How can members support a model with a reserved demeanor?

[Blacktalon]

Hi
@MarieElise
and
@Vixxen81
, I just wanted to say a big thank you for the Likes on my comment—I really appreciate the warm welcome!

I’m still learning my way around the forum, and it means a lot to know I’m on the right track, especially after AmberCutie’s helpful reminder to be mindful of what I say in a model’s room.
This thread has been so insightful, and it’s made me think a lot about how to support models better. I’ve been following a model on SC who has a really reserved demeanor, which sometimes makes her room quieter, and I’ve noticed it can be tough for her to engage with her audience. Do you have any tips on how members can help a model with a reserved demeanor feel more comfortable and bring some energy to her room? I’d love to hear your thoughts, and I’m so grateful for this community’s support as I navigate this!

 

[MarieElise]

Hi

My advice; Ditch the token site, and join Streamate instead. She won't have to feel like she needs to entertain and facilitate conversations between strangers, for potentially free.

I can be really introverted at times, and I have always done better there.

I think you might want to clarify what this model's goals are for herself though, before I give further advice. Is she a public, group shows focused model, or a private shows focused model? I ask that because for introverts, private focus sites are easier. I do group shows, but never outside of a paywall, so there is no need to facilitate conversation. It's more about me providing a entertaining narrative, while being sexual.

I think another piece of useful info about her, before I give advice would be; is she Femdom or Vanilla? 1) Is she a model who prefers to be dominant over men, or is that not her style at all? 2) Is she a model who sticks solely to like vanilla content, or does she do and provide a lot of niche fetish shows too? These are things it can take a model a year or two to even figure out for themself, but then there are also models who already join the industry with outside experience, who already have all these questions about themselves answered.

TLDR; There are a lot of different styles of cam model in this industry, who all can do equally well financially. But it's important for the model to figure out her own style, and a comfy direction for herself first, then find other models who align with her style, to get relevant advice/ support from.

 

[Blacktalon]

Hi @MarieElise,


Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response—I really appreciate how much insight you’ve shared! Your suggestion about Streamate is so interesting, especially since you’ve found it works better for you.


To answer your questions, she’s been more focused on private shows lately—she does a lot of exclusive shows—but she’s trying to spend more time in public chat, probably to attract viewers. That seems to be where her reserved demeanor makes things harder. As for her style, I’d say she leans more toward vanilla content, though I’m not sure if she does niche fetish shows as well. She’s been on the platform for a while, so she likely has some experience, but I’m not sure if she’s fully settled into her style yet.


I’ve also noticed that she sometimes seems to be adjusting her approach based on external expectations, which might be adding some extra pressure.

 

[Marceline]

The best way to support a model is to tip, get private shows if she offers them, and while you’re in public chat be polite and fun while also not overpowering the chat, which can be offputting to other members.

It’s not a member’s job to make a model feel less reserved or have more energy. For all you know, being “reserved” is part of a carefully curated cam persona and a way she attracts more exclusive private shows.

And if she is just a shy, reserved person, not only is there nothing a member can do that will completely change her personality, but it would likely be insulting to the model if someone did try to change that.

While I understand that there’s members who have good intentions when trying to help models with their shows, ultimately it’s not their place or their responsibility. If a model’s show isn’t going well, it’s up to her to figure out what is best for her show and income and to seek help, whether it be on this forum or on other sites like Reddit, from veteran cam models if she wants it. And if that is what she wants, the best thing you can do as a member, aside from tipping, is to point her in the direction of this forum where she can get access to the model’s only section where other models can give her more candid advice than what you’d get on the public side of the forum.

