Aella said:Do you still consider me to be a feminist, based on the things I have stated above? Are those views aligned with feminism?
While it's still up to you to identify as whatever you like, I do still consider you a feminist. If someone said they didn't believe in God, but they hated Richard Dawkins, militant atheism, they loved their local church's bake sales, and think religion was a force of good, I'd still consider them an atheist. To me it just seems like the best way to combat radical feminism is to insist moderate feminism is the standard, not the outlier. So the best way to make a more "seemingly" moderate feminism (I'd argue it still is moderate in essence) would be to encourage more moderate people to accept the banner.
But while you may "technically" be a feminist, I understand how shirking the term would better line up with your personal convictions. In a way I'd think it would be more convincing to claim "while I am technically a feminist by definition, I find the movement's flaws so egregious I insist on separating myself from it."