What do YOU consider "MILF" and "Mature"?

[NotYou]

Hi all, this isn't to obviously start some argument, simply to get your opinion.
I was chatting with another model, who is in her 40s, and she was saying how she finds it annoying that 20yr old's call themselves a "MILF" (usually with the # hash tag in their room title), even when it IS technically true, because they have a child[ren].


I agree with her but that's possibly because for me, I love a maturer woman (30+). So, I have that stereotype in mind, I guess, of a "MILF" being at least 30+

Also, I recently ventured a little on other cam sites and I noticed some have the "MILF" or even Mature set quite low. I was surprised by some sites setting "Mature" to 25+ - for my personal opinion, 25 for Mature is definitely low.

For a mature, I would consider 40+ because of the whole "life begins at 40".

I am not saying those who are below XX age should not call themselves a "MILF", if they are one... but I was just curious as to your own opinion and "definition" of one - it doesn't have to just be regarding age, it could be anything.. the whole "soccer mom" look and vibe if you want.. anything that you deem to make a model one.

 

[AudriTwo]

MILF means "mother I like to fuck". 20 somethings can be milfs. who am I to judge since being a mom is a huge identity for some women and women become mothers at any age? My best friend became a mother at 15 and was rocking the IRL MILF fantasy in her early 20's. By 25, she had 3 kids and it never changed how promiscuous she dressed.

Also, I think it's stupid for other models to worry about how other models tag and brand themselves. when really, they should be focusing on their own business. this grief is up there with people complaining about women not being big enough for bbw and mixed race or light skinned women aren't black enough to list herself under ebony.

Let people express themselves how they want to, people.

Mature can mean whatever you like. 19-year-old men call me mature, and I'm almost 30. I wouldn't consider myself that, but I understand why I am for some. Usually, it's based on the individual's perspective or if it is higher than their ideal age range of partners. I giggled at the 25 being listed as mature. Whoever created it must have worked in fashion. lol. Streamate lists mature I think at 50.

 

[Lintilla]

MILF: someone (of any age) that you would like to fuck, who is a mother. Mature: not me, never me. I'd be much happier if certain sites where I cam and upload content would stop labelling me either of these things, kthx. I'm childless and childish.

 

[SaffronBurke]

MILF means "mother I like to fuck". 20 somethings can be milfs.

This. MILF isn't a certain age, it's the state of being a parent.

Mature: I really don't know a good pinpoint age for this. Mostly because I'm perpetually a 12-year-old-boy and will never be mature.

 

[Lintilla]

Streamate lists mature I think at 50.

Missed the very last line of this somehow (wine). Mature on SM is 30+, granny is 50+. I occasionally remove a decade from my age when I get sick of being immediately called "mommy".

 

[SaffronBurke]

Missed the very last line of this somehow (wine). Mature on SM is 30+, granny is 50+. I occasionally remove a decade from my age when I get sick of being immediately called "mommy".

And that's why my display age is staying at 28 for like forever. I already get people calling me that sort of thing just because I have bigger boobs, and tbh being called "mommy" when it's not in reference to my cats makes me gag.

 

[sexyvanessa4u]

I don't have kids and I'm over 30 and get called milf all the time on cam. I know guys mean it as a compliment so it doesn't offend me, but I just wish they would learn how to use the word milf correctly. Many guys call any good looking lady over age 30 a milf, regardless of whether or not she has kids.

An 18 year old can be a milf and a 50 year old can be a milf-a milf is a sexy lady who is a mother, regardless of age. I think "cougar" would be a more appropriate term for a sexy lady over age 30, but is cougar over 30 or over 40? I don't even know with all the new terms nowadays lol.

When I hear the word "mature," no camgirls come to mind that fit my interpretation of the word "mature." I think of a grandma with gray hair, that qualifies for senior citizens' discounts at restaurants and takes Centrum Silver. I know camgirls, nude models, strippers, and escorts who are 50 and over, but they don't look it. I know "mature" doesn't have to mean this and can be a compliment, but that's just the image that comes to my mind when I hear the word "mature"-I don't think of sexy camgirls at all.

