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try okcupid, they're much better than any other site and they're free (yes, COMPLETELY FREE, even to send/recieve emails blah blah)
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Jupiter551 said:
Okcupid is a good site. Even though I met two complete douche bags on there :lol:
Oh for sure, dating sites are FULL of douchebags. But at least OKCupid is totally free, has cool quizzes and games, and I think has a smexier layout than other sites.
Lydia_Deetz said:
Same here. I joined for the quizzes ( I love doing quizzes!) and got myself a penis!
All the best friends I've ever made online have been from OK as well!
QueenMeadow said:
:dance: Yay, for interwebz penis!
I think their site is superb as far as ease of use, and fun stuff like quizzes. It would be awesome if they became a paid webcam site...a girl can dream :lol:
I may have to try Okcupid.....thought I tried most of them. (I am actually on ALOT of dating sites).....so whats 1 more!!! :whistle:
LacieLaPlante said:I met my boyfriend on OK Cupid as well, we've been together for a year and a month today
Wow! We should do commercials for OkCupid :lol:
Congrats, to you ladies! The hubs and I have been together for 3 yrs :shock:
I've met two chicks on OkCupid, and they turned out to be friends in real life which freaked me the fuck out lol..
BTW, if you used the name Anna_Swallows on your dating sites I bet you got plenty of attention :laughing-lmao:
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V.I.P. AmberLander
Ha! Just to make sure I'm clear...you mean they turned out to ALREADY be friends in "real life," right? Probably obvious, I know, but wanted to be double sure.Jupiter551 said:
Nordling said:Ha! Just to make sure I'm clear...you mean they turned out to ALREADY be friends in "real life," right? Probably obvious, I know, but wanted to be double sure.Jupiter551 said:
Yeah they were already friends lol, one worked at a night club the other frequented
AmberCutie said:
The point is love can happen anywhere and this is a fact.People have dated cam girls and this is a fact.I know it's not a dating site,but people can still dated and have dated.
I'm sorry people ,but as long as you can talk to a girl enough times each time you interaction has a % for something else.If you have enough game(or lucky like "Imstupid") you should have enough experience to get the girl and the more you talk to the better you get.It's like rolling the dice to some extend and "Imstupid" rolled the right outcome
Peace!!
Beingreal said:
Yes true, much in the same way that a snowball MIGHT in fact possess a chance in hell depending on how far through hell it needed to travel, its velocity, and its size.
No, Amber's right, the point of the thread is that it's idiotic to visit a camsite looking for a relationship, yes it's possible for a relationship to start from anywhere, the same way it's possible to get struck by lightning, you don't go running around in a rain storm hoping for it to happen.Beingreal said:
KileyBright said:It really grinds my gears that a lot of models, and even a handful of top models are offering raffles for "dates" and to meet up with members.
Its giving false hope to other members and making them think that their fav model will do the same thing as well.
If you cared for a girl, you wouldn't pressure her into doing something she is not comfortable doing. Period.
As someone else stated, go to match or fling or iwanttodatesomeonefromtheinternet.com. There are thousands of women who would die to meet you. For free even!
MFC IS NOT A DATING SITE! :naughty:
im a bit late on this topic, but i couldn't agree more with kiley.
You have to look from a cam girls perspective while you know you are a normal guy we don't know that all we know is that you might be some psycho killer or rapist. It is extremely scary and girls just to let you know it only take 10 dollars to unblock your phone number and find where you are even with a disposable that are supposed to be untraceable well they are very traceable I looked up my phone number on my disposable phone and it took me to where I lived it is a very very very scary world out there and I'd rather not be found dead in a ditch or else where or even kept in someones basement being tortured. I may be very fearful of the world but that fear has done me right not afraid t go outside or anything just afraid of people online that want to meet me extremely bad. :twocents-02cents:
sxycherrypie said:
Wow...I did NOT know that u can unblock it and look it up. I have done skype w/ phone ( my number blocked of course). Never again will I do that.
sxycherrypie said:
Hey look on the bright side, if you're in a ditch or being tortured in someone's basement hopefully they haven't tossed your disposable phone yet - for just $10 the cops can find you!
I found this thread very interesting and relevant to my own experiences... And I understand all the different viewpoints, both positive and negative regarding relationships between cam models and customers.
While I haven't met a majority of my girlfriends on cam sites, I am what people might consider a chronic dater of cam models. I have met and had fairly serious relationships with four models since about 2008—women I met on LiveJasmine, Streammate, and MFC. While none ended up in marriage, three of the relationships evolved afterwards into long lasting friendships with regular contact and certainly no hard feelings.
