Need help/tips to find girl to cam with

[edwin]

Hello girls and boys, how r u guys doing?

I'm not even a model, yet. But I want to indruduce myself cause I'm trying to become a cam model. However I'm not interested in doing solo camming cause I don't match the competition in body looks and I'm straight, so no stuff in my ass. LOL
Would be better with a partner cause I enjoy doing sex and I'm good at.

So let me introduce myself. My name is Ricardo, 22 yo, brazilian, who really likes porn and even more sex! I like to read, music in general not only one type, video games, boardgames and mostly everything that has game on it. =P
About a couple of weeks ago I started learning about camming, reading blogs, sites, forums and anything that could help me become good at camming. But the problem is that my girl is to shy for camming and don't want to start camming. She is really open minded and said to me if I find a girl to cam with she won't have any problem, she undenstand its only a job and the money is sweet.

Now my problem. It's already too hard to find women interested on doing this job, even more to have sex with a guy while camming, doesn't exist too many sites about the topic of camming in portuguese and I don't know how I'd find a girld willing to do this. In brazilian cam sites there's not many couples camming and over flooded with solos, I think would be a good diferencial meaning more $. If u guys have any tips to give me on how could I find a girl willing to cam with me I'd be so happy. If everything goes right and I start camming I'll post more about my experience.

If u read till here I thank you for your consideration, sorry about my english.
Thanks! xD

 

[mynameisbob84]

If anyone's up for a bit of rumpy pumpy, let me know too, yeah? :thumbleft:

(For realz though, I think the only way you'll get any interest is to build up a camming fanbase first)

 

[edwin]

I'm not trying to find sex here in the forum cause I live in Brazil. I'm trying to find a way to ask if someone wants to do this without offending them, tips on how I could see if a person is more likely to enjoy exposing herself for money and etc.
I know its kind a hard question to answer but i think the girls know one or two things about how a girl would react to this proposal, or the way I should ask. You know, girls are complicated and I don't want to get kicked in the balls or something. LOL
Thanks for your answer mynameisbob84

 

[Jessi]

I'm not trying to find sex here in the forum cause I live in Brazil. I'm trying to find a way to ask if someone wants to do this without offending them, tips on how I could see if a person is more likely to enjoy exposing herself for money and etc.
I know its kind a hard question to answer but i think the girls know one or two things about how a girl would react to this proposal, or the way I should ask. You know, girls are complicated and I don't want to get kicked in the balls or something. LOL
Thanks for your answer mynameisbob84

1) Ask someone who you are already hooking up with or dating. There is a huge amount of safety and privacy risk for women in this industry. When I cam with another model, I am putting a massive amount of trust in her to keep my info private. If some random stranger asked me to have sex, Id probably say no, if he asked if he could film it or do it live on cam Id say HELL NO.

2)

tips on how I could see if a person is more likely to enjoy exposing herself for money and etc.

Don't assume anything about a person's sexuality. There is no "type", and its a misconception that all camgirls are exhibitionists. If you are sleeping with someone you should be able to ask them "Hey what are you into" "Would you be interesting in trying _____?". If you can't manage that conversation with someone you're having sex with then absolutely do not try this, and you probably need to develop your interpersonal communication skills a bit more if you ever want to be successful camming.

3)

You know, girls are complicated and I don't want to get kicked in the balls or something. LOL

Women are just people. Stop viewing us as some mystical incomprehensible entity and just have a straightforward conversation and you'll have a lot more success in all areas. If someone says no, then accept the rejection and move along. Tiptoeing around the conversation isn't going to trick your way into making this happen.

4) Hire an escort.


5) The way you wrote this post just seems like you're totally ignorant of the industry and have 0 experience. Start camming solo, get a feel for how things work and then you can explain it to a friend you'd like to work with. Seriously.

 

[VeronicaChaos]

Keep in mind that any girl you find would be just as likely to make more money camming solo than with you. When I cammed with someone I had chemistry with and created quite a few fans with pretty quickly, we were making 1/4 of what I make solo, and then split 50/50, so I was actually making 1/8 of what I normally make. In all practicality, all a man can really offer is experience in the industry (which you have none of) or already being friends/lovers with a camgirl who thinks it'd be fun, which is where you find camgirls bringing in their boyfriends occasionally.

