Falling for a cam girl

[ICO15]

First off, I know these sites aren't dating site, and I certainly didn't expect to fall for a cam girl when I signed up. Anyways, I've fallen for a cam girl, and I don't really know what to do. I've been visiting her room for over a year now, and over that time we've gotten to know each other fairly well. We have each other's numbers and text each other nearly every day, in addition to skyping on occasion. (Without having to pay for it) I think she has feelings for me too after she was on cam one day and PMed me that she had a "huge crush" on me. I'm not sure what to think since she was a bit tipsy when she sent it, but in my experience, people are usually more truthful when drunk. We have met once after I won a date raffle last year, which she admitted to setting up so I would win. We have never talked about it, and I am hesitant to bring it up for fear of making things awkward between us. I'm fairly certain that nothing will happen between us, but I can't help but hope there is a chance that something could happen. So I was wondering if any models have been in a similar situation before, and I would appreciate any advice on how to handle it.

 

[CharlotteLace]

Sounds like maybe she likes you. These things happen- we're all human after all. Why not tell her how you feel? Worst case scenario, you move on and go to other rooms. Though if you don't think you can handle the role of dating a camgirl, don't waste your time pursuing it.

Though I do think that's sucky of her to rig a date raffle.

 

[ICO15]

It is something that I could definitely handle. And in her defense about the raffle, not many people entered and chances are I would have won anyway. I think there were only 3-4 of us and one entered knowing he couldn't go, and another based on how he acted in her room, she said she wouldn't really feel safe with him.

 

[GlitchBytch]

What I would personally do would be to not say anything directly about the situation but instead to ask her a vague question like....."Do you have any regs you could ever see yourself dating?" If she has any interest in dating customers at all you should be able to find out this way safety.

If you ask her directly about the both of you dating and she isn't interested in you in that way then there is a huge chance that the relationship you currently have now could end up being ruined forever.

That is just my :twocents-02cents: on the matter.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I also think rigging a raffle is a sucky thing to do. If she didn't feel like she'd be safe with a member/wasn't willing to hire security then she shouldn't have had a meet up raffle.

It does sound like she may have feelings for you, but it's hard to tell if those are just little feelings or "I want to start a relationship with you". She may just like talking to you and enjoy the attention/interaction but not want it to go much further than that.

Forming relationships with camgirls is especially difficult. Even when it comes to meeting people online it can be tricky, though as you guys have met in real life already it makes things easier as online chemistry can be very different, and people can be very different. You might get on with someone online amazingly well, it doesn't mean you'll have much in common in real life. Someone posted a thread here about "deal breakers" in a relationship, and it made me think about how for me, for a relationship not to work we'd have to not want the same sort of lifestyle. If you're an indoors kind of guy and she loves going out partying all the time or vice versa, or you like doing certain activities which she'd never partake in then it can be tricky. Every relationship is different so you don't have to enjoy all the same things, but initial attraction is the easy part, it's finding someone who's life you fit into and who fits in your life without making either of you unhappy with the situation.

I had a regular who met a camgirl, they got along really well, she didn't live that far from him, she said she was attracted to him, he stopped tipping her or visiting mfc and just started spending loads of time on Skype with her. But every time they were supposed to meet up she'd bail/stand him up. I don't know the full story, but I know that she dragged it out/led him on for almost a year and never actually met up with him. I assume that she did have genuine feelings for him as she was spending a lot of time speaking to him and not getting paid for any of it, so I really don't know what happened.

One thing I spoke to him about though was if he really felt it was worth it. She was around 20, he was in his mid 30s. I knew that he'd been struggling to find a relationship for a while and wanted marriage, kids etc. Now maybe she was ready for all these things, but chances are a 20 year old isn't going to be for a while, and it didn't sound like she was, so really even if everything worked out well and they dated, if they went out for a few years then broke up, he'd be left in exactly the same situation but would be even older. This may sound silly to some people, but seeing as most women start having problems conceiving after their early 30s, if he wanted the children/family then going after someone who's 20 and quite possibly won't want to do that for another 10 years is potentially killing your chances of having that, and if he did have it with her he'd be considerably older when it happened. As it was he just wasted a year of his time. But if the relationship had gone well, after spending about a year pursuing her/not looking for other women, he might have had a decent length of time in the relationship, then after the relationship ends there's always a period where you will probably stay single, and then you're back out there searching for someone.

This isn't important to everyone, but if you are a male in your 30s who wants to have a family at some point then just like it is for women, it will get harder the longer you wait, and chasing after girls 10+ years younger than you can be fun, and you may be amazing for each other, but she may be experiencing the life that you enjoyed when you were younger and are no longer interested in.

