Relationships vs Job

[camgirlwannabe]

Okay. I am 22, unemployed, and currently living with my boyfriend/ my daughter's father. We have been together for 3.5 years. I have looked for jobs, but the best offers would barely cover gas to and from work after daycare. im making more on my unemployment than that, and i have a lot of experience and training for the jobs i have applied for. My bf owns his own hvac company, but has not been paying taxes. what he makes is almost not enough to cover the bills anymore. without government help, we'd be screwed. Basically, i have become frustrated lately, and i know he has too. I cheated on him, and the guy i began seeing suggested this career path. I'd never even thought about it! but i truly feel like this job was made for me. The bf, however, is still angry that i cheated, obviously, but what i want to address is WHY i cheated. i'm tired of being dependent on someone else. i want to be able to go out and do the things i want and have money to buy things. its a lonely life sitting at home all day, why can i not chat and make a little money while im at it?
i just feel like he wants to control me. He has lied about things too, but i never had access to anything personal to check, like he did. and its not that hes a prude, bc he sure as heck will find any girl to watch me have sex with. but yet, i never get laid. i just think there is something seriously wrong here, why is it so wrong to want to make some extra cash? he even said if he thought i could make enough, hed let me. but i really think i could! im tiny, im young, im pretty, ive heard it all my life. even after a baby... and i think that fact seems to make me more attractive! i understand that hes worried that id run off with some other guy, but if i wanted to be a prostitute, id be begging him for money! or anyone else for that matter! i just dont see the harm in having fun and making a living at the same time. am i wrong here? idk. i just really really want to do this. but what if i do and make nothing?

 

[AmberCutie]

1. If you're going to get a job chatting on the Internet, please learn how to use the "enter" or "return" key to create paragraphs. That blob of text was hard to get through.

2. If you've already cheated on the guy, it's not completely off-base for him to not feel comfortable with you flirting with other guys online, even if that means making some cash here and there.

3. It makes me sad to hear that there are people living off of unemployment, and their partners don't even pay taxes to the government that supplies the unemployment... sigh.

It sounds like you're going to break even either way. With him, you won't be a cam girl, but he helps support you. Without him, you might make a bit of money on your own with camming, but you won't have him to assist you. Just do whatever is the most convenient.

 

[camgirlwannabe]

I apologize, it was kind of a rant. Thanks for the quick response. I do know how to properly type, I just had a lot to get out.

Clearly, I am trying to get a job. I can't tell him what to do, if I could, he would have been paying taxes a long time ago.
I do not want him to be my only financial support.
I guess my whole question is this: Is it really that hard to make money? I am willing to work hard and put in the hours.
Will that be enough? I've noticed that most of the top girls are either long-time girls or the "fake" foreign girls.
Are there perfectly attractive, normal girls who flop "just because"? I'd hate to ruin my life over something that I can never successfully accomplish.

Maybe he is just killing my self-confidence.

 

[AmberCutie]

You can be great looking and still fail. It all comes down to how you handle yourself on camera and how much you advertise for yourself.

 

[Bocefish]

From what you've said thus far, it sounds to me like your relationship isn't all that important to you aside from the fact that he fathered your child. He can be forced into child support.

Read the Reality Check thread http://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=1123 and if you feel working as a cam girl could negatively effect your future job potential (Teacher, working with children, politics, etc..) don't do it.

If you really feel that you have very little or nothing to lose and you've done your homework on how to be successful, give it a try.

 

[camgirlwannabe]

Well, thanks for your time and input. You are doing a wonderful thing here!

 

[Cassidy Nicole]

Yeah, you can have the perfect body and decent personality and not take off on MFC. I have seen it happen a lot.

 

[EllaXoXo]

It is really how you interact with the cam and the people, but looks do play a role as well. There are honestly a lot of factors. Why not try it out and see how it goes before making up your mind for sure?

And if you want to stay with your current beau, then you should sit him down and explain to him how you're feeling and let him be as involved (or uninvolved) in your camming as he wants. You can even offer to do shows with him on another site, like SM or SV. And show him that your profile has you listed as in a relationship if that makes him feel more comfortable.

 

[GreatDane]

As the others have said, it's not always about how you look but how you communicate with everyone, you could be drop dead gorgeous and have the personality of an ice cube (cold and shallow and short lived) or you can take a chance and start an account, make sure you are honest with yourself and your bf.

Can't hurt to start out posting pics of yourself at some of the other forums to get an idea how much the trolls will harp on you, can give you a slight idea what to expect at mfc and some of the other sites.

There are a LOT of smart girls here that can help with ideas and suggestions and there are a few members here too that might be willing to give you a few suggestions too.

