Model asking models: Are you worried about people you know finding you on cam?

[Meow69]

So i keep changing my username or wanting to again,
because either someone i know finds my profile somehow, or i stupidly tell them
I know about geoblocks, but some people still have VPNS, or find your insta, or even snapchat fucks up and syncs contacts at times. Thats happened now twice to me.

But even if i changed my username on mfc, anyone who has me as a friend will see the name change too, even if theyre blocked.
And will also just be directed to the new mfc page if they have the page saved and log in through a vpn or even just their phone on 3g.

So i assume top models have friends who know their username, and even easier if you have instagram.
What do you do/how do you feel about this?

 

[SaffronBurke]

The people who are likely to find me, already know. The people I care about finding out, either don't watch porn, or don't watch the kind of porn I make, so I'm really not concerned.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

The only way I care about people finding out is when it's a safety issue. I don't want creep acquantinces finding out I cam and acting weird around me or trying to approach me innapropriately (Which has happened) I've had dudes I barely interacted with in the past recognize me on cam, say my real name in the chat, ask to see my videos, want to be in videos with me,shove their dick pics in my faceetc. That is the main concern. That dudes irl who recognize you as a sex worker=think they suddenly have exclusive access to you.

On the side of people finding out and judging me--I don't care at all. The important people in my life already know and the people in my family who I know would freak out would be the type to not want to admit they were looking at online porn anyway lol. After 5 years of doing this the shock of being found out has dulled down so much that I wouldn't really care.

 

[JustOmi]

The only way I care about people finding out is when it's a safety issue. I don't want creep acquantinces finding out I cam and acting weird around me or trying to approach me innapropriately (Which has happened) I've had dudes I barely interacted with in the past recognize me on cam, say my real name in the chat, ask to see my videos, want to be in videos with me,shove their dick pics in my faceetc. That is the main concern. That dudes irl who recognize you as a sex worker=think they suddenly have exclusive access to you.

On the side of people finding out and judging me--I don't care at all. The important people in my life already know and the people in my family who I know would freak out would be the type to not want to admit they were looking at online porn anyway lol. After 5 years of doing this the shock of being found out has dulled down so much that I wouldn't really care.

Carmita really said it best. I had a guy I know in real life from high school find me when I FIRST started camming two years ago, I was fresh in the game. He messaged me two days ago on my private Instagram (family and friends) saying he’s been looking for vids of me and asking me to send him some for free. Creeps are definitely more of a concern for me.

Everyone else, family or friends, the friends that matter know and don’t care. If my family finds out I could care less, they aren’t paying these bills.

 

[Gia_Xo]

My instagram is private, and the profile pic is vague. Of course, it is linked to my real one because I switch from one to the other but I have only had one person try to add me that I know irl and I just rejected it.
My SnapChat is linked to my second phone number that I use exclusively for cam work, so I am not concerned there either. And that's private as well- I sell it or give it out to my good tippers.
Sometimes I wish I could have a public instagram because that could be a good tool to use to drive people to your cam, but it's just not worth it to me. I don't need my daughter stumbling upon 'Gia'. Everyone else can pretty much kiss my ass, because, as @JustOmi said, they don't pay my bills!

 

[SpookybunzSM]

Most of the people I knew growing up, have known about my dabbles in the sex industry since I was 18. So no worries there. My mom also outed me a long time ago, so that's old news now.
Like @Carmita Bonita mentioned, I've had some acquaintances find my work social media accounts, but I point them to the direction of my store if they want anything, and if they misbehave I just block them.
Funny enough, I actually got a few sales and orders like this. xD

 

[BiancaBaker]

Just prepare to be found.. I mean VPN's are well used by a ton of people. I knew this coming into it we all do so I mean if you are that concerned I would not do this TBH if it's that much of an issue. Family, Friends.. It will happen, just a matter of when. Took 6 months before someone from HS found me and 3 years before a family member did so I mean it all depends.