This might not even be valid for you and your camgirl as you haven't mentioned either of your ages, but if there is an age gap it is something to keep in mind. Though many relationships with a big age gap work, you may get along amazingly, but may be in very different parts of your life, just like it's very important for people not to be denied their youth, it's also very important for someone not to be denied the chance for a family.

It sounds pretty intense to think about this with someone you haven't even started dating, but I think it's worth thinking about whether it's worth it. As soon as you approach your camgirl things are going to change. Either she'll reject you and it'll get weird, or she'll feel the same and you might start a relationship. You should think of the best possible outcomes of this and what having a relationship with this girl would mean to both of your lives. If you guys seem to be in a similar place mentally and have similar lifestyles, then it's probably worth taking the risk.

Anyway I'm not saying that any of these situations don't work, but it's just something to think about and consider. As unromantic as it sounds you have the chance to look at this objectively and make an informed decision. You know what your heart feels right now, but the heart and emotions change all the time and can't always be trusted, it's time to think with your head.

I will say if you're still in your 20s and even early 30s then having a few years+ in a relationship that probably isn't going to last isn't a big deal, and if you have no interest in kids or a family then it also matters less. I just notice that there are a lot of guys who don't feel ready in their 30s and because they don't have the whole ticking clock thing as much as women do they don't think about it, then they get to their 40s and realise that it's too late, it's all well and good at that point, but being alone when you're older isn't always easy and it only gets harder to find someone you really connect with. I'm not saying either way to live your life is better or worse, but I think life is short, and youth is shorter, there's sometimes a point to quit fucking around thinking about instant enjoyment and think about how you want to live the rest of your life. People live until their 70's/80's/90's, at 40 you may easily have another 40 years of your life, it's a long time.

Sorry for the rant. I don't know enough about the situation to offer you decent advice, just possible situations you may want to think about. Like I said, life is short, it's pretty much a gamble. Know when to play and know when to quit. If you think playing is the best idea then go for it and I wish you all the luck! There are many girls on this forum who've dated members and seem to have incredible relationships which are long term and generally awesome! There are also people who've crashed and burned, just like in any relationship. My only true advice is think about it with your head, not your emotions, think of all the possible outcomes. Think about where you want your life to go and if she would fit in with that/you'd fit into hers and then decide whether she'd be worth risking that. If you feel it is then take the risk.

Hope some of that might have helped you or anyone else in a similar dilemma.

 

[mutantdonut]

Slippery slippery slope....

I would ask these questions...

Could you live with never fully knowing what her exact feelings are, just to maintain the level of friendship (playing it safe in other words)? You'll always be in a state of "what-if." The thought of not knowing might consume you, or maybe you'll be okay with it, depending on how you handle the unknown.
or...
..do you absolutely need to know by simply asking, while willing to risk potential awkwardness, just to find out her true feelings (the risky move)? You'll at least gain closure, even with its risks.

 

[Jupiter551]

I would appreciate any advice on how to handle it.

Run.

 

[ICO15]

Well, we're both around the same age and have the same feelings about having kids. We also really seemed to hit it off when we met. Several times over the following days she let me know how great of a time she had, and I had another regular from her room tell me that she had told him she had an amazing time. A big problem right now though, is we live very far apart. But she has recently mentioned that she's thinking about moving, but even if she doesn't move, I don't really have anything tying me down here, and could see myself moving. Thanks for your input. If you have any questions to get a better idea of what's going on, feel free to ask.

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I also think rigging a raffle is a sucky thing to do. If she didn't feel like she'd be safe with a member/wasn't willing to hire security then she shouldn't have had a meet up raffle.

It does sound like she may have feelings for you, but it's hard to tell if those are just little feelings or "I want to start a relationship with you". She may just like talking to you and enjoy the attention/interaction but not want it to go much further than that.

Forming relationships with camgirls is especially difficult. Even when it comes to meeting people online it can be tricky, though as you guys have met in real life already it makes things easier as online chemistry can be very different, and people can be very different. You might get on with someone online amazingly well, it doesn't mean you'll have much in common in real life. Someone posted a thread here about "deal breakers" in a relationship, and it made me think about how for me, for a relationship not to work we'd have to not want the same sort of lifestyle. If you're an indoors kind of guy and she loves going out partying all the time or vice versa, or you like doing certain activities which she'd never partake in then it can be tricky. Every relationship is different so you don't have to enjoy all the same things, but initial attraction is the easy part, it's finding someone who's life you fit into and who fits in your life without making either of you unhappy with the situation.

I had a regular who met a camgirl, they got along really well, she didn't live that far from him, she said she was attracted to him, he stopped tipping her or visiting mfc and just started spending loads of time on Skype with her. But every time they were supposed to meet up she'd bail/stand him up. I don't know the full story, but I know that she dragged it out/led him on for almost a year and never actually met up with him. I assume that she did have genuine feelings for him as she was spending a lot of time speaking to him and not getting paid for any of it, so I really don't know what happened.

