What kind of man shows penis cell phone pics in person?

[Shaun__]

Why not just whip it out, because manners or class can not be holding them back?

DEAR ABBY: There is a man at work I'm very attracted to. He seems to be equally attracted to me. The problem is, he has shown me two pictures of his privates that he has on his cellphone. When he did it, it wasn't completely out of context of our conversation and our interest in each other. We do not have a physical relationship (yet), but I'm considering it. How weird is it that he has these pictures on his phone? -- GOT AN EYEFUL IN ILLINOIS

DEAR GOT AN EYEFUL: That must have been some conversation! It's amazing either of you get any work done with so many pheromones floating in the air. From my perspective, what your co-worker did was "premature" considering you have no social relationship (yet). It could also be considered a form of flashing.

However, while I consider what he did to be overexposure and not a particularly impressive courtship technique, displaying pictures of his anatomy on his cellphone is not unheard of among men who think like adolescents.

 

[LadyLuna]

I think Abby got it right: the kind of men who think like adolescents.

 

[Rose]

I think Abby got it right: the kind of men who think like adolescents.

That part made me giggle.

 

[Mirra]

Why not just whip it out, because manners or class can not be holding them back?

I suspect it has something to do with the phone not having quite the uhhh... viewing angle of his penis hanging out of his pants, and he used that to his advantage to make it ever so slightly more private. Just sayin'. Though I guess he did miss the opportunity to take it down another notch in maturity and say "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

 

[Evvie]

Maybe he thinks it's sexy and naughty, but I have to admit camming has taken a lot of the excitement out of pixelated dick pics for me.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Ugh, the amount of guys I know who have sent me pictures of their cocks!

When I was young, like 14/15/16 on my computer I had loads of them, I had no idea why they'd send them to me, I had no interest lol. Although sometimes I'd record it/take screen shots and send them to their girlfriends.

Still even now the amount of guys who want to send me pics of their cock. Not ones they'd just taken either, carefully posed ones clearly intended for occasions like this.

I see guys wanting to show their penis's to strangers on webcams a lot like this. Or random guys on mygirlfund sending you pictures of their cock, yet never saying a word to you. It's like flashing. Like? It is flashing! lol

 

[camstory]

I think it's ridiculous, immature, and probably not very often such a good pick up move. But above all, it seems weak, and timid. If you have gotten to the stage where showing off your genitalia is accepted, than the Dear Abby letter should read, "Dear Abby, Last night I slept with a co-worked after he showed me some pictures of his penis. Woke up this morning and there was a webcam set up at the end of my bed with a note on it. The note said, that Flash, (my co-worker), wanted to show me a web site called My Free Cams after work. Do you know anything about this? POTENTIAL CAM WHORE IN ILLINOIS

 

[SoTxBob]

LOL.... When my kids were in HS, they both had girls sending them titty and twat pics all the time. They [the girls] seemed to have little compunction about it BC there was a rather large group of guys that would trade pics of this ... 'phenomenon.' Now at an older [legal+] age, I can't help but wonder how many of them became cam girls and the guys pervs. :lol:

 

[Rose]

Maybe he thinks it's sexy and naughty, but I have to admit camming has taken a lot of the excitement out of pixelated dick pics for me.

Before camming I wouldn't have minded so much. Now though, eh....only with someone I have some sort of relationship with. Otherwise I could care less about faceless genitals of someone I've never met and don't have a relationship/chemistry with.

 

[Jupiter551]

It doesn't actually say the pics were shown in person Just that they work together and were having some sort of conversation - could have been text, or phone. Still, what a tard.

 

[HarmlessSquirrel]

One prouder of his gadgets than his penis?

 

[JoeyRaymond]

the Dear Abby letter should read, "Dear Abby, Last night I slept with a co-worked after he showed me some pictures of his penis. Woke up this morning and there was a webcam set up at the end of my bed with a note on it. The note said, that Flash, (my co-worker), wanted to show me a web site called My Free Cams after work. Do you know anything about this? POTENTIAL CAM WHORE IN ILLINOIS

DEAR POTENTIALLY ILL CAM HO: Actually, with the state of the newspaper business these days, I HAVE looked into the website My Free Cams. It appears to be a great way to make good money. You get to pick the days and hours you wish to work and set your own terms on just what you want to do at your "job'. My advice to you is, ditch the co-worker and sign up today. I know I am.

P.S. Let's meet at the Expo In Las Vegas this coming January and do a g/g show together. I hear those are REAL popular.

 

[southsamurai]

you mean all those pics i mass mailed werent wanted after all? sheesh i guess i should just delete them now

 

[LuckySmiles]

this seems to have become the norm in the online dating world as well.. that's funny I thought you wanted my number to make dinner plans.. not text me your wang... silly me!