Make sure you are honest with your bf, and if he's uncomfortable with the situation, you need to think of a backup plan.

 

[SatanJonez]

As the others have said, it's not always about how you look but how you communicate with everyone, you could be drop dead gorgeous and have the personality of an ice cube (cold and shallow and short lived) or you can take a chance and start an account, make sure you are honest with yourself and your bf.

Can't hurt to start out posting pics of yourself at some of the other forums to get an idea how much the trolls will harp on you, can give you a slight idea what to expect at mfc and some of the other sites.

There are a LOT of smart girls here that can help with ideas and suggestions and there are a few members here too that might be willing to give you a few suggestions too.

Make sure you are honest with your bf, and if he's uncomfortable with the situation, you need to think of a backup plan.

I gotta agree with this. If you can shrug off what forum trolls say to you after posting a random picture, you'll do fine in that aspect for being a cam girl.

 

[GreatDane]

As the others have said, it's not always about how you look but how you communicate with everyone, you could be drop dead gorgeous and have the personality of an ice cube (cold and shallow and short lived) or you can take a chance and start an account, make sure you are honest with yourself and your bf.

Can't hurt to start out posting pics of yourself at some of the other forums to get an idea how much the trolls will harp on you, can give you a slight idea what to expect at mfc and some of the other sites.

There are a LOT of smart girls here that can help with ideas and suggestions and there are a few members here too that might be willing to give you a few suggestions too.

Make sure you are honest with your bf, and if he's uncomfortable with the situation, you need to think of a backup plan.

I gotta agree with this. If you can shrug off what forum trolls say to you after posting a random picture, you'll do fine in that aspect for being a cam girl.

If you need suggestions on which forums to post at, I am sure there are a few that can be given, and I know of a couple that are full of said trolls. Good luck on it and if you need help, ask and I am sure you will get help from some here.

BTW Welcome to the forum

 

[camgirlwannabe]

Great advice here from some very smart women!
Which forums would you recommend? I'd love to check for reactions. Anything you can share will be helpful!
I did look into the couples area... but since my bf won't even take off his shirt to have sex, I doubt he'd be willing
I am being completely honest with him, and will continue to do so.
I will take a few racy pictures tonight, the ones i have are so low quality (webcam) it would hardly be worth it.
Again, thank you all for your time, I didn't expect this much of a response!

PS: Amber, you look fabulous tonight! I swear that 1985 guy asking about your husband had to be my man! LMAO!

 

[GreatDane]

a couple of forums to take a look at...
http://www.newbienudes.com
http://www.uselessjunk.net ( a LOT of trolls here ) I may set up troll run on UJ if I can convince enough women here to help out (they are the ones I found mfc through btw)
those are the ones that I have been to that are an open forum for the most part.

 

[Jebbaz]

Every room has a different niche. For the most part its about communication with the room.

There are some popular girls who never even worry about their room though, some are able to do this because they are so hot people cant not watch them, others are really good at what they do in private.

Find your niche and go with it.

 

[AlexLady]

If he's totally against it, make sure he isn't the vengeful type.

 

[camgirlwannabe]

I will not be posting in UJ, as that is his main argument against it
I did, however, post on NN. http://www.newbienudes.com/photos/defau ... mgirlluv23
In case anyone is curious...
Nothing amazing, but hopefully I'll get some feedback.
Like I said, he is entertaining the thought. He just doesn't want me to do this because he hears how impossible it is to make any real money.
I still think I can. Now I just need to convince him...

 

[GreatDane]

UJ is a beast all it's own, based on the pics posted at NN, you have a good figure and odds are you will get a good reception at most of the cam sites. Keep in mind you also have to make a connection with the people that come into your room and have fun.

 

[Rei_Rei]

ok nn is insane. i just joined, put a few pics up and holy hell.

 

[bawksy]

I guess my whole question is this: Is it really that hard to make money? I am willing to work hard and put in the hours.

Yes, it's absolutely hard. There are plenty of sexy ladies who work their vaginas raw on MFC and still barely make shit. Hot women are a dime a dozen. Only the girls who figure out how to really stand out from the crowd make any real money.

The drama going on at home is only going to make things worse too. It's hard to keep a positive attitude and a regular work schedule if your live-in boyfriend doesn't support you, and both are necessary if you want to attract and keep regular clients.

Honestly, from what you've said so far, I would not at all recommend this as a career to you.

 

[AmberCutie]

I guess my whole question is this: Is it really that hard to make money? I am willing to work hard and put in the hours.

