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I feel like ive been kind of a shitty viewer to the model, hung out , tipped some probably not enough, dangled the opportunity for tokens and didnt live up to it.

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We had agreed on something and she was enthusiastic about proceeding. I brought it up so im to blame for potentially misleading her. Unfortunatley what we discussed is currently too expensive. Im unemployed atm so i should frankly stay clear of her room which i should have done . Ive spoke to her for some time i still make an income but am unemployed so i probably tipped her like £1000 over a year which tbf i feel ive taken her and her show for granted. Which i have , ive taken up alot of her time. And i feel she deserves better.



In the next month or so i have a new job some savings. Im not going to get further and further into deep spending . But i may or may not proceed with our arrangement its only the right thing for me to do to be honest i feel guilty for leading her on getting her hopes up but £450 for our arrangment unfortunatley yeah is too expensive for me at the moment.



But to try and put water under the bridge ..... her show has been very quiet recently , and her moods changed, i think its just the nature of the buissess. I dont know how much longer i may be around the room , ive got my own personal issues i need to deal with and i think i may not be helpful to hers.



Realistically i know it doesnt really matter shes going to get paid hook or by crook but i will eventually go ahead with what we had agreed .



But before then as £450 isnr really easy money for me to just drop but i would like to try and make it up to her .. ive been in her room for a fucking year..... chatting shit and nore than likely pissing her off from time to time. And i really havent tipped enough and i really shouldnt have hung outbin ger room really unless i had tips to begin .



But this is whar im working on and im working on discipline and impulse control. But i would like to try and smooth things over explain to her without going into too much detail that sorry for all the fucking endless communication and fucking her about and wasting her time. Talking shyte beyond belief . Obviously she doesnt really give a shit but she does everything has an impact day to day and im sure i have been a grind for this women. I was her mod at one stage and she has also banned me at a stage aswell but then accepted my apology and let me back into her



Basically im wondering can viewers buy models off site gifts. So that the model gets all the value. Im sure you can buy toys etc( wether she already has them) how does that work with chatterbate does cb get a cut of the money spent on toys aswell or is it only tokens

Im guessing if she already has the toy it goes straight into her bank account

What about other things i know she plays games on steam , can viewers send models gift cards for etc

I may or may not eventually go ahead with dropping £450 and to honour the agreement .

Frankly id just like to see her smile again bevause her room has been a ghost town for tippers for the past few months which is saddening because she is well liked . Ive been around her room for a long time so . Ive got my own problems like i said but would like to get my shit together and obviously pay this model some respect in the process.

But will be a while before im in a position and i may decide not to because i respect her . We had agreed a video call i suggested something else she suggested video call . Which is fair enough.

Sounds nice , but after the messing around and delaying from my part it myt be better avoided im sure she doesnt care either way what the method is.

So i am thinking i will get her a toy or something but a toy only seems like somewhere in the middle.

She asked me to buy her a toy about 6 months ago . I know the deal you hang around her room for way too long and piss her off. For months on end and tipped sparingly so she rightfully so demanded i buy her a toy . I didnt. I was unemployed.

IM still in her room . From fan club to mod and frankly im annoyed at how my experience and behaviour played out with this particular model.

Ive never been a cam model guy never had any addictions or problems with spending . But shes been the only model that kept hold of my attention week after week month after month . And i feel like ive taken her for granted.

It may just seem like some idiot on the internet but its a personal responsibility i hold myself to which i have not been meeting my own standards . If someone can hold your attention for nearly a year that person deserves some gratitude .

So anyway time to get my shit together

Time to stop annoying this model but time i did her a favour.

When i first entered her room i became fan club member spoke to her for about a month this was before i never had any other interest in other models , at the time i had 2000 tokens in my account something like £180 she was offline and i tipped her offline said i was closing my account wanted her to have these tokens. She was very gratious and left it at that.

about a month later i made another account couldnt stop thinking about that model .

And its been a rollercoaster ever since .
But i think its time for me to wise up and take some responsibility and stop being one of these viewers that about 90% of the time becomes an annoying freeloader. Its extremley addictive, but im ashamed to be honest so like i said .


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What methods does cb have to compensate a model .

Tokens , toys, ... gifts? Any other methods, gift cards etc?

Is there anyway to really thank this model for the past 10 months or so of fucking around , annoying her pissing her off.

