What Will You Tell Your Children?

[caireen]

I don't think nudity is a sin. I think nudity is a sin when it is used to bring about lust from someone other than your husband/wife.

ahh i was so hesitant to post this because i don't want it to seem like i'm attacking you at all (because i'm not): just curious about this statement.. don't you use nudity to bring about lust from all the guys in your room on mfc?

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I don't think nudity is a sin. I think nudity is a sin when it is used to bring about lust from someone other than your husband/wife.

ahh i was so hesitant to post this because i don't want it to seem like i'm attacking you at all (because i'm not): just curious about this statement.. don't you use nudity to bring about lust from all the guys in your room on mfc?

Yes of course. And that I would think is a sin. But we were not talking about camming. Or MFC. We were talking about my statement on how I'm a nudist and I'll probably be nude in front of my children quite often. That is not to bring about lust. I use to take showers w/ my mom as a little girl. Never thought anything of it. Dana said the nudity thing has to go if you raise your children in a strict Christian home. I don't think it does. From the verses she provided me with, at least. But it's irrelevant since I didn't mean strict Christian, but strict and Christian. Which I think I already cleared up.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

ahh i was so hesitant to post this because i don't want it to seem like i'm attacking you at all (because i'm not):

You really don't need to clarify this. I'm not easily offended.

 

[innesx]

Excuses I have used:
- customer service / sales
- entertainment industry
- photography work
And always "freelance" or "independent contracting"

It would be so hard for me to do camming as my only job so I cam part time and have an actual office job part time. So people think I just work part time which works for me!

 

[FrecklesXxX]

Camming is a job, sure, but it's also a part of your sex life. It involves (for most of us) what arouses you, how you get off, your sexual interactions with others, your discussions of various sexual topics, etc.

WHY on earth would you tell any of this to your children? Your sex life is none of your kid's business. Personally, I wouldn't want to hear about whether my mom gets off on voyeurism, or bdsm, or buttsecks, and I wouldn't want to know if my kids do either. We're not talking about adults here, where having a frank Q/A discussion with parents about sex is completely appropriate. Telling a kid who asks "Mom, what is your job?" something like "Well sweetie, I show my nude self to people online" isn't going to make you the best role model. Would you want your 8, 10, 13, or 16 year old doing the same? Remember that kids are very easily influenced and may not understand why they aren't allowed to do the same things that makes mommy and others very happy.

You can be casual about sexuality or nudity (as Megan mentioned before concerning being naked) around your kids without being graphic.

Furthermore, whether you even (want to) HAVE children is not the business of any MFC member WHATSOEVER.

If for some reason I still felt compelled to answer, I'd say I was an online motivational speaker, counselor, consultant, therapist, (artistic) model, or any other aspect of camming. After all, the percentage of time you spend talking/posing in different positions outweighs the percentage of time you're actually getting off anyhow.

You don't have to answer every question somebody poses to you on MFC, particularly the ones asked in a nasty way. Just ignore it.

[[Side Note:]]Remember that if you plan on raising your children in a religious household without consistency (Megan, you mentioned knowing that your job is a sin, but doing it anyway) such things can be very confusing to a child. It could make them reconsider their obligation to their religion and their role in sinning altogether. "Since mommy can pick and choose what parts of our faith she follows/believes in, why can't I?" All that is going to do is raise some serious trust issues that will probably last a very long time.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Camming is a job, sure, but it's also a part of your sex life. It involves (for most of us) what arouses you, how you get off, your sexual interactions with others, your discussions of various sexual topics, etc.

WHY on earth would you tell any of this to your children? Your sex life is none of your kid's business. Personally, I wouldn't want to hear about whether my mom gets off on voyeurism, or bdsm, or buttsecks, and I wouldn't want to know if my kids do either. We're not talking about adults here, where having a frank Q/A discussion with parents about sex is completely appropriate. Telling a kid who asks "Mom, what is your job?" something like "Well sweetie, I show my nude self to people online" isn't going to make you the best role model. Would you want your 8, 10, 13, or 16 year old doing the same? Remember that kids are very easily influenced and may not understand why they aren't allowed to do the same things that makes mommy and others very happy.

