone other than their partner? I think the lines of what is and isn't cheating are so blurred and that's why it's best to leave it to the two people involved in a relationship to determine what cheating is to them. :thumbleft:

I know I'm probably hitting a nerve, but I'm not trying to. I'm just being honest. And I do think the average person considers monogamy to be essential to a serious relationship. But the word "dating" is a pretty loose term.

That's why I tend to go for above average fellas. :-D

 

[PunkInDrublic]

I do not go anywhere near cam girls who are married, because to me it's wrong.

lol why? A model being married doesn't affect her ability to be sexy or entertaining. What exactly are you looking for at mfc? Have you tried christianmingle.com?

 

[JoeShmoe]

It is irrational of you to act like your specific set of rules would apply to everyone.

I didn't say that. I was just giving my personal view. I think the average person's view is probably pretty close to mine, but there are all kinds of different standards that people have.

I don't think it's the average point of view. If any guy I was dating was like, "I want to start camming!" Dude, go for it. It's an awesome job. If he decided to one day leave me for someone he met on the site (and let's be real.. how many times have you ever heard of that happening?) then ok bye.. obviously wasn't meant to be in the first place. Also a lot more couples are becoming open to the idea of not having a 100% monogamous relationship. So would a guy going to a strip club and getting a boner while another woman grinds on his dick also be cheating? What about couples engaging in a threesome together? Still cheating because they're engaging in sexual activity with someone other than their partner? I think the lines of what is and isn't cheating are so blurred and that's why it's best to leave it to the two people involved in a relationship to determine what cheating is to them. :thumbleft:

I know I'm probably hitting a nerve, but I'm not trying to. I'm just being honest. And I do think the average person considers monogamy to be essential to a serious relationship. But the word "dating" is a pretty loose term.

That's why I tend to go for above average fellas. :-D

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

 

[JoeShmoe]

I do not go anywhere near cam girls who are married, because to me it's wrong.

lol why? A model being married doesn't affect her ability to be sexy or entertaining. What exactly are you looking for at mfc? Have you tried christianmingle.com?

It's a line I won't cross.

 

[Jessi]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

That is such an incredibly shitty and judgmental thing to say. Just because different people have different boundaries in their relationships than you do doesnt mean they're less valid or dont love each other.

Not everyone things sexual exclusivity is the only way to love and trust another person. SOME PEOPLE love their partner other than just physically. There's more to a relationship than that. Needing to own another person's physicality in order to feel special is not trust. Some people trust their partner enough to know that other people seeing them naked takes nothing away from the special bond of the relationship.

 

[EmilyConrad]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

 

[JoeShmoe]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

 

[SerenaMoon]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Wow. You are a douche.

 

[EmilyConrad]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Wow. You are a douche.

:text-yeahthat:

I guess you missed the point where I said RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES. Sounds serious to me. Maybe that's your way of thinking and what you would do if a hot cam girl ever graced you with her presence but like I have said before and will continue saying.. you are one person. You do not represent the male sex as a whole and if I were religious I would be thanking God right now.

 

[JoeShmoe]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Wow. You are a douche.

Maybe the truth is a douche? Anyway, I shouldn't have gone there. I'll leave my comments on the subject at this. Honesty is the best policy.

 

[JoeShmoe]

I will say this and no more - take it from me as a guy: If he doesn't care what you do on cam, he probably doesn't care too much in general.

You are ONE guy. You cannot speak for ALL guys. There are plenty of girls on here who are in terrific relationships or marriages! Not everything is so black and white like you make it out to be.

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Wow. You are a douche.

:text-yeahthat:

I guess you missed the point where I said RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES. Sounds serious to me. Maybe that's your way of thinking and what you would do if a hot cam girl ever graced you with her presence but like I have said before and will continue saying.. you are one person. You do not represent the male sex as a whole and if I were religious I would be thanking God right now.

The problem is that there is no way to discuss this subject without making generalizations, and every situation is unique. Money is a factor too, of course. But see my previous post. I think people should be honest with each other, as much as possible.

 

[MemberEd]

[quote="JoeShmoe
As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.[/quote]


Well that conversation would be the same if she was a Waitress, a Banker, a Plumber or a Stripper. That kind of conversation also only happens between really young guys. It is not how adults keep it real.

 

[TeganTate]

Wow I have no clue where to even start with this thread.. *looks for head desk emote*
Ill be on topic though and say i tell them the truth if they can't handle it it really is best to know early

 

[Nordling]

[quote="JoeShmoe
As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Well that conversation would be the same if she was a Waitress, a Banker, a Plumber or a Stripper. That kind of conversation also only happens between really young guys. It is not how adults keep it real.[/quote]
And really, guys who use the phrase "keeping it real" tend to be young, opinionated and lack substance. They tend to think their own feelings are identical to most other people--they're usually especially wrong here.

