What you're describing isn't a fantasy. Like I said, I think it's widespread that cam girls feel like they have some kind of license to mislead and manipulate members because it's "not real". There are real people on both sides. There may be fantasy involved in some part of what goes on, but the two people talking to each other are not imaginary.
There may be some variation depending on the site, but cam girls going to conventions and meeting members, holding date raffles, and dating guys they met through the site is very common. There are plenty of posts on this forum that attest to it.
It is important for all involved to make a distinction between what's "part of the job" and what isn't. That shouldn't be complicated, because if you tip for it, it's part of the job. Cam girls pretending they're some kind of fictional character when they're on cam, and everything they say can or should be fake, is very messed up.
I am slightly confused here. You seem very offended at the fantasy aspect, yet you completely rejected Audri's very real point about fantasy. What she said was the fantasy, even if you don't want to acknowledge it. To dismiss her valid point is confusing to me.
So I can't help but wonder: what truth are you looking for?
The truth that not all camgirls are turned on by 100% of their members 100% of the time? That some of your dicks are so gross and ugly and you make weird faces and please stop licking the cam and pretending it's my clit because that's weird as fuck and I'm somehow supposed to be aroused by that? Do you want camgirls to be honest about how crushing and awful the bad days are, when the tips aren't coming in and you are filled with fear that your regulars have forgotten you and you feel like a failure? Do you want the truth that camgirls log in to try to be entertaining, even when they have migraines or killer cramps or they are just absolutely fucking exhausted from camming for the seventh day in a row without a break. That every spare moment of the day is spent camming or doing camming related work - off-time is a rare thing, and even then, you can't actually relax enough to enjoy it? Or how if you admit to your regulars that you have a lover, some of the ones that you care about will act as if you have personally wounded them, offended and enraged and they lash out with cruel words and they stop tipping completely? Do you want to know about the ones who are mothers just trying to take care of their kids or the ones who battle severe mental illness or the ones who have to pretend they aren't coping with chronic illness that make every shift hard to battle through?
The truth isn't sexy. You can be offended at the fantasy all night long, but the truth is... 99.99% of actual paying members don't want reality. They enjoy the fantasy. If every camgirl became an honest an accurate version of themselves... The tips would dry right the hell up. No members would be having fun. And honestly? It isn't fun to always be truthful. Sometimes, it feels really nice to live in a fantasy world for a little while, where everything is fun and positive and happy and sexy. Sometimes, just pretending to feel that way can make it true for a while. Many members come to camrooms in order to escape reality for a little while, for some smiles and laughter and sexy moments - which means all of that unfun truth stuff would burst everyone's bubble.
I'm not trying to paint the picture that every camgirl is faking their happiness or that they don't have genuine fun on cam or that they don't genuinely care about their regulars. I'm just saying that there are plenty of bad days to go with the good days, and it's our job to pretend otherwise. For every trait you adore about a camgirl, there's probably a not-so-fun trait that wouldn't really get the boners going. So we don't share them. We bring the fantasy of a good and happy and sexy corner of the world for others to enjoy, and not let the negative aspects of our days or selves affect the fun of others.
I am curious about what truth you want? Do you want their real name? Their address? Their family history? What exactly do you feel you aren't getting from camgirls? Which fantasy aspect is so offensive to you? In this line of work, being too honest is effing dangerous, both in regards to physical safety and emotional wellbeing. I've seen some models genuinely give themselves, their honest selves to their members... And all too often, they burn out. It's exhausting to give and give and give and give, 24/7. To give their time and energy and attention, as well as true intimacy and vulnerability. And then they have nothing left to give, and have to leave the industry. Those who can give their true selves all of the time are pretty rare, in my experience. And there's nothing wrong with that.
Honestly... I think it's entitled as hell to expect an entertainer to give you all their true self. You already get the bodies of the cam-girls. You get the conversations, the DMs, the attention, their time. You get their videos and photosets and twitter thoughts and true moments of laughter and fun. You get their orgasms and you get a real live STUNNING woman who will go into private and make YOUR wild fantasies come true, and watch you stroke and orgasm. Why do you feel as if you deserve their innermost thoughts and feelings too? Why aren't they allowed to keep anything to themselves? You aren't paying for honesty. You are paying to be entertained, you are paying to get attention from a beautiful girl, and sometimes, you are paying to cum. That's what your tokens get, and no member is entitled to any more.
If dudes want a true and honest experience, balanced with the fun moments and the awful moments, filled with complete emotional intimacy as well as the physical connection... That's what girlfriends are for, not camgirls. Expecting a camgirl to be the emotional girlfriend to every single customer who comes into their room, regular or not... Good lord, I'm exhausted just thinking about it.
(I apologize ahead of time for any typos! I'm just now drinking my morning coffee, so I'm sure more than a few slipped through!)
For real though, you (general you, not specific JJTP you) have to realize that they put that there because they know guys will spend more money when they think they have a shot at meeting, fucking, or dating one of the chicks. It's no different than the cam performers who lead users on.
