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Hey everyone!
(I did a search on the forum and didn't find anything on it, but if there is something out there, let me know!)

This is a question geared more-so towards female models, but anyone can answer. A more common question I see asked by arriving members in rooms with female models (generally with larger breasts, but not necessarily) is 'real or fake.' From what I can tell, the response from models to that question is often sort of mixed, perhaps even a bit annoyed. I can't really tell if that's because they've heard it a thousand times, or if the question itself is considered rude.

Thus, the question is... is asking "real or fake" considered rude, and if it is, what is a better way of asking/phrasing the question?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts on the matter.
 
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I’m a small titty girl myself and no one is going to be thinking mine aren’t natural, but I’d consider it to be rude if anyone asked me if a certain part of my body is “fake”. While some people could mean it as a compliment, there’s a lot of people who like to bash on women who get plastic surgery and ask that question in a derogatory way. So, it’s only natural to think the latter is what’s going on. Plus, it’s annoying because when someone opens with a question like that they more than likely aren’t going to stop their intrusive questioning there.

And really, why does it even matter if they’re real or fake as long as they look good to you? It’s the same way with guys who are obsessed with knowing your bra size. Why does it matter when they can literally just look at the titties and see with their own two eyeballs whether or not they like them? Will knowing what the bra size is make a difference in how much they like them? Will knowing whether they are real or fake all of a sudden change the way they are attracted to the titties on their computer screen? I really don’t get the obsessive need to know that some men have.

The best way to ask is to not ask at all and just enjoy the titties. And if you like them, compliment them. Show your appreciation for them in the form of tips.
 
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Asking anyone if anything about them is "fake" is rude and off-putting and has probably been asked many times every day and it gets old hence the annoyance. Many models have it in their bio if they're enhanced because all the questions they get. Some models have veeerry obvious upgrades and still get asked if it's real or fake while they're lying on their back with breasts perfectly round and pointed upwards. It just ruins the mood to be asked it. I have natural boobs and it's still annoying. Just enjoy the show and read the bio. Or tip a lot to ask if natural or enhanced.
 
If you like how they look, why does it matter? If you don't like how they look, move along and find a model who suits your tastes.
As dani said, it is annoying and rude. Real life manners still apply on cam, great opportunity to practice your not-being-an-ass social skills.
 
i'm asked all the time if my ass is real or fake, and its annoying as hell. never had any cosmetic surgery/enhancements on my booty, but i don't like how people make it seem like getting any "work" done is negative. i dont like it when people use my body to shame others. it's icky.

i don't mind answering if i'm asked politely asked if i have cosmetic surgery. (polite ways to ask: "have you ever gotten or interested in cosmetic surgery" or "what are your thoughts on it") it's nothing to be ashamed of imo. lots of people have gotten it for their own personal reasons and i'm all for normalizing/destigmatizing cosmetic surgery. i'm very honest about my rhinoplasty. i will also share with them the brutal story of how i almost killed myself rolling down a mountain after wrecking my bike and smashing my face/body on a rock. my nose, shoulder, and knees were fucked. interesting that no one is curious if my knees are "fake."

asking if someone's body part is fake is rude, because that is their body (cosmic surgery or not). you don't know the circumstances around why someone chooses to get surgery to alter or fix physical aliments in their body.

people also telling me not to alter my body is rude too because they dont have ownership of what i can and cannot do. if i want to get 500 ccs of silicone in my breasts, that is my prerogative, and its okay if others become less or more attractive to me after.
 
Reading the replies... Hopefully I'm not coming off as an asshat for asking. Heck, I'm trying to avoid being a future asshat by starting the thread in the first place lol

There is a follow-up question after seeing the responses: Is it particularly the phrasing, esp. with the word 'fake'? Would it be an issue if there was more of a euphemism, like 'are your breasts cosmetically enhanced?'

