How to tell if the cam girl you met somewhere else is really intersted in you?

[gopackgo12380]

How do you tell if the lady you met that works as a cam model is really interested in you? I met this lady on tinder and chatted on instagram with her real name (goes by different name on her site) and we chatted about life (our families, jobs, histories, and etc). I have done a few of her shows (private) and we chat most days on telegram (5 out 7 days) and I’m not looking to be client. I’m looking for an actual relationship and I was wondering if I’m being played. We only been chatting for a few weeks and I like her but don’t have much investment in yet. I’m trying to get insight to see if I should continue, wait and see, or leave if ishe’s wants me as client. I know she’s in my local area because I have checked her out before (online background check) and I don’t care what she’s does for her job I just don’t want to be client but an actual boyfriend/partner and any insight would be appreciated. Just let me know what you think and I’ll your questions when I can. Thank you for your time and have a good day.

 

[MiaSarah]

Oh no. No, no, no, no no. You are paying for shows, you are a client.

 

[NotYou]

Just think, if you were dating really, would you be paying for "shows" with her? I understand buy dinner and other things but that is very much different to paying for shows to be with her.
The answer is no, or if you're saying yes to the above question, you are "dating" an escort or prostitute because you're paying for her time.

It's really that simple: you're buying her private shows.

 

[yummybrownfox]

How do you tell if the lady you met that works as a cam model is really interested in you? I met this lady on tinder and chatted on instagram with her real name (goes by different name on her site) and we chatted about life (our families, jobs, histories, and etc). I have done a few of her shows (private) and we chat most days on telegram (5 out 7 days) and I’m not looking to be client. I’m looking for an actual relationship and I was wondering if I’m being played. We only been chatting for a few weeks and I like her but don’t have much investment in yet. I’m trying to get insight to see if I should continue, wait and see, or leave if ishe’s wants me as client. I know she’s in my local area because I have checked her out before (online background check) and I don’t care what she’s does for her job I just don’t want to be client but an actual boyfriend/partner and any insight would be appreciated. Just let me know what you think and I’ll your questions when I can. Thank you for your time and have a good day.

So if she's honest with you and tells you that she doesn't want to date you/be your girlfriend, you're gonna stop visiting/spending money on her on cam just like that?

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Models using tinder to advertise is super super common. She's not "playing you" as much as she was looking for clients on tinder. She found one. You're a client.

Title of thread asks:

How to tell if the cam girl you met somewhere else is really intersted in you?​

Answer is, stop communicating on cam site, tell her you're looking for a real relationship and will not pay for her services anymore. That's how you tell.

 

[Lintilla]

I've met guys on Tinder, and for the most part I've told them what I do before meeting. What I didn't tell them, however, was my cam name. And I certainly wouldn't have let them pay me for a show...

I also don't spend a few weeks chatting with someone online in my local area if I'm actually interested in dating them (I mean, with the current someone I did, but there was this whole lockdown thing happening).

Gonna agree with the others here--you are literally a client, since you're paying her, and chances are you're not much more.

 

[GoddessV]

Maybe I missed it (it's late here) but you started doing shows with her after you met on tinder? Or you recognized her as one of the camgirls you played with previous to meeting on tinder?

These are two very different experiences. If your cam shows came after meeting on tinder - you are a client. If they came before tinder, proceed with caution. Most people who are looking for a relationship would not have shows/client relationship with potential suitors in this manner.

 

[rockin_rod]

If you met on Tinder but she won't go on a real date, then she's not looking for an IRL relationship, whereas you are.
Swipe left.

 

[KenzieCams]

I use my real info on tinder and disclose what I do to potential dates, but I don't give them my cam info and I'm upfront that I'm looking for a bf not another fan.

 

[AudriTwo]

if you aren't looking to be her client then stop.


in the future if you meet a camgirl on a dating site and she manages to direct you to her camsite, chances are she's hustling you. also it could be a fake name. have a friend who hustles a lot on dating apps with fake names. when she gets banned, she creates a new fake name and changes her vpn location. it's gotten to the point where she has been using fantasy name generators for the lols.

 

[gopackgo12380]

So if she's honest with you and tells you that she doesn't want to date you/be your girlfriend, you're gonna stop visiting/spending money on her on cam just like that?

I would be fine with it and I would consider her a friend and chat with her and visit her site (not nesacarely have put on a show espically after finding someone to be with) and go from there.

 

[gopackgo12380]

I use my real info on tinder and disclose what I do to potential dates, but I don't give them my cam info and I'm upfront that I'm looking for a bf not another fan.