 

[NerdyZoey]

Nah. But that’s because I’ve accepted that it’ll happen. Most my fam and friends know, and those who don’t will know one day. So I’ve just accepted when it happens it happens and it’s my life.

I’ve actually spoke to my bosses before I started too.

I’m lucky that I’ve been supported (especially by my brothers) but those who don’t support it or I haven’t specifically told I don’t have the best relationship with anyway....

 

[Meow69]

Just prepare to be found.. I mean VPN's are well used by a ton of people. I knew this coming into it we all do so I mean if you are that concerned I would not do this TBH if it's that much of an issue. Family, Friends.. It will happen, just a matter of when. Took 6 months before someone from HS found me and 3 years before a family member did so I mean it all depends.

Jenny is my real name. I really like the name but it would be pretty easy to search that and find me. then again if I want to be a top model it would be easy to find me at the top one day, or a slow day, anyways.

 

[Meow69]

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Nah. But that’s because I’ve accepted that it’ll happen. Most my fam and friends know, and those who don’t will know one day. So I’ve just accepted when it happens it happens and it’s my life.

I’ve actually spoke to my bosses before I started too.

I’m lucky that I’ve been supported (especially by my brothers) but those who don’t support it or I haven’t specifically told I don’t have the best relationship with anyway....

yeah I just really don't want people I know stumbling upon me. I always wonder if someone I know is watching and it's not so much that if afraid of being naked, it's moreso what I say or hoping I don't look silly lol

 

[Meow69]

Just prepare to be found.. I mean VPN's are well used by a ton of people. I knew this coming into it we all do so I mean if you are that concerned I would not do this TBH if it's that much of an issue. Family, Friends.. It will happen, just a matter of when. Took 6 months before someone from HS found me and 3 years before a family member did so I mean it all depends.

so you ever feel insecure going on wondering if they are still watching you? Not just that your naked but even if you wernt nude, just having someone you know watching without you knowing

 

[NerdyZoey]

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yeah I just really don't want people I know stumbling upon me. I always wonder if someone I know is watching and it's not so much that if afraid of being naked, it's moreso what I say or hoping I don't look silly lol

I highly suggest you read this post

https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/reality-check.1123/

Whether you’re nervous about them seeing you naked or hoping they don’t find you silly. People will find you. As for feeling silly you’re doing your job. I’m a super goofy camgirl and awkward as shit. But I’m doing my job and love it. So fuck if anyone I know finds me and finds it silly. They are the one watching it and I’m making money having fun... they can suck my left tit

 

[BiancaBaker]

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yeah I just really don't want people I know stumbling upon me. I always wonder if someone I know is watching and it's not so much that if afraid of being naked, it's moreso what I say or hoping I don't look silly lol

If I cared I would not be doing this almost 7 years full time. If it bothers you don't cam, make clips, be non nude. I mean I love being naked lol

 

[Meow69]

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If I cared I would not be doing this almost 7 years full time. If it bothers you don't cam, make clips, be non nude. I mean I love being naked lol

Please stop telling me to stop being a cam model. I asked this question to be inspired able not caring. Not be told to give up

 

[AngelicaVee]

Personally I don’t care as long as they’re not making it weird! I’ve had people reach out and say they’ve seen me on chaturbate so every time I stream I know there’s a good chance someone I know is watching. But none of them message me when I’m online (or if they do they’re being anonymous lol) so it’s typically not on my mind. Don’t ask, don’t tell

 

[BiancaBaker]

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Please stop telling me to stop being a cam model. I asked this question to be inspired able not caring. Not be told to give up

I never said that....please re-read what I said.. because no where did I tell you to stop. I said to go non nude or figure something that works for you... Gosh

 

[Meow69]

I never said that....please re-read what I said.. because no where did I tell you to stop. I said to go non nude or figure something that works for you... Gosh

both of you replies suggest for me to just quit if I feel insecure.

 

[SMuser69]

both of you replies suggest for me to just quit if I feel insecure.