Yes, it's absolutely hard. There are plenty of sexy ladies who work their vaginas raw on MFC and still barely make shit. Hot women are a dime a dozen. Only the girls who figure out how to really stand out from the crowd make any real money.

The drama going on at home is only going to make things worse too. It's hard to keep a positive attitude and a regular work schedule if your live-in boyfriend doesn't support you, and both are necessary if you want to attract and keep regular clients.

Honestly, from what you've said so far, I would not at all recommend this as a career to you.

Holy fuck. That's the most reasonable and well worded honest reply I've seen from you in a long time, if ever.

PS: I agree wholeheartedly with what he wrote.

 

[Cassidy Nicole]

I guess my whole question is this: Is it really that hard to make money? I am willing to work hard and put in the hours.

Yes, it's absolutely hard. There are plenty of sexy ladies who work their vaginas raw on MFC and still barely make shit. Hot women are a dime a dozen. Only the girls who figure out how to really stand out from the crowd make any real money.

The drama going on at home is only going to make things worse too. It's hard to keep a positive attitude and a regular work schedule if your live-in boyfriend doesn't support you, and both are necessary if you want to attract and keep regular clients.

Honestly, from what you've said so far, I would not at all recommend this as a career to you.

Holy fuck. That's the most reasonable and well worded honest reply I've seen from you in a long time, if ever.

PS: I agree wholeheartedly with what he wrote.

Agreed!

 

[Jebbaz]

Bawksy is an extremely well versed, educated, and clever individual.

Pity he's rather use his powers for evil rather than good.

 

[LadyLuna]

Camming is not easy money.

If you don't have a support system, you will likely fail. That said, this forum in and of itself is a great support system, so you already have that bit.

You will not likely make enough right off the bat to get independent, but if you do your research you could fly. That said, I DO NOT recommend you start right now. Summer time is a down time, and the economy has not really recovered. Wait till the fall, and if the economy hasn't gotten any worse, make your try at it. The family-centered holidays are a great time to start.

 

[Keithy]

Bawksy is an extremely well versed, educated, and clever individual.

Pity he's rather use his powers for evil rather than good.

Because evil is awesome and good is for wienies.

 

[EllaXoXo]

Camming is not easy money.

If you don't have a support system, you will likely fail. That said, this forum in and of itself is a great support system, so you already have that bit.

You will not likely make enough right off the bat to get independent, but if you do your research you could fly. That said, I DO NOT recommend you start right now. Summer time is a down time, and the economy has not really recovered. Wait till the fall, and if the economy hasn't gotten any worse, make your try at it. The family-centered holidays are a great time to start.

I started camming during the summer and found it to be alright. It just depends on your niche, I think?

 

[Cassidy Nicole]

I started camming in July 2 summers ago, and it worked but I was on like 8-10 hours a day.

 

[EvaLee]

Yeah, you can have the perfect body and decent personality and not take off on MFC. I have seen it happen a lot.

This, absolutely this. I'm shocked I've been able to stay near the 1900 camscore when I am constantly impressed and absolutely jealous by the femmes hovering around the 500-900 mark. A lot of them are absolutely beautiful but can't seem to keep more than a handful of people in their room for even a minute. When I first started on MFC, someone came into my room and said 'This girl is absolutely beautiful. But we need to see how her personality plays out.' That is exactly it. MFC is 50/50 .. personality/looks.

 

[CherryRita]

Camming is not easy at all ... you have to hustle yourself, and that can be the hardest thing of all!
Some days/nights you might walk away with nothing ... others might be good.
I am a single mom and right now this is my only job, till I pass my state boards, then it will be a 2nd job!
I get aid for my lil one, which only goes to what she needs. This job barely pays my bills. In fact I have a friend (single mom) moving in that will also be camming to help pay half the bills.
I do it, cause I really like it, I like getting on and hanging out and doing what I can to make money.
I also like being able to stay home with my lil one and then get on when she is asleep ... but I know that this job does not pay all my bills, that i need another.
This job is hard, hard, hard... it is not easy, if you did not read that, its hard! You cant just get on and bam make money ... you have to know what u are selling and sell it!

Also if he does not like you doing it .. no amount of talking or anything will get him to change his mind. looks like you don't want to be with him anyway and are looking for an excuse out. I say try it out ... see if you like it.
that is the only thing you can do, leave if you want, stay if you want ... its up to you. by the looks of it, it seems like you already made your choice

 

[Jebbaz]

Camming is not easy at all ... you have to hustle yourself, and that can be the hardest thing of all!

 

[AmberCutie]

Camming is not easy at all ... you have to hustle yourself, and that can be the hardest thing of all!

LoL I actually had that song in my head nearly every day of March.