You can be casual about sexuality or nudity (as Megan mentioned before concerning being naked) around your kids without being graphic.

Furthermore, whether you even (want to) HAVE children is not the business of any MFC member WHATSOEVER.

If for some reason I still felt compelled to answer, I'd say I was an online motivational speaker, counselor, consultant, therapist, (artistic) model, or any other aspect of camming. After all, the percentage of time you spend talking/posing in different positions outweighs the percentage of time you're actually getting off anyhow.

You don't have to answer every question somebody poses to you on MFC, particularly the ones asked in a nasty way. Just ignore it.

[[Side Note:]]Remember that if you plan on raising your children in a religious household without consistency (Megan, you mentioned knowing that your job is a sin, but doing it anyway) such things can be very confusing to a child. It could make them reconsider their obligation to their religion and their role in sinning altogether. "Since mommy can pick and choose what parts of our faith she follows/believes in, why can't I?" All that is going to do is raise some serious trust issues that will probably last a very long time.

Oh I completely understand that. I think I mentioned I probably wouldn't be camming after children? And that I wouldn't be open to every aspect of my job? And honestly, I wouldn't mind them picking and choosing. I don't believe most things the Bible has to say, and I don't expect them to. I'm going to raise them Christian and they can decide, at any age, what they choose to believe in, such as I have.

 

[inkydoo]

[[Side Note:]]Remember that if you plan on raising your children in a religious household without consistency (Megan, you mentioned knowing that your job is a sin, but doing it anyway) such things can be very confusing to a child. It could make them reconsider their obligation to their religion and their role in sinning altogether. "Since mommy can pick and choose what parts of our faith she follows/believes in, why can't I?" All that is going to do is raise some serious trust issues that will probably last a very long time.

I would challenge you to find any Christian household in America, with or without children, that is truly, completely morally consistent with the Bible. Maybe the Amish and similar enclaves come close, but I would doubt even that.
Do you wear clothes of more than one material? Contrary to the Bible.
Do you eat shellfish or pork? Contrary to the Bible.
Shave off your beard? Contrary to the Bible.

And besides, Jesus hung out with whores, so it's not so hard to imagine he'd hang out with camwhores

 

[FrecklesXxX]

[[Side Note:]]Remember that if you plan on raising your children in a religious household without consistency (Megan, you mentioned knowing that your job is a sin, but doing it anyway) such things can be very confusing to a child. It could make them reconsider their obligation to their religion and their role in sinning altogether. "Since mommy can pick and choose what parts of our faith she follows/believes in, why can't I?" All that is going to do is raise some serious trust issues that will probably last a very long time.

I would challenge you to find any Christian household in America, with or without children, that is truly, completely morally consistent with the Bible. Maybe the Amish and similar enclaves come close, but I would doubt even that.
Do you wear clothes of more than one material? Contrary to the Bible.
Do you eat shellfish or pork? Contrary to the Bible.
Shave off your beard? Contrary to the Bible.

And besides, Jesus hung out with whores, so it's not so hard to imagine he'd hang out with camwhores

I stand behind my point. I agree with you that everyone believes in their religion in their own way. When you bring children into the mix though, be prepared to be confronted with your inconsistencies. Asking about things they don't understand is what kids do ("why? why? WHY?"), and often adults don't like it because we're forced to examine our leaps in logic. For example, "we do it, and everyone else does it" isn't a very sound argument.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

[[Side Note:]]Remember that if you plan on raising your children in a religious household without consistency (Megan, you mentioned knowing that your job is a sin, but doing it anyway) such things can be very confusing to a child. It could make them reconsider their obligation to their religion and their role in sinning altogether. "Since mommy can pick and choose what parts of our faith she follows/believes in, why can't I?" All that is going to do is raise some serious trust issues that will probably last a very long time.