Suggestion isn't 'telling you', it's opinion.

Understand from the member's perspective you can't hide insecurity for long. When you have doubts about body image or personal risk it puts weights on the member relationship with you. On sites like SM it can drive the members nuts when you go private with a model that spending so much time trying to do 'hiding' angles so they can't be identified they neglect the performance they agreed to before the private started. It's hard to collect regulars like that.

 

[GoddessValkyrieRose]

I've been very involved and very open about being in adult entertainment for years. My mother doesn't know that I cam but I cannot see her caring given the fact that she knows all the other things I've been up to. Got the record my husband and I run events in our local fet community. We're very open about it, everyone knows, no one cares.

My only issue is just an echo of above statements : I worry about the creeps. Occasionally some vanilla loser from my long past childhood finds me and sees that I run community fetish events, then he's bothering me all over social media and I'm blocking him. So ya I worry about local creeps finding my cam. And just out of personal safety. I cannot be outed because no one would care lol. It might happen but I've got an army around me. The concern is not enough to stop me from making ALL THE $$$$! that being said its totally valid to worry about it. I only suggest you try to lock down your accounts. It was suggested to me that if I wanted to stay IG and snap accounts, I should do so on an old phone that's been wiped and has no connection to my personal accounts and contacts. solid advice I think.

 

[Meow69]

Suggestion isn't 'telling you', it's opinion.

Understand from the member's perspective you can't hide insecurity for long. When you have doubts about body image or personal risk it puts weights on the member relationship with you. On sites like SM it can drive the members nuts when you go private with a model that spending so much time trying to do 'hiding' angles so they can't be identified they neglect the performance they agreed to before the private started. It's hard to collect regulars like that.

I do amazing private shows and every fan one I've done a show with it shocked and falls in love with me. My parents know what I do. I have no shame in this.
I didn't come here to be told that in tmyoyr opinion I should just quit

 

[Meow69]

I've been very involved and very open about being in adult entertainment for years. My mother doesn't know that I cam but I cannot see her caring given the fact that she knows all the other things I've been up to. Got the record my husband and I run events in our local fet community. We're very open about it, everyone knows, no one cares.

My only issue is just an echo of above statements : I worry about the creeps. Occasionally some vanilla loser from my long past childhood finds me and sees that I run community fetish events, then he's bothering me all over social media and I'm blocking him. So ya I worry about local creeps finding my cam. And just out of personal safety. I cannot be outed because no one would care lol. It might happen but I've got an army around me. The concern is not enough to stop me from making ALL THE $$$$! that being said its totally valid to worry about it. I only suggest you try to lock down your accounts. It was suggested to me that if I wanted to stay IG and snap accounts, I should do so on an old phone that's been wiped and has no connection to my personal accounts and contacts. solid advice I think.

I attract creeps like crazy. any friend I tell I'm a.cam model to tries to look for me. It's hard for me to lie or pretend I'm not a cam model. I love the reactions lol and it's fun for me.

 

[GoddessValkyrieRose]

I attract creeps like crazy. any friend I tell I'm a.cam model to tries to look for me. It's hard for me to lie or pretend I'm not a cam model. I love the reactions lol and it's fun for me.

As long as you feel safe. That's the important part. Local creeps are the ones I worry about lol. They're the one who could potentially attack me. I think women everywhere have to deal with it, cam girl or not.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

I attract creeps like crazy. any friend I tell I'm a.cam model to tries to look for me. It's hard for me to lie or pretend I'm not a cam model. I love the reactions lol and it's fun for me.

I’m confused - first you say you don’t want your friends to find your cam and now you’re saying you find their reactions to telling you that you cam fun. But anyways, I think the point @BiancaBaker made about quitting wasn’t to be mean or uninspiring-it’s a pretty common stance here. Not a lot of us advocate camming if youre highly disturbed about the possibility of someone you know seeing you naked. Some people like myself, get over it over time-some people that feeling never goes away. Neither is a wrong way to feel I want to add. it can be severely damaging for someone’s mental health to cam if they’re very distressed about being found out, recorded naked and posted for the world to see,or cam with family or friends to come across etc Since the internet is forever.