One thing I spoke to him about though was if he really felt it was worth it. She was around 20, he was in his mid 30s. I knew that he'd been struggling to find a relationship for a while and wanted marriage, kids etc. Now maybe she was ready for all these things, but chances are a 20 year old isn't going to be for a while, and it didn't sound like she was, so really even if everything worked out well and they dated, if they went out for a few years then broke up, he'd be left in exactly the same situation but would be even older. This may sound silly to some people, but seeing as most women start having problems conceiving after their early 30s, if he wanted the children/family then going after someone who's 20 and quite possibly won't want to do that for another 10 years is potentially killing your chances of having that, and if he did have it with her he'd be considerably older when it happened. As it was he just wasted a year of his time. But if the relationship had gone well, after spending about a year pursuing her/not looking for other women, he might have had a decent length of time in the relationship, then after the relationship ends there's always a period where you will probably stay single, and then you're back out there searching for someone.

This isn't important to everyone, but if you are a male in your 30s who wants to have a family at some point then just like it is for women, it will get harder the longer you wait, and chasing after girls 10+ years younger than you can be fun, and you may be amazing for each other, but she may be experiencing the life that you enjoyed when you were younger and are no longer interested in.

This might not even be valid for you and your camgirl as you haven't mentioned either of your ages, but if there is an age gap it is something to keep in mind. Though many relationships with a big age gap work, you may get along amazingly, but may be in very different parts of your life, just like it's very important for people not to be denied their youth, it's also very important for someone not to be denied the chance for a family.

It sounds pretty intense to think about this with someone you haven't even started dating, but I think it's worth thinking about whether it's worth it. As soon as you approach your camgirl things are going to change. Either she'll reject you and it'll get weird, or she'll feel the same and you might start a relationship. You should think of the best possible outcomes of this and what having a relationship with this girl would mean to both of your lives. If you guys seem to be in a similar place mentally and have similar lifestyles, then it's probably worth taking the risk.

Anyway I'm not saying that any of these situations don't work, but it's just something to think about and consider. As unromantic as it sounds you have the chance to look at this objectively and make an informed decision. You know what your heart feels right now, but the heart and emotions change all the time and can't always be trusted, it's time to think with your head.

I will say if you're still in your 20s and even early 30s then having a few years+ in a relationship that probably isn't going to last isn't a big deal, and if you have no interest in kids or a family then it also matters less. I just notice that there are a lot of guys who don't feel ready in their 30s and because they don't have the whole ticking clock thing as much as women do they don't think about it, then they get to their 40s and realise that it's too late, it's all well and good at that point, but being alone when you're older isn't always easy and it only gets harder to find someone you really connect with. I'm not saying either way to live your life is better or worse, but I think life is short, and youth is shorter, there's sometimes a point to quit fucking around thinking about instant enjoyment and think about how you want to live the rest of your life. People live until their 70's/80's/90's, at 40 you may easily have another 40 years of your life, it's a long time.

Sorry for the rant. I don't know enough about the situation to offer you decent advice, just possible situations you may want to think about. Like I said, life is short, it's pretty much a gamble. Know when to play and know when to quit. If you think playing is the best idea then go for it and I wish you all the luck! There are many girls on this forum who've dated members and seem to have incredible relationships which are long term and generally awesome! There are also people who've crashed and burned, just like in any relationship. My only true advice is think about it with your head, not your emotions, think of all the possible outcomes. Think about where you want your life to go and if she would fit in with that/you'd fit into hers and then decide whether she'd be worth risking that. If you feel it is then take the risk.

Hope some of that might have helped you or anyone else in a similar dilemma.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

The similar age and feelings about future etc thing is good, that probably means if you did date you wouldn't have an instant expiry date. The living close was another thing I decided not to mention as you said you had met. If it's the same country then it makes things a lot easier, different countries makes things considerably trickier. If you feel you'd potentially move and have a job that could move then cool, and as she's mentioned moving and she's a camgirl so can work from different areas then it's a potential. Long distance relationships are hard though, and moving adds a lot of pressure to a relationship even if you don't move in with each other.
I'm sure you know all this though so I'm more just repeating info.

It's completely up to you. You may have an amazing relationship, and stay together for the rest of your lives. You may date for a while and then it doesn't work out. You may date for a few weeks, realise you don't like each other and probably never speak again/lose touch. You might mention something about liking her and she might think you're a total creep and freak out/feel awkward with you in the room. You might never say anything, stay her regular for ages and always wonder.