While it might not be the best for everybody, I think there are actually some ADVANTAGES TO MEETING WOMEN ON CAM SITES for me and my particular personality...
Firstly, in my professional life I work and travel a lot. I also work a lot with actors in creating photographic and video images. So I kind of have an inborn love for roleplaying and a voyeuristic tendency that needs constant stimulation. The draw of cam models here is obvious—galleries of endless live filmic subjects. It's too powerful for me to resist.
Also, in all four of my relationship with cam models, the women were Eastern European (Russian, Lithuanian, and Romanian twice). This is just my personal taste—I love the expressive features and cultural attitudes of Slavic and Dacian women. I admit I don't even look at the North American or other cam models when on a site like MFC because of this bias. It is just my particular bias but cam sites are very useful here in providing a conduit for meeting and really getting to know these women overseas. Not as good as actually living and working in these places (which I have) but still enough of an opportunity.
Emotionally, I think there are many unique advantages. A psychology major could write multiple theses on the subject!
As has been mentioned, cam model + customer interactions often START with a sexual sharing usually reserved only for intimate relationships. Now, depending upon your attitudes towards sex and emotional intimacy, I would argue that this can actually be an advantage because it literally gets orgasms "out of the way" so you can start getting to know each other. That is, any mutual interest remaining interest between a model and customer afterwards tends to evolve towards more complex emotional or respectful attitudes.
Admittedly for some models, this does not work. Some women have built immense and impenetrable emotional shields to protect themselves and in effect rationalize why they are sharing sexual intimacy for money with strangers (let's face it, there's a very old term for this). These models have strict rules for themselves and will NEVER share any of their personal lives or consider meeting a customer. Perversely, they might even look down upon their customers, but I think this is rare. Most models keep this separation between their work and personal lives to protect themselves. And I don't disagree with their philosophy. After all, who knows what type of creeps may be lurking out there.
However, in very special circumstances, there may arise a deep communication and commonality between a model and customer. For me, all four women whom I ended up meeting, were very hard working and intelligent individuals working towards a greater future ambition. My four ladies were—training as a police officer while being a single mother; getting a degree in art history; getting a degree in advertising; getting a law degree. So right away I gained an immense respect for all these women that went beyond their physical attraction. And in all cases, it was not long before we were sharing our personal hopes and ambitions.
Also, in all four of my experience, I would say that my desire to have an on camera sexual interaction stopped pretty soon after the real feelings began. Once our unexpected connection started to grow, I did not want to be a part of the models' everyday job. I was happy to send messages in between shows or via personal e-mail and occasionally tip just as a gesture (never at their own request). Now I realize that for a lot of models such a person might be considered a nuisance, a "freeloader" at their job. But in all these cases, I was definitely not considered a nuisance. This was owing to the girls' special personalities. They did not have the mindset of a stripper or similar. So I became a friend, a confidant, and even a career counselor.
Eventually I met all four women in person, living with and traveling with a few to different countries. Each relationship was very beautiful and unique as the individuals' personalities. Interestingly, the emotional and/or sexual rapports were not always matching what we had online. In one case, it was astronomically better ( ). In another circumstance, I felt like there was much less physical chemistry than may have occurred between us in the virtual space. But that is a risk common to online relationships.
In the end, I have never given up webcam sites because they have been too rewarding a way to meet women... In fact, a woman I talk to now might soon become my fifth such relationship. Calmly, I hope that she might be "the one". Because she is amazingly sensitive yet reliable as a calming presence. Yes, I am romantic (or silly) enough to think you can see your unborn children in a woman's eyes.
So my "2 cents" to the question posed by this thread is that there is no rule. Humans are humans, in any venue. The quality and potential of a relationship always depends upon the personal traits of the people involved. You have to use your social tact and read the circumstances unique to your situation.
To guys — If a model acts uncomfortable when you ask her personal questions, take a hint and back off. If there really seems to be some mutual personal connection, be patient and maybe she will reveal more of herself to you in time. It's all about having social tact practicing empathy. If a cam model starts messaging you on topics of outside interest and turning your cam on just to watch you without you ever tipping her, she might be open to something more.
To models — if you do not already know it, there is every variety of male out there in your audience. You might actually find the most sensitive and strong types among us! Mainly, because this is the age of globalism and the Internet, the most sensitive souls (male or female) often end up feeling more lonely than ever. Try to keep an open mind, because life and beauty can grow in the most unlikely of places.
