Can a MFC model appear to be "AWAY" or offline for just one specific user?

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

Can a MFC model appear to be "AWAY" or offline for just one specific user?

I was wondering if this could be done because my girlfriend is a cam model and it's all still kinda new. We have full trust (supposedly) and I am not jealous AT ALL (anymore, I got over it, I know she loves me for real and we will probably get married one day soon). We have discussed things and shes has told me not to worry about anything she is always watching my cam even when some tips her to do something else so it really works out great because other are actually contributing to our excitement !!! But the thing here is I know she really respects my feeling a lot and doesn't want to make me feel bad or jealous so I know she will go out of her way to protect me and in doing so I think she might be telling me little white lies when she goes offline to "go to the bathroom" or "her boss needs to talk to her" (She's in a studio unfortunately)... I know she does Skype shows as well and I think that what she might be doing when she's away (and she's never gone for too long either, like 10 -20 min tops, once was like 45 min and blamed it on an issue with her boss but.....)... I still want to know if she can make it look like she's "away" and be giving a show to someones else. Now I know 100% she went away from me at one point tonight because when she sent me a message on the phone after we both shut it down I could see stuff on the floor that completely match the fetish of the username on someone who came into the room. So she definitely hid it from me (again for me protection) but she doesn't need to.. I'm only concerned about all of this because we are building a trusting relationship (we do live in separate countries at the moment) and I don't want her to feel like she has to hide anything from me at all. I don't want her to feel even any little bit of stress or like she has to juggle it all around. Just trying to make it all work even better. I tell her in many ways , many many different ways that I want and need her to be fully open and honest with me about everything and anything for the sake of building a stronger bond between us. Once again I am not jealous at all... She has more than proven she is in love with me and no body else. Even has proven that she does not speak to the others the way she does to me even though she is paid for flattery.... Everyday our relationship gets stronger. We talk on the phone 24/7 attempting to be as close as possible because we can't be together yet. And that in itself will be a process (emotionally painful too because we are in love and really need each other badly)....

So if you have any answers or comments about my questions here please feel free to help out with this.... And if you think I'm being scammed , you're jaded and I don't need to here it. If I get taken as the fool I'm a big person I can handle it... But after dozens of relationships I've got a feel for the game and I know she is telling me the truth about her feeling for me and her intentions...

Once again, got answers? Please respond.....

Thanks All.....

 

[AudriTwo]

My answer is i think you should probably throw away your router after you find a mental health provider to speak about this to. You are coming across as obsessed and its concerning. Im not trying to attack or make fun. This is coming from a place of genuine concern. Worried about you OP, please take care of yourself. Im also worried you maybe getting emotionally manipulated.


I think its possible you maybe getting hustled. What country is she in? Are you still interacting with her on cam and sending her money? Even if its small tips, any amount.

 

[rockin_rod]

Only you know the nature of your 'relationship', but it sounds like a distance situation; have you actually spent time with each other IRL (as opposed to screen time)?
How much do you really know about her?
How has she proven she is in love with me and no body else ?
Are the dozens of relationships also of a similar nature, i.e. with cam models? If so, that's a lot of situations that didn't endure, have you considered why that might be?
Given the question raised in this thread revolves around trust, I wouldn't share your assertion that I've got a feel for the game and I know she is telling me the truth

Please, take a step back, read the sticky threads here about relationships with cam models, and review your own circumstances.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Why are you watching her work if you're her bf. Lol

 

[MarieElise]

Can a MFC model appear to be "AWAY" or offline for just one specific user?

I don't think so, but it's not my main site, so I don't know it's functionality in any depth.

got answers?

There was more than one question?
Answers to what?

ETA; Every single one of these amateur porn sites (that I've ever been on) can and does have glitches. So it's my personal opinion that you are way overanalyzing and wasting your mental energy and time, but it's yours to do with what you wish. You May as well become a PI if you're gonna watch people that closely, then at least you can get paid for it

 

[MarieElise]

But after dozens of relationships

Also sorry to DP but after dozens of relationships wouldn't that put you at like age 100 or more lol? I guess what counts to me as a solid relationship must be different than to you because I usually don't count them if they are less than 5 years (2 at an absolute minimum).

 

[yummybrownfox]

Maybe my opinion on this will change in the future...but this is just one of the reasons I wouldn't even want to tell a guy I'm dating the specific name of the cam site and my model name (And my state would be blocked anyway). Too many ways that can backfire for the model. All it takes is for a one-time slip-up of accidentally blurting out something in her public chat, and now all these dudes know her real name. And the whole "watching her work" thing...yeah, I wouldn't like that. But I get that some couples would be cool with something like that, and feel that it's a must for them to share everything with each other. Lol.

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

My answer is i think you should probably throw away your router after you find a mental health provider to speak about this to. You are coming across as obsessed and its concerning. Im not trying to attack or make fun. This is coming from a place of genuine concern. Worried about you OP, please take care of yourself. Im also worried you maybe getting emotionally manipulated.


