i tried to talk to her like gentle men and not a horn dog who just wanted to see her naked
I'm not sure why some guys think that wanting to "get to know" a cam model makes them better than dudes that just want to see them naked. Cam models aren't online to make friends or meet dudes to hook up with, they are there to make money. Which is why....
she was kind of bewildered by why i even tipped her once
Seems really weird. I mean, it's like going into a bar and telling the bartender "I'm not here to drink, I'm just here to chat and get to know you" and then having them all happy if you eventually throw a buck their way. Which, trust me, would not be how that scenario would work out. But, hey, that could all be a part of her hustle.
Anyway, yes, there's very rare occurrences where cam models actually date their regulars. However, those things happen organically, whereas it seems like you were going on cam sites specifically to find someone who you might want to date. I could be wrong there, but that's just the vibe I'm getting, especially since in your other post you state you only recently met this girl. You shouldn't get your hopes up just because it has happened with other people.
If she really does like you, then she'll not want you to spend money on her in her room (personally, I wouldn't even want someone I'm interested in any sort of romantic way even hanging out in my room because it's just weird) and she won't treat you like a member. She will make it a point to chat with you offsite with no money whatsoever involved. Cam girls complimenting you doesn't mean anything. It's a way to make money. Yeah, sometimes those compliments can be true, but even still just because someone compliments your personality doesn't mean they are attracted to you or want to date you.