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While I haven't met a majority of my girlfriends on cam sites, I am what people might consider a chronic dater of cam models. I have met and had fairly serious relationships with four models since about 2008—women I met on LiveJasmine, Streammate, and MFC. While none ended up in marriage, three of the relationships evolved afterwards into long lasting friendships with regular contact and certainly no hard feelings.
While it might not be the best for everybody, I think there are actually some ADVANTAGES TO MEETING WOMEN ON CAM SITES for me and my particular personality...
Firstly, in my professional life I work and travel a lot. I also work a lot with actors in creating photographic and video images. So I kind of have an inborn love for roleplaying and a voyeuristic tendency that needs constant stimulation. The draw of cam models here is obvious—galleries of endless live filmic subjects. It's too powerful for me to resist.
Also, in all four of my relationship with cam models, the women were Eastern European (Russian, Lithuanian, and Romanian twice). This is just my personal taste—I love the expressive features and cultural attitudes of Slavic and Dacian women. I admit I don't even look at the North American or other cam models when on a site like MFC because of this bias. It is just my particular bias but cam sites are very useful here in providing a conduit for meeting and really getting to know these women overseas. Not as good as actually living and working in these places (which I have) but still enough of an opportunity.
Emotionally, I think there are many unique advantages. A psychology major could write multiple theses on the subject!
As has been mentioned, cam model + customer interactions often START with a sexual sharing usually reserved only for intimate relationships. Now, depending upon your attitudes towards sex and emotional intimacy, I would argue that this can actually be an advantage because it literally gets orgasms "out of the way" so you can start getting to know each other. That is, any mutual interest remaining interest between a model and customer afterwards tends to evolve towards more complex emotional or respectful attitudes.
Admittedly for some models, this does not work. Some women have built immense and impenetrable emotional shields to protect themselves and in effect rationalize why they are sharing sexual intimacy for money with strangers (let's face it, there's a very old term for this). These models have strict rules for themselves and will NEVER share any of their personal lives or consider meeting a customer. Perversely, they might even look down upon their customers, but I think this is rare. Most models keep this separation between their work and personal lives to protect themselves. And I don't disagree with their philosophy. After all, who knows what type of creeps may be lurking out there.
However, in very special circumstances, there may arise a deep communication and commonality between a model and customer. For me, all four women whom I ended up meeting, were very hard working and intelligent individuals working towards a greater future ambition. My four ladies were—training as a police officer while being a single mother; getting a degree in art history; getting a degree in advertising; getting a law degree. So right away I gained an immense respect for all these women that went beyond their physical attraction. And in all cases, it was not long before we were sharing our personal hopes and ambitions.
Also, in all four of my experience, I would say that my desire to have an on camera sexual interaction stopped pretty soon after the real feelings began. Once our unexpected connection started to grow, I did not want to be a part of the models' everyday job. I was happy to send messages in between shows or via personal e-mail and occasionally tip just as a gesture (never at their own request). Now I realize that for a lot of models such a person might be considered a nuisance, a "freeloader" at their job. But in all these cases, I was definitely not considered a nuisance. This was owing to the girls' special personalities. They did not have the mindset of a stripper or similar. So I became a friend, a confidant, and even a career counselor.
Eventually I met all four women in person, living with and traveling with a few to different countries. Each relationship was very beautiful and unique as the individuals' personalities. Interestingly, the emotional and/or sexual rapports were not always matching what we had online. In one case, it was astronomically better (
). In another circumstance, I felt like there was much less physical chemistry than may have occurred between us in the virtual space. But that is a risk common to online relationships. In the end, I have never given up webcam sites because they have been too rewarding a way to meet women... In fact, a woman I talk to now might soon become my fifth such relationship. Calmly, I hope that she might be "the one". Because she is amazingly sensitive yet reliable as a calming presence. Yes, I am romantic (or silly) enough to think you can see your unborn children in a woman's eyes.
So my "2 cents" to the question posed by this thread is that there is no rule. Humans are humans, in any venue. The quality and potential of a relationship always depends upon the personal traits of the people involved. You have to use your social tact and read the circumstances unique to your situation.
To guys — If a model acts uncomfortable when you ask her personal questions, take a hint and back off. If there really seems to be some mutual personal connection, be patient and maybe she will reveal more of herself to you in time. It's all about having social tact practicing empathy. If a cam model starts messaging you on topics of outside interest and turning your cam on just to watch you without you ever tipping her, she might be open to something more.
To models — if you do not already know it, there is every variety of male out there in your audience. You might actually find the most sensitive and strong types among us! Mainly, because this is the age of globalism and the Internet, the most sensitive souls (male or female) often end up feeling more lonely than ever. Try to keep an open mind, because life and beauty can grow in the most unlikely of places.
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