Like i said im going to eventually focus on getting my shit together and moving on . Maybe see her when im not on shift but without the kind of obcessive hold ive had . Its very unhealthy . So id like to make it up to her proportionatley and move on and then some evening i see shes online i log in and ill only view if tipping. I cant hang around this models room anymore the way i have been it needs to be something better
 
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Well if she is on a site that allows her to connect a wishlist than that would be step one however step two is to Google her. Do not ask her while streaming how to spoil her, where to pay because in order to protect her account she'll just say " tip me here" even if she'd rather you did elsewhere. If you do find her on social media than ask her there where she would like it. Also it is common to have a LinkTree/AllMyLinks/DommeLink etc of some sort on social media which might have a wishlist if she has one.
 
I feel like ive been kind of a shitty viewer to the model, hung out , tipped some probably not enough, dangled the opportunity for tokens and didnt live up to it.

(Scroll down if not necessary)

We had agreed on something and she was enthusiastic about proceeding. I brought it up so im to blame for potentially misleading her. Unfortunatley what we discussed is currently too expensive. Im unemployed atm so i should frankly stay clear of her room which i should have done . Ive spoke to her for some time i still make an income but am unemployed so i probably tipped her like £1000 over a year which tbf i feel ive taken her and her show for granted. Which i have , ive taken up alot of her time. And i feel she deserves better.



In the next month or so i have a new job some savings. Im not going to get further and further into deep spending . But i may or may not proceed with our arrangement its only the right thing for me to do to be honest i feel guilty for leading her on getting her hopes up but £450 for our arrangment unfortunatley yeah is too expensive for me at the moment.



But to try and put water under the bridge ..... her show has been very quiet recently , and her moods changed, i think its just the nature of the buissess. I dont know how much longer i may be around the room , ive got my own personal issues i need to deal with and i think i may not be helpful to hers.



Realistically i know it doesnt really matter shes going to get paid hook or by crook but i will eventually go ahead with what we had agreed .



But before then as £450 isnr really easy money for me to just drop but i would like to try and make it up to her .. ive been in her room for a fucking year..... chatting shit and nore than likely pissing her off from time to time. And i really havent tipped enough and i really shouldnt have hung outbin ger room really unless i had tips to begin .



But this is whar im working on and im working on discipline and impulse control. But i would like to try and smooth things over explain to her without going into too much detail that sorry for all the fucking endless communication and fucking her about and wasting her time. Talking shyte beyond belief . Obviously she doesnt really give a shit but she does everything has an impact day to day and im sure i have been a grind for this women. I was her mod at one stage and she has also banned me at a stage aswell but then accepted my apology and let me back into her



Basically im wondering can viewers buy models off site gifts. So that the model gets all the value. Im sure you can buy toys etc( wether she already has them) how does that work with chatterbate does cb get a cut of the money spent on toys aswell or is it only tokens

Im guessing if she already has the toy it goes straight into her bank account

What about other things i know she plays games on steam , can viewers send models gift cards for etc

I may or may not eventually go ahead with dropping £450 and to honour the agreement .

Frankly id just like to see her smile again bevause her room has been a ghost town for tippers for the past few months which is saddening because she is well liked . Ive been around her room for a long time so . Ive got my own problems like i said but would like to get my shit together and obviously pay this model some respect in the process.

But will be a while before im in a position and i may decide not to because i respect her . We had agreed a video call i suggested something else she suggested video call . Which is fair enough.

Sounds nice , but after the messing around and delaying from my part it myt be better avoided im sure she doesnt care either way what the method is.

So i am thinking i will get her a toy or something but a toy only seems like somewhere in the middle.

She asked me to buy her a toy about 6 months ago . I know the deal you hang around her room for way too long and piss her off. For months on end and tipped sparingly so she rightfully so demanded i buy her a toy . I didnt. I was unemployed.

IM still in her room . From fan club to mod and frankly im annoyed at how my experience and behaviour played out with this particular model.

Ive never been a cam model guy never had any addictions or problems with spending . But shes been the only model that kept hold of my attention week after week month after month . And i feel like ive taken her for granted.

It may just seem like some idiot on the internet but its a personal responsibility i hold myself to which i have not been meeting my own standards . If someone can hold your attention for nearly a year that person deserves some gratitude .