To pushback a bit on the argument of 'if it looks good to you, that's all that matters,' I can understand that to an extent. Furthermore, if one look works for someone, I'm not here to judge, nor should anyone judge if a person wants to get cosmetic surgery on whatever. It seems like a pointless question to ask if the model is nude or whatnot ultimately.

However, the times I've seen the question asked though have most commonly not been in rooms with the model being topless, but rather with clothes on. If someone has not seen the model before + the bio is empty, it is likely a question to arise. This could especially be a case if the model only gets nude in private. Natural/Enhanced breasts often look the same under a shirt, but look/behave differently as a whole. Hence, 'natural [something]' is often a subsection on porn sites, 'natural' is the 5th top tag on MFC, and 'natural' is likewise popular tag on CB. I can understand poor phrasing being rude, but I'm having trouble understanding why asking about it in general is rude.
 
I am just a user myself but in my opinion there is one legitimate case to ask this question:

if the model nearly always stays clothed and its obvious that the model has some decent sized chest under her cloths, and maybe also is advertising this by tags like #bigboobs etc.

there are still a lot of users/men - i would guess the amount to 25-35% (without having any evidence) - that absolutley dislike augmentations of this kind. and lets pretend that someone like this would consider tipping an amount of XX or XXX tokens to a model of that kind, with the expectation to see the model "uncloth" and reveal her giant natural breast (which the user would have assumed he would see) it would be a total waste for him, because its off putting for him if they are expected natural breast.

its like you bought a actual diamond ring and expected a real diamond with visable natural inclusions in it but instead you got one with an lab created moissanite.

i would consider this a legit question in advance in such a case.

because enhanced breast and natural breast is not the same! i would guess that i could spot in more of 95% the cases if something was done. while for me personally i dont care at all, but i am sure some others will do.

but as explained before, there are for sure a lot of users that just try to dicourage and affect the confidence of the models with questions like this, without having any real intention to tip anyway. so i guess it depends on the situation.
 
Hey everyone!
(I did a search on the forum and didn't find anything on it, but if there is something out there, let me know!)

This is a question geared more-so towards female models, but anyone can answer. A more common question I see asked by arriving members in rooms with female models (generally with larger breasts, but not necessarily) is 'real or fake.' From what I can tell, the response from models to that question is often sort of mixed, perhaps even a bit annoyed. I can't really tell if that's because they've heard it a thousand times, or if the question itself is considered rude.

Thus, the question is... is asking "real or fake" considered rude, and if it is, what is a better way of asking/phrasing the question?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts on the matter.

Yes. It's rude, and nobody's business. Especially with the way some men like to bash women for having "fake" tits or hair wigs or weaves. As long as he likes what he sees, who cares whether it's real or not. Women go through a lot to get prettied up/sexy (Wearing wigs is uncomfortable as fuck...I can't wait to take that shit off the moment I get off cam...lol). Just tell her she's pretty/beautifu/hot/sexy/whatever, and leave it at that. Everything doesn't need to be an interrogation.
 
reminder: there are women in sexwork who have gotten breast augmentation surgery after a mastectomy.

I can understand poor phrasing being rude, but I'm having trouble understanding why asking about it in general is rude.

because it can be hurtful being asked if something of yours is fake. which is a negative connotation. if you are curious if a model has breast implants, just keep it to yourself unless she says it herself or states it on her profile. if you like the boobs, why is it necessary to know? boobs come in all shapes and sizes. i've seen some big tits that looked like implants but were natural. i've also seen breasts that looked natural but they got implants.