I think its possible you maybe getting hustled. What country is she in? Are you still interacting with her on cam and sending her money? Even if its small tips, any amount.

First of all YOU'RE NOT AS SMART AS YOU CLAIM. AND YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY ZERO AUTHORITY TO DIAGNOSE AND LABEL ANYONE AS HAVING A MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEM. DIDNT YOU READ MY LAST SEGMENT . WELL YOU ARE COMING ACROSSE AS THE "JADED" ONE THAT I ASKED NOT TO RESPOND, BUT OF COURSE YOU HAD TO BECAUSE YOU NEED THE ATTENTION.... SHE DOENT CARE IF I TIP HER OR NOT AND SHE SEE'S ME EVEN WHEN I DONT BECAUSE SHE WANTS TOO/HAS TOO (SO I GUESS SHES JUST AS OBSESSED AS I AM THEN). AND AS FAR YOU YOU CLAIMING TO BE CONCERNED...YOUR A LIAR! I'M A COMPLETE STRANGER THAT MADE A POST SO YOUR CLAIM OF BEING CONCERNED FOR ME IS A BIGGER RED FLAG ABOUT YOU THAN I'VE EVER GOTTEN FROM HER ABOUT ANYTHING ON ANY LEVEL... AND YES I DO TIP HER NOT TO GIVE HER MONEY OR TO INSURE HER ATTENTION IS ON ME BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE THIS HAS BECOME OUR WAY OF EXPRESSING OUR FEELING PHYSICALLY ASIDE FROM THE 24/7 COMMUNICATION FOR LITERALLY 50 DAYS IN A ROW NOW LOL .... YOU CAN JUST REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THIS POST OR I WILL CONTINUE TO BE AS HOSTILE TO YOU AS YOU WERE TO ME AND YOU WILL NOT WIN.... I NEED NOT PROVIDE YOU PERSONALLY WITH ANY OTHER DETAILS OF THE SITUATION BECAUSE I DON'T EVEN WANT TO SPEAK WITH ANYONE LIKE YOU LIKE I ORIGINALLY SAID !!!! AND DON'T TELL ME TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF CHECK YOURSELF FIRST....

 

[inertvolcano]

So inspired by your story, I'm going to show my full trust in you even though we're total strangers by believing that you know what you're doing, and you two are completely in love, and that this isn't a slow motion train wreck in progress.

First of all, I am not aware of any site where a model can set herself as away for just one member, and I don't know what purpose that functionality would serve. She could block you, but it doesn't sound like that's what's happening.

Second of all, you insist you have full trust and you're not jealous at all, but it sounds like you are analyzing every single thing she does for signs of deception. This weird idea that she's only setting you as away (which is an idea you completely invented just so you could worry about it), analyzing the items on her floor, etc. That's not full trust, and follows a pattern I know about of guys getting into a "relationship" with a cam model, driving themselves crazy by doubting every single thing she says and does, and then constantly forcing her to prove that she's not lying until either he or she gets sick of it and someone has a meltdown. Sounds like that's where you're headed to me.

I don't want to enable you in digging yourself further into a bad situation, but you say you're a big person who can handle it, so I'll say you'll never make it as a couple unless you can stop treating everything she's saying as a lie, and you leave what she's doing in her business to her and stop regarding it as something you need to pry into constantly to make sure she's reporting all of her activities to you.

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

Only you know the nature of your 'relationship', but it sounds like a distance situation; have you actually spent time with each other IRL (as opposed to screen time)?
How much do you really know about her?
How has she proven she is in love with me and no body else ?
Are the dozens of relationships also of a similar nature, i.e. with cam models? If so, that's a lot of situations that didn't endure, have you considered why that might be?
Given the question raised in this thread revolves around trust, I wouldn't share your assertion that I've got a feel for the game and I know she is telling me the truth

Please, take a step back, read the sticky threads here about relationships with cam models, and review your own circumstances.