That what she did and she says whe’s taking it slow after some bad relationships, but I very niave in this area so I just looking for advice without outing her since her family doesn’t know.

 

[AudriTwo]

That what she did and she says whe’s taking it slow after some bad relationships, but I very niave in this area so I just looking for advice without outing her since her family doesn’t know.

why would you ever out her?

 

[gopackgo12380]

why would you ever out her?

I would never do that. No knows that can say anything legally.

 

[gopackgo12380]

Maybe I missed it (it's late here) but you started doing shows with her after you met on tinder? Or you recognized her as one of the camgirls you played with previous to meeting on tinder?

These are two very different experiences. If your cam shows came after meeting on tinder - you are a client. If they came before tinder, proceed with caution. Most people who are looking for a relationship would not have shows/client relationship with potential suitors in this manner.

I did after we met on tinder and moved to Instagram and continued after moving the chats over to telegram.

 

[gopackgo12380]

I thank you all for your advice and suggestions. I will see what she’s wants tomorrow and proceed with according to what she wants. If she wants what I’mm looking for and we can meet sometime soon we will with no problems and if not I will see her has a friend and continue to look for a potential partner somewhere else. I won’t be talking about her job with anyone else (that can’t legally discuss this situation publicly anyways) and respect her choice. If you have any other advice or suggestions feel free to post as I will still check in everyonce in while to see what you all think. Thanks again and have a good and safe day.

 

[MallorieReese]

Oh no, no boo, you might want to be in a relationship with her, but if you two met on Tinder and then proceeded to you paying for her shows, you are a client. If you really want to test whether she thinks you are boyfriend material, tell her the truth. Tell her you are looking for a real relationship and not an online one. Then stop visiting her chatroom or talking to her. If she reaches out to you, she is interested in you as well. If she doesn't, she just wanted you to be a client. Stay safe.

 

[gopackgo12380]

I have a update and clarifactions. We don’t chat on her site (ImLive), but on telegram for free. I have done a few partial show tell recently when I did her full show. She shares personal things with me and has mentioned me to her close family (aunt/not mother since she would ask to many questions right now). I know she’s using her real name with me because when we first started I ran several online background checks and her family, location, and her came back as real (age was wrong but they got me down as being born before my mom was so no biggie). She shares things I’m guessing you don’t share with other clients. She says she sees me as a client but as much more, but she‘s been through abusive relationships in the past in her home country (Columbia) and she wants to take her time. The other night she had a very bad client experience and was triggered (PTSD) and she contacted me for support and we chatted tell she calmed down a bit that night. The next night I wasn’t able to pay for a show (banking issues to no ones suprise here) and I stayed up and chatted to support her through her shift so she can pay her aunt’s medical bills. So I’m techincally her client for now but her favorite (she has feeling for me but is scared for obvious reasons) and we have started to discuss first date plans when she is ready, but will likely move to something more (relationship) when she is comfortable which is fine by me. If you guys have any suggestions to help her improve her business it would be helpful since she’s getting pressure from her bosses to meet her goals or she will be terminated and she needs the money for her Aunt right now. Thanks again for your input and I wish you all the best of luck in persueing your careers.

 

[gopackgo12380]

Oh I forgot to mention I rarely do shows (at most 5 in a little over month time and after my next one I won’t be able to do one for awhile) and she doesn’t have a problem with it to much unless she needs me for emotional support/see me and she doesn’t know what the policy is for ImLive for partners but she will look into it when/if we become a item.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Oh I forgot to mention I rarely do shows (at most 5 in a little over month time and after my next one I won’t be able to do one for awhile) and she doesn’t have a problem with it to much unless she needs me for emotional support/see me and she doesn’t know what the policy is for ImLive for partners but she will look into it when/if we become a item.

ImLive certainly can't forbid a model from dating a customer in her personal life. However she needs to be careful in what she says to you over the ImLive platform, because they are very strict about not wanting models to discuss other sites with the members, and not exchange e-mail addresses/personal info with customers over their platform. She could get her account suspended or banned for that.

I remember when they were giving models warnings just for having the term "school girl" in their profile (I was one of them). It had to be edited to specify that I offered "18+ up" school girl sessions.

 

[ElektraDivine]

I know she’s using her real name with me because when we first started I ran several online background checks and her family, location, and her came back as real (age was wrong but they got me down as being born before my mom was so no biggie).

