"Should I stay, or should I go?"

[ExcellaExe]

On a different note i would really appreciate some feedback from the cam girls regarding tipping, Would you rather have a flow of constant tips of smallish amounts between 10-100 tokens at quietish moments to stimulate some tipping action or would you rather have larger tips of around 2000 to 3000 tokens sporadically say once or twice a month roughly. I generally spend the same amount per month regardless but i really want to try and do the best thing by the cam girl.

It depends. I'd prefer smallish ones throughout the day for when it's slow, to stimulate other guys into tipping, but some days those big tips are just... sorely needed. If someone is going to spend roughly 2-3k a month anyway, I'd prefer the smaller ones, or when I'm desperately trying to take my shirt or bra off someone snipping it off for me.

 

[Guy]

All said in this post is just my opinion and shouldn't be taken for anything more than that. It's super long too sorry.

I wish there was a way members could be trained how camsites work before having stuff like this happen.

A model "lying" about her relationship isn't like a real lie. It's a job lie. like "yeah sure boss i'm totally
going to make that deadline". They are just lying to either protect themselves or maybe they find they make more
money if dudes think they are single or maybe they just got sick of members saying crap like "your BF sounds like a
tool i'd totally never do that too you" or finally maybe it's none of our damn business why they don't tell us. Going in
as a member and finding this out the hard way can kind of suck but now at least going forward you know.

The "I love you" part is a bit tougher. Try to look at "I love you" in Camland as meaning "hey you're a cool member; I
hope you are having a good day" or "holy shit that tip was huge thank you I can now get some new shoes". The first time
you get bit by the "I love you" can suck but you can now move forward knowing what it really means.

For your situation unfortunately you are screwed. If you cyberstalked her to find out who she really was; what
you did in her eyes will be just as bad as what she did in yours and it kind of makes you a turd.
You can try to tell her you know she's married now but that will totally get turned around on you and you will
probably be banned in a heartbeat and she will look at you as the bad guy. If you didn't cyberstalk her confronting
her still really won't "fix" anything.

Your real choices are:
1. walk away now and never go on cam sites again in fear of being lied too.
2. walk away now and knowing what you learned find a new cool model and if you did cyber stalk before
don't cyber stalk her.
3. confront her and look like a huge turd if you cyber stalked her.
4. pretend like nothing happened and go forward with her knowing what you know now.(I don't recommend this one)

Why do some members treat camsites like dating sites?

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

Why do some members treat camsites like dating sites?

One unfortunate reason is that many affiliates and sometimes sites themselves deceitfully market the sites that way, point-blank.

 

[JGenius]

One unfortunate reason is that many affiliates and sometimes sites themselves deceitfully market the sites that way, point-blank.

And some guys thinks than camgirls are very sad in their life and very lonely.
So some guys think than girls are going to jump in their arms.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

And some guys thinks than camgirls are very sad in their life and very lonely.
So some guys think than girls are going to jump in their arms.

Right, that's also a thing.

It would be great if cam/content site members would approach the site and the performers there from, you know, a client perspective. By default. And always. But since they get an intimate look into our lives, apparently it becomes way easier to project an air of personal intimacy where there is actually only sexual intimacy.

 

[JGenius]

Right, that's also a thing.

It would be great if cam/content site members would approach the site and the performers there from, you know, a client perspective. By default. And always. But since they get an intimate look into our lives, apparently it becomes way easier to project an air of personal intimacy where there is actually only sexual intimacy.

I agree with you. I think some models should do this too (even if they're not a lot).
A model with who i had smart conversations about neutral things started to talk about her personnal life for important things (family etc etc) and i felt awkward.
At a moment i've told her to not do this because she had no idea who i really was.
She continued until i said no.
She's one of the models who got the most wedding/ dating propositions in 5 month

 

[mynameisbob84]

Why do some members treat camsites like dating sites?

I think there's a whole bunch of reasons, yo.

• Some studios encourage it. Some times it's encouraged by the site's marketing, and some times the model herself encourages it by leading the member on.
• Some members can't differentiate between fantasy and reality and some times that dividing line is blurred by both parties to the point where what's real and what's not is almost impossible to distinguish.
• Some members believe that if a woman is down to get naked for strangers online, then she's surely also down to fuck strangers in real life, because why wouldn't she?
• Some members believe that because they don't fit the stereotypical image of a cam site member - maybe they're good looking, maybe they have wash-board abs, maybe they have a massive dick and are reliably informed they know how to use it, maybe they're so rich that it doesn't matter what they look like, or maybe they just think their personality is the shit - they think that while 99% of cam girls have no romantic interest in 99% of members, they're worthy of being the exception.
• Some members are socially... awkward? unaware? and think that cam sites are a good place to find a partner.
• Some members know people who really did meet on a cam site and successfully dated and assume that's just the norm.

I'm sure there are other reasons too.

 

[cherrybomb1111]

I agree with you. I think some models should do this too (even if they're not a lot).
A model with who i had smart conversations about neutral things started to talk about her personnal life for important things (family etc etc) and i felt awkward.
At a moment i've told her to not do this because she had no idea who i really was.
She continued until i said no.
She's one of the models who got the most wedding/ dating propositions in 5 month

I agree with this completely. Although it is difficult to not talk about our personal lives when we get comfortable with a member.. Not talking about the personal stuff establishes the boundry. I made the mistake of getting personal with one member now every time i see him he sais he wants to come here and be with me. Its makes me super uncomfortable now that i have to continuously reject him :/
But its hard to be so impersonal. How do you establish friendships with your regulars and be completely impersonal at the same time?

 

[MFCGod]

I recently found out with 99.9% (because nothing is 100%) accuracy that she is married, despite her previous statements to me about not being married. I also found out her real name, which she has never given to me in the time I have known her.

I see my two options as:
1) Asking her about what I have found out, seeing what she has to say and walk away.
~ or~
2) Just walk away without saying anything.

I have a question for the models here

If someone did find out personal information would you want them to tell you about it + how they found it? so you could better protect yourself from it happening in future, or would you rather never know and be blissfully unaware?

If you would rather know, does that not effect advising on option 2

 

[cherrybomb1111]

I have a question for the models here

If someone did find out personal information would you want them to tell you about it + how they found it? so you could better protect yourself from it happening in future, or would you rather never know and be blissfully unaware?

If you would rather know, does that not effect advising on option 2

Yes. A guy found my facebook. Before i knew he waa on ly facebook he cam into my room as a grey user. Called out my name, state, sisters name, moms name ans my dog. Like wtf! Who is this guy!? Anyways i put a two and two together and figure out who it was on fb. He never would tell me how he figured out who i was on fb. Creepy.

 

[JGenius]

I agree with this completely. Although it is difficult to not talk about our personal lives when we get comfortable with a member.. Not talking about the personal stuff establishes the boundry. I made the mistake of getting personal with one member now every time i see him he sais he wants to come here and be with me. Its makes me super uncomfortable now that i have to continuously reject him :/
But its hard to be so impersonal. How do you establish friendships with your regulars and be completely impersonal at the same time?

I've known a model who was honest she told me once "I like yourconversation i propose you online friendship not like real life friendship, so don't cross the line"
She's been one of the models i appreciated the most.