 

[SerenaMoon]

I told the guy I was seeing exactly what I do after avoiding it for a couple weeks. I had to explain it to him and I think I did a poor job, because he wasn't too fond of the idea. He was my age though and I guess I should have expected a certain level of immaturity. I did however also saddle him with the fact that I felt the need to explore sexually beyond a traditional monogamous relationship and wouldn't settle for less.

Eh, not the first time a guy has failed to live up to expectations.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

. He was my age though and I guess I should have expected a certain level of immaturity. I did however also saddle him with the fact that I felt the need to explore sexually beyond a traditional monogamous relationship and wouldn't settle for less

I don't think it's immature or even insecure for a guy to not be cool with dating/being in a relationship with any type of sex worker. Every guy has different expectations and wants in a partner. Some guys want a woman that only gets naked for them.If anything it's selfish or greedy. It doesn't mean these guys have higher standards and it doesn't mean the guys cool with it don't care as much, just means we are different. Telling your buddies "I'm banging some hot chick" seems pretty immature tho and usually indicates a dude that isn't "banging" anything.

 

[SerenaMoon]

. He was my age though and I guess I should have expected a certain level of immaturity. I did however also saddle him with the fact that I felt the need to explore sexually beyond a traditional monogamous relationship and wouldn't settle for less

I don't think it's immature or even insecure for a guy to not be cool with dating/being in a relationship with any type of sex worker. Every guy has different expectations and wants in a partner. Some guys want a woman that only gets naked for them.If anything it's selfish or greedy. It doesn't mean these guys have higher standards and it doesn't mean the guys cool with it don't care as much, just means we are different. Telling your buddies "I'm banging some hot chick" seems pretty immature tho and usually indicates a dude that isn't "banging" anything.

No, I left out his final reaction. Sorry. How he ended it ultimately was immature. But I don't wish to share that part.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Understood.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

It's interesting actually that some men do feel that camming somehow threatens a relationship. In these scenarios I'm thinking of which would be more likely to result in cheating. Let's say in these scenarios the girl is living with her boyfriend/husband.

Scenario 1. You work in an office, you're there 40 hours a week, it's not a majorly interesting job, you get bored, there are guys who work there who you flirt a bit with to make the job a bit more interesting. You know, good looking, successful guys that you end up fantasising over a bit. In fact this could go for just about any non sex industry job, chances are there will be a guy like that. He might not even be very good looking, but you're working close for long hours.

Scenario 2. You work long hours somewhere, because of this every time you get to the weekends you like to unwind, go on a girls night out, go for drinks etc. When doing this you flirt with guys a bit, have a dance and get a little bit too drunk.

Scenario 3. You work as a camgirl. All the men are behind a screen. Every guy you're talking to you see as being completely sexless and lets face it, a lot of them annoy you. There are a few you see as friends, but for the most part you don't see their faces and they're never the sort of guys you'd date, and they're few and far between. Most guys are pretty much there drooling over your body saying idiotic things. When you log off and your boyfriend comes home every night you think "thank god for you or I'd lose my faith in men". Every time you go out with your friends the last thing you want is guys coming onto you. In fact you're so used to having the attention and being able to ban people you don't like a camgirl will probably be a lot more upfront about telling guys to fuck off.

Now, which scenario is it actually more likely for someone to cheat? I know that even when I was single I was a lot more interested in men and dated more before I became a camgirl. Becoming a camgirl even made me celibate for a while I found men so idiotic. Chances of a camgirl ever having a sexual relationship with a guy they meet at their work is so slim. Yes the men think of her that way, but the most important part is she doesn't. In a regular job there's a lot higher chance that she fancies a co worker.

As for the "banging" statement, a guy who's saying that is going to say it whether the girl is a camgirl or not. A guy like that would be just trying to earn more points with his friends because the girl he's dating is something to do with porn. It's kind of laughable that you seem to think that all the guys who are dating/married to camgirls are all saying behind their backs "nah mate, it's not serious, she's some camwhore! Not dating that! We're just fucking! The wedding was just bullshit"
Now cam to cam stuff I can see why someone might have an issue with it because it is more intimate. I guess, I've never done it because the idea of seeing random penis's freaks me out. Not all camgirls do cam 2 cam though, some because they're in relationships. I can understand that some guys might not want to go out with camgirls. They have their reasons, it's fair enough. But Joe, you have some real issues. Maybe you're just not very experienced, I don't know, but your attitude is a rare attitude. Yes there are some men who feel the way you do, but it is their own personal complex's.

 

[Sevrin]

Now, which scenario is it actually more likely for someone to cheat?

