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This is a very generic question and it came to my mind a few days ago. A model a few years back became my friend and I soon found out she lied to me about a lot of things. Then a few months ago a different model became obsessed with me and lied to me that she loved me when I had this major feeling she didn't and after checking she said that a lot to a lot of members I just wondered if this is common place or not?
 
genttristan said:
Hi

This is a very generic question and it came to my mind a few days ago. A model a few years back became my friend and I soon found out she lied to me about a lot of things. Then a few months ago a different model became obsessed with me and lied to me that she loved me when I had this major feeling she didn't and after checking she said that a lot to a lot of members I just wondered if this is common place or not?

A good webcam approach from both ends: "One is neither coercively manipulated into another's territorial reality nor forced to struggle against it with reciprocal game-playing (the usual soap opera dramatics). One simply elects, consciously, whether or not to share the other's reality tunnel."
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MintyFlowers said:
For safety reasons, yes I lie about some things.

And for the whole "I love you@ thing... Maybe she loves you as a friend?

So cute :)
 
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:angry4: I just fucking hate it when a model becomes obsessed with me! :angry4:

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Shutterbuck said:
:angry4: I just fucking hate it when a model becomes obsessed with me! :angry4:

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Yeah, god dam those bitches! I mean all I do is lurk around rooms filling up the room chat with inane shit, then like, I decided to tip for pm and she actually started pming me! And now every time I try and lurk in her room she pm's me saying "hi". Chick is obsessed.

As for lying, well, technically almost every single thing a model does on cam is a lie.
Do women sit around the house scantily dressed/naked with full make up on? No. I'm sorry to burst your bubble guys, but that'd be both very cold and also terrible for your skin!
Do models actually get that excitable and happy when they're working? No. Many model really enjoy their jobs, and sometimes camming genuinely can be super fun, but for the most part it's just for show.
Do we really scream loudly and writhe around while masturbating? Hell no. That's all just for your benefit guys! I masturbate like a ninja!
Do we really enjoy blowjobs so much that we like to suck dildos when real cock isn't available? Mmm no, I love giving head, but not on toys so much.

Though these things aren't lies so much, they are also acting out a fantasy. They are not real. Camgirls are real people, but the person you get to know is only a small part of that person. Just the same as a waitress in a restaurant will be nice to you, wait on you, clear up for you and laugh at your jokes, but that same waitress also can't wait to curl up in bed and is nothing like her waitress self when she's at home.

As for many other things, well, some lies are for safety, like names, locations etc. This is essential. Other lies are for business, like how much we might love deepthroating or how we much prefer older men to guys our age. Those things might be true, but they are also things a camgirl might say to appease her audience and draw them in.

Some girls will say they love regulars, even if they just mean as a friend. Remember there may be a generation/culture gap. In my generation we tell everyone that we love them. I say it regularly to all of my friends. I say it less on mfc because of the implications, but it doesn't mean it's not true. Loving someone and being in love with them are also different things. I basically wouldn't read into anything a camgirl says along these lines too much. What you have is an online friendship, nothing more (though some models do genuinely fall for members, I'm assuming by your levels of distrust this isn't true in your situation). Of course she could be trying to draw you in/make you fall in love with her so you'll get attached and spend all your money on her. Most models don't do this, but it's not unheard of.
 
Isabella_deL said:
Some girls will say they love regulars, even if they just mean as a friend. Remember there may be a generation/culture gap. In my generation we tell everyone that we love them. I say it regularly to all of my friends. I say it less on mfc because of the implications, but it doesn't mean it's not true. Loving someone and being in love with them are also different things. I basically wouldn't read into anything a camgirl says along these lines too much. What you have is an online friendship, nothing more (though some models do genuinely fall for members, I'm assuming by your levels of distrust this isn't true in your situation). Of course she could be trying to draw you in/make you fall in love with her so you'll get attached and spend all your money on her. Most models don't do this, but it's not unheard of.

So it's like this, basically:

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I think of it more as fulfilling a fantasy. I should hope that guys know that not everything I do on camera is completely genuine (how can it be all the time?), and I don't think that's any big secret.

I do blatantly lie about my real name and I change some details of my life when I talk about it on cam for safety reasons, which I think anyone can understand. I don't think I'd ever tell a member that I loved them, unless it was just something they wanted to hear for a price and were totally aware that it's all part of a show or a facade.

I recently had a guy tell me "I realised that I could never truly be your friend because all you care about is money!" after I refused to sex him for free. On a day I had class and was pretty busy. He'd recently become a bit of a regular and had treated my pretty well, so we were getting to know each other. I guess he thought that meant he was entitled to my services at a discount, and that I was lying about being his friend if I didn't give that to him. Sigh.
Sometimes men forget that this is our job.
 
I "lie" when a member asks me something that is out of bounds information.

I "lie" when someone asks me a question expecting to get an answer that will turn them on. Like for example, I don't really give a damn about whether or not a guy has a big dick, but when someone is tipping for compliments, I'll give them one.

But I don't think I owe any internet dude the truth, I just use it because being yourself is the most effective way to interact? I think of it as playing a character, who is a lot like me only maybe a bit more sex-crazed. I can invent a reality for that character although, unless there is some reason not to, I answer questions with the truth and tell true stories in my room.
 
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Do I lie when it comes to something that would jeopardize my safety? Yes
But in general I like my regulars to get to know me for me, know my interests, likes and dislikes, know my humour etc.
So yes I am me to a certain extent.


But if a model is getting obsessed with her regulars then she is in the wrong job.
I adore my regulars and I appreciate all that they do for me but it stops there
 
What is an actual lie? Is it a lie when I'm only showing one side of myself, and not allowing the bitchiness to come through? Is it a lie when I don't really show people the side of me that thinks all people (including myself and everyone here) are idiots, just that some people are bigger idiots than others? Is it a lie that, even on a bad day, when I'm interacting with a customer irl or member on a cam site, I try to put the bad feelings aside and greet them with a smile? Or is that just good customer service?

Or do you mean just the words? Do you mean a model living in one state and saying another?

For just words, and direct answers to questions, I do my best to deflect rather than lie. If I'm lying, the lies will either be so out there that you'd better not be believing it, or said with a biting sarcasm if I'm not able to contain my inner bitch. BUT, if we're in private, and you paid for the show, I will do a bit of saying what I think you want to hear. Unless it's something creepy. (asking if I like sex with family members is going to get you banned, not me playing along). Is that lying, or is that playing along? I tend to think of it as roleplay.

But, we all lie every day. Every time, on a bad day, some random person asks how we are, we'll say "I'm fine", when we're not. So what's the big deal?
 
Some of the lies are so unintentionally hilarious and entertaining that I don't even mind it. Model appears to be in her late 30's but claims 24 on profile, entertaining. Models with degrees in "psycholligy", 20 year old lawyers, always entertaining.
 
Fonteyn said:
I recently had a guy tell me "I realised that I could never truly be your friend because all you care about is money!" after I refused to sex him for free.

Can't be friends with you because you won't sleep with him and you just care about money? Sounds logical...

Trying empathize with members whom are naive or don't think it thoroughly....

I would imagine the cam site setup really blurs the line between fantasy and reality for anyone who believes in greater potential for its use, rather than just as an entertainment source. I suppose if i were such a member watching women performing various sexual acts in front of an audience, would give off the false impression that the same women are open to sexual encounters with members. With as much interaction taking place, that false hope is almost an inevitable side effect.
 
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