LMFAO at the people who talk about cam sites as if they are dating sites. WTF are they even talking about? Are you going to get a date? No. Are you going to ever touch or know her real name? No. Note the difference here: you WANT to know about her, because she's good at portraying the fantasy, which is her job. She, on the other hand, does NOT actually want to know about you, except to the point her asking makes you tip her more. She tells you what she WANTS you to know about her - which part is truth, and which is made up, you'll never know, nor is it your right to know.
The thing is, there are the type of people who are so in demand because of their looks and personality, that others pay them simply for the IDEA of dating them, just to get a glimpse of their body part or sound effect, or a shard of the fantasy of what it would be like to sleep with or date that person for a few minutes. That every day they log on and more and more people pay them just for the privilege of looking, or having a little interaction. That even when they have a hard day, may not look their best or be the most entertaining, there are still people out there who desire them and enjoy their company.
And then there are the type of people whom no one pays or ever would pay, and whose personalities suck so much that no one even wants to talk to them - even when they are PAYING others for the privilege of talking. Who tolerate it just because they really need the pennies.
It's pretty clear on this page who falls into which category. There are people who pay year after year for fantasy sex, simply because they can't get meaningful interaction in real life. And they can keep chasing that fantasy that they're going to be the 1 in 1,000,000 who actually dates the cam girl... and yet here they are, year after year with their puking personality and still no cam wife, insulting everyone they talk to, complaining about the reality that they alone cannot see. One could feel sorry for this type of person, except that they are not kind at all, not emotionally intelligent at all, not helpful at all, not engaging or likeable or pleasant to be around. And so who gives a shit.
The latter is the kind of person I take money from, and then fairly soon have the common sense to block from my page altogether, because really, who has time for that kind of negativity or darkness in the world? No one in a million years, who is in very high demand worldwide in the hetero dating scene, would ever date in a real life an internet troll who is full of disrespect, delusion, and self-entitlement. Who doesn't even have the common sense to understand how the cam job works, and after years of viewing her do it, still can't be bothered to figure it out.
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It's kind of a shocking compliment though, that someone can insist this is not a fantasy. That you really think I am that charming, that beautiful, that wonderful and perfect in real life. Instead of the reality, which is that I am dealing with a life-threatening illness, that I use tricks with makeup and lighting and camerawork to make myself look healthy and like I'm having an awesome time talking to you, and that I'm actually more on the side of gay so really don't give a shit about your dick or any other part of you in my own sexual/dating life. That guys who want me are a dime a dozen, more who log on every day. But in real life, I don't even sleep with guys... and why would I want to, when every day I see the worst of their gender in my face, spewing superficialism, assuming I'm not a person, or that I'm only the person they WANT me to be, clearly having no idea how female sexuality works whatsoever, being totally socially and emotionally inept, and/or being outright disrespectful/vile/offensive for no reason. You never see it from our side. The endless attempts at sending gross dick pics. The endless lame pickup lines. The pittance tips coupled with arduous demands. The creepy and dehumanizing fetishes, always trying to skirt site rules and international laws. The constant, overwhelming entitlement from hundreds of people a day - like they all own a right to your body, your "truth," your future, your real name.
You're not special - you're one of thousands we interact with every month. And we can sniff out your shitty attitude in a heartbeat, even through the lame compliments and sad tips. The reality is, guys who are worth dating can get a girl in real life. They don't spend their whole life on cam sites, telling themselves over and over it's a dating site despite all the models telling him the opposite. He does not listen to or respect women, even when beautiful women are in his face giving him the time of day, telling him the truth. Such a guy is not at all sexy, or a draw. Models in a room will tell you anything, will let you think you have a chance because that pays for their hospital bills, which you will never know about. But models here on the forum, especially those who are anonymous and don't have any public image to uphold by their comments, will tell you the truth. You're not a customer. There is no incentive to lie here. Camming sells a fantasy. I don't cam just so I can one day meet a "big tipper" who somehow will become my real life Prince Charming/Richard Gere. The idea that you will go down on me on a piano is not going to lead you to "getting me out of the life." You're not my rescuer. You're just one in a long string of men in my life who has wanted to buy me,control me, be the center of my world, without actually listening to what I really want, what actually makes me happy. What makes me happy is being independent. And fantasizing about the women I've been in love with, who are the total opposite of you - which is when I do my best work, because I'm really convincing at being loving, turned on, etc, when I'm acting and using a real life scenario in my head as my motivation. It's just that that scenario has got nothing to do with you.