YES LIKE I SAID WE SPEAK 24/7 OUT SIDE OF THE ROOM AND BECAUSE IT'S LONG DISTANCE WE BOTH SPEAK TO EACH OTHER ABOUT OUR DAILY WHEREABOUTS AND ACTIVITIES LIKE A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP BUT DO SO WITH THE INTENT OF ATTEMPTING TO BRIDGE THE DISTANCE GAP SO WE CAN FEEL CLOSER TO EACH OTHER. Sorry about the caps. I just gone done yelling at Miss perfect and positive above and still had them on . The dozens of relationships were not cam girls this is the first one and because we have spoken for hours and hours for a couple of months in an ongoing continual narrative that just keeps building I can see real true feeling and true intentions. She is Latin American thats all I will say because of all the geniuses in here that seem to already know the final answer so I will avoid the sterotyping that will certainly follow. And the game I'm referring to is relationships in general but this cam girl element through a whole new dynamic at me and this is the first time for this, but I understand the psychology of falling in love, how people believe they are doing so but yet self deluding themselves for various reasons, and when it is truly happening for real. I've been through the real more than once and this is happening the exact same except for this new element of the cams. And to add to my story long before this almost 2 years now I nearly married another South American who moved into the states all ready had her papers and well we wanted it but unfortunately just sometimes it doesn't always work out in the end, sad yes , but whatever , moved on. As far as reading the other threads yes I see similar threads over and over again and I also see who's posting them and the things they are saying are absolutely ridiculous what these people did when chasing these controlling women. My situation doesn't even slightly resemble that at all. I'm only attempting to findout something technical with the end intentoin of making her more comfortable and less stressed while respecting my feelings. But let me go back to this "Given the question raised in this thread revolves around trust, I wouldn't share your assertion that I've got a feel for the game and I know she is telling me the truth" Don't think just because you yourself have not been able to get a firm handle on this subject in life that nobody else has. This is just something new, I found this site, so I figured I shout out and see what happens. So far exactly what I expected. A bunch of know it all's with nothing positive to say........

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

Why are you watching her work if you're her bf. Lol

Ha lol um because if I'm in her room shes watching my cam the whole time and we both get off on it. And I'm tipping her sometimes as well. When I'm around it's her and I and the others are adding to our experience. And If I'm not around then she is strictly at work (even though she enjoys her job as she should and does her job very well to give people what they pay her for-and that's happiness. It that far above the limits your mind can stretch lol.... ???

 

[Deleted member 64633]

Why are you making her watch your cam when she's working?
Why are you obsessed with all the details of shows she gives to others? It's really none of your business, it's her work and she can do what she wants without someone supposedly in love with her watching over her shoulder - she already has that in her studio, Why do you make it even harder for her?

I got into this with my ex as we were supposed to be doing couple shows. Then he was always late or not in the mood and I had nothing else to do, so I said fine, I'll do it solo. He knew, obviously, the stage name, camsites I logged and verified us on, even the log in details. He said he isn't jealous and doesn't care what I do but guess what -he was jealous and did care. No matter what I said, he kept pushing for more details and I was very uncomfortable sharing other people's personal kinks and fetishes that I catered to. It wasn't because I was afraid he would blow up on me and be angry because I'm doing it(although he did that very very often, but im not afraid of him) , but because he kept being a pushy, nosey asshole.
If he backed off I might have had a sit down with him after a show and be like "omg you won't believe what someone asked me to do today...." obviously on my own, without sharing the username or too many details. But I couldn't, because after any show I did, he was almost waiting there for me and bombarded me with 1000 questions I did not want to answer. And when I didn't answer, his go to was " so, you're hiding stuff from me."
W T F ! No, I'm just uncomfortable discussing every single little thing I did through 6 hrs of working!
I was getting really frustrated that he kept being so nosey under the "I'm just curious what you do" excuse and when I did sometimes tell, the roof of the house caught fire because " I didn't agree you could do that" boy.... he kept standing at the door when he was at home and I was working and distracting me - I was for example in a middle of a pvt and he appeared at the door snooping and watching, when I noticed I obviously looked at him and the guy I was in a pvt noticed so he was like "aren't you alone"and when I said yeah I just looked at my dog he replied "well that's one tall dog then" left the pvt early so I lost about 20 min of money I could be getting for it and he left me a bad review that took me MONTHS to fix!
Made an account to stalk me and I didn't know for ages, then I found out because he started saying stuff like "saw you go to pvt today, what were you up to in there? " and other things that were obviously said during my long shifts by members and me and I even found out he was tipping for some stuff too, and it made me feel really freaking weird - we live together, why are you tipping me for flashes etc. when I am in bed naked with you every night like...get the hell outta here LOL.... well, now that account is banned..and I really hope there's no other accounts... He even went as far as logging into my accounts trying to snoop for information i wouldnt willingly give him. I found out as he accused me of doing something in a pvt I was only chatting about to a member, and didn't actually do it, but he wouldn't know would he as he was just reading the convo and didn't see what I did as it was a pvt...I changed all the log in details and booted him off my profiles, and well, hes an ex now


Leave the girl alone for fuck sake and let her work, and STOP WATCHING HER. And stop making her watch you! Let her concentrate on her work, gosh some men are really so freaking invasive. Does she watch over your shoulder when you're working? Imagine you working and she'd be either on a video call to you all day to see your every movement or even come visit you every time you go to work and stand there watching you like a hawk. You'd label her as a psycho and drop her like a hot potato.

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

I don't think so, but it's not my main site, so I don't know it's functionality in any depth.



There was more than one question?
Answers to what?