 

[Blacktalon]

@MarieElise
I wanted to follow up on your suggestion about Streamate—I did some research and noticed that Streamate doesn’t seem to have moderators or knights like SC does. Do you find the lack of knights on Streamate makes a difference for managing your room, especially as an introvert? I’d also love to hear more about how you figured out your style as a more reserved model—did you find it challenging at first to navigate the social aspects of camming, and were there any strategies that helped you feel more comfortable over time? Given her focus on private shows and her Vanilla style, but the need to engage in public chat, do you have any tips on how I can help her feel more at ease in her room, especially as her knight with limited moderation powers? For example, are there ways I can encourage her to open up without making her feel pressured, or things I can do to bring some energy to her public chat that might make her more comfortable? Thanks again for your insights—I’m learning so much from this community!
@Vixxen81
, I’d still love to hear your thoughts if you have any tips to share!

 

[Blacktalon]

Hi
@Marceline
thank you so much for your perspective—I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts!

I completely agree that it’s not my place to try to change the model’s personality, and I hadn’t considered that her reserved demeanor might be part of her cam persona to attract exclusive shows. That’s a really helpful insight, and I’ll definitely keep that in mind to respect her approach. I also appreciate your advice about tipping and being polite in public chat without overpowering it—I’ll make sure to focus on that and avoid coming across as trying to ‘fix’ her show.
I should have mentioned earlier that I’m actually her knight on Stripchat, so I’ve been trying to support her by managing her public chat, like muting disruptive users (I can only mute for 24 hours, not ban them, which makes it harder to deal with persistent issues). My goal isn’t to change her demeanor but to help create a positive environment in her room so she feels more comfortable engaging with her audience, especially since she’s been trying to spend more time in public chat lately. I love your suggestion about pointing her to this forum—I’ll definitely let her know about ACF and the model-only section where she can get advice from other models. That’s such a great idea!

 

[AudriTwo]

@MarieElise
I wanted to follow up on your suggestion about Streamate—I did some research and noticed that Streamate doesn’t seem to have moderators or knights like SC does. Do you find the lack of knights on Streamate makes a difference for managing your room, especially as an introvert?

Room moderators are fairly new concept for token sites. Streamate has been around since the early 2000s and dont need them. The chats are way more laid back because you need a card to register an account. There arent grey members. Members also have the ability to mark their chat as hidden so only the model can see what they type. The most of the time chat doesn't know what each other are saying.

 

[Blacktalon]

Room moderators are fairly new concept for token sites. Streamate has been around since the early 2000s and dont need them. The chats are way more laid back because you need a card to register an account. There arent grey members. Members also have the ability to mark their chat as hidden so only the model can see what they type. The most of the time chat doesn't know what each other are saying.

@AudriTwo
I really appreciate you sharing your insights about Streamate. The way you described the laid-back chats and the hidden chat feature sounds like it could be a perfect fit for a reserved model like her. I can see how not having to manage group conversations would take a lot of pressure off, and the lack of grey members seems like it would create a more respectful environment overall. It’s great to hear how this setup works well for models—I think it could really help her feel more comfortable. Thanks AudriTwo, I’m learning so much from this community, and I’m so grateful for your advice!

 

[AudriTwo]

@AudriTwo
I really appreciate you sharing your insights about Streamate. The way you described the laid-back chats and the hidden chat feature sounds like it could be a perfect fit for a reserved model like her. I can see how not having to manage group conversations would take a lot of pressure off, and the lack of grey members seems like it would create a more respectful environment overall. It’s great to hear how this setup works well for models—I think it could really help her feel more comfortable. Thanks AudriTwo, I’m learning so much from this community, and I’m so grateful for your advice!

np. streamate worked great for my introvert ass. their private messages are more like messaging on a forum than instant private messaging. imo not necessary to answer to be successful. i never answered a message, and did just fine.

 

[Mothball2096]

I should have mentioned earlier that I’m actually her knight on Stripchat, so I’ve been trying to support her by managing her public chat, like muting disruptive users (I can only mute for 24 hours, not ban them, which makes it harder to deal with persistent issues). My goal isn’t to change her demeanor but to help create a positive environment in her room so she feels more comfortable engaging with her audience, especially since she’s been trying to spend more time in public chat lately.