I would challenge you to find any Christian household in America, with or without children, that is truly, completely morally consistent with the Bible. Maybe the Amish and similar enclaves come close, but I would doubt even that.
Do you wear clothes of more than one material? Contrary to the Bible.
Do you eat shellfish or pork? Contrary to the Bible.
Shave off your beard? Contrary to the Bible.

And besides, Jesus hung out with whores, so it's not so hard to imagine he'd hang out with camwhores

This made me LOL. I see what you are saying, and I also see what Freckles is saying. I could correct you on what seems to be a Leviticus reference, but I will refrain so this religion debate does not proceed, for the sake of my sanity.

 

[OUSweetheart]

Heh, I always say, I dont want any and don't plan to have any, ever. I also commonly get the question if my boyfriend knows I do this, but he's the one that told me about it. I sometimes get asked if I'd be embarrassed if my family knew, but, I always say I wouldnt tell them about it, but wouldnt be so upset if they found out.

 

[MystiRose]

If I have children some day, I plan to be open with them. Not completely open, my kids would never need to know specifics on what I do for work but I would likely give them a general statement about being a model. When they come of an appropriate age to learn about sex I plan to educate them and encourage them to be open with questions and concerns about sex and sexuality. By the time they are 18 years old and legally allowed to view the websites that they may see me on they will hopefully understand that I was once young and very sexual.

I don't think anyone should disapprove of what their parents do inorder to support themselves and their family. My mom worked in fast food restaurants and as a waitress to support 4 kids. I will never work in the food industry because its filthy and you deal with rude people all day long. I certainly was embarrassed in high school when my friends and I ate lunch at the Mcdonald's where she worked. Just because I wouldn't choose to do something for a living doesn't mean I have any right to judge the people who do. You won't hear me asking "you want fries with that" the same way I hope to never hear my kid say "u wnt ass BB".

On a random thought: How do you expect Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie to explain to their kids that steamy sex scene in Mr and Mrs Smith?

 

[Anonymous]

I don't plan on having kids. If it does happen one day, camming is not something I would even THINK about telling them about. Just doesn't make sense to me. I don't see it as being fake, it's just something that they don't need to know and will not benefit them

Instead, I would raise them to have better opportunities than what I had, so that they wouldn't have to resort to something like this.

 

[FrecklesXxX]

I don't plan on having kids. If it does happen one day, camming is not something I would even THINK about telling them about. Just doesn't make sense to me. I don't see it as being fake, it's just something that they don't need to know and will not benefit them

Instead, I would raise them to have better opportunities than what I had, so that they wouldn't have to resort to something like this.

Resort to what exactly?

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I don't plan on having kids. If it does happen one day, camming is not something I would even THINK about telling them about. Just doesn't make sense to me. I don't see it as being fake, it's just something that they don't need to know and will not benefit them

Instead, I would raise them to have better opportunities than what I had, so that they wouldn't have to resort to something like this.

Resort to what exactly?

I was thinking the same exact thing!! hahaha

 

[MadisonLeigh]

Instead, I would raise them to have better opportunities than what I had, so that they wouldn't have to resort to something like this.

Sounds like you really hate your job, why are you doing it then? There are other ways to make money if you are that miserable camming. I know camming has its ups and downs, but it makes me feel sad for you that you feel like you're "resorting" to something you hate, because you don't have opportunities to do something that would make you happier.

 

[ZaharaHaze]

If I ever have kids, which I'm not sure I will, I'd just tell them the truth. I know kids don't want to hear about how their mom was great at wanking in front of a camera but it's important to teach them the value of honesty. I'd probably just bring it up as soon as they were at porn-watching age so they don't get an unpleasant surprise. Shit, maybe I'll even recommend some of my favorite models :lol:

 

[Anonymous]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm thankful for it, but I'd feel like a massive failure if I found out my kid was a cam girl if they had other options available to them.

Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry. If I could have continued slinging drinks behind a bar without having to work a billion hours a week, then fuck yeah I would choose that over taking my clothes off. I am not an attention seeker.

