JuniperGin said:
I can't stand unceasing self-deprecation. When people go on and on about never being able to do this or that or being worthless, etc. Now, don't get me wrong. We all have experienced these feelings, and it's perfectly alright to express how you're feeling. It's when people never talk about anything else, and instead of saying "I feel like xyz" saying, "I am xyz" and just trying to get everybody to jump on the pity train with them. Ex: A group I used to be involved with on facebook was FULL of posts of people saying "I'm so unattractive, no one will ever love me, I can't do anything right, etc"
These feelings are totally okay to have sometimes, but when it becomes the only thing someone ever says or fixates on, just the sheer negativity of it...I just can't stand it.
Sorry if that sounded bitchy, but a friend of mine is currently pulling this stuff/has been for weeks. I'm so burned out on it.
I have a friend who I quit talking to because, among other things, anytime that anyone said anything negative, she'd spin it around to be an insult to her:
A palmistry book called her useless because it says that someone with soft hands probably doesn't do much physical labor
Someone on Facebook made her feel not human because they said that anyone in our area who can't get a job isn't making any effort.
And rant related to that last point:
Now, while some areas do genuinely have no jobs available, that's not true where I live. There are a plethora of jobs, you just have to be willing to stick out a shitty position until another one opens up. You have to be willing to work fast food, or a gas station, or a shop at the mall, and put up with the associated bullshit. It fucking sucks, but it pays for the bare necessities. Everyone telling you something along these lines is saying it because they have done it at one point. I worked retail, which sucked, and that gave me customer service experience so that I could work in a call center, which sucked even more but paid better. In turn, that gave me the office experience to get a job that was half phones, half clerical. From there, I had temped enough from my employer to get myself a permanent position doing data entry, no phones, no customers, no being required to talk to anyone. In order to get a good job, you have to be willing to put up with jobs that suck or that you don't like so that you can get the experience that you need to do that good job.
Now, for what I came here to bitch about: When someone's lunch explodes in the microwave and they just fucking leave it.