Suggestion to help her room environment: search these forums for discussions on mods/knights and how their existence/behavior is usually more of detriment to rooms. Don't become the disruptive user yourself.

 

[Blacktalon]

Suggestion to help her room environment: search these forums for discussions on mods/knights and how their existence/behavior is usually more of detriment to rooms. Don't become the disruptive user yourself.

Thank you for your suggestion and for pointing out the potential downsides of knights in a model’s room. I really appreciate your perspective. I totally get the concern about mods/knights sometimes being more of a detriment than a help. Personally, I keep a low profile and only step in when necessary. I’m rarely seen in chat unless a rude comment is made, at that point, I give a warning first, and if they keep it up, I mute them. She seems to appreciate the support, and I make sure it doesn’t disrupt the flow of her room, but I’ll take your advice and search the forums for discussions on mods and knights to better understand how I can support her.

 

[MarieElise]

@MarieElise
I wanted to follow up on your suggestion about Streamate—I did some research and noticed that Streamate doesn’t seem to have moderators or knights like SC does. Do you find the lack of knights on Streamate makes a difference for managing your room, especially as an introvert? I’d also love to hear more about how you figured out your style as a more reserved model—did you find it challenging at first to navigate the social aspects of camming, and were there any strategies that helped you feel more comfortable over time? Given her focus on private shows and her Vanilla style, but the need to engage in public chat, do you have any tips on how I can help her feel more at ease in her room, especially as her knight with limited moderation powers? For example, are there ways I can encourage her to open up without making her feel pressured, or things I can do to bring some energy to her public chat that might make her more comfortable? Thanks again for your insights—I’m learning so much from this community!
@Vixxen81
, I’d still love to hear your thoughts if you have any tips to share!

Omg dude I said I can be introverted at times not reserved. Pay attention to what has already been shared with you, and have her do this for herself.

Your first answer about her style told me you really don't even know her that well, So tbf this does not appear to be a wise use of my time. Sorry to be blunt. I'm not going into any more detail on this. She needs to d this for herself like Marceline said.

Your manners on this forum have been nice so far so I do want to encourage you, I just think going deeper into this specific topic seems like a squander of energy rn

 

[Marceline]

I should have mentioned earlier that I’m actually her knight on Stripchat, so I’ve been trying to support her by managing her public chat, like muting disruptive users (I can only mute for 24 hours, not ban them, which makes it harder to deal with persistent issues).

As mentioned above, room moderators are generally more of a detriment to a room rather than helpful.

If the model doesn’t have an insanely busy room and isn’t in the middle of a public show that requires both her hands, there’s no reason she can’t ban/mute people herself instead of having a mod do it for her.

My goal isn’t to change her demeanor but to help create a positive environment in her room so she feels more comfortable engaging with her audience,

I’ve already said it, but I’ll say it again, the best way to positively contribute to her room/the environment of the room/support her is by tipping. I’m sure any model will feel a lot more comfortable and happy if they’re being showered with tokens by a respectful member who isn’t trying to control her or push boundaries via their tokens.

But ultimately, it’s not your responsibility to make her feel comfortable engaging with other members. Just be respectful, polite and fun with your interactions with her so she will feel comfortable interacting with you. And if she is truly uncomfortable camming or engaging with an audience, that’s something she is going to have to work through on her own, and if she doesn’t or can’t then camming is not the job for her.

 

[Blacktalon]

I deeply appreciate all responses. I'm new to these forums and still getting a feel for how things work. I didn’t mean to overstep, just trying to gain some insight into something that's a lot more that’s been deeply concerning to me..."she's adjusting her approach based on external expectations" ... I’ll take a step back and respect the boundaries here. Thanks for everyone's encouragement.

 

[AmberCutie]

Which AI bot are you using for your replies here?

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response—I really appreciate how much insight you’ve shared! Your suggestion about Streamate is so interesting, especially since you’ve found it works better for you.

 

[Blacktalon]

I hope this isnt pushing my luck, but can my big thread be deleted?