Men really aren't really valuable in the camming world. In the world of porn they are worth more, but that's just because it's incredibly hard to find a man who can get hard instantly without performance anxiety and able to last a long time without cumming. Enjoying sex isn't really a marketable skill; everyone does and not everyone is an adult performer. Being able to market yourself enjoying sex is a skill, but that's a completely different thing. Men CAN make it camming solo, but it's not quick cash, the same as how it's not quick cash for women either.

 

[BiancaBaker]

First: Your GF is NOT going to be okay with you having sex with some random girl for money. I understand she says she will but she wont. Its going to cause some serious issues in your relationship unless you are okay with her having sex with other guys. Because money or no money it is SEX. You are spending 6-8 hours a day with a stranger ON cam with them, you will develop feelings and become attached- I KNOW this because I tried this before. I found a random guy and we clicked and i thought we could keep it professional. That wasnt the case, we both developed feelings and ended up together for 6 months. Its just what happens. Also if you hire some random girl HOW do you know shes STD free - even if u test her (which u 100 percent SHOULD) you dont know what she does in her personal life and are you willing to risk your sex health safety for some RANDOM stranger? I mean even if she tells you shes not fooling around w/ other guys, theres no real way to know and honestly most people will bitch about condemns. The second guy i cammed w I used protection because he was waiting for his STD results and people complained the whole time. SORRY I am not risking my sexual health safety for some random dude I dont know to well..

Second: can you stay hard for 6-8 hours, cum multiple times and have a very positive attitude for all of it because thats EXACTLY what you are going to have to do if YOU do decide to cam as a couple. I have cammed with 2 guys.. BOTH could not handle camming for that many hours. The reality is your not just going to get online and make $$, it takes time and effort. I think most guys have this fantasy of making porn/camming but it is EXTREMELY hard.

Third: ALL these girls are right. Males arent needed, I make WAY more money solo so WHY would I share my HARD earned $$ with SOME stranger? Really think about this. Even if you meet someone - what if shes psycho and leaks all your personal information or tells your family/friends by outing you. My boyfriend willingly offers himself as a stunt cock for videos/clips but wont live cam with me for the fact that he KNOWS how hard it is. He knows he would have to get hard on command, stay hard and cum A LOT. ITS a lot of pressure. You get in a show and the person is immediately tying for you to get HARD.. Its tough. Also BOTH guys I cammed with were VERY attractive and BOTH were WELL equipped; AND guys WOULD always talk shit about them.. BE prepared for this. SERIOUSLY prepared. If your penis isnt up to par or they think your not attractive they WILL say so and then tag you/comment on it and its much harder than you think.

Fourth: Males CAN succeed solo. Just read Lance Hart's blog. SERIOUSLY read it. BUT as he states you need to be OPEN minded, Take a strap on, get hard & stay hard for 6-8 hours and be able to CUM multiple times. He has managed as a MALE to stay in the Top 50 of Clips4sale for over a year and runs multiple websites. There are other guys that have succeeded as well BUT all of them do unique things. Look @ The Cock Ninja on Clips4sale, He runs a very successful Taboo Studio on Clips4sale, but hes making Taboo Role Play - His lighting system is insane and so isnt his camera (as well as Lance Hart) this takes SERIOUS investments $$ wise. I honestly only know 1 successful Male Cam Model and his name is Jake Orion (hes a flirt4free model) If you look @ his profile you can see WHY hes successful. I am sure there are other males - I know theres a guy on Chaturbate who makes paintings with his penis and of his penis and hes pretty successful BUT hes BUFF as hell and super hot. His personality is also amazing. I always forget his name but he cams from a unique location and puts on 1 hell of a show.

 

[Picnic]

Being straight and liking it in the butt are not mutually exclusive.

So tired of people spewing that crap!

 

[edwin]

Being straight and liking it in the butt are not mutually exclusive.

So tired of people spewing that crap!

Let me put this way, I'm straight and also happen to don't like things in my ass.

 

[Picnic]

Let me put this way, I'm straight and also happen to don't like things in my ass.

That wasn't so hard, now was it?

Here is a tip: when you come to a camming forum seeking help and words of advice, keep in mind that many of us here identify as queer (gay, bi, etc).

Your overall ignorance? Not a great first impression.

 

[edwin]

Here is a tip: when you come to a camming forum seeking help and words of advice, keep in mind that many of us here identify as queer (gay, bi, etc).