Women go through a lot to get prettied up/sexy (Wearing wigs is uncomfortable as fuck...I can't wait to take that shit off the moment I get off cam...lol).
 
reminder: there are women in sexwork who have gotten breast augmentation surgery after a mastectomy.
And that's fair. My pushback above was not to condone any shaming of surgery. If someone is asking for the purpose of bashing if a model answers one way or the other, then the person is just being a dick. I guess intention for even asking the question plays a big part.

because it can be hurtful being asked if something of yours is fake. which is a negative connotation. if you are curious if a model has breast implants, just keep it to yourself unless she says it herself or states it on her profile. if you like the boobs, why is it necessary to know? boobs come in all shapes and sizes. i've seen some big tits that looked like implants but were natural. i've also seen breasts that looked natural but they got implants.
"if you like the boobs, why is it necessary to know?" Well, in most cases, it isn't. I agree that there is no point in knowing for the sake of knowing. It's more so cases where one doesn't know if they would like the boobs. JustALurker described my thought process on it better than I could:
I am just a user myself but in my opinion there is one legitimate case to ask this question:

if the model nearly always stays clothed and its obvious that the model has some decent sized chest under her cloths, and maybe also is advertising this by tags like #bigboobs etc.

there are still a lot of users/men - i would guess the amount to 25-35% (without having any evidence) - that absolutley dislike augmentations of this kind. and lets pretend that someone like this would consider tipping an amount of XX or XXX tokens to a model of that kind, with the expectation to see the model "uncloth" and reveal her giant natural breast (which the user would have assumed he would see) it would be a total waste for him, because its off putting for him if they are expected natural breast.

its like you bought a actual diamond ring and expected a real diamond with visable natural inclusions in it but instead you got one with an lab created moissanite.

i would consider this a legit question in advance in such a case.

because enhanced breast and natural breast is not the same! i would guess that i could spot in more of 95% the cases if something was done. while for me personally i dont care at all, but i am sure some others will do.

but as explained before, there are for sure a lot of users that just try to dicourage and affect the confidence of the models with questions like this, without having any real intention to tip anyway. so i guess it depends on the situation.
 
It's more so cases where one doesn't know if they would like the boobs. JustALurker described my thought process on it better than I could
Like I said, boobs come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes they can be two different sizes. Do you normally ask women wearing a top if their boobs are two different sizes? Probably not.

There is going to be risks in your cam related purchases. You are going to tip something that your probably won't like. You gotta be okay with it. Why should you make other women uncomfortable or hurt because you are being insecure?
 
There is going to be risks in your cam related purchases. You are going to tip something that your probably won't like. You gotta be okay with it. Why should you make other women uncomfortable or hurt because you are being insecure?
Hmm... while I don't think I quite see how that's being insecure, I can respect there being risks in cam related purchases. I think you make a fair point. With all this in mind, I believe the conclusion I'm coming to is that there really is no win-win situation for everyone involved. Either the member asks at the risk of being rude to try and be cheaper, or the member doesn't ask & tips for whatever, adding the risk like all the other factors (like you mentioned). Thanks for taking the time to discuss it. I think I have a little bit more clarity on the matter now :)
 
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Hmm... while I don't think I quite see how that's being insecure, I can respect there being risks in cam related purchases. I think you make a fair point. With all this in mind, I believe the conclusion I'm coming to is that there really is no win-win situation for everyone involved. Either the member asks at the risk of being rude to try and be cheaper, or the member doesn't ask & tips for whatever, adding the risk like all the other factors (like you mentioned). Thanks for taking the time to discuss it. I think I have a little bit more clarity on the matter now :)
Insecure as in uncertain/unsure.
 
I can't really tell if that's because they've heard it a thousand times
more this yes :) I frequent the room with the most beautiful natural breast in CB of all times and this is asked 10 times per show on some days. Just keep the question for you, it shows only your lack of experience, with a possible critic inside depending on the answer.
There is a follow-up question after seeing the responses: Is it particularly the phrasing, esp. with the word 'fake'? Would it be an issue if there was more of a euphemism, like 'are your breasts cosmetically enhanced?'
I agree with others: you're not buying them to resell them like you would do with diamonds, if the view is ok for you is the point and you won't lose anything when tipping a nice view on fake boobs (some are nicely reshaped).
But when you don't see them, take the risk or be patient, risk is life.
Asking *exactly* what I will get by tipping for this or that, whatever is the menu entry, is extremely off-putting: you're in a show not at the bakery :/
In other words, you're *tipping* an action and you're not *buying* a product. Also, most of those who ask, rarely tip at all ... :/