You ran SEVERAL background checks?! Wtf. Even 1 is a ridiculous thing to do to someone. That's creepy as fuck.

 

[rockin_rod]

You ran SEVERAL background checks?! Wtf. Even 1 is a ridiculous thing to do to someone. That's creepy as fuck.

^ This. If she has been in abusive relationships before, the last thing she needs now is someone controlling that runs background checks on her.

 

[AudriTwo]

I get running background checks if you have young children... But omg dude. Too much.

Im trying to be nice because you are new with relationships, but you haven't even been on a date yet. You do background checks if you are getting joint bank accounts or cosigning a loan.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

You're still paying for shows and visiting her at work. That needs to stop completely for u to have any idea if it's real.

There are many models who blend personal details/emotional support with emotional manipulation.

She found u on a dating site, so she knows exactly what you're looking for and she is using all those hot buttons to play into that in order to get u to keep buying shows. She knows u want a relationship so she's walking a line telling u "oh I want to but I'm scared " :I need money (for sob story)" "I see u as a client (keep paying me) but also we could be more (dangling the carrot to keep u hooked)." She's feeding u free chats on Telegram etc to keep u hooked. Even the calling when she had a ptsd episode..

I know it feels real. I also know you really really want it to be real. She is manipulating you.

Here are some things u said that paint a very clear picture. You are being played.

and she wants to take her time.

I’m techincally a client for now but her favorite (she has feeling for me but is scared for obvious reasons)

She says she sees me as a client but as much more,

her aunt’s medical bills

she’s getting pressure from her bosses to meet her goals or she will be terminated

 

[Makko]

OMG, haven't you read all those "in love with camgirl stories? I mean really?
Says to you you're special, has family medical bills, wants to meet you. The only difference is that you first met her on a dating site and somehow lured you into paying for shows.

Don't be a white knight. She may have a dozen of those, all telling them the same story.
In your first message you ask if you're being played. Yes you (most likely) are. If you really want a true relationship, go back to that dating site and find someone who's interested in YOU and not in your wallet.

 

[AudriTwo]

Also 99% you getting marinated with a hustle, but whatevs. Most cammodels don't lure people they think about dating onto their camsites. Usually they date them. Like why go a dating site if you aren't interested in getting into a relationship or dating... it's weird and not respectful of other people's time.

 

[Marceline]

Just wanted to echo something that’s already been said here so maybe it will get across to OP:

I use dating apps. I’m open about what I do for a living, but I never ever give out my stage name or what sites I work on. I think it’d be weird and potentially dangerous to do so. Also, if I’m into a guy I’m not going to make him pay to interact with me or get nudes from me. Again, that’d be weird. Aaaannddd, I generally only wait a few days at most to meet up with someone after I first start talking to them if I like their vibe and am interested.

So yeah, it seems like all she is looking for is clients. Since that’s not what you’re looking for then your best bet is to move on and find another girl on Tinder who is looking for the same thing that you are.

 

[thehills]

 

[Mike637]

You most understand that this is a job, they have lifes and 99% of the models have boyfriends, they are interested in your wallet, nothing else

 

[rickyla]

I have a update and clarifactions. We don’t chat on her site (ImLive), but on telegram for free. I have done a few partial show tell recently when I did her full show. She shares personal things with me and has mentioned me to her close family (aunt/not mother since she would ask to many questions right now). I know she’s using her real name with me because when we first started I ran several online background checks and her family, location, and her came back as real (age was wrong but they got me down as being born before my mom was so no biggie). She shares things I’m guessing you don’t share with other clients. She says she sees me as a client but as much more, but she‘s been through abusive relationships in the past in her home country (Columbia) and she wants to take her time. The other night she had a very bad client experience and was triggered (PTSD) and she contacted me for support and we chatted tell she calmed down a bit that night. The next night I wasn’t able to pay for a show (banking issues to no ones suprise here) and I stayed up and chatted to support her through her shift so she can pay her aunt’s medical bills. So I’m techincally her client for now but her favorite (she has feeling for me but is scared for obvious reasons) and we have started to discuss first date plans when she is ready, but will likely move to something more (relationship) when she is comfortable which is fine by me. If you guys have any suggestions to help her improve her business it would be helpful since she’s getting pressure from her bosses to meet her goals or she will be terminated and she needs the money for her Aunt right now. Thanks again for your input and I wish you all the best of luck in persueing your careers.

This cam model wouldn't happen to have met on a dating site, and her name starts with an E ends with an uz wouldn't it?