Your overall ignorance? Not a great first impression.

Look, don't care what u think of straight people and things in one's but. If u want to redefine a word it's not with me. I'm was not rude or not ignorant. You in the other hand was pretty rude. Fuck if someone is gay, queer, bi, lesbian. DON'T CARE, it's not me (and no one should) who will judge people for their sexual preferences (even if a straight dude wants to shove any kind of shit in his ass).
Next time try a diferent type of approach if u r tired of some stupid shit NOT MY PROBLEM!
Here's a tip, don't be a DICK.

 

[AerynShade]

Oh yeah... you're going to do great...

:roll:

 

[SatanJonez]

I'm going to try not to be a dick. Your severe reaction to people being even slightly snarky might be an indicator that you won't be able to handle the barrage of shit that will be slung at you from members on a cam site. The stuff any one has said so far to you in this thread will pale in comparison to the shit people will say once you actually get on cam and go live.

Also, you might want to try this thread. It is actually filled with a lot of great information for men looking to jump into being a cam model. You might want to try to figure it out for yourself before you try to wing it with a partner, plus you knowing about it would be a bonus for any woman you might be interested in working with.

Lastly, unless you already know a woman who is interested in camming with you I cannot really think of a way to broach this conversation without them thinking you're a.) creepy, b.) a scammer or c.) all of the above.

This thread has a lot of really good cam ladies TRYING to give you a heads up, but me thinks that because it's not the easy answer you want you aren't really thrilled with the feedback you've gotten.

 

[LilyMarie]

Let me put this way, I'm straight and also happen to don't like things in my ass.

That wasn't so hard, now was it?

Here is a tip: when you come to a camming forum seeking help and words of advice, keep in mind that many of us here identify as queer (gay, bi, etc).

And even those who aren't queer (i.e. the majority of the guys on this forum) are either sexually open-minded and willing to try new stuff, or tolerant towards those who are open-minded - or both.

It's 2015. Straight men have been experimenting with anal fun for many, many years. It's not a secret that they can get whole new sensations that way.
"and I'm straight, so no stuff in my ass. LOL" makes no sense, it has never made sense. Whether you're into anal stimulation has nothing to do with whether you're homo-, hetero- or bisexual. Your anus and prostate aren't randomly less responsive than those belonging to a guy who happens to be attracted to other guys - that's not how biology or psychology works. :roll:
My two last ex boyfriends are 100% only attracted to women and yet they liked their butts played with. By me, a woman. Nothing gay about that.
Butt stuff ≠ homosexual activity.
Sexual activity with someone of the same gender = homosexual activity.

I'll cut you some slack because you're only 22 and clearly not very sexually experienced and are also from a country where sexual prejudice is maybe a bit more common, but you're getting nowhere with that intolerant, sort of sex-negative kind of attitude.


As far as camming goes, everything has been said already... You'll have a very hard time trying to find a woman who'll do it with you and it's better to start camming as a couple with someone you're in a relationship with. Though, as others also have said already, women generally make better money on their own.

 

[TeganTate]

First: Your GF is NOT going to be okay with you having sex with some random girl for money. I understand she says she will but she wont. Its going to cause some serious issues in your relationship unless you are okay with her having sex with other guys. Because money or no money it is SEX. You are spending 6-8 hours a day with a stranger ON cam with them, you will develop feelings and become attached- I KNOW this because I tried this before. I found a random guy and we clicked and i thought we could keep it professional. That wasnt the case, we both developed feelings and ended up together for 6 months. Its just what happens. Also if you hire some random girl HOW do you know shes STD free - even if u test her (which u 100 percent SHOULD) you dont know what she does in her personal life and are you willing to risk your sex health safety for some RANDOM stranger? I mean even if she tells you shes not fooling around w/ other guys, theres no real way to know and honestly most people will bitch about condemns. The second guy i cammed w I used protection because he was waiting for his STD results and people complained the whole time. SORRY I am not risking my sexual health safety for some random dude I dont know to well..

Second: can you stay hard for 6-8 hours, cum multiple times and have a very positive attitude for all of it because thats EXACTLY what you are going to have to do if YOU do decide to cam as a couple. I have cammed with 2 guys.. BOTH could not handle camming for that many hours. The reality is your not just going to get online and make $$, it takes time and effort. I think most guys have this fantasy of making porn/camming but it is EXTREMELY hard.