 

[Mila_]

Hi all, this isn't to obviously start some argument, simply to get your opinion.
I was chatting with another model, who is in her 40s, and she was saying how she finds it annoying that 20yr old's call themselves a "MILF" (usually with the # hash tag in their room title), even when it IS technically true, because they have a child[ren].


I agree with her but that's possibly because for me, I love a maturer woman (30+). So, I have that stereotype in mind, I guess, of a "MILF" being at least 30+

Also, I recently ventured a little on other cam sites and I noticed some have the "MILF" or even Mature set quite low. I was surprised by some sites setting "Mature" to 25+ - for my personal opinion, 25 for Mature is definitely low.

For a mature, I would consider 40+ because of the whole "life begins at 40".

I am not saying those who are below XX age should not call themselves a "MILF", if they are one... but I was just curious as to your own opinion and "definition" of one - it doesn't have to just be regarding age, it could be anything.. the whole "soccer mom" look and vibe if you want.. anything that you deem to make a model one.

Excellent post, Brett, 10/10 would read again
Here is my perspective:

The term MILF was popularized by the movie American Pie. It was applied to Stiffler’s mom. For those who never watched the movie it was about a bunch of high school teenagers first experiences with sex. One of the boys in the movie had a mom who was hot and flirty and everyone fantasized about fucking her. The term MILF is born during a conversation all these 17 y/os have about it. It is a fantasy because it is a bit wrong to be attracted to your peer’s mother since she is the same age as your own mother.. that’s the point of it. So to me, a MILF requires that age difference and thus it has to be the mother of someone who’s been through puberty. Assuming a woman gives birth at say.. 18... and that child has to grow up to be attracted to someone of his own mothers age this would make MILFs 35 at the youngest, and more realistically around 40. Someone who is 20 with a 6 month old baby would not qualify as a MILF since her babies peers are not thinking of fucking her.

Now mature to me implies necessarily that there are some obvious physical traits associated with being old. The word “mature” after all is an euphemism for old. In the case of women I would only apply the term “mature” to a woman who went through menopause already and with obvious signs of old age in the shape of silver hair or facial wrinkles, etc. To me mature would be more in the 50+ range and if the model looks younger than her age even 60+

 

[fandango]

In my opinion a milf is anyone who has had a child. I never really use the word mature but I guess in a cammng or porn context I'd consider that to mean anyone over 40.

 

[Rose]

As an actual MOM, I'd put myself firmly in the MILF category because I had a very public pregnancy that attracted people for the sheer fact that I now seem like a realistic version of the "wife" fantasy- a virtual replacement as a "horny" Mom, if you will.

I am NOT mature (har har), and definitely won't classify myself anything near that until I am at least 40.

 

[Gia_Xo]

MILF here, and it looks like in a few years I’ll be ‘mature’!!! Yikes.
Let’s go with what @Mila_ said and save that word for 50+......

 

[JoleneBrody]

I don't have kids and I'm over 30 and get called milf all the time on cam. I know guys mean it as a compliment so it doesn't offend me, but I just wish they would learn how to use the word milf correctly. Many guys call any good looking lady over age 30 a milf, regardless of whether or not she has kids.

An 18 year old can be a milf and a 50 year old can be a milf-a milf is a sexy lady who is a mother, regardless of age. I think "cougar" would be a more appropriate term for a sexy lady over age 30, but is cougar over 30 or over 40? I don't even know with all the new terms nowadays lol.

When I hear the word "mature," no camgirls come to mind that fit my interpretation of the word "mature." I think of a grandma with gray hair, that qualifies for senior citizens' discounts at restaurants and takes Centrum Silver. I know camgirls, nude models, strippers, and escorts who are 50 and over, but they don't look it. I know "mature" doesn't have to mean this and can be a compliment, but that's just the image that comes to my mind when I hear the word "mature"-I don't think of sexy camgirls at all.