 

[ScarletVixen]

What kind of man?

The gross kind.

 

[Red7227]

What kind of man?

The gross kind.

I don't understand either. The only girls who get to see much penis are nurses or someone who is about to stick it in her mouth or pussy.

 

[SweepTheLeg]

Maybe he was one of the first to get the iphone 5 and wanted to show it off?

 

[Jupiter551]

Maybe he was one of the first to get the iphone 5 and wanted to show it off?

"dude, check out the size of this screen!"

 

[lordmagellan]

....only with someone I have some sort of relationship with. Otherwise I could care less about faceless genitals of someone I've never met and don't have a relationship/chemistry with.

This. To give the benefit of doubt, maybe he overestimated his relationship with her. I know I've never received any complaints, though most everyone who gets mine I have a relationship with. Might help that I dress it up or draw faces on it. Call it immature if you want, I have no shame in my body and if the chick I'm talking to wants to see it- tada! I'm having fun, and we're having fun. Don't like or agree with it? Well, that's why you aren't on the contact list. Don't see any reason to call someone a "tard" or idiot, or to belittle anyone for it.

And I may lose friends or gain some negativity, but honestly a bunch of women who get naked on the internet talking shit about people sharing nude photos of themselves seems just bit hypocritical to me. Justify it all you want, you're still exposing yourself and talking trash about someone who does the same.

 

[SweepTheLeg]

I think the big difference is these girls are getting naked and who ever wants to see them naked can. They aren't forcing anyone to look at them that may not want to, which may be where he over estimated his relationship with her. As the lady said, she's really attracted to him and the pictures weren't completely out of context to the conversation. But the responses a lot of the girls in this thread seem to be having are from the personal experience that their profession makes it okay for any and all men to send pictures of their dicks to them, a completely different scenario because they don't know these men and aren't attracted to them.

 

[camstory]

....only with someone I have some sort of relationship with. Otherwise I could care less about faceless genitals of someone I've never met and don't have a relationship/chemistry with.

This. To give the benefit of doubt, maybe he overestimated his relationship with her. I know I've never received any complaints, though most everyone who gets mine I have a relationship with. Might help that I dress it up or draw faces on it. Call it immature if you want, I have no shame in my body and if the chick I'm talking to wants to see it- tada! I'm having fun, and we're having fun. Don't like or agree with it? Well, that's why you aren't on the contact list. Don't see any reason to call someone a "tard" or idiot, or to belittle anyone for it.

And I may lose friends or gain some negativity, but honestly a bunch of women who get naked on the internet talking shit about people sharing nude photos of themselves seems just bit hypocritical to me. Justify it all you want, you're still exposing yourself and talking trash about someone who does the same.

I get that completely, and really just bc I see it as something that I would find rude and uncomfortable to do before there was a physical relationship, might be more about me feeling the need to photoshop any pic of massive Maleness, before it could be impressive. Or maybe it's just the old fashion puritan beliefs system I have that makes the idea of taking pictures of body parts and then just showing them off willy nilly, something I could personally never do.

 

[camstory]

 

[LuckySmiles]

dammit! UPDATE I'm so paranoid for this now that if a guy seems really cool gets my number and ask to text "more pics" I'm like whyyy??? because I'm assuming it's going to lead to a dick pic...
:roll:

I should write a book about impossible dating camgirl style...

mind you this has nothing to do with camming i had the same issue with dick pics and online dating last year.

I am becoming impossible to date though because if someone is trying too hard sexy when we BARELY know each other I'm like "what am I at work?"

if anything it's turning me into more of a prude in real life blahhh

camgirlproblems

 

[Rose]

This. To give the benefit of doubt, maybe he overestimated his relationship with her. I know I've never received any complaints, though most everyone who gets mine I have a relationship with. Might help that I dress it up or draw faces on it. Call it immature if you want, I have no shame in my body and if the chick I'm talking to wants to see it- tada! I'm having fun, and we're having fun. Don't like or agree with it? Well, that's why you aren't on the contact list. Don't see any reason to call someone a "tard" or idiot, or to belittle anyone for it.

And I may lose friends or gain some negativity, but honestly a bunch of women who get naked on the internet talking shit about people sharing nude photos of themselves seems just bit hypocritical to me. Justify it all you want, you're still exposing yourself and talking trash about someone who does the same.

So what it sounds like you're suggesting is that you're totally ok walking up to a random woman in public and showing her pictures of your genitals? You've never met this woman before, you don't know her name and you've never spoken.

Call me weird, but majority of the people I know (regardless of their profession or gender) would not be ok with this behavior. That's what I was talking about. Next time maybe you should read my post before commenting back.

Yes, I do think any person who would do the described action is a tard and they should be belittled for it. It's rude and immature. Adults don't behave like that with strangers in public, it's inappropriate.