Third: ALL these girls are right. Males arent needed, I make WAY more money solo so WHY would I share my HARD earned $$ with SOME stranger? Really think about this. Even if you meet someone - what if shes psycho and leaks all your personal information or tells your family/friends by outing you. My boyfriend willingly offers himself as a stunt cock for videos/clips but wont live cam with me for the fact that he KNOWS how hard it is. He knows he would have to get hard on command, stay hard and cum A LOT. ITS a lot of pressure. You get in a show and the person is immediately tying for you to get HARD.. Its tough. Also BOTH guys I cammed with were VERY attractive and BOTH were WELL equipped; AND guys WOULD always talk shit about them.. BE prepared for this. SERIOUSLY prepared. If your penis isnt up to par or they think your not attractive they WILL say so and then tag you/comment on it and its much harder than you think.

Fourth: Males CAN succeed solo. Just read Lance Hart's blog. SERIOUSLY read it. BUT as he states you need to be OPEN minded, Take a strap on, get hard & stay hard for 6-8 hours and be able to CUM multiple times. He has managed as a MALE to stay in the Top 50 of Clips4sale for over a year and runs multiple websites. There are other guys that have succeeded as well BUT all of them do unique things. Look @ The Cock Ninja on Clips4sale, He runs a very successful Taboo Studio on Clips4sale, but hes making Taboo Role Play - His lighting system is insane and so isnt his camera (as well as Lance Hart) this takes SERIOUS investments $$ wise. I honestly only know 1 successful Male Cam Model and his name is Jake Orion (hes a flirt4free model) If you look @ his profile you can see WHY hes successful. I am sure there are other males - I know theres a guy on Chaturbate who makes paintings with his penis and of his penis and hes pretty successful BUT hes BUFF as hell and super hot. His personality is also amazing. I always forget his name but he cams from a unique location and puts on 1 hell of a show.

Over all pretty good information. Although I really disagree with number one. Not everyone one is monogamous,not everyone has a hard time separating sex and feelings and not everyone is jealous . A lot of couples ( especially in porn) consider themselves monogamous and other than for work are not having sex with anyone other than each other. So I think saying it is absolutely not going to work is a bit narrow minded. For all we know his GF really doesn't mind and it isn't going to drive her mad and cause problems.

 

[Picnic]

Look, don't care what u think of straight people and things in one's but. If u want to redefine a word it's not with me. I'm was not rude or not ignorant. You in the other hand was pretty rude. Fuck if someone is gay, queer, bi, lesbian. DON'T CARE, it's not me (and no one should) who will judge people for their sexual preferences (even if a straight dude wants to shove any kind of shit in his ass).
Next time try a diferent type of approach if u r tired of some stupid shit NOT MY PROBLEM!
Here's a tip, don't be a DICK.

If you are serious about camming, just know you're going to come across many people of various sexual orientations. Even if you do end up camming with another girl, a gay or bi sexual guy could still be watching/enjoying.

If you want them to tip you, you should probably learn how to be a bit more accepting and open minded. Don't you think?

Some people might let the, "Pssssh, I don't put things up my ass, I ain't GAY!" comments slide. Others might be severely turned off, even if they didn't want you to stick anything up your ass. Know what I'm saying? You could lose a potential good tipping customer with that mind set. Good looks, a nice dick, and decent sex drive aren't all it takes to be a good cam model. Personality goes much further.

Anyway, good luck!

 

[Teagan]

Agreed. Not all girls would get upset but he should be prepared that it may happen.


In reality all you bring to the table is a penis and really that's nothing. It's actually detrimental to some girls as they have said. It's better without a penis. I've done both couples and solo and really solo is better money. But I get you want in on the money too.

Would be better with a partner cause I enjoy doing sex and I'm good at.

who really likes porn and even more sex!

I think though you just want to get laid and paid for it and think it must be super easy to do if only you had a willing fuck doll. I'll tell you though it is not easy money like you think it is. Even if you think you found an unexplored market in your area. It's not about being good at sex but being good on cam which is very different in every aspect. It's hard ass work...and with your reply to just being told not to be a fucking homophobic douche I don't think you'll do to well on chat. Brad Pitt would get shit on a cam site and so will you.

