Hi there,
Long post alert. The TL;DR version : I talked to a cam girl we now only talk offline and I am going to meet her, but sceptical about doing it.
First post on here. I have been looking at falling for a cam girl posts on here for a while and thought I’d share my current experience, as I am planning on meeting a cam girl I used to speak to (we talk only offline now). And wanted advice/opinion.
I’ll start by saying I haven’t spent unaffordable sums of money on this girl or tattooed my body with her name or started writing songs etc. I now will absolutely not give or send her money.
I had no intention of joining a cam site to ‘find love’ I don’t think anyone does, and I am not convinced it’s possible. And do not join one thinking that’s what they are for.
Anyway, I start speaking to this girl on a cam site. We get on okay, and mainly just talk. I start enjoying talking to her each evening (I was in a long term relationship that was breaking down) so it was nice to talk to someone neutral.
Anyway, I start getting confusing feelings, can’t seem to get her out of my head. I tell myself it’s ridiculous and try and move on. In the end I decide that maybe if I C2C with her that might normalise things (no idea why I thought that) but instead it seemed to intensify things. So we start talking about meeting and add each other on social media (her real one).
I was quite concerned the entire time I was being scammed tbh, we would talk for hours on the site, but when it came to talking offline, we did not quite communicate as much. So I put it down to the fact she just wanted me in her room more.
I decided it all had to stop and that I was lost in a fantasy that wasn’t real. And decided to break it off. I avoid her room and try and forget about her. She blocked me off all platforms as I said to her she only wanted me for money, my life was also complicated at the time due to my ending relationship and I said I could not do it anyway. She tells some story about how she’ll contact me in some weeks or something, but we effectively *dramatically* ‘said goodbye forever’.
Anyway, fast forward, months pass. I notice she unbanned me from her room (not social media). Which again lead me to believe she just wanted me to goto her room more. I avoided her room for weeks after I notice the unban. But in a moment of weakness decided to go back in, hoping in a way she would instantly block me again.
Anyway, we talk, I ask how she is etc. And she says she still feels something, I explain that I can talk to her but only off the site, I can spend no money on her. She says she doesn’t want my money. So we start texting.
Shortly into the texting she wants me to come and meet her (lives in another country). I don’t respond for a while, but kinda think to myself ‘what the hell’. So I book a visit to her. I have said I will only meet her in a neutral place etc which she is happy with.
Maybe I am being naiive, but provided before the trip I don’t get any messages asking for money for her sick mother, this seems a bit of a crappy long con? Not entirely sure what she’d have to gain by meeting me. She could rob me, but seems like alot of effort to goto? There is nothing she can use to extort me. So I dunno.
A few red flags have popped up. Texting is still sporadic, I feel like I am being texted off a separate phone but I have no idea. Her emotions are a little bit up and down, she cried when I ‘called it off’ (bit dramatic?). And emotions can go from very intense to her not seeming that bothered.
My general consensus at the moment is, it could be all a long con (but I fail to see the end goal). But provided I am very cautious about where we go, meet etc. I feel like maybe it’s worth a shot. I am potentially getting a friend and girlfriend to come with me, who have said if if it doesn’t work out, we can just have a holiday.
Thoughts appreciated!
Long post alert. The TL;DR version : I talked to a cam girl we now only talk offline and I am going to meet her, but sceptical about doing it.
First post on here. I have been looking at falling for a cam girl posts on here for a while and thought I’d share my current experience, as I am planning on meeting a cam girl I used to speak to (we talk only offline now). And wanted advice/opinion.
I’ll start by saying I haven’t spent unaffordable sums of money on this girl or tattooed my body with her name or started writing songs etc. I now will absolutely not give or send her money.
I had no intention of joining a cam site to ‘find love’ I don’t think anyone does, and I am not convinced it’s possible. And do not join one thinking that’s what they are for.
Anyway, I start speaking to this girl on a cam site. We get on okay, and mainly just talk. I start enjoying talking to her each evening (I was in a long term relationship that was breaking down) so it was nice to talk to someone neutral.
Anyway, I start getting confusing feelings, can’t seem to get her out of my head. I tell myself it’s ridiculous and try and move on. In the end I decide that maybe if I C2C with her that might normalise things (no idea why I thought that) but instead it seemed to intensify things. So we start talking about meeting and add each other on social media (her real one).
I was quite concerned the entire time I was being scammed tbh, we would talk for hours on the site, but when it came to talking offline, we did not quite communicate as much. So I put it down to the fact she just wanted me in her room more.
I decided it all had to stop and that I was lost in a fantasy that wasn’t real. And decided to break it off. I avoid her room and try and forget about her. She blocked me off all platforms as I said to her she only wanted me for money, my life was also complicated at the time due to my ending relationship and I said I could not do it anyway. She tells some story about how she’ll contact me in some weeks or something, but we effectively *dramatically* ‘said goodbye forever’.
Anyway, fast forward, months pass. I notice she unbanned me from her room (not social media). Which again lead me to believe she just wanted me to goto her room more. I avoided her room for weeks after I notice the unban. But in a moment of weakness decided to go back in, hoping in a way she would instantly block me again.
Anyway, we talk, I ask how she is etc. And she says she still feels something, I explain that I can talk to her but only off the site, I can spend no money on her. She says she doesn’t want my money. So we start texting.
Shortly into the texting she wants me to come and meet her (lives in another country). I don’t respond for a while, but kinda think to myself ‘what the hell’. So I book a visit to her. I have said I will only meet her in a neutral place etc which she is happy with.
Maybe I am being naiive, but provided before the trip I don’t get any messages asking for money for her sick mother, this seems a bit of a crappy long con? Not entirely sure what she’d have to gain by meeting me. She could rob me, but seems like alot of effort to goto? There is nothing she can use to extort me. So I dunno.
A few red flags have popped up. Texting is still sporadic, I feel like I am being texted off a separate phone but I have no idea. Her emotions are a little bit up and down, she cried when I ‘called it off’ (bit dramatic?). And emotions can go from very intense to her not seeming that bothered.
My general consensus at the moment is, it could be all a long con (but I fail to see the end goal). But provided I am very cautious about where we go, meet etc. I feel like maybe it’s worth a shot. I am potentially getting a friend and girlfriend to come with me, who have said if if it doesn’t work out, we can just have a holiday.
Thoughts appreciated!
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