ETA; Every single one of these amateur porn sites (that I've ever been on) can and does have glitches. So it's my personal opinion that you are way overanalyzing and wasting your mental energy and time, but it's yours to do with what you wish. You May as well become a PI if you're gonna watch people that closely, then at least you can get paid for it

No that was the main question.. TY and yea I've been on MFC for a while and seen bunches of glitches from time to time... I'll agree with wasting my mental energy and the only reason for it is because it's still new enough and I'm asking a few questions still but at this point for her benefit not mine , if you read what I wrote a bit more closely.... But I'm not gonna give this or anything like this much of my thoughts beyond a certain amount. I'm actually spending more time writing here on this page than I think about it at all lol....But Thanks

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

Maybe my opinion on this will change in the future...but this is just one of the reasons I wouldn't even want to tell a guy I'm dating the specific name of the cam site and my model name (And my state would be blocked anyway). Too many ways that can backfire for the model. All it takes is for a one-time slip-up of accidentally blurting out something in her public chat, and now all these dudes know her real name. And the whole "watching her work" thing...yeah, I wouldn't like that. But I get that some couples would be cool with something like that, and feel that it's a must for them to share everything with each other. Lol.

I would never slip up and we never speak in public chat anyway..... And I'm not just watching her work as I stated in a reply above "if I'm in her room shes watching my cam the whole time and we both get off on it. And I'm tipping her sometimes as well. When I'm around it's her and I and the others are adding to our experience. And If I'm not around then she is strictly at work"..... We both like it....I just would like to know if shes hiding something from me not because I'm jealous I don't care what she does, it's her job. I just don't want her to feel that she even has to so she should feel no stress about anything ever... As far as how close on not close different people/couples get in relationships well I'm not gonna get into why people and the walls prevent them from going all the way....Boundaries sure, Respectability sure, but if you have to live with secrets and that's your normal way of being then well you've already slipped into a lower level of intimacy and will never achieve absolute candor with anyone... i guess not all are built for the real thing and sub par realities is the best the will ever get.... That's the norm for those types...

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

I would never slip up and we never speak in public chat anyway..... And I'm not just watching her work as I stated in a reply above "if I'm in her room shes watching my cam the whole time and we both get off on it. And I'm tipping her sometimes as well. When I'm around it's her and I and the others are adding to our experience. And If I'm not around then she is strictly at work"..... We both like it....I just would like to know if shes hiding something from me not because I'm jealous I don't care what she does, it's her job. I just don't want her to feel that she even has to so she should feel no stress about anything ever... As far as how close on not close different people/couples get in relationships well I'm not gonna get into why people and the walls prevent them from going all the way....Boundaries sure, Respectability sure, but if you have to live with secrets and that's your normal way of being then well you've already slipped into a lower level of intimacy and will never achieve absolute candor with anyone... i guess not all are built for the real thing and sub par realities is the best the will ever get.... That's the norm for those types...

And I hope your opinion does change on this at some point. You might feel more comfortable doing so if the right person came along and made you feel comfortable in doing so.....

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

Why are you making her watch your cam when she's working?
Why are you obsessed with all the details of shows she gives to others? It's really none of your business, it's her work and she can do what she wants without someone supposedly in love with her watching over her shoulder - she already has that in her studio, Why do you make it even harder for her?

I got into this with my ex as we were supposed to be doing couple shows. Then he was always late or not in the mood and I had nothing else to do, so I said fine, I'll do it solo. He knew, obviously, the stage name, camsites I logged and verified us on, even the log in details. He said he isn't jealous and doesn't care what I do but guess what -he was jealous and did care. No matter what I said, he kept pushing for more details and I was very uncomfortable sharing other people's personal kinks and fetishes that I catered to. It wasn't because I was afraid he would blow up on me and be angry because I'm doing it(although he did that very very often, but im not afraid of him) , but because he kept being a pushy, nosey asshole.
If he backed off I might have had a sit down with him after a show and be like "omg you won't believe what someone asked me to do today...." obviously on my own, without sharing the username or too many details. But I couldn't, because after any show I did, he was almost waiting there for me and bombarded me with 1000 questions I did not want to answer. And when I didn't answer, his go to was " so, you're hiding stuff from me."
W T F ! No, I'm just uncomfortable discussing every single little thing I did through 6 hrs of working!
I was getting really frustrated that he kept being so nosey under the "I'm just curious what you do" excuse and when I did sometimes tell, the roof of the house caught fire because " I didn't agree you could do that" boy.... he kept standing at the door when he was at home and I was working and distracting me - I was for example in a middle of a pvt and he appeared at the door snooping and watching, when I noticed I obviously looked at him and the guy I was in a pvt noticed so he was like "aren't you alone"and when I said yeah I just looked at my dog he replied "well that's one tall dog then" left the pvt early so I lost about 20 min of money I could be getting for it and he left me a bad review that took me MONTHS to fix!
Made an account to stalk me and I didn't know for ages, then I found out because he started saying stuff like "saw you go to pvt today, what were you up to in there? " and other things that were obviously said during my long shifts by members and me and I even found out he was tipping for some stuff too, and it made me feel really freaking weird - we live together, why are you tipping me for flashes etc. when I am in bed naked with you every night like...get the hell outta here LOL.... well, now that account is banned..and I really hope there's no other accounts... He even went as far as logging into my accounts trying to snoop for information i wouldnt willingly give him. I found out as he accused me of doing something in a pvt I was only chatting about to a member, and didn't actually do it, but he wouldn't know would he as he was just reading the convo and didn't see what I did as it was a pvt...I changed all the log in details and booted him off my profiles, and well, hes an ex now