 

[LuckySmiles]

This. To give the benefit of doubt, maybe he overestimated his relationship with her. I know I've never received any complaints, though most everyone who gets mine I have a relationship with. Might help that I dress it up or draw faces on it. Call it immature if you want, I have no shame in my body and if the chick I'm talking to wants to see it- tada! I'm having fun, and we're having fun. Don't like or agree with it? Well, that's why you aren't on the contact list. Don't see any reason to call someone a "tard" or idiot, or to belittle anyone for it.

And I may lose friends or gain some negativity, but honestly a bunch of women who get naked on the internet talking shit about people sharing nude photos of themselves seems just bit hypocritical to me. Justify it all you want, you're still exposing yourself and talking trash about someone who does the same.

So what it sounds like you're suggesting is that you're totally ok walking up to a random woman in public and showing her pictures of your genitals? You've never met this woman before, you don't know her name and you've never spoken.

Call me weird, but majority of the people I know (regardless of their profession or gender) would not be ok with this behavior. That's what I was talking about. Next time maybe you should read my post before commenting back.

Yes, I do think any person who would do the described action is a tard and they should be belittled for it. It's rude and immature. Adults don't behave like that with strangers in public, it's inappropriate.

amen. that's how I view this... when someone logs onto mfc or anything else.. they're expecting to see some titties... and generally everything else they possibly can.. when someone is talking to a potential romantic or even just sexual partner and BAM unexpected dick pic! it can be a little off putting... even if you really wanted to see it in 3-D at some point. this is for two reasons.. ONE chicks are (arguably maybe a bit more now in the modern era with us all exposed to porn and everything else) not as "visually stimulated" as men and TWO your junk is just not as pretty as ours... haha I was going to go more intellectual but fuck it. :lol:

really though it's all about the context when it comes to these things... i was once ironing my clothes for work the next day and BAM dic pick! I almost burned my hand off (dont text and iron people) A simple "have a good night" would have sufficed random man I've met once... lol

whatevsss so many double standards against women... gonna be one against men every now and then...

I think I just keep responding to this post because I like saying dick pic ... dick pic dick pic dick pic!!
BAAHHHHH words lost all meaning...

GOD DAAAAMMIT i need to do something productive today

 

[AmberCutie]

There is, MOST definitely, a difference between cam girls getting naked on a website that people freely visit on their own will, and sending/showing unsolicited genital pictures to a person.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Yeah, the two things aren't really comparable. People choose to visit cam models and they pay them to take their clothes off. People (generally) don't ask and don't necessarily want to be sent pictures of a relative stranger's genitalia.

That said, in Magellan's defence, I don't think that's what he's talking about. From his post, I gathered he was defending those who send cock pics to women with whom they're already in a relationship. Not women they barely know.

 

[bob]

Yeah, the two things aren't really comparable. People choose to visit cam models and they pay them to take their clothes off. People (generally) don't ask and don't necessarily want to be sent pictures of a relative stranger's genitalia.

That said, in Magellan's defence, I don't think that's what he's talking about. From his post, I gathered he was defending those who send cock pics to women with whom they're already in a relationship. Not women they barely know.

agreed :thumbleft:

seems to me that the disparity here is because emotional transactions are way more subjective than economic ones.....seems clear that the woman didn't in any way ask for or invite the guy to send his pics....the fact that he did doesn't automatically make the guy a creep, but the action is another piece to the puzzle of his personality....apparently one that confused the woman enough that she turned to an advice column to try and figure out if some boundary had been crossed.

i'm not sure i agree with abbey's assessment of the situation tho....the very fact that the pics weren't completely without context in their relationship suggests to me only that the girl and guy have a different set of boundaries. to me, the guy was presumptuous....but that seems to happen a lot, now that we all have cameras and data plans and the silly perception of our own invulnerability.

 

[LadyLuna]

The difference between a camgirl and the dickpic guys is...

Girl: hey, wanna see my tits?
guy: sure!
Girl: *shows guy her tits*

and

Guy: hi
girl: hi
Guy: *shows dick pic*

Camgirls don't just randomly go around flashing our tits and pussy at anyone and everyone. Sure, we might show it in public chat where anyone who clicks on our room might see, but at the same time, those clicking on our room are EXPECTING to see it. But girls are being shown the guy's dick without any say in the matter at all. They don't click a link into a place where such things are expected. They're being show. Guy says "hey look!" girl looks and is rewarded with an eyeful of dick whether she wanted it or not. There's no warning, so no consent. At least camgirls are honest about what they're going to show.

 

[bob]

The difference between a camgirl and the dickpic guys is...

Girl: hey, wanna see my tits?
guy: sure!
Girl: *shows guy her tits*

you forgot the economic transaction part :-D