 

[LacieLaPlante]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm thankful for it but I'd feel like a massive failure if I found out my kid was a cam girl if they had other options available to them.

Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry. If I could have continued slinging drinks behind a bar without having to work a billion hours a week, then fuck yeah I would choose that over taking my clothes off. I am not an attention seeker.

I simply don't see how you don't think this is a negative view of camming and camgirls.

 

[FrecklesXxX]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm thankful for it but I'd feel like a massive failure if I found out my kid was a cam girl if they had other options available to them.

Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry. If I could have continued slinging drinks behind a bar without having to work a billion hours a week, then fuck yeah I would choose that over taking my clothes off. I am not an attention seeker.

I simply don't see how you don't think this is a negative view of camming and camgirls.

If you dislike taking your clothes off for money so much, then maybe you should consider becoming a non-nude model. Doing something you're uncomfortable with will only make you resent yourself.

Furthermore, those who DO take their clothes off for money aren't necessarily attention seekers. No offense, but this may be the wrong forum for you.

 

[Anonymous]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm thankful for it but I'd feel like a massive failure if I found out my kid was a cam girl if they had other options available to them.

Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry. If I could have continued slinging drinks behind a bar without having to work a billion hours a week, then fuck yeah I would choose that over taking my clothes off. I am not an attention seeker.

I simply don't see how you don't think this is a negative view of camming and camgirls.

If you dislike taking your clothes off for money so much, then maybe you should consider becoming a non-nude model. Doing something you're uncomfortable with will only make you resent yourself.

Furthermore, those who DO take their clothes off for money aren't necessarily attention seekers. No offense, but this may be the wrong forum for you.

You are all taking everything I'm saying totally out of context and putting words in my mouth.

I never said that I was uncomfortable taking my clothes off. Stripping was something I did that I can say I fucking despise and made me miserable even though I was rolling in dough - lo and behold am I still doing it? No, because I hated it. I don't plan to stop camming anytime soon.

I basically said that if I could choose between camming and my previous job (if I were making the same amount of money) then I would choose my previous job. I enjoyed working at an actual place where I could make friends, meet people, be myself as in wear regular clothes and not lingerie, not be naked, etc. But unfortunately it wasn't financially stable. Ah mah gah, this is so difficult to comprehend...

 

[MadisonLeigh]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm thankful for it, but I'd feel like a massive failure if I found out my kid was a cam girl if they had other options available to them.

Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry. If I could have continued slinging drinks behind a bar without having to work a billion hours a week, then fuck yeah I would choose that over taking my clothes off. I am not an attention seeker.

Well when you use language like "resort to something like this", the only thing I can infer is that you dislike what you do for a living. I don't feel like camming is my last resort or something I'm forced to do, and I don't think most of the other girls on this forum feel that way either, so I was curious about what made you feel that way. You just sound pretty unhappy with your current situation.

Also, I wasn't trying to come at you or put words in your mouth. I simply wanted to know why you've chosen this job since your posts have suggested that you have a negative outlook towards it.

 

[Alana Cruise]

Most models at least get naked if not cum in public chat. Ever think that guests dont have to sign up and can be any age...under 18

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I'm not miserable?


Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry.

Your posts are very inconsistent. They sound a bit like "I love camming." Next line, "I'm embarrassed that I have such a degrading job." Those aren't actual quotes from you, but that's what I'm taking out of your posts.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Most models at least get naked if not cum in public chat. Ever think that guests dont have to sign up and can be any age...under 18

Maybe I didn't read a post. But where is this coming from? I agree with you, some people may be under age, but when was this brought up? Just a bit random, if you ask me.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Whoa, where does it say that I "hate my job"? I'm not miserable? I don't hate camming, I actually love it because I'm not struggling anymore.

My point is that if I had parents who raised me properly, gave me financial advice, allowed me to go to college, then right now I wouldn't be paying off debt and would most likely have a job where I'd be earning the same amount that I'm earning camming; therefore I wouldn't be camming. It is a last resort because no other job I've had has allowed me to do what I need to do. I'm not seeking attention or trying to turn this into a career.

