What can I use PM for?

[JessieWolfe]

Well this thread got weird.

If I get a pm that says I'm hot, awesome, crazy haha I'll probably just say thanks because I appreciate the compliments. They are nice to hear no matter where they are from.

I don't think that this will spark any kind of friendship/ long bout of pm-ing. If you want to befriend a model you should talk to her about ideas, things, not just her body. In which case it is best to start conversation in her chat room. Imo. Her chat room whether you are tipping or not is set aside as her time to have full blown conversations with you. If you guys get along there may be offline contact etc. models may get busy and might not be able to respond to your pms on here right away. We are people. We have things to do and can't always be by our phones and computers.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

In PM on acf I like members to just discuss forum topics or occasionally for a bit of chit chat. This is a place for our brains to be perved on rather than our looks. By all means drop on mfc mail (preferably offline tip) to give a compliment, but acf is chill time rather than entertain members time.

In real life... Mmmm sometimes getting a compliment can really make my day. Usually it doesn't. When it's flattering, well, a few times I've had considerably older men stop me in a restaurant and just say "sorry, I don't mean anything rude by this, but you are just so lovely" and have said it in such a nice, friendly and non pervy way that it's been really charming, and then they've left me alone without pushing anything more.

Honestly though, I'm a pretty girl in my early to mid 20s, if I'm done up I know I'm looking hot. And yeah, I get loads of guys telling me I'm hot both vocally and with their eyes. I don't need to hear it. If I'm not done up I would rather no one bring up my looks and pretend I'm invisible. If you are a decent looking guy, in a similar age range and the girl has honestly given you a look then I say sure, go tell her she's pretty, see what her reaction is. The worst thing about being chatted up by loads of guys is that the guys who you want to chat you up rarely do. But the compliment has to be non sexual, non predatory otherwise it will become creepy!

The worst thing though is when a guy compliments you and you smile and thank him but then he continues to try and get your number or push you for more conversation, so basically be completely aware of her signals, does she genuinely seem interested or is she just being polite? There is a fine line between feeling complimented by a stranger and feeling threatened. If in doubt just don't bother. It's nice to hear you're pretty but really, going up and telling a pretty girl she's pretty? How is that so important it's worth the risk of making her feel threatened or disturbing her day?

 

[sexybrietaylor]

curious though, say you are a cute girl and single and a hot guy comes up to you in public and respectful tells you that he thinks you are beautiful and strikes up a conversation. I would like that and in that conversation I might be inclined to want to chat with him further. Like what if that was fate for us to meet and spend eternity together lol ya never know

 

[TacoBelle]

Hi love, Just quickly, you are one of those three,
https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewt ... 19#p565897
and I dig you for it. (I just got a bit insulted, not by Iris's thought, but by her, 'I'm all that' tone. Does she really think that little of us pervs, that the only reason anyone ever talks to us, is when they're "going out of their way"? NM, you don't have to answer that, but you can prolly tell I'm still a bit insulted.)

I'm not sure what the point of this post was except to piss me off. I wasn't trying to come off as "I'm all that." In fact, I doubt I could do that if I tried. If you had read my post, you would have noticed that I said you can become friends with models, as that happens often. I don't "go out of my way" to talk to members. I respond to most, but I was saying that some models genuinely enjoy talking with their close members. I spend a good majority of my day talking to my regulars. I enjoy that. And it is simply because we are friends, and they brighten my day when we do talk.

Now, I have chatted with you numerous times on cam and off. I've never been haughty or bitchy to you. But this passive-aggressive post is enough to show me that I won't be "going out of my way" anytime in the future to encourage a friendship between us.

I posted in this thread to help give WizOfAus some insight into when a model is being receptive to his modes of contact. As you can tell by the numerous thanks by models and members alike, it was obviously understood and well-received by some of ACF. I'm sorry that you read it in a negative context, but you of all people should know that I'm usually humble and kind to people, whether they're friends or not.



(Taking a cue from my dad) This is all I will say on the matter.

 

[AmberCutie]

I don't "go out of my way" to talk to members. I respond to most, but I was saying that some models genuinely enjoy talking with their close members. I spend a good majority of my day talking to my regulars. I enjoy that. And it is simply because we are friends, and they brighten my day when we do talk.

People who are my AmberLand friends brighten my day with lil messages here and there, whether it be a PM on here or MFC, a DM on twitter, or public tweets. It doesn't feel like going out of my way to reply to them, and I'm willing to bet if they were getting little to no response from me, they'd realize/respect that I'm busy with non-Amberland stuff and not feel butthurt about it.

We expect members (whether they're our friends or not, even) to use their brain and instinct a little and notice these sort of hints without us having to directly tell them "hey I am too busy for random chit chat right now, save it for when I'm on cam because that's the time I have specifically dedicated to this stuff."

 

[camstory]

I am sorry Iris.

You know, all I have read of your reply at this point is the quote in Amber's post, and only her first line. I have learned two things about myself here. One, there are many times when I find myself passionate about some post or reply, and am not able to log out without first spewing out some of that passion. And two, (something that has become clear to me much more recently) that there are times when I should not post, for one another or a variety of reasons. Only knowing the first, and arrogant enough to ignore the possibility of the second, have lead to some really poor post in the past. This is prolly 1 of those times I should not post in reply, and why I quick checked myself and pulled up on reading any further.

Stress from taking on other's projects, while neglecting my own, has me increasingly more volatile of late. (A good reason not to post right now, but I think maybe part of the reason I felt so put off by Iris's tone, and may well have even misinterpreted her words. Without reading it again right now, I can only be sure of one thing - that how that post came off to me, contradicts what I thought I knew about Iris. That would support the notion that I over reacted or took it the wrong way. So tired and drained, and yet a few more hours to complete one of those major stressors.

I will return soon to read any from Iris or others that there may be, and also to finish Amber's. I think we will all benefit from a less than spontaneous read/reply from me right now.