So my best tip to you is don't come to a forum for advice and be an asshole to someone here who was only informing you of a fact. Grow up.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Yall are nuts. How was he being a homophobic douche or an asshole? A little misinformed sure but telling someone to grow up after calling him names is pretty hilarious.

 

[Teagan]

Yall are nuts. How was he being a homophobic douche or an asshole? A little misinformed sure but telling someone to grow up after calling him names is pretty hilarious.

Saying he wont do butt stuff cause he's not gay is homophobic and a douche thing to say.

And he called Pic a dick for no reason and that is being an asshole.

Period.

 

[SatanJonez]

Yall are nuts. How was he being a homophobic douche or an asshole? A little misinformed sure but telling someone to grow up after calling him names is pretty hilarious.

I don't want to, but I gotta sort of agree with Punk. I don't think he was being homophobic. Misinformed as heck, yup. Not everyone in this day and age is either aware or on board with folks all the different sexualities people label themselves as, but he didn't seem to care (and said so). I think between English probably not being his first language & his frustration with trying to respond to snarkiness he isn't used to made it come off a lot worse than it is.

As for being an asshole? Yeeeaaah, seeking out ways to basically "pick out" a woman to make money off of is sort of asshole-y behavior and coming to a bright pink forum at that (stupid, I know, but to me it would indicate maybe a high population of womens) and blatantly stating that as your intent is a wee bit silly. I get wanting to jump on what probably looks like a quick cash bandwagon, but dang dude.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Saying he wont do butt stuff cause he's not gay is homophobic and a douche thing to say.

Naw, not even a little homophobic. Dumb, but not homophobic.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

As for being an asshole? Yeeeaaah, seeking out ways to basically "pick out" a woman to make money off of is sort of asshole-y behavior

Yeah won't argue with this, pretty slimy/bummy.

 

[JessieWolfe]

I'm going to reply the same as I would to any girl asking to cam with me for the first time.

First off you don't have experience. The model would have to walk you through every step of the site you decided to work on. I have tried this twice with girls who thought camming would be easy money, and it ended up being way more work than they realized. They lasted only a few nights on cam and went their ways. Camming is A LOT more work than people realize from the outside.

Yes you can make really good money, but you have to be 100% comfortable with every aspect of yourself. People are mean or just like to be assholes for their own amusement. It's rough out there haha. Plus while people are making rude comments you have to stay hard and have your boner last for hours. Camming requires long hours, so you have to have the stamina.

I would highly recommend camming solo first. You don't have to do butt stuff, people are very understanding of sexual limits and if they arnt you just ban them. Experience is key. Besides some comments that people can find rude you do seem sincere in the fact you are looking for someone to work with rather than some sex on the side.
Make an account, market yourself, get involved with the community. You may find you make enough money on your own, that you don't like the job at all, or even meet a girl who wants to work with you. Just don't be pushy. Pushy is creepy haha

I'm typing on my phone so I'm super sorry if there are typos lol

 

[AmberCutie]

I'm typing on my phone so I'm super sorry if there are typos lol

You mean typoos? :mrgreen:

 

[VallieBeuys]

I just wanted to add, because I don't think it's been explicitly stated yet:

Sex is actually a very small part of camming. So much more time and effort go into interacting with the audience to keep them interested in the show you're offering while you're working up to it. As a solo cam model I spend the majority of my time teasing and chatting, not having orgasms. Even in shows where I have orgasms it's not at all the same as having regular old sex with a partner where no one else is watching. The experiences are completely different.

When couples do shows together there's really not a whole lot of sex until the actual show. Sure there's some jerking and maybe some bj'ing but otherwise the sex has to be saved for the actual show. There's a bunch of added pressure to perform, you gotta cum at just the right time. You don't want the show to be too long or you're basically losing money, and you don't want it to be too fast because people will feel cheated. There is so much WORK involved with having sex on camera. Especially live! If you fart, everybody hears it. If your dick goes soft because someone in your chat room just said the most disgusting thing you've ever seen in text, you gotta deal with that. Dudes are expected to stay hard the WHOLE time they're on cam. If you don't cum in a show people get pissed. There are so many stories here about couples who cam and all the crazy things they have to deal with on a regular basis.

You're gonna get yelled at, told that you or your partner are too hot/ugly for the other, you'll be critiqued on your dick size, your stamina, the angle you use when you fuck on cam. You'll be trolled for BOTH your looks/weight/teeth/hair/genitals/etc. Literally everything about you will become open to comment from strangers. You will get dudes soliciting you, you will get dudes asking you to leave so they can watch your female partner. You'll get people who are actually ANGRY that there is a man camming with a woman, because all they want to see is pussy.