The first question you should ask yourself is: why should you know it?
If you have a good answer to it, you'll be able to formulate it nicely, like
"Should I have surgery for my own ass" or "my GF would like new boobs, but I can't really imagine the result..." or whatever else, this would be ok in a room you already frequent for a while.

Asking without more reason "is it fake" means for me are you cheating on what you're offering? and the answer is obvious.
 
I cringe a bit when I see that question in public chats, because as mentioned above it's rude to ask, really nobody's business, whatever answer you get isn't going to be useful and because the user apparently think the model is some kind of circus freak or novelty exhibit.

Women are self conscious about how they look, so even if the question was meant to convey "you have nice boobs", just say so instead of asking technical questions.

Besides, boobs are never fake. What you see is what you get!
 
thats the story of my life . no day without this question 100 times .. is rude and annoying,...when someone ask me are your boobs real or fake? i answer ,matter if they real or fake ? is not like u dont wanna marry me anymore if they are fake .. omg ill cry now lost my change to get married ..
 
thats the story of my life . no day without this question 100 times .. is rude and annoying,...when someone ask me are your boobs real or fake? i answer ,matter if they real or fake ? is not like u dont wanna marry me anymore if they are fake .. omg ill cry now lost my change to get married ..
ups chance ..
 
Besides, boobs are never fake. What you see is what you get!
This. Enhanced boobs aren't fake, there's still real skin and tissue over the implant. The only fake titties are the ones in cartoons and other art, or the removable ones drag queens wear.
 
I had a friend go to the 'cathouse' or whatever it's called in Nevada, the one that was on TV, and he went into a room with one of the women, and after he'd taken off his clothes she said, "Is it gonna get any bigger than that?"

Point being, if tempted to talk about another's body, a good policy might be to stay positive or stay silent.
 
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I had a friend go to the 'cathouse' or whatever it's called in Nevada, the one that was on TV, and he went into a room with one of the women, and after he'd taken off his clothes she said, "Is it gonna get any bigger than that?"

Point being, if tempted to talk about another's body, a good policy might be to stay positive or stay silent.
this sounds more like very bad customer service to me, at least if its meant to be that the client uncloth himself also there? i dont know about that location, but if its something like a brothel or something which is offering similar services, where the customer more or less will uncloth himself too, then it is.

because the customer pays for a service, and instead getting served for his money he gets kinda rejected this way without reason. (valide reason in a brothel may would be that the client is drugged, dirty, unwahshed, unhygiene, aggressive or to young or something similar)

would be the same situation if i would work at an fast food restaurant and a 300+ lbs customer walks in, ordering a few maxi menues, and instead serving him i am telling him about better starting a diet. that doesnt sound right in any way...

customer is king unless hes getting rude in a way thats not toleratable or beyond normal (maybe this is sometimes the case at questions like this)

and in my opinion i still see legit situations to ask such questions when there will be a plausible reason for, like in a context i described before, but sure if you do, it have to be asked in a very polite and non disrespectful way (maybe by PM or in a low-tip request)!