So anyway time to get my shit together

Time to stop annoying this model but time i did her a favour.

When i first entered her room i became fan club member spoke to her for about a month this was before i never had any other interest in other models , at the time i had 2000 tokens in my account something like £180 she was offline and i tipped her offline said i was closing my account wanted her to have these tokens. She was very gratious and left it at that.

about a month later i made another account couldnt stop thinking about that model .

And its been a rollercoaster ever since .
But i think its time for me to wise up and take some responsibility and stop being one of these viewers that about 90% of the time becomes an annoying freeloader. Its extremley addictive, but im ashamed to be honest so like i said .


(Scroll down to here)

What methods does cb have to compensate a model .

Tokens , toys, ... gifts? Any other methods, gift cards etc?

Is there anyway to really thank this model for the past 10 months or so of fucking around , annoying her pissing her off.

Like i said im going to eventually focus on getting my shit together and moving on . Maybe see her when im not on shift but without the kind of obcessive hold ive had . Its very unhealthy . So id like to make it up to her proportionatley and move on and then some evening i see shes online i log in and ill only view if tipping. I cant hang around this models room anymore the way i have been it needs to be something better
The scroll down, and scroll down to here was much appreciated. Thoughtful, thanks.

If you can examine her socials or google her, you should hopefully be able to find links to where she all accepts money. If you want to know the percentages of what she receives each place, just ask here. Lots of us are very open about that, in the hopes of teaching Members to look a little deeper into things.

Even within the same site, models can get different percentages for different features/ things.

Do not ask her while streaming how to spoil her, where to pay because in order to protect her account she'll just say " tip me here" even if she'd rather you did elsewhere.
That part (above) is very important. Pay attention to that part.
 
How many counselling sessions would £450 pay for? Asking for a friend.
These days 2. The counselor themself would get like 20 of it. Unless you went through their private practice.

It gets crazy complicated In the US with insurance companies, network providers, out of network providers, panels etc. Its out of control. Big part of why I don't work in that field anymore.
And ironically that first session would be more them introducing themselves and trying to support you in creating clear, clinical goals 😆
So you'd get like 1 hour after that.
Well 45 mins, because the last 15 mins is supposed to be them completing their clinical progress note.
I advise going in with a notepad, so you stick to the points you want to cover, as efficiently as possible 😆

Back in 2013 I was billed out by the insurance company at $250 per hour. I was on salary, and when you divided my salary by the number of hours I worked per week, I was about $18 an hour. Of course I wasn't private practice, but still. I often did 6-8 hour long sessions per day. It was rough.

A lot of health professionals aren't set up in environments that are healthy, supportive, and built for them to thrive, ironically.
Not just mental health, all of it.
 
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And health professionals need support too. No way you can do that day after day, hearing about people's issues and needs, without it affecting you.
Having someone to talk to is important, and someone that understands.
 
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And health professionals need support too. No way you can do that day after day, hearing about people's issues and needs, without it affecting you.
Having someone to talk to is important, and someone that understands.
Yes, and vicarious trauma is real. It's not even evidence-based to make health professionals (especially mental health who work with trauma-informed care practice focus) take that many appointments in a day.
Pretty sure all the research says that is too much vicarious trauma.

It just sucks, because so many idealistic people go into the caring fields, but the agency beaurocracy, and the way everything is set up, is just garbage.
 
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Cash/tips > gifts always are better; they can pay bills/for food (esp if it seems she is struggling) + lots of wishlist sites are not the most cost effective ways of shopping. I just have viewers tip me if they want to get me something and then I keep up with them after and am very generous with free try-on pics + free samples of content I shoot in the future with the item.

The highest payout site is the best for her, you’ve gotten some good advice on how to find her, also check her bios carefully if you are watching on a site that allows a link tree like thing.

Congrats on the new job & improving your $ situation … you don’t need to feel this guilt/it’s okay to be honest about having a period of unemployment. I guarantee almost every cam model can understand that! Also important is that you chill on expecting a ton of interaction while you are unable to pay. Like, you typed a LOT here so maybe you are over-chatting?
 
4 individual 1-hour sessions for me, but i avoid the insurance getting a cut and pay my therapist's cash price directly.
Well that is nice, I'm sure they appreciate you for that. I hope you find benefit from it.
 
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