Scenario 1 would be our winner, in my experience.

Anyway, props to Audrey and her guy. Relationships are a crap shoot and you guys might have something special. :thumbleft:

People are complicated. It's easy to say that someone else behave this way or that, but in the end, emotions and our personal histories hold more sway in determining how we end up living our lives. I certainly don't see random camsite pervs as being ideally situated to be giving relationship advice.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

As you know, guys talk amongst themselves. A typical conversation about this would go something like: "I'm banging this cam girl, she's totally hot". "Is it serious?" "Naw, I'm just banging her". Meanwhile he's telling her whatever he has to tell her to keep it going. "Yeah, I love you :roll:" etc.

Or the guy is a doormat who thinks he's lucky to have her, so he pretends to be ok with things he isn't actually ok with.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I'm just keeping it real, yo.

Sounds more like 10th grade boys locker room real, yo. And to be honest with you I avoided that idiot crowd then too. Real men either never talked like that, or they at least gave it up when their balls dropped. Don't speak for the rest of us, you're getting it wrong.

 

[Jessi]

I wish Jawbs was here :lol:
We need to tell him to divorce Amber asap since he doesnt actually love her.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

I wish Jawbs was here :lol:
We need to tell him to divorce Amber asap since he doesnt actually love her.

Geez, it's been a month and a half now and every time someone mentions Jawbs I, like Mom's spaghetti, think of him like this.

And now I feel like some Ragu.

 

[LadyLuna]

I would answer the question, except for the little fact that I don't date. I cultivate friendships with many men, and one or two of those have progressed beyond a friendship into a sexual relationship. Also, I have not been single since a couple years before I started camming, so... dunno.

But I need to address some things that this guy who is trying to speak for all men is saying.

Joe,

I agree with some of what you said. It is true that some very mature and secure guys are not going to be comfortable dating a sex-worker, and that it shouldn't be held against them. However, the idea that a person who cares about their partner is automatically going to be not-okay with them doing sex work is just... ridiculous.

1. Some people get off on watching their partner with someone else in person.
2. Some guys like the idea that other people want the partner that is actually theirs.
3. Most guys watch porn. Many of them masturbate to it. That's masturbating to someone who is not your current partner. It's just not quite as direct.

I am a camgirl because my partner suggested I try it out. He is still with me. And he definitely still cares about me. I am also a camgirl because I actually enjoy serving other people's sexual needs. That is a huge turn-on for me, and makes me want a real dick in my pussy so damn bad.

I am a sexual person. For someone to truly care about me, they're going to have to accept that I am a very sexual person. If they expect me to deny something that is integral to my happiness, do they really care about me? That's right, I admit that being sexual is integral to my happiness. I've tried pushing it down, even with a partner to let it out "legitimately". Know what? I fought depression the whole damn time. Repress my sexuality, make me ashamed of it, and I don't care to live anymore. I feel useless and worthless when I can't release it.

It's only just recently that I'm able to accept the fact that I need to be sexual to be happy. That I don't just need men to want me, but I need to help fulfill that want. Camming provides a way that I can do that safely. Where I don't put my body at risk of catching an std, or being abused by a man who takes things too far. Where I can stay in enough control to still be able to give my partner everything he needs and wants from my body.

And before you go telling me that he won't tell me if he has a problem with it, he's not like that. He doesn't do lying about how he feels about things I do or say. He tells me if what I'm wearing looks horrible. He tells me if I smell bad. Shit, it's easier to get an insult from him than a compliment. (He says the bad stuff, but shows the good stuff). He believes that it's better to tell someone you care about the truth, so they can better themselves if they need to.

So please, don't tell me that a man who would let me do the thing that keeps me happy doesn't care about me. Don't tell me that I'm cheating on him for doing what he himself suggested I do. Don't tell me ANYTHING about the "average" man, because there is no such thing. Why do I say that?

The "average" household has 2.5 children. Have you EVER seen a house with 2.5 children? No. Because most families have 2 or 3 children. The "average" household doesn't exist. Averages are useful when talking about actual numbers. But when talking about beliefs, or worldviews, or perceptions, there is no such thing as the average person.

I am a camgirl in a long-term relationship. We've been living together since June 2008. I became a camgirl in Nov 2009 by the suggestion of my partner. I enjoy camming. I enjoy making men want me, and I enjoy making them cum. I love cumming for them. I am not cheating on my partner. If I did not have camming, I would still not cheat on him, because I would not do anything he would have a problem with.

 

[NoelleBright]

most girls who aren't up front immediately about it aren't doing it for the sake of lying, they're doing it for their own safety.

I know whenever I haven't been upfront with a guy it's because I worry about my safety.