30 is too younge for cougar I think. A cougar is a woman over 40 (from my understanding) who specifically dates only young men under 30. Usually under 25.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Technically, a MILF popped out a kid. That could be really young. However, when guys think of milfs they are thinking of women, oh, maybe 30+. At least in porn/cam world. So I get why guys would be bummed to see a 21 yr old under the milf category. It's correct, but not what they are looking for, in general.
I know some models will NOT use milf because they don't have kids. Even though their age range is what guys are looking for.
Mature usually intimates 50+. But I know some much younger who use it because they are not a milf.
I may be wrong, but I think when guys search milf they care much, much less about whether or not a model has kids than her age, i.e. 30+.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

I'd agree with what Mila said. MILF is more about a woman in her 30's who has a child, and is the object of desire for younger men. Mature is typically women who look to be about 50, or older.

"Cougar" is a generic term for an older woman who actively "hunts" for significantly younger men to have sex with. Most references I've found didn't associate a specific age range. Though, I'd say it's women around 40 due to "significant age difference".

 

[Lintilla]

I may be wrong, but I think when guys search milf they care much, much less about whether or not a model has kids than her age, i.e. 30+.

Some are looking for an age range, and so fine, I'm 37, it works, you found me. I do also get a lot of guys looking for mom or stepmom roleplay. Even then, it's not always so important whether I actually have kids or not, though it does often play into their fantasy. The label isn't the only thing that brings me that audience, but it doesn't help one bit, and I'd rather not have a label forced on me.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Some are looking for an age range, and so fine, I'm 37, it works, you found me. I do also get a lot of guys looking for mom or stepmom roleplay. Even then, it's not always so important whether I actually have kids or not, though it does often play into their fantasy. The label isn't the only thing that brings me that audience, but it doesn't help one bit, and I'd rather not have a label forced on me.

Fair enough. I wasn't even thinking of the role play aspect. Good point. I'll be honest, the only reason I search for milf is to find someone more in my age range where we would have common experiences, know more of the same pop culture stuff, etc. But that's just from the perspective of me. I probably projected way too much of my perspective onto the general population. Sometimes I forget that.

 

[Lintilla]

Fair enough. I wasn't even thinking of the role play aspect. Good point. I'll be honest, the only reason I search for milf is to find someone more in my age range where we would have common experiences, know more of the same pop culture stuff, etc. But that's just from the perspective of me. I probably projected way too much of my perspective onto the general population. Sometimes I forget that.

The entire reason this thread exists is because @Brett M realized that not everyone was using terms in the same way. That's most of the reason they're annoying to me. A lot of people come at me with various assumptions, and some of them are accurate, but then I also get people coming at me with @Mila_ 's definition of MILF, and they're looking for Stiffler's mom. I simply ain't it.

I do wish that age range categories on sites were just listed as actual age ranges vs. subjective labels like these. "Housewife", for instance (maybe a similar concept to some people's idea of "MILF"), is a self-chosen category on Streamate. I even chose it for myself. But we're auto-sorted into "mature" and "granny". I don't approve.

 

[AmberCutie]

It seems some use the term for anyone not in their friggin' teens anymore. This is incorrect.

I believe the most correct way to use it is for someone at least 30 who has had a child. The M stands for Mom or Mother.

I understand that younger women who have had a child might categorize themselves as MILF. But as has been mentioned I believe it's a combination of looking a little older AND having a child. The term got popular due to Stiffler's mom in American Pie. She's clearly older, and clearly a mom.

I get called a MILF often. Incorrect. No kids for me. I'm simply a woman who is at least 30. Not sure why it bothers me so much, but it does.

 

[Mila_]

It seems some use the term for anyone not in their friggin' teens anymore. This is incorrect.

I believe the most correct way to use it is for someone at least 30 who has had a child. The M stands for Mom or Mother.

I understand that younger women who have had a child might categorize themselves as MILF. But as has been mentioned I believe it's a combination of looking a little older AND having a child. The term got popular due to Stiffler's mom in American Pie. She's clearly older, and clearly a mom.

I get called a MILF often. Incorrect. No kids for me. I'm simply a woman who is at least 30. Not sure why it bothers me so much, but it does.

It bothers me too when someone calls me a MILF.. I think it's because to me it feels more like I have been excluded from the "young and desirable marriage material" bag and degraded into the "older woman who I would not date, in fact I am okay with her being a mom and it sort of turns me on as a freak fetish on but that's about it" Maybe it isn't necessarily true but it feels that way to me.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Not to be the bearer of bad news. But, I would also like to add that in the case of MILF, only having fur babies does not make one a MILF.