Camming is like 50% customer service/interaction, 30% keeping your cool when people are fucking awful, and only about 20% sexy fun times. Even during the sexy fun times you're still working. This is work. And it's not easy.

I swear so many of the guys who come here asking how to get started as a camguy/part of a cam couple seem to think all they're gonna do is fuck, fuck, fuck, and the money will come rolling in. NOPE! You're gonna work, work, work, and eventually you'll get paid a little. Maybe more than a little if you work really hard, are naturally good at this job, and have some serious luck. Oh and if you have a dick that looks nice, can stay rock hard forever, and can cum multiple times in just a few hours.

 

[weirdbr]

Look, don't care what u think of straight people and things in one's but. If u want to redefine a word it's not with me. I'm was not rude or not ignorant. You in the other hand was pretty rude. Fuck if someone is gay, queer, bi, lesbian. DON'T CARE, it's not me (and no one should) who will judge people for their sexual preferences (even if a straight dude wants to shove any kind of shit in his ass).
Next time try a diferent type of approach if u r tired of some stupid shit NOT MY PROBLEM!
Here's a tip, don't be a DICK.

So, to ensure we don't have language issues, let me go into native mode for a sec...

<native mode>
Cara, pega leve. Voce que ta vindo num forum que eh extremamente inclusivo e falando que ser hetero exclui a possibilidade de gostar de anal, que por si so eh um baita sinal de que voce precisa pesquisar mais sobre sexualidade (inclusive com relacao a qual eh a linguagem correta a ser utilizada) - o jeito que voce esta se expressando eh extremamente homofóbico/heteronormativo... E ninguem aqui esta redefinindo palavras - voce que esta usando a definicao errada.

E sinceramente, se voce reage desse jeito num ambiente como nesse forum que eh bem inclusivo, so imagino como que voce vai lidar com todos os trolls quando voce estiver na cam - os caras vao te zoar de todos os jeitos e sobre tudo - do tamanho do teu penis, se vc nao 'eh bom de servico', se ta parecendo q vc nao ta duro/com tesao o suficiente, etc, etc..

<out of native mode>
(Translation - told him to go research his definitions of 'straight' as it's quite heteronormative.. And that he better be prepared for all the trolls poking fun at every aspect - his dick size, that he isn't hard enough, about how 'good' he is, etc, etc)

 

[Teagan]

Look, don't care what u think of straight people and things in one's but. If u want to redefine a word it's not with me. I'm was not rude or not ignorant. You in the other hand was pretty rude. Fuck if someone is gay, queer, bi, lesbian. DON'T CARE, it's not me (and no one should) who will judge people for their sexual preferences (even if a straight dude wants to shove any kind of shit in his ass).
Next time try a diferent type of approach if u r tired of some stupid shit NOT MY PROBLEM!
Here's a tip, don't be a DICK.

So, to ensure we don't have language issues, let me go into native mode for a sec...

<native mode>
Cara, pega leve. Voce que ta vindo num forum que eh extremamente inclusivo e falando que ser hetero exclui a possibilidade de gostar de anal, que por si so eh um baita sinal de que voce precisa pesquisar mais sobre sexualidade (inclusive com relacao a qual eh a linguagem correta a ser utilizada) - o jeito que voce esta se expressando eh extremamente homofóbico/heteronormativo... E ninguem aqui esta redefinindo palavras - voce que esta usando a definicao errada.

E sinceramente, se voce reage desse jeito num ambiente como nesse forum que eh bem inclusivo, so imagino como que voce vai lidar com todos os trolls quando voce estiver na cam - os caras vao te zoar de todos os jeitos e sobre tudo - do tamanho do teu penis, se vc nao 'eh bom de servico', se ta parecendo q vc nao ta duro/com tesao o suficiente, etc, etc..

<out of native mode>
(Translation - told him to go research his definitions of 'straight' as it's quite heteronormative.. And that he better be prepared for all the trolls poking fun at every aspect - his dick size, that he isn't hard enough, about how 'good' he is, etc, etc)

Well aren't you handy busting out the Portuguese and shit. Nice.

 

[LilyMarie]

Look, don't care what u think of straight people and things in one's but. If u want to redefine a word it's not with me. I'm was not rude or not ignorant. You in the other hand was pretty rude. Fuck if someone is gay, queer, bi, lesbian. DON'T CARE, it's not me (and no one should) who will judge people for their sexual preferences (even if a straight dude wants to shove any kind of shit in his ass).
Next time try a diferent type of approach if u r tired of some stupid shit NOT MY PROBLEM!
Here's a tip, don't be a DICK.

So, to ensure we don't have language issues, let me go into native mode for a sec...

<native mode>
Cara, pega leve. Voce que ta vindo num forum que eh extremamente inclusivo e falando que ser hetero exclui a possibilidade de gostar de anal, que por si so eh um baita sinal de que voce precisa pesquisar mais sobre sexualidade (inclusive com relacao a qual eh a linguagem correta a ser utilizada) - o jeito que voce esta se expressando eh extremamente homofóbico/heteronormativo... E ninguem aqui esta redefinindo palavras - voce que esta usando a definicao errada.

E sinceramente, se voce reage desse jeito num ambiente como nesse forum que eh bem inclusivo, so imagino como que voce vai lidar com todos os trolls quando voce estiver na cam - os caras vao te zoar de todos os jeitos e sobre tudo - do tamanho do teu penis, se vc nao 'eh bom de servico', se ta parecendo q vc nao ta duro/com tesao o suficiente, etc, etc..

<out of native mode>
(Translation - told him to go research his definitions of 'straight' as it's quite heteronormative.. And that he better be prepared for all the trolls poking fun at every aspect - his dick size, that he isn't hard enough, about how 'good' he is, etc, etc)

Well aren't you handy busting out the Portuguese and shit. Nice.

I like when guys speak languages I don't understand. Rawr.

 

[MrRodry]

Coloca um anúncio no Classificados do Globo. :thumbleft:

 

[BiancaBaker]

First: Your GF is NOT going to be okay with you having sex with some random girl for money. I understand she says she will but she wont. Its going to cause some serious issues in your relationship unless you are okay with her having sex with other guys. Because money or no money it is SEX. You are spending 6-8 hours a day with a stranger ON cam with them, you will develop feelings and become attached- I KNOW this because I tried this before. I found a random guy and we clicked and i thought we could keep it professional. That wasnt the case, we both developed feelings and ended up together for 6 months. Its just what happens. Also if you hire some random girl HOW do you know shes STD free - even if u test her (which u 100 percent SHOULD) you dont know what she does in her personal life and are you willing to risk your sex health safety for some RANDOM stranger? I mean even if she tells you shes not fooling around w/ other guys, theres no real way to know and honestly most people will bitch about condemns. The second guy i cammed w I used protection because he was waiting for his STD results and people complained the whole time. SORRY I am not risking my sexual health safety for some random dude I dont know to well..

Second: can you stay hard for 6-8 hours, cum multiple times and have a very positive attitude for all of it because thats EXACTLY what you are going to have to do if YOU do decide to cam as a couple. I have cammed with 2 guys.. BOTH could not handle camming for that many hours. The reality is your not just going to get online and make $$, it takes time and effort. I think most guys have this fantasy of making porn/camming but it is EXTREMELY hard.

Third: ALL these girls are right. Males arent needed, I make WAY more money solo so WHY would I share my HARD earned $$ with SOME stranger? Really think about this. Even if you meet someone - what if shes psycho and leaks all your personal information or tells your family/friends by outing you. My boyfriend willingly offers himself as a stunt cock for videos/clips but wont live cam with me for the fact that he KNOWS how hard it is. He knows he would have to get hard on command, stay hard and cum A LOT. ITS a lot of pressure. You get in a show and the person is immediately tying for you to get HARD.. Its tough. Also BOTH guys I cammed with were VERY attractive and BOTH were WELL equipped; AND guys WOULD always talk shit about them.. BE prepared for this. SERIOUSLY prepared. If your penis isnt up to par or they think your not attractive they WILL say so and then tag you/comment on it and its much harder than you think.

Fourth: Males CAN succeed solo. Just read Lance Hart's blog. SERIOUSLY read it. BUT as he states you need to be OPEN minded, Take a strap on, get hard & stay hard for 6-8 hours and be able to CUM multiple times. He has managed as a MALE to stay in the Top 50 of Clips4sale for over a year and runs multiple websites. There are other guys that have succeeded as well BUT all of them do unique things. Look @ The Cock Ninja on Clips4sale, He runs a very successful Taboo Studio on Clips4sale, but hes making Taboo Role Play - His lighting system is insane and so isnt his camera (as well as Lance Hart) this takes SERIOUS investments $$ wise. I honestly only know 1 successful Male Cam Model and his name is Jake Orion (hes a flirt4free model) If you look @ his profile you can see WHY hes successful. I am sure there are other males - I know theres a guy on Chaturbate who makes paintings with his penis and of his penis and hes pretty successful BUT hes BUFF as hell and super hot. His personality is also amazing. I always forget his name but he cams from a unique location and puts on 1 hell of a show.

Over all pretty good information. Although I really disagree with number one. Not everyone one is monogamous,not everyone has a hard time separating sex and feelings and not everyone is jealous . A lot of couples ( especially in porn) consider themselves monogamous and other than for work are not having sex with anyone other than each other. So I think saying it is absolutely not going to work is a bit narrow minded. For all we know his GF really doesn't mind and it isn't going to drive her mad and cause problems.

I should have worded it better but I was just trying to give him a heads up, He said in his post THEY just started dating.. That would be very hard on a new relationship. Especially if neither have ever experienced the sex industry. I see nothing wrong with separating sex from love or poly relationships (to each is own) but I am just saying its super hard on established couples never mind someone that just started a relationship. She could get super jealous (even though she said she didn't care) and become crazy; its a total possibility.

 

[DeezNA]

Hello girls and boys, how r u guys doing?

I'm not even a model, yet. But I want to indruduce myself cause I'm trying to become a cam model. However I'm not interested in doing solo camming cause I don't match the competition in body looks and I'm straight, so no stuff in my ass. LOL
Would be better with a partner cause I enjoy doing sex and I'm good at.

So let me introduce myself. My name is Ricardo, 22 yo, brazilian, who really likes porn and even more sex! I like to read, music in general not only one type, video games, boardgames and mostly everything that has game on it. =P
About a couple of weeks ago I started learning about camming, reading blogs, sites, forums and anything that could help me become good at camming. But the problem is that my girl is to shy for camming and don't want to start camming. She is really open minded and said to me if I find a girl to cam with she won't have any problem, she undenstand its only a job and the money is sweet.

Now my problem. It's already too hard to find women interested on doing this job, even more to have sex with a guy while camming, doesn't exist too many sites about the topic of camming in portuguese and I don't know how I'd find a girld willing to do this. In brazilian cam sites there's not many couples camming and over flooded with solos, I think would be a good diferencial meaning more $. If u guys have any tips to give me on how could I find a girl willing to cam with me I'd be so happy. If everything goes right and I start camming I'll post more about my experience.

If u read till here I thank you for your consideration, sorry about my english.
Thanks! xD

To address the original post...

This is exactly the reason why I, as a male model of almost 2 years now, don't ever feel comfortable asking anyone to cam with me. This is the reason men aren't allowed to do these model-meetups that could be quite lucrative for all parties involved. Why? Because your expectation is sex, because you can't keep it in your fucking pants. Because when a man and a woman cam together, they are expected to fuck. For hours. And cum repeatedly.

I admittedly didn't read every response thoroughly but I deeply appreciate Vallie's input, as every model has a different format and different limits. As a solo male, I have never done a single public cumshow. I rarely do cumshows at all... I rarely even get hard in public... My ideal couples show is playful, goofy and interactive, capitalizing on the exponential personality factor and I was very lucky to have had that opportunity a few times.

If you want an established model to cam with you, what makes you any different than any other guy walking down the street?... As Bob so quickly and eloquently responded... they're just going to think that you're just some guy who wants to fuck them. They get tons of guys like that in their room every shift... in droves...

Become a model. Cam. Learn what you like and don't, what your limits are and what you are comfortable doing. Learn what your regulars like and don't. Then you might be able to find a partner who shares a common business model and would like to work with you... hell, maybe your lady-friend might oversee one of your shows and suddenly change her mind and want to give it a try? You never know.

Please don't perpetuate the stereotype that we're all just stunt-cocks. It's degrading to our gender and it makes it harder than you could possibly imagine for softer-core male models to actually be taken seriously.

Either way, best of luck.