I don't understand this mind set. Is it just fear of being "outed" as a camgirl? How could you even have fun on a date if you had to lie to feel safe? Is it camgirl paranoia spilling into real life? Are some embarrassed or ashamed of sex work? Is it just fear that others won't be accepting? Seems unhealthy for work life to be affecting real life so drastically.

Random but what a waste cheating online would be if you're one of the guys that considers anything done online cheating. Hook up with a old friend? Go out to a bar? Get a escort? Naw wackin off on the internet.

I kinda wondered this too. I get that a model might not wanna reveal too much about themselves to members out of fear of their safety. What if they track you down in real life? What if they find out where you live? etc.
But if you're out on a date with someone, they've already met you. They already know what city you live in and where to find you. They probably already have your phone number, etc.

It may well be me being completely naive but I don't see where the safety risk comes into play when a date finds out that you're a cam girl. Assuming they find you online and watch your cam, they're not going to discover anything about you that could put you at risk that they don't already know (where you live, etc.).

Also, I'd have thought it would benefit both parties for this kind of thing to come out straight away. While I still see no reason for it to be an issue, I guess some doods really are insecure and some might not be able to deal with their prospective girlfriend being a cam girl. Would it not be better for all concerned if that guy finds out straight away so that you can part ways before anyone gets attached and feelings get hurt when the camming transpires to be a problem? :twocents-02cents:

A lot of girls who have their real information leaked on the internet have it done by people that they know in real life. That is a fact. It happens more often that way than by some rando sleuthing around the internet. I can't even count the girls that I know of who have had their real names and locations and even phone numbers dropped in threads on various forums by people they know irl who decide to be dickheads.
The risk IS that they have all of your real information. It would not take much work for them to take to the internet and make your life a total and complete hell.
It may seem like a stretch for someone to be this crazy, but try signing up to OKCupid or some shit with a female profile and you will clearly see that it is a very real issue.

That being said, I think it's pretty easy to judge someones stance on this and whether or not they're the type of person whose going to actively try to ruin your life. If after a few dates I still don't feel comfortable with telling them, that's a pretty clear indicator that they're just not a good fit for me in general.
IMO, you should wait until you have a pretty good idea of what kind of person they are, but not wait so long that you're actually in a committed relationship with said person.

 

[mynameisbob84]

most girls who aren't up front immediately about it aren't doing it for the sake of lying, they're doing it for their own safety.

I know whenever I haven't been upfront with a guy it's because I worry about my safety.

I don't understand this mind set. Is it just fear of being "outed" as a camgirl? How could you even have fun on a date if you had to lie to feel safe? Is it camgirl paranoia spilling into real life? Are some embarrassed or ashamed of sex work? Is it just fear that others won't be accepting? Seems unhealthy for work life to be affecting real life so drastically.

Random but what a waste cheating online would be if you're one of the guys that considers anything done online cheating. Hook up with a old friend? Go out to a bar? Get a escort? Naw wackin off on the internet.

I kinda wondered this too. I get that a model might not wanna reveal too much about themselves to members out of fear of their safety. What if they track you down in real life? What if they find out where you live? etc.
But if you're out on a date with someone, they've already met you. They already know what city you live in and where to find you. They probably already have your phone number, etc.

It may well be me being completely naive but I don't see where the safety risk comes into play when a date finds out that you're a cam girl. Assuming they find you online and watch your cam, they're not going to discover anything about you that could put you at risk that they don't already know (where you live, etc.).

Also, I'd have thought it would benefit both parties for this kind of thing to come out straight away. While I still see no reason for it to be an issue, I guess some doods really are insecure and some might not be able to deal with their prospective girlfriend being a cam girl. Would it not be better for all concerned if that guy finds out straight away so that you can part ways before anyone gets attached and feelings get hurt when the camming transpires to be a problem? :twocents-02cents:

A lot of girls who have their real information leaked on the internet have it done by people that they know in real life. That is a fact. It happens more often that way than by some rando sleuthing around the internet. I can't even count the girls that I know of who have had their real names and locations and even phone numbers dropped in threads on various forums by people they know irl who decide to be dickheads.
The risk IS that they have all of your real information. It would not take much work for them to take to the internet and make your life a total and complete hell.
It may seem like a stretch for someone to be this crazy, but try signing up to OKCupid or some shit with a female profile and you will clearly see that it is a very real issue.

That being said, I think it's pretty easy to judge someones stance on this and whether or not they're the type of person whose going to actively try to ruin your life. If after a few dates I still don't feel comfortable with telling them, that's a pretty clear indicator that they're just not a good fit for me in general.
IMO, you should wait until you have a pretty good idea of what kind of person they are, but not wait so long that you're actually in a committed relationship with said person.

That makes sense. People are poopy, huh? :shock: