Married and cam-modeling

[Mikey_P]

I still don't see that as equal expressions of sexuality. Some of your examples I agree with but others I don't think are as logical. Unless a woman is fairly sexually explorative, I really do not see the average woman heading to a male cam site for the same reasons men visit cam sites. Take a look at how little cam dudes make compared to female cam models. I do not think that on average men and women express or explore their sexuality the same way. I don't say this to give anyone a pass or to be unfair, but just to say that men and women are not the same.

I think that most men who wouldn't want their wives to be be cam models would also have an issue with them paying male cam models-- it comes down to hornball styles! I also don't see a breakdown in logic or fairness if someone watches cams but doesn't want their partner to become a model. I can think of many good reasons why a person wouldn't want their GF/wife/husband/BF/sibling or evening mommy to have to potentially deal with the BS that can come with camming. I also get the not my SO side of things and the light possessiveness that can come with that. I simply don't follow the logic that both are similar forms of sexual expression-- watcher/tipper vs performer. One is anonymous and one is sharing with the world.

 

[BiancaBaker]

I still don't see that as equal expressions of sexuality. Some of your examples I agree with but others I don't think are as logical. Unless a woman is fairly sexually explorative, I really do not see the average woman heading to a male cam site for the same reasons men visit cam sites. Take a look at how little cam dudes make compared to female cam models. I do not think that on average men and women express or explore their sexuality the same way. I don't say this to give anyone a pass or to be unfair, but just to say that men and women are not the same.

I think that most men who wouldn't want their wives to be be cam models would also have an issue with them paying male cam models-- it comes down to hornball styles! I also don't see a breakdown in logic or fairness if someone watches cams but doesn't want their partner to become a model. I can think of many good reasons why a person wouldn't want their GF/wife/husband/BF/sibling or evening mommy to have to potentially deal with the BS that can come with camming. I also get the not my SO side of things and the light possessiveness that can come with that. I simply don't follow the logic that both are similar forms of sexual expression-- watcher/tipper vs performer. One is anonymous and one is sharing with the world.

First off I would like to say that there ARE male models in this industry who make way more money than some of us females. Half of the top 50 on Clips4sale are male run production companies or males or hubby/wife team.

Example: Mark Head Bobber, Cock Ninja, Lost Bets, Lance Hart, Primal Darkside, and more so you can retract your statement that male's don't make a lot. The top 50 of C4S pulls in 10k or more a month - that's more than a lot of what female models make - Of course there are girls that pull in more than 10k a month but your statement is wrong none the less. Also some of these guys don't always come to a cam site because they want to jerk off some are looking for company/interaction/ a friend. Not every girl fucks themselves- there are plenty of non nude models who are making a lot more than girls who do hardcore so your whole post is just wrong. If a guy has a problem with his wife being a webcam model then he shouldn't have married a cam model and if a married woman wants to become a cam girl and her husband can't support her or at least compromise or set boundaries than the woman needs to think about what she wants and if camming is for her than she has the right to choose. There are many more men that buy/purchase porn as well so how could a guy who purchases/watches porn tell there significant other she can't watch porn thats a double standard. Also there will be bullshit with ANY job you have so for you to say why A SO wouldn't want there GF/wife/husband/BF/sibling to deal with the BS is ridiculous. If I was a defense lawyer and I had people wanting to kill me because I let a murder loose on the street thats okay? (this is just an example to show you that any job comes with bullshit)

 

[CandeeLand_mfc]

I still don't see that as equal expressions of sexuality. Some of your examples I agree with but others I don't think are as logical. Unless a woman is fairly sexually explorative, I really do not see the average woman heading to a male cam site for the same reasons men visit cam sites. Take a look at how little cam dudes make compared to female cam models. I do not think that on average men and women express or explore their sexuality the same way. I don't say this to give anyone a pass or to be unfair, but just to say that men and women are not the same.

I think that most men who wouldn't want their wives to be be cam models would also have an issue with them paying male cam models-- it comes down to hornball styles! I also don't see a breakdown in logic or fairness if someone watches cams but doesn't want their partner to become a model. I can think of many good reasons why a person wouldn't want their GF/wife/husband/BF/sibling or evening mommy to have to potentially deal with the BS that can come with camming. I also get the not my SO side of things and the light possessiveness that can come with that. I simply don't follow the logic that both are similar forms of sexual expression-- watcher/tipper vs performer. One is anonymous and one is sharing with the world.

i agree with you in a lot of ways, in concept, but not in reality, definitely not my reality. . .my husband has also pointed out the same difference between his visiting/being anonymous and me performing/and showing it to the world. . .however, also consider he (and i am being specific) tipped married women, watched them, interacted with them, HAD REAL TIME MUTUAL SEXUAL PLEASURE WITH THEM. . .so, if he can do exactly what he doesn't want another man to do with his wife, but can with another mans wife, just because he's 'anonymous', does not make it any less 'bad' etc. anonymity on the internet is an illusion, and plain denial. men and women are not the same, which also gives pause to the idea that a woman can do this as a job/provide a 'service' and let it be just that. granted it is also sexually empowering. regardless of the 'difference' in reasoning;when a man can use 'gender' reasoning expressions to visit strip clubs, cam models, females can do the same (again, i am not trying to make things balanced or equal). and devils advocate on this point. . .my husband (the eternal example) has said it takes less effort to get what he needs when he needs it from a cam model. . .which i think in some ways is the worst 'excuse' to use to explain why;on the flip, if my sex drive is way off the charts different than my husbands, and it is not appreciated, i could use an excuse, that I want to express it to others who do appreciate it, and who also may need it;some of these men may also use the 'less effort' reason to their own wives for visiting cam sites. it may be slap in the face reasoning, and it's 'karma', a mans own medicine. . .but it is what it is. . .i find it hypocritical to visit cam models but 'i wouldn't want my wife, sister, mother. . .doing that work? really? then don't patron it. . .

 

[Mikey_P]

I don't share your logic of if you do something or participate in it in anyway that you should never have an issue with someone you love providing that service to other people.

I just don't buy into that form of 'fairness.' I think it is more of an excuse.