Leave the girl alone for fuck sake and let her work, and STOP WATCHING HER. And stop making her watch you! Let her concentrate on her work, gosh some men are really so freaking invasive. Does she watch over your shoulder when you're working? Imagine you working and she'd be either on a video call to you all day to see your every movement or even come visit you every time you go to work and stand there watching you like a hawk. You'd label her as a psycho and drop her like a hot potato.

OK well you are definitely a psycho that needs to vent BUT NOT FUCKING ON ME YOU WONT!!!!!! DID YOU EVEN READ WHAT I WROTE AT ALL OR ARE YOU JUST LOOKING FOR ATTENTION TO VENT YOUR SHITTY EX AND YOUR CRAZY SELF. I DON'T MAKE HER WATCH MY CAMS ASSHOLE!!!! WE TALK ON THE PHONE 24/7 AND SHE CAN'T WAIT TO SEE ME AND WANTS AND NEEDS TO SEE ME (AND i HER) EVERYDAY WE POSSIBLY CAN. AND I NEVER SAID ONE THING THAT EVEN HINTED THAT I WAS CONCERNED ABOUT THE THINGS SHES DOING IN HER SHOWS WHETHER I'M THERE OR NOT...AND BTW I'VE ALREADY SEEN IT ALL.... I DON'T MAKE ANYTHING HARDER FOR HER AT ALL IT;S THE EXACT OPPOSITE AND SHE THANKS ME FOR MAKING IT EASIER FOR HER BECAUSE I SUPPORT HER UNCONDITIONALLY... GO TO ANOTHER POST AND VENT YOUR CRAP STORY THE FACT YOU CAMEE HERE AND SAID ALL THE GARBAGE WHICH IS OBVIOUSLY JUST A REFLECTION OF YOUR WHOLE LIFE AFTER I SPECIFICALLY SAID NOT TO SAY ANYTHING IF YOU YOU HAVE NOTHING POSITIVE TO SAY JUST GOES TO SHOW YOU ARE FUCKING LOONEY..... PROB WHY YOUR DOING CAMS TO BEGIN WITH... YOUR DEFINITELY NOT PUTTING YOURSELF THROUGH COLLEGE LIKE MY GIRL IS...... YOU AT THE END OF THE ROAD...... LEAVE AND NEVER SAY ANOTHER THING TO ME AGAIN. TAKE YOUR ROTTEN SOUL AWAY FROM ME.... GOOOOO..... AND BTW I'VE BEEN WATCHING CAMS FOR OVER A DECADE I ALREADY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR LIKE IN YOUR SHOWS. I WOULD HAVE NEVER TIPPED YOU A PENNY AND CLICKED RIGHT OFF OF YOUR CRAZY ASS... IF I EVEN STAY ON THE NEGATIVE SITE I WILL LEARN HOW TO BLOCK PEOPLE OR IM GONE.... YOU'RE ALL NUTS LOL

 

[rockin_rod]

Why are you making her watch your cam when she's working?
Why are you obsessed with all the details of shows she gives to others? It's really none of your business, it's her work and she can do what she wants without someone supposedly in love with her watching over her shoulder - she already has that in her studio, Why do you make it even harder for her?