Common sense says that women who get paid to be a "girlfriend experience" are not a real girlfriend. But then, common sense is sorely lacking in this world.
I have a tremendous amount of love to give in my real life. I am very caring, yes VERY flexible, very sexual, talented in various areas that are marketable skills in regular jobs... but to be honest, I don't respect someone who pays me to show them my body parts, or who has endless time in their own day to show up day after day online, year after year to keep paying me to have a relationship with them. All my best qualities, are going to go to heaping affection on the type of person who has their own great qualities, who is my equal, who has a real in-person life that is not only online. Someone who also can work a range of jobs, and get a range of in-person partners if they so chose, just like I can. If I have a million applicants for the job of my partner, why would I choose the one who has poor interpersonal skills, ranks low on the I-would-pay-just-to-see-their-body-or-watch-their-personality scale, and refuses to even understand the realities of my life? Someone who is not even sophisticated enough to realize that "whores be whoring...", if I could put it that way, lol!
Members, cam models don't want you. They're not impressed with your dick size, or your sad bragging,or your white knight delusions. There will always be another guy after you with a bigger dick, a deeper wallet, or better yet - a kinder heart. You are chasing a dream with about the same likelihood of you becoming a top international pro athlete- that's why it's a fantasy. I like the intelligent tippers, who understand the nature of the transaction, and pay for their day's entertainment and walk away.The guys who I specifically do NOT like or respect? The ones who think them paying to jack off on the internet is somehow a positive mark on their application to make me ever want to date them in real life. I'm not impressed with socially or emotionally stupid guys. Yes, I'm technically bi, but the men who got to sleep with me in real life, would laugh you right off the internet. They had something real going on in their lives to draw me to them - not just some pocket change to pay to see strangers' titties. They're the kind of guys who women show their breasts to for free, in person in real life, because they exude kindness, respect, emotional intelligence, academic intelligence, and also a bit of physical attractiveness to boot. They are an equal to the cam model, and they worked hard to be that kind of person, just like she did, so they understand her.
Guys who want the easy way out, who don't work on themselves to be a catch but think they can pay to make someone feel attracted to them... THAT's the fantasy. Doesn't matter how long you spend talking to her online, or how much change you drop over the years... if anything, that just makes a lot of us respect you less, rather than more. People who have something going on in real life don't have to do that kind of thing to get a good woman. They're too busy treating real women in their actual life with love and kindness and respect, to give internet chicks the time of day. They're too busy caring less about her physical perfection, than actually connecting to her real thoughts and personality... which will be here long after the mainstream physical attractiveness is gone.
That said, another female model who wants to come in and tip me, maybe she has a chance... haha!
But I'm also not dumb enough to believe the fantasy they sell is real, either!
Still, one can dream! *sigh*
I get loving cam models. Hell, I've got crushes on a number of them too! I tip them, I favorite them, all that, because I respect what skilled entertainers some of them are, how well-crafted and sweet their online personas.
I DON'T get thinking they're legit into you.
Why WOULD she?
1. She's an actress for a living.
2. Are you the kind of person who has such an attractive body and personality that hundreds of people pay you money just to look at you or talk to you for a few minutes? No? Ok then. (Then you're not her equal, and she can do way better than you in real life. That's not snobby. It's just true. Dating is all about what you bring to the table. A few coins and same lame conversation ain't gonna do it. You know she's interested when she would pay YOU just to hear you talk... Oh, but the $ only ever goes one way, doesn't it?)