if it would not matter at all, it not would get asked to you models that frequently by potential clients (besides the ones that do it just with the intention to get you down), thats the only reason that makes any sense at all. that question is not coming from no where, because it matters! because even if the customers know its just "virtual sex" and there will be zero possibility to impregnate the model and it makes absolutly no sense, at the end of the day he is still a men - mostly an average men - which is hardwired in his brain to reproduce and get attracted to woman that seem to be young and natural (besides fetishes, btw. its also the reason why so many cam models adjust their age 10-15 years downwards to be more succesful, its not deniable) which means they have a potential high fertility rate additionally indicated by the typical hourglass figure with big breast and ass is the reason why so many models (or woman in general) gona improve those parts. and as i described before: after the bare breast was revealed, its visable, the client mostly instantly will recognize something was done (at 90% of the times), and there is a chance that the client expected other, and now its - at least for some men - 100% worthless because they only get attracted to the real deal, natural ones, i am sure there is men outside, its that much off putting for them, like they would find out its a ladyboy they got attracted to in the first place, so he may got lured in and mistakenly spend XXX Tokens or XX USD (or even more) and not got what he expected, thats why it makes sense to ask in advance in a polite way, escpecially if a high or expensive tip is required to unveal. this also explains the reason why the Tag #natural seems to be so dominat, because there is also a real demand for this!

dont get me wrong about this, its not about body shaming, i got asthetical surgery myself and for me personally a little bit of that fake bimbo look type of model even is arousing, but in my case thats something more like a fetish, which the avarage men may not share and thats why hes asking questions like this.

sorry for warming up this thread again, because it seems that there are much different viewpoints on this topic, mainly because its just the models perspective, which i fully understand. its kinda uncomfortable to get asked such things all the time, and have to deal the whole day with just getting reduced to their body/bodyparts which is for sure no easy job to do sometimes with some clients, i fully respect that, but it does not show the full spectrum and the reasons behind such questions in my opinion.
 
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If you don't have 5 bucks to tip for a topless flash, to see without having to ask rude questions, what are you doing on a cam site? Cam models are not like food, shelter or heat. It's a luxury service. A lot of us don't want to waste our time with, or have broke stingy guys clogging up the flow. There are plenty of Members who "get it", and have money to spend. And by plenty I mean 1000s.

Guys who give cam models the 3rd degree, and ask rude intrusive questions, generally have no money to spend. Or are so stingy and high maintenance with the few dollars that they do have, that it's not worth the time. We deal with 100s if not 1000s of guys on a weekly basis. So we see the patterns. I don't know a single person who got in this business to deal with men who are overspending or spending disposable income they don't have, as if it were disposable. Or spending government benefits (lmfao! -reference to comment in another thread) Like I said those guys take up time and energy, that more successful men would not take, and put the real buyers off, by dominating attention they cannot afford. It's very simple.
 
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it seems that there are much different viewpoints on this topic, mainly because its just the models perspective,

Every single cam model who replied to this thread said that they think it’s rude, off putting and annoying for a member to ask questions like that, so not sure where you’re getting these “different viewpoints” from.

Considering that a male cam member doesn’t have the experience of being on the receiving side of this line of questioning, our perspectives on this are probably going to be the ones someone wants to take into consideration if they are really curious as to whether or not the “real or fake” questions are appropriate.
 
this sounds more like very bad customer service to me, at least if its meant to be that the client uncloth himself also there? i dont know about that location, but if its something like a brothel or something which is offering similar services, where the customer more or less will uncloth himself too, then it is.

because the customer pays for a service, and instead getting served for his money he gets kinda rejected this way without reason. (valide reason in a brothel may would be that the client is drugged, dirty, unwahshed, unhygiene, aggressive or to young or something similar)

would be the same situation if i would work at an fast food restaurant and a 300+ lbs customer walks in, ordering a few maxi menues, and instead serving him i am telling him about better starting a diet. that doesnt sound right in any way...

customer is king unless hes getting rude in a way thats not toleratable or beyond normal (maybe this is sometimes the case at questions like this)

and in my opinion i still see legit situations to ask such questions when there will be a plausible reason for, like in a context i described before, but sure if you do, it have to be asked in a very polite and non disrespectful way (maybe by PM or in a low-tip request)!

