I hate admitting this. But, with the exception of one, all the women I've been with simply refuse to talk about how they like to be aroused and physically pleased. It's like they're embarrassed to talk about what feels good, what they like, preferences, etc. If I bring the subject up, it's taboo for them to talk about it and at best I get "I dunno, whatever feels good and you like." I know some have actually not really known some stuff too.
One would think that with the amount of Rom-Coms, trashy romance novels, and the fact that many women can discuss this stuff like no tomorrow when they're in a group of women, they'd be open to sharing with their partner...
So, it kinda goes both ways. Thanks for being open to teaching some guys about this, and hopefully more women start to open up to their partners about what turns them on.
I'm kind of going off topic here, but the topic is ridiculous and everyone's clearly covered that. This is far more interesting in my opinion.
It can be so hard as a woman to open up about what we like sexually. I think there's this fear of offending, like if someone does something you hate, it can be hard to say "sorry I hate that" without risking killing the mood or hurting their self esteem. Sex tends to feel really rewarding if you both feel confident and like you're pleasing the other person, and if someone already has a pattern of behaviour sexually which doesn't work with you, chances are you're not going to get immediate results even if you're completely open, so being honest straight off is definitely a long game. So I guess a lot of women when they find their partner isn't doing something they like, make the decision not to say anything for fear of offending them.
Though lol, I once dated a guy who eventually went down on me and it was really uncomfortable/not good, so I tried to communicate with him and he got angry at me and told me I was being ungrateful, and then he slut shamed me saying I'm lucky he'll even go down on me in the first place because of "all the guys". This is worst case scenario of a guy who was basically just a douche, but I've had similar situations where guys have got very butthurt, or even like outright haven't listened. You might say "I don't like this one thing", and they insist that they will make you like it. I guess a lot of this attitude comes with ego and a misunderstanding of how the human body works. What works for one girl does not work for every girl. While I hope that most adult men are not this immature and self absorbed when it comes to giving head, it's possibly still a fear for a lot of women.
I read an article not that long ago, I wish I still had the link, but it was about the orgasm gap while looking at statistics and porn watching and sex toy purchases. It explained how men in sex really get off over the idea of pleasing their partners, while women tend to be more interested in having their bodies well handled. But possibly because women become more focused in performing pleasure because they want to please their partners, it means they don't actually get off how they should. Learning this really altered my perception of sex, because I realised that if I allow men to see what my genuine pleasure looks like by just allowing myself to get off, rather than putting on a "show", then we could both get what it is we truly want.
With this I would say that one of the sexiest things a man can ask before going down on me is what I actually enjoy and what I don't enjoy, and being clear that they won't take offence or be turned off by clear instructions. And if once they're down there they listen to my body movements and words so they're doing the right thing.
One of the least sexy things a guy can do during sex (for me) is tell you to "scream louder". It's fine to say that if you want to be loud you can, but telling a woman to scream is just telling them to perform pleasure for you, which can distract you from feeling genuine pleasure and focusing your attention on noises coming from your mouth.
For those guys who are asking women what they like, keep doing so! Remember that your sexual partner though may not actually know what they like. Lots of women have not been sexually liberated and don't even know how to give themselves orgasms. I know this makes the job really hard for the sexual partner, but I guess you've just got to keep asking them what they like and then showing them that you listen, won't get offended and will work to making sure their bodies are well handled. It's something I fear massively about going down on women because I know how many women steer towards being "people pleasers" and will feign pleasure.
But when you see dudes like the OP coming along, it makes sense why some women are terrified about being themselves when it comes to sexuality. I probably do have the pussy type the OP is talking about, and I never understood during my first sexual experiences what guys meant when they said I had a really nice pussy. Like, weren't all vaginas about the same? Like, I really don't give a fuck about penis aesthetics, the only care I have in regards to shape and size is how it fits with my internal structure. I'm sure many women have felt insecure about their vagina's at some point in their lives, and it's only really due to compliments that I am aware that mine fits some sort of "ideal" bullshit. But fuck man, also having a perfectly bleached asshole? Like, there are entire threads in the Models only section with girls trying to work out how the fuck porn stars get their assholes to look like pink starfishes. It's not as easy as just getting some product and sticking it on. You're trying to safely bleach a super sensitive skin area. Bleach is not supposed to have contact with skin.
And no, make up in that region does not work. I have tried it once out of curiosity.
It makes me sad to see someone posting an image of a plastic doll as the epitome of perfection that women should strive for, when you also see plastic surgery becoming more common in making women's sexual areas appeal more to these ridiculous standards.
. i had my share of people who didn't know what they were doing down there, and i have this annoying trait to correct people when they are doing something wrong. lol. i go in detail how to finger and eat a girl out in free chat. the amount of times when a person has gone down on me and i had the same feeling like i was getting a pelvic exam and my cervix swabbed, no ma'am. audritwo must save the world!
