I find this interesting, having heard this from a few of you, and the reaction to it... it explains so much.
How a model can offend a member so badly he leaves her for months, but he can return to her so easily. How a member can go from regular to freeloader and just be ignored.
Spending is just from boredom to entertain himself because there is no one else as easy/ convenient, or because she offers a discounted thrill.
For the model not to even notice it, I've always wondered about that.
As a member I opt out moderately often, even if this is an uncommon thing to do.
I always thought it may be noticed,but I was obviously wrong
I am not sure I understand what you mean correctly. Are you asking about a pattern like this?
Member finds model > Member tips model > Model engages with member > Member moves on and stops tipping > Model ignores member
Is that the pattern you are asking about?
I can understand for some people, especially those who tend to be regulars of a model for a long time, when they run out of money or for any reason stop tipping the model it can feel like a cold shower to realize she doesn't even ask them what is up. Because it snaps him out of the fantasy that the model cares about them as people beyond the commercial relationship. It puts the relationship back into perspective: camming is business.
If this is what you are asking about, I will explain this phenomenon to you:
If you are a guy that "opts out" often as you put it up there, no model will know you long enough to care about you. To her, you are just your tokens. Even if she likes your personality she is dealing with 100s of guys who have positive qualities, she surely cannot care for all the people she interacts with in her chatroom on a daily basis. So just as you "opt out" easily, she lets you go just as easily.
Members who are regulars and who stick long enough to form bonds might find a different scenario. When a model likes a member, and I am not talking about "liking him" in a romantic way, just like him as a person, respecting him, etc, she will sometimes go out of her way to accommodate him. If he suddenly stops visiting she might even miss him and ask him what is going on. Perhaps you havent experienced this side of camming since you lose interest fast.
Then, there are members who even when they are regulars the model doesn't like them and the relationship is strictly commercial. In some specific cases she might even be glad that the person is gone so she surely wont go after them to ask them what is going on. She might mourn the loss of tokens, but she doesn't miss the person. So why would he chase him.
Personally I will
never go out of my way to ask a member why he doesn't visits me anymore. Because it is just awkward. First of all it makes me feel like I am a clingy girlfriend intruding in their personal space. What if the guy ran out of money? He certainly doesnt want to explain that to me. What if turns out he has a wife and she found out about his camming habit? That is not a conversation I want to have. What if he simply moved on and lost interest in me? Why would I want to be in a position where I have to acknowledge not being attractive to the member anymore? It is just such a vulnerable position to be in and I wont do it for someone I dont care about.
Now, if there is a member I have known for a long time, and I actually like him and care about him then sure, I might go out of my way to shoot them an email and ask them if they are okay or what is up if they suddenly vanish without a trace. But in my experience ignoring this is the best route because the ones who like you will come back when they have money or whatever circumstance is keeping them from visiting you is over. If the member doesnt like you he wont come back no matter how clingy you are.