if it would not matter at all, it not would get asked to you models that frequently by potential clients (besides the ones that do it just with the intention to get you down), thats the only reason that makes any sense at all. that question is not coming from no where, because it matters! because even if the customers know its just "virtual sex" and there will be zero possibility to impregnate the model and it makes absolutly no sense, at the end of the day he is still a men - mostly an average men - which is hardwired in his brain to reproduce and get attracted to woman that seem to be young and natural (besides fetishes, btw. its also the reason why so many cam models adjust their age 10-15 years downwards to be more succesful, its not deniable) which means they have a potential high fertility rate additionally indicated by the typical hourglass figure with big breast and ass is the reason why so many models (or woman in general) gona improve those parts. and as i described before: after the bare breast was revealed, its visable, the client mostly instantly will recognize something was done (at 90% of the times), and there is a chance that the client expected other, and now its - at least for some men - 100% worthless because they only get attracted to the real deal, natural ones, i am sure there is men outside, its that much off putting for them, like they would find out its a ladyboy they got attracted to in the first place, so he may got lured in and mistakenly spend XXX Tokens or XX USD (or even more) and not got what he expected, thats why it makes sense to ask in advance in a polite way, escpecially if a high or expensive tip is required to unveal. this also explains the reason why the Tag #natural seems to be so dominat, because there is also a real demand for this!

dont get me wrong about this, its not about body shaming, i got asthetical surgery myself and for me personally a little bit of that fake bimbo look type of model even is arousing, but in my case thats something more like a fetish, which the avarage men may not share and thats why hes asking questions like this.

sorry for warming up this thread again, because it seems that there are much different viewpoints on this topic, mainly because its just the models perspective, which i fully understand. its kinda uncomfortable to get asked such things all the time, and have to deal the whole day with just getting reduced to their body/bodyparts which is for sure no easy job to do sometimes with some clients, i fully respect that, but it does not show the full spectrum and the reasons behind such questions in my opinion.
So you're a dude who asks this question a lot it seems. Holy word salad.

And no, the customer/member is not always king. Mostly because customers oblivious enough to ask this question don't tip.
 
So you're a dude who asks this question a lot it seems. Holy word salad.

And no, the customer/member is not always king. Mostly because customers oblivious enough to ask this question don't tip.

This is the worst attitude to have in a chatroom. Same flavour as "give a free preview and I'll spend if I like what I see" 🤢 🤢 🤢
 
lol customers aren't king. they can be absolutely demeaning and degrading when they aren't getting their way. it's best to treat customers with respect and not tolerate them when they are acting like brats. you are free to not serve anyone if they can't treat you respectfully.
-worked a bunch of customer service jobs for almost a decade.
 
I think saying that customer is King boils down to how you specifically "poster/ lurker" look at us, and other people in general, and is a very revealing comment. Sex workers are not a product, like a bag of potatoes from the store. We are people, humans, worthy of the same dignity and respect others are worthy of. Dehumanizing others, whether through internet interaction, or real-life interaction, says more about the person doing the dehumanizing (i.e. their levels of empathy, abilities to put themselves in the shoes of another) than anything else.

However, it could just be your attitude towards women only, and not other people in general. It is not uncommon for some males to view women as objects and/or items... say such as a motorcycle or a trophy, rather than an actual human being. I don't know how a person gets to the point in life where they view others that way, and I am glad I don't know or understand that, to be frank. Some people treat servers that way, cashiers... everyone. You could argue it reflects a sickness tbh.

ETA; I bet Gary Ridgeway felt this way about a lot of people too. Not saying you're a serial killer type, but more warning, in general, of the perils that kind of thinking and disregard for others can lead to in extreme forms. Quite upsetting, and disgusting, in general.
 
And chat room comments like "Real tits? Good, cuz I can't stand these bitches with fake tits" just makes ya sound like a JERK. Don't be a jerk.

Well I can't stand looking at a dick that's the size of a thimble, but I'm not gonna blurt that out (like a jerk)...unless the guy asks me to humiliate him.

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