Don't hate me because I know a lot of you are fur-baby momma's and I think are hot as hell.

 

[sexyvanessa4u]

I'd agree with what Mila said. MILF is more about a woman in her 30's who has a child, and is the object of desire for younger men. Mature is typically women who look to be about 50, or older.

Yikes! This is what I was afraid of. I get called "mature" a lot also and I interpret "mature" as a nice way of saying old. When I think mature, I think of gray hair and wrinkles, and i do not have gray hair or wrinkles yet. I consider milf a compliment, but I do not consider mature to be a compliment.

 

[RogueWarrior]

MFC user only.
It would be helpful if one could search by age range, i.e., 20-29, 30-39, etc. I am fully aware that this would be abused, but it would be a start. I've had fun in rooms of all ages, but someone nearer my age, we can connect easier. And I fully realize that people go on cam sites for a variety of reasons. I speak for no one other than me.

 

[JoleneBrody]

MFC user only.
It would be helpful if one could search by age range, i.e., 20-29, 30-39, etc. I am fully aware that this would be abused, but it would be a start. I've had fun in rooms of all ages, but someone nearer my age, we can connect easier. And I fully realize that people go on cam sites for a variety of reasons. I speak for no one other than me.

Agree but SO many models put a fake birthday in that makes them 99 years old, it would prob be a mess.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Agree but SO many models put a fake birthday in that makes them 99 years old, it would prob be a mess.

• The 99s would be weeded out in that search. Maybe it would be a mess. Like I said, it would be abused. But it would only be a search option, not like it would preclude them from front page status. Just spitballing here.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I get called a MILF often. Incorrect. No kids for me. I'm simply a woman who is at least 30. Not sure why it bothers me so much, but it does.

I've been getting randomly called a MILF since I was 24, and I have never been pregnant, nor do I want to. Getting called a MILF mostly grosses me out because I'm so opposed to the idea of having kids, someone saying something that connects me and pregnancy can often make me gag.

Not to be the bearer of bad news. But, I would also like to add that in the case of MILF, only having fur babies does not make one a MILF.

Don't hate me because I know a lot of you are fur-baby momma's and I think are hot as hell.

I'm a cat-mom, and hard agree. I don't have human children, therefore I'm not MILF. I am an aunt to a human, but I don't think AILF is a thing Even though the kid did live with me for 4 years and I sort-of parented them, I'm not the momma.

 

[Fatquack]

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I'm a cat-mom, and hard agree. I don't have human children, therefore I'm not MILF. I am an aunt to a human, but I don't think AILF is a thing

AILF? You might just have discovered a new porn niche!

 

[Carmita Bonita]

I’ve noticed guys are more apt to put the milf tag on a model if she has bigger boobs/ass/wider hips etc. (i.e “mmm bb you’re so thick..you have milk bb??”) I’ve gotten called milf even when I first started camming in my early twenties. It’s just annoying how you’re either teen or milf in porn world.

 

[Gen]

It’s just annoying how you’re either teen or milf in porn world.

This is like the most annoying part of porn life to me, haha. The time between the two is like the time it takes an avocado to go from rock solid to mushy gross — blink and you’ve missed it.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I’ve noticed guys are more apt to put the milf tag on a model if she has bigger boobs/ass/wider hips etc. (i.e “mmm bb you’re so thick..you have milk bb??”) I’ve gotten called milf even when I first started camming in my early twenties. It’s just annoying how you’re either teen or milf in porn world.

And they don't even know how lactation freaking works. You'd think they would for how much they like it, but nope. They're almost as bad as the dudes who are convinced that EVERY woman can squirt, they'll teach you how, you just haven't done it right if you can't.

 

[KristinKervz]

I feel so invisible... I'm a childless (and will forever be childless) 30 year old. Why can't I have a cool hashtag? Haha.

Too old for teen porn, too young for mature or cougar. Well, Streamate did put me in the mature category when I turned 30, but it just doesn't feel right.