 

[Meow69]

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Suggestion isn't 'telling you', it's opinion.

Understand from the member's perspective you can't hide insecurity for long. When you have doubts about body image or personal risk it puts weights on the member relationship with you. On sites like SM it can drive the members nuts when you go private with a model that spending so much time trying to do 'hiding' angles so they can't be identified they neglect the performance they agreed to before the private started. It's hard to collect regulars like that.

But as I said, it's not a fear of being seen naked. Or knowing what I do. It's the fear of them just watching without your consent. like I made the mistake before of letting a few guys I know watch me while I cammed the first few times. but then I didn't know if they were watching when I didn't know. I guess it's just basic stage fright.
I'm just wondering how other people deal with that. Not wanting to quit here, I've already done enough. lol

 

[SaffronBurke]

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But as I said, it's not a fear of being seen naked. Or knowing what I do. It's the fear of them just watching without your consent. like I made the mistake before of letting a few guys I know watch me while I cammed the first few times. but then I didn't know if they were watching when I didn't know. I guess it's just basic stage fright.
I'm just wondering how other people deal with that. Not wanting to quit here, I've already done enough. lol

By absolutely refusing to tell them my model name or which site I'm on. They're not going to pay me, so why should I tell them where to freeload?

 

[Meow69]

By absolutely refusing to tell them my model name or which site I'm on. They're not going to pay me, so why should I tell them where to freeload?

True. my name is my real name so they could easily find me. and I tell them which site. So maybe I really need to stop bragging and lie about what site or something lol

 

[SaffronBurke]

True. my name is my real name so they could easily find me. and I tell them which site. So maybe I really need to stop bragging and lie about what site or something lol

I straight up tell them I don't give it out.

 

[ElaySmith]

Its sounds like from the last few posts you made that you kinda get off on the reaction of your friends. If you don't want people to watch you cam then don't tell them your cam name or the sites you work on. You can't control who just stumbles upon you but you are the only one that can control the information thats coming out of your mouth. Don't make it so damn easy. Once you hit broadcast you are consenting to the world seeing you. There is no controlling that. Geo block if you want but that is not a fail safe. How do most models on this site deal with this issue...well id say a lot of us aren't having this issue bc one we don't use our legal names and two we don't just go around telling our friends how to find us. And in the grand scheme of things, if my rl friends are watching me online without my knowledge idc as long as they don't bring it up to me and make it awkward.

PS. I started writing this before your last reply

 

[Sillykitty]

All of my friends know what I do, but only my 2 closest friends and my husband know my model names and what sites I use. I've had someone I know find me randomly, and get a show to see if it was me. He felt weird about it later, and told me it was him, and I was like "so was it fun?" I didnt make it weird, I just let him know my personal life is separate from my cam life, but that I appreciated his support and set some ground rules just to be safe, like not using my location, real name, or identifying small talk. I never felt weird about him not telling me right away who he was- not everyone wants people to know they watch camgirls, or are into the fetishes I cater to.

If you dont want people you know watching you anonymously, just tell them. You cant control anyone else's actions, but you can let them know how you feel about it.

 

[ViviDoll]

If you are one of the higher income countries I would say just go and do strip etc. Yes, it's easier to make money from home, but hiding it IS IMPOSSIBLE. It will always show up. I am a no face model for 2 years now but people can recognize you from your body. Ive only been outed once and by some tourists guys in my city who most likely watched the sites I work on, they screamed my chat name very loudly.. I felt super insecure and I went home from that party.
So yes people can recognize you. You can "hide" it somehow but keep in mind it can show up. I do not use instagram for promoting my cam because yes I do this job and no I do not feel shame about it, yet I feel its noones business just mine. I only tell it to my very close friends, family and if I feel a man really wants to be with me ( i wait some months before i tell).