I got into this with my ex as we were supposed to be doing couple shows. Then he was always late or not in the mood and I had nothing else to do, so I said fine, I'll do it solo. He knew, obviously, the stage name, camsites I logged and verified us on, even the log in details. He said he isn't jealous and doesn't care what I do but guess what -he was jealous and did care. No matter what I said, he kept pushing for more details and I was very uncomfortable sharing other people's personal kinks and fetishes that I catered to. It wasn't because I was afraid he would blow up on me and be angry because I'm doing it(although he did that very very often, but im not afraid of him) , but because he kept being a pushy, nosey asshole.
If he backed off I might have had a sit down with him after a show and be like "omg you won't believe what someone asked me to do today...." obviously on my own, without sharing the username or too many details. But I couldn't, because after any show I did, he was almost waiting there for me and bombarded me with 1000 questions I did not want to answer. And when I didn't answer, his go to was " so, you're hiding stuff from me."
W T F ! No, I'm just uncomfortable discussing every single little thing I did through 6 hrs of working!
I was getting really frustrated that he kept being so nosey under the "I'm just curious what you do" excuse and when I did sometimes tell, the roof of the house caught fire because " I didn't agree you could do that" boy.... he kept standing at the door when he was at home and I was working and distracting me - I was for example in a middle of a pvt and he appeared at the door snooping and watching, when I noticed I obviously looked at him and the guy I was in a pvt noticed so he was like "aren't you alone"and when I said yeah I just looked at my dog he replied "well that's one tall dog then" left the pvt early so I lost about 20 min of money I could be getting for it and he left me a bad review that took me MONTHS to fix!
Made an account to stalk me and I didn't know for ages, then I found out because he started saying stuff like "saw you go to pvt today, what were you up to in there? " and other things that were obviously said during my long shifts by members and me and I even found out he was tipping for some stuff too, and it made me feel really freaking weird - we live together, why are you tipping me for flashes etc. when I am in bed naked with you every night like...get the hell outta here LOL.... well, now that account is banned..and I really hope there's no other accounts... He even went as far as logging into my accounts trying to snoop for information i wouldnt willingly give him. I found out as he accused me of doing something in a pvt I was only chatting about to a member, and didn't actually do it, but he wouldn't know would he as he was just reading the convo and didn't see what I did as it was a pvt...I changed all the log in details and booted him off my profiles, and well, hes an ex now


Leave the girl alone for fuck sake and let her work, and STOP WATCHING HER. And stop making her watch you! Let her concentrate on her work, gosh some men are really so freaking invasive. Does she watch over your shoulder when you're working? Imagine you working and she'd be either on a video call to you all day to see your every movement or even come visit you every time you go to work and stand there watching you like a hawk. You'd label her as a psycho and drop her like a hot potato.

I cannot believe how controlling and insecure some guys can be........

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

So inspired by your story, I'm going to show my full trust in you even though we're total strangers by believing that you know what you're doing, and you two are completely in love, and that this isn't a slow motion train wreck in progress.

First of all, I am not aware of any site where a model can set herself as away for just one member, and I don't know what purpose that functionality would serve. She could block you, but it doesn't sound like that's what's happening.

Second of all, you insist you have full trust and you're not jealous at all, but it sounds like you are analyzing every single thing she does for signs of deception. This weird idea that she's only setting you as away (which is an idea you completely invented just so you could worry about it), analyzing the items on her floor, etc. That's not full trust, and follows a pattern I know about of guys getting into a "relationship" with a cam model, driving themselves crazy by doubting every single thing she says and does, and then constantly forcing her to prove that she's not lying until either he or she gets sick of it and someone has a meltdown. Sounds like that's where you're headed to me.

I don't want to enable you in digging yourself further into a bad situation, but you say you're a big person who can handle it, so I'll say you'll never make it as a couple unless you can stop treating everything she's saying as a lie, and you leave what she's doing in her business to her and stop regarding it as something you need to pry into constantly to make sure she's reporting all of her activities to you.

OK well this i will accept as good advice finally... The only one so far.... The so called prying is very short lived and only because I'm still very new at this new type of relationship. But to take that a step further I would never question her about anything at all. I don't need to. And the intent wasn't so much as for me to really needing to know what shes doing I just dont want her to have to lie to me about anything if she even is at all... I would never confront her because if and when she's ready to ever talk to me about those things then that will be fine but it's really not important at all... We are going on a very good path indeed. I will be making plans to go see her at some point soon and eventually she want to move to where I am when she finishes school.. The positive things you said is what is really going on overall.. She is EXTREMELY gratefull I am in her life accepting her for who and what she is and does without question at all. But you are right about trust. I do trust her and will be letting go of all stupidity in my head at a very quick pace. Pretty much as quick as I got used to the idea and realizing I was ok with her being a cam girl in general lol couple of days and im good... I think that secret to all thing exists within the positive so I'm gonna gleefully live open minded and in trust because it is the best way to be.... Can blame me for being brand new at it all though... The fact I'm here seeking opinion just goes to show my attempts at fixing my thinking... Even some of the things the other said that were completely off gave me insight into something in some ways. Overall it's a bundle of fun were both having on and off cam. Learning to speak each others languages and having fun with it. We believe we found each other and are really blessed. So this might just turn out to be one of the rare success stories amongst all the terror and horror stories on this site.

Once again , My thoughts on it are not bothering me that much just saw this site and was wondering what kind of feed back i would get. and wow did i find out lol It's more for her comfort in the end then mine......I care more than enough to learn from any source I can.... Thanks

 

[Joe_Truth_Seeker]

AND OVERALL FOR ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE BROKEN PEOPLE WHO DECIDED TO COME HERE AND TAKE A SHIT ON MY POST YOU NOW BLOCKED (MAYBE CANT EVEN SEE THIS BUT FU) ! I TOLD YOU NOT TO SAY ANYTHING IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE THE MATURITY TO ANSWER IN A POSITIVE FASHION.... BUT OF COURSE I SHOULD EXPECT NO LESS BECAUSE OF THE ELEMENT THIS IS TO BEGIN WITH.... NOT ALL BUT MOST...