I have little respect for people who use their upbringing as an excuse for their piss poor choices in life. When you are a child, it is one thing, but as an adult you are the only one responsible for your choices.

Definitely one of my biggest pet peeves. I'm with you there!

 

[Anonymous]

I have little respect for people who use their upbringing as an excuse for their piss poor choices in life. When you are a child, it is one thing, but as an adult you are the only one responsible for your choices.

Ya know - You could always "do what you have to do" and get two traditional jobs and work hard to pay off your debt like tons of people do, rather than "resorting" to something like camming. I guess your parents didn't teach you pride, ambition or tenacity either. :lol:

P.S. - You should really get model status. Until you do, I am going to assume you are a bitter member who secretly loathes the camgirls he/she jerks off to.

Model or member, your posts sound very bitter towards camming. Using words like "resort to" and saying you cam because your parents didn't raise you properly implies that camming is for broken people with no alternatives.

ccasion-xmas:

Piss poor choices in life? I would love to know which choices you're talking about.

My parents and family were the cause of lot of financial damage in my life and I've worked very hard to turn it around; that's all I'm going to say about that... I'm not about to tell my life story just because you want to pull assumptions out of your ass.

That wouldn't be "doing what I have to do", because I've done that, and it didn't work. Camming is doing what I have to do.

You're acting as if I'm talking about all cam girls. This entire time I've been talking about ME and MY situation.

P.S. That's not under my control, sweetheart. I contacted Amber as soon as I signed up.

 

[Anonymous]

I'm not miserable?


Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry.

Your posts are very inconsistent. They sound a bit like "I love camming." Next line, "I'm embarrassed that I have such a degrading job." Those aren't actual quotes from you, but that's what I'm taking out of your posts.

It's not embarrassment at all. Unfortunately if you are open about something like this then it has negative consequences, extreme judgements are made, and that would make things very difficult for me when it comes to the things I want to pursue

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I'm not miserable?


Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry.

Your posts are very inconsistent. They sound a bit like "I love camming." Next line, "I'm embarrassed that I have such a degrading job." Those aren't actual quotes from you, but that's what I'm taking out of your posts.

It's not embarrassment at all. Unfortunately if you are open about something like this then it has negative consequences, extreme judgements are made, and that would make things very difficult for me when it comes to the things I want to pursue

You would be surprised to how deep some companies can dig to find out things like you camming. There IS a chance they will find out. If the job you want to do will look at it so negatively, should you really be camming in the first place???

 

[Anonymous]

I'm not miserable?


Plus, why on earth would I want to have a job that I can't even be open and honest about? I'm not interested in tarnishing my reputation when the field that I would like to have a career in is nowhere near the adult industry.

Your posts are very inconsistent. They sound a bit like "I love camming." Next line, "I'm embarrassed that I have such a degrading job." Those aren't actual quotes from you, but that's what I'm taking out of your posts.

It's not embarrassment at all. Unfortunately if you are open about something like this then it has negative consequences, extreme judgements are made, and that would make things very difficult for me when it comes to the things I want to pursue

You would be surprised to how deep some companies can dig to find out things like you camming. There IS a chance they will find out. If the job you want to do will look at it so negatively, should you really be camming in the first place???

Well not just that, but co-workers, people I know, etc. If they find out then they find out. But life would be a lot smoother and drama free if they didn't.

 

[Anonymous]

Most models at least get naked if not cum in public chat. Ever think that guests dont have to sign up and can be any age...under 18

I'm not sure exactly what inspired your post, but...

I don't cum for the free wankers. Pay for private, group, or Skype to see me cum. Otherwise, a naked and oily brown fox is the most you'll be seeing of me tonight. LOL.

And I no longer allow guests and basics to talk in my room. Maybe one day MFC will actually put a time limit on how long guests and basics can view public chat before automatically booting them...who knows?