AmberCutie said:
I do believe he's allowed to be part of this community because what he does is a COMMON subject in the camming community in general.
Agree with what you're saying, but oh god, I do hope he doesn't stick around. If he does then I will go on wishful thinking that he didn't realise just how much this stuff upsets models, just how much it can negatively effect their lives. Just how I used to love public shows, and now because of a few idiots I rarely do them, and feel nervous when I do. It's not even that I'm that worried people from my real life will see me, although it's always a concern. It's that someone that I've never spoken to in my life felt that even though I was allowing him to view my show, he somehow had the right to record my show and show it to everyone else without ever consulting me or checking if it's ok. The worst part is that said person probably knew how much it'd upset me. It upsets me that there are people in the world who will knowingly hurt people for their own gain. And really not that much gain at all. That said person would rather please a bunch of people they've never met with my work and my body than say hello to me and get to know me. Knowingly doing something when you know the person you're doing it to will be upset is pretty bad. I don't really understand how someone who must surely enjoy models, seeing as they record tons of their videos can go around doing things that they know will hurt them. If you freeload on me the least you can do in return is keep it to yourself and not do things that will hurt and upset me and possibly mess around with my actual life. If you don't enjoy my shows, then don't want them.
These people you share these shows you've recorded care nothing for you. If you're doing this for the relationships with these guys then you're wasting your time. If it's for money, well in the amount of time you've recorded and sent out all these videos you probably could have earned more elsewhere. I genuinely care about my regulars. I devote a lot of time to chatting to them, making sure they're ok, trying to help them with their actual lives, and they listen to my issues and general things I might want to talk about in return. It is not a real life friendship, but it is still a friendship. You are missing out on all of that.
It's like in Avatar, they don't notice that the wealth of the land isn't in the fuel, it's in everything around them. You're essentially the people walking in trying to rip up all the trees and ruin the land for your own gain not thinking about the consequences of others. You're missing the whole point, the best parts of the camworld because you're so focused on taking as much from it as you can get. You're like one of those people who sees a beautiful flower growing, barely looks at it before picking it and then enjoys it for like a second and just leaves it in a vase somewhere they never look. Because of that now the flower won't spread. Does anyone see where my rambling is getting to?
Meh I guess it's no use hoping maybe just maybe you're not completely concrete minded, and maybe you're not a terrible person. But if reading this, and knowing all this you still do not change at all, then I guess you probably are and will never change.
As for these members adamantly trying to defend what they do. Everyone is the hero of their own story. You will hear even rapists and those involved in child abuse adamantly defending their cause. Defending their rights to do what they did. Blaming others. All of it. I think most people can accept that rape and child abuse is wrong, yet it still happens and those who do it will still defend it. Just like this.
No one wants to believe they're the bad guy. The worst people I've known have genuinely thought they are good people. One of the reasons they are so bad is because they think that. They never question if what they're doing truly is right or wrong because they are so in the belief that what they do it right. That they're on the good side. To genuinely be a good person you actually need to question yourself and bend relatively often. Your actions also need to prove your worth. Being able to recognise that what you do is wrong is one step towards the right path, but then you need your actions to follow through with it. We only get one chance at life, it is everyones choice whether all the want to do is take from it giving very little back, whether they want to live their lives as they do giving and taking equally or if they want to make the choice to give more back than they take.
I've never been in another persons head so I don't know how other people truly work. I know that when I do something bad I feel guilty. I know that doing bad/cruel things makes me miserable. I know that doing things to help people makes me happy. So, on that basis, for purely selfish reasons, I'd rather be nice to people and give back what I take from the world.