 

[AmberCutie]

First of all YOU'RE NOT AS SMART AS YOU CLAIM. AND YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY ZERO AUTHORITY TO DIAGNOSE AND LABEL ANYONE AS HAVING A MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEM. DIDNT YOU READ MY LAST SEGMENT . WELL YOU ARE COMING ACROSSE AS THE "JADED" ONE THAT I ASKED NOT TO RESPOND, BUT OF COURSE YOU HAD TO BECAUSE YOU NEED THE ATTENTION.... SHE DOENT CARE IF I TIP HER OR NOT AND SHE SEE'S ME EVEN WHEN I DONT BECAUSE SHE WANTS TOO/HAS TOO (SO I GUESS SHES JUST AS OBSESSED AS I AM THEN). AND AS FAR YOU YOU CLAIMING TO BE CONCERNED...YOUR A LIAR! I'M A COMPLETE STRANGER THAT MADE A POST SO YOUR CLAIM OF BEING CONCERNED FOR ME IS A BIGGER RED FLAG ABOUT YOU THAN I'VE EVER GOTTEN FROM HER ABOUT ANYTHING ON ANY LEVEL... AND YES I DO TIP HER NOT TO GIVE HER MONEY OR TO INSURE HER ATTENTION IS ON ME BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE THIS HAS BECOME OUR WAY OF EXPRESSING OUR FEELING PHYSICALLY ASIDE FROM THE 24/7 COMMUNICATION FOR LITERALLY 50 DAYS IN A ROW NOW LOL .... YOU CAN JUST REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THIS POST OR I WILL CONTINUE TO BE AS HOSTILE TO YOU AS YOU WERE TO ME AND YOU WILL NOT WIN.... I NEED NOT PROVIDE YOU PERSONALLY WITH ANY OTHER DETAILS OF THE SITUATION BECAUSE I DON'T EVEN WANT TO SPEAK WITH ANYONE LIKE YOU LIKE I ORIGINALLY SAID !!!! AND DON'T TELL ME TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF CHECK YOURSELF FIRST....

YES LIKE I SAID WE SPEAK 24/7 OUT SIDE OF THE ROOM AND BECAUSE IT'S LONG DISTANCE WE BOTH SPEAK TO EACH OTHER ABOUT OUR DAILY WHEREABOUTS AND ACTIVITIES LIKE A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP BUT DO SO WITH THE INTENT OF ATTEMPTING TO BRIDGE THE DISTANCE GAP SO WE CAN FEEL CLOSER TO EACH OTHER. Sorry about the caps. I just gone done yelling at Miss perfect and positive above and still had them on . The dozens of relationships were not cam girls this is the first one and because we have spoken for hours and hours for a couple of months in an ongoing continual narrative that just keeps building I can see real true feeling and true intentions. She is Latin American thats all I will say because of all the geniuses in here that seem to already know the final answer so I will avoid the sterotyping that will certainly follow. And the game I'm referring to is relationships in general but this cam girl element through a whole new dynamic at me and this is the first time for this, but I understand the psychology of falling in love, how people believe they are doing so but yet self deluding themselves for various reasons, and when it is truly happening for real. I've been through the real more than once and this is happening the exact same except for this new element of the cams. And to add to my story long before this almost 2 years now I nearly married another South American who moved into the states all ready had her papers and well we wanted it but unfortunately just sometimes it doesn't always work out in the end, sad yes , but whatever , moved on. As far as reading the other threads yes I see similar threads over and over again and I also see who's posting them and the things they are saying are absolutely ridiculous what these people did when chasing these controlling women. My situation doesn't even slightly resemble that at all. I'm only attempting to findout something technical with the end intentoin of making her more comfortable and less stressed while respecting my feelings. But let me go back to this "Given the question raised in this thread revolves around trust, I wouldn't share your assertion that I've got a feel for the game and I know she is telling me the truth" Don't think just because you yourself have not been able to get a firm handle on this subject in life that nobody else has. This is just something new, I found this site, so I figured I shout out and see what happens. So far exactly what I expected. A bunch of know it all's with nothing positive to say........

