Thank you
@paige_orion for the effort of putting an elaborate comment like this. Happy birthday btw, if it's true!
However there's a couple of things that need to be addressed. You say 'job is just a job' isn't another misconception, because the intimacy is different and I agree, yeah, sure it's different but do you imagine yourself saying the same thing in regards to a contract killer? Would you still say - nevermind, it's just a job? My point is, whatever the job might be, it is just another thing that you willingly do as a human being and that has effect on your WHOLE life, it's not magically separated from all of the other things in your life. And if you are doing something on a regular basis for a couple of hours, it surely is going to affect your brain in certain ways, I feel like that's another point that you are missing here.
All in all, something being just a job shouldn't on itself be a good enough excuse for doing it, after all it's still part of reality so it has effects in all of the reality it is surrounded by, whether you like it or not.
And about intimacy, of course, I agree there is more to intimacy than just sex, I never said otherwise. The beautiful parts of it that you listed are there and a huge part of it, but sex for me is the cherry on the cake that completes it. It's just going to another level of intimacy, I wonder if you can relate to that. I felt that level personally, it was never everlasting, but when I had this intimate sexual connection, it made absolutely no sense to me to go sexual with somebody else at that time, because if the intimacy was there and I had sex - nothing could compare to that (and not having that would be settling for mediocrity).
So my question is, to the people who disagree - have you ever felt that level of intimacy I'm talking about?