OK well you are definitely a psycho that needs to vent BUT NOT FUCKING ON ME YOU WONT!!!!!! DID YOU EVEN READ WHAT I WROTE AT ALL OR ARE YOU JUST LOOKING FOR ATTENTION TO VENT YOUR SHITTY EX AND YOUR CRAZY SELF. I DON'T MAKE HER WATCH MY CAMS ASSHOLE!!!! WE TALK ON THE PHONE 24/7 AND SHE CAN'T WAIT TO SEE ME AND WANTS AND NEEDS TO SEE ME (AND i HER) EVERYDAY WE POSSIBLY CAN. AND I NEVER SAID ONE THING THAT EVEN HINTED THAT I WAS CONCERNED ABOUT THE THINGS SHES DOING IN HER SHOWS WHETHER I'M THERE OR NOT...AND BTW I'VE ALREADY SEEN IT ALL.... I DON'T MAKE ANYTHING HARDER FOR HER AT ALL IT;S THE EXACT OPPOSITE AND SHE THANKS ME FOR MAKING IT EASIER FOR HER BECAUSE I SUPPORT HER UNCONDITIONALLY... GO TO ANOTHER POST AND VENT YOUR CRAP STORY THE FACT YOU CAMEE HERE AND SAID ALL THE GARBAGE WHICH IS OBVIOUSLY JUST A REFLECTION OF YOUR WHOLE LIFE AFTER I SPECIFICALLY SAID NOT TO SAY ANYTHING IF YOU YOU HAVE NOTHING POSITIVE TO SAY JUST GOES TO SHOW YOU ARE FUCKING LOONEY..... PROB WHY YOUR DOING CAMS TO BEGIN WITH... YOUR DEFINITELY NOT PUTTING YOURSELF THROUGH COLLEGE LIKE MY GIRL IS...... YOU AT THE END OF THE ROAD...... LEAVE AND NEVER SAY ANOTHER THING TO ME AGAIN. TAKE YOUR ROTTEN SOUL AWAY FROM ME.... GOOOOO..... AND BTW I'VE BEEN WATCHING CAMS FOR OVER A DECADE I ALREADY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR LIKE IN YOUR SHOWS. I WOULD HAVE NEVER TIPPED YOU A PENNY AND CLICKED RIGHT OFF OF YOUR CRAZY ASS... IF I EVEN STAY ON THE NEGATIVE SITE I WILL LEARN HOW TO BLOCK PEOPLE OR IM GONE.... YOU'RE ALL NUTS LOL

AND OVERALL FOR ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE BROKEN PEOPLE WHO DECIDED TO COME HERE AND TAKE A SHIT ON MY POST YOU NOW BLOCKED (MAYBE CANT EVEN SEE THIS BUT FU) ! I TOLD YOU NOT TO SAY ANYTHING IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE THE MATURITY TO ANSWER IN A POSITIVE FASHION.... BUT OF COURSE I SHOULD EXPECT NO LESS BECAUSE OF THE ELEMENT THIS IS TO BEGIN WITH.... NOT ALL BUT MOST...

ROFL

Yeah bud, you definitely don't have issues.

Not at all.

 

[AmberCutie]

Dog house'd so you can read on some helpful topics here but nobody needs to hear your words at this point.

Read and learn.

Go get help.

Good luck.

 

[Deleted member 64633]

Holy shit

 

[rockin_rod]

Wow. Every single time these threads take the same course to final destination: long rants without punctuation, in response to each reply.
Yep, we're the ones with the issues, who just don't get it.

 

[Ozzie_]

Well, that was a wild ride.

When I have my inevitable breakdown I promise *not* to come here and yell at you all

 

[NotYou]

Without reading all of what is said after the first few posts:

Are you both in the same country? Same city? And you're in a REAL relationship or have you met her on the site and you're in a relationship with her this way?

 

[inertvolcano]

I need to remember that any time I am nice to one of these guys, there's a queued up post waiting for Amber's approval that will make me regret it.

 

[AudriTwo]

omg i cant believe "joe_truth_seeker" went off the rails in full caplock

 

[Hiunds]

 

[andrecampos87]

oh my god... this is not going to end well... if i had a girlfriend who also did shows, i would work with her but...
As I got into this job I decided to put relationships aside and just focus on myself, of course sometimes I feel lonely but I adopted a dog LOL but buddy, you're not doing well, you're completely paranoid about your girlfriend and that's not good, and From what I see it will only escalate for the worse

 

[yummybrownfox]

I would never slip up and we never speak in public chat anyway..... And I'm not just watching her work as I stated in a reply above "if I'm in her room shes watching my cam the whole time and we both get off on it. And I'm tipping her sometimes as well. When I'm around it's her and I and the others are adding to our experience. And If I'm not around then she is strictly at work"..... We both like it....I just would like to know if shes hiding something from me not because I'm jealous I don't care what she does, it's her job. I just don't want her to feel that she even has to so she should feel no stress about anything ever... As far as how close on not close different people/couples get in relationships well I'm not gonna get into why people and the walls prevent them from going all the way....Boundaries sure, Respectability sure, but if you have to live with secrets and that's your normal way of being then well you've already slipped into a lower level of intimacy and will never achieve absolute candor with anyone... i guess not all are built for the real thing and sub par realities is the best the will ever get.... That's the norm for those types...

Lol. Says the guy who's on a forum venting to a bunch of strangers about his "girlfriend" behind her back (Nice...), and has to keep reminding us that he's "not jealous at all." Lmao. Boy, BYE!