If you do approach her though I would just lay off any creep/I love you vibes. I think a lot of camgirls secretly think our regulars are a little in love with us. We know they spend loads of money on us, we know they fancy us, we know they spend loads of time talking to us. The only logical explanation is they like us a lot, so yes some members have that just in a friend way, and most members never think it'd ever come to anything and more that the fantasy/distance is nice, but we're not completely delusional to the feelings of the members who visit us. As long as you don't act like a stalker or start getting too full on or like it's a done deal then you should be ok.

 

[Sevrin]

Well, we're both around the same age and have the same feelings about having kids. We also really seemed to hit it off when we met. Several times over the following days she let me know how great of a time she had, and I had another regular from her room tell me that she had told him she had an amazing time. A big problem right now though, is we live very far apart. But she has recently mentioned that she's thinking about moving, but even if she doesn't move, I don't really have anything tying me down here, and could see myself moving. Thanks for your input. If you have any questions to get a better idea of what's going on, feel free to ask.

Will *not* asking her make it more likely to work in the long run? I don't think so.

Will asking allow both of you to get on with your lives, one way or another? I think so.

Might as well find out, and, if you're of the same mind, make it happen. Go.

 

[Lilith Vine]

I'll share my story with you. Of course every situations is different, but it is very possible for a relationship to happen if both of you are for it.

Back in October, I had a member that came into my room for the first time. I was having a pretty slow night and he started chatting with me and made the night a little easier. Over the next few weeks, he would come into my room, but not say much so it just became the norm. Well a few weeks later he buys me an iPhone, just because I really wanted one. I had no idea how to repay him. He suggested that I let him take me out to lunch. I was a little cautious at the time and I told him I would think about it. The next day I end up breaking the screen on my phone and he told me he fixes them. So, I met him, he fixed it, and he took me out for breakfast. I had a blast with him. He was the sweetest guy I could have ever met. I had his number and we had been texting a while and before I knew it were hanging out more and more. I started having feelings for him and now we are together and have been for 3 months. I even live with him. I know some of you may be thinking how I could be living him with him after such a short time, but that's another story.

My advice would be to make sure what you feel is genuine. Emotions can be very tricky sometimes. At first, I thought I was just feeling lonely and that I just liked his company, but I knew my true feelings when I realized that saying goodbye was the hardest thing for me to do.

I wish the best for you!!

 

[heatwave06]

So I need some advise on this particular subject manner.

I've definitely fallen for a camgirl on MFC in the last 6 months and I believe that she has as well. Things seemed happy as could be. We were getting to know each other outside of MFC by talking on skype for hours on end nightly before and after her shifts on MFC. One night for like 7 hours straight. I was helping with ideas of things that she could do in the her cam room when she worked. I was totally committed and supportive of her being a camgirl. Then we started having deeper talks over the last few weeks about seeing each other for real. Those talks lead to deeper talks about moving in together. So we made a plan and many lists of things to get all settled out and be living together ASAP. So I made a commitment to helping her get moved out of her parents place and with a decent car for the long trip.

However it seems that now I'm getting cut/blocked of things like her twitter, email, and even on MFC after I sent the necessary help (~$8k) to get the move going. There has been zero communication since Sunday. We are suppose to move in together next Wednesday so we could spend her birthday on the 18th together.

So do I keep the faith that all the hours and hours of talks and getting to know her were/still real and maybe its a misunderstanding of no communication since Sunday?
Or chalk it up to the nice guy who thought he finally found love with someone so similar to himself but got played like a jackass?

I dont wanna put the model on blast since she is also a member of AFC as well. But I just need a place to vent and seek advice because those talks included a future together so that horizon of happiness seems so far away right now.

Thanks
J

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Well, I don't know who the model if or whether it'd genuine or not, but I will say that you're a complete and utter idiot.

I'm sorry to put it so bluntly, but regardless of the money thing, moving in with a girl you've never even met?! That you met on a camsite and have only even known on there for 6 months?! I mean people sometimes come out with some really stupid stuff, especially on here, but this ranks pretty dam high. I mean meeting up with someone is always risky, but actually committing to living with another person? I can't even tell if this is for real or is a wind up post.

Not just about you, but her? The very idea that a girl would plan to move in with a member that she'd never met before is pretty scary. I mean the amount of situations where models have met up with members and they've been complete psychos or have kept a whole load of things in the dark... Taking the risk in meeting up is one thing as there are also plenty of situations where it works out really well, but throwing all your cards in and hoping for the best is like a lottery, and a lottery that could endanger your life.

It's no newsflash that talking over the internet is easy. You can be whoever you want to be. You can share your hopes, your dreams, your fears, everything. You can even make a whole load up. You can also imagine people are responding differently to how they actually are. I recently found out that probably my closest regular was hiding something from me that has completely made me question him as a person. Someone that I talked to for hours at a time almost every day for over twice as long as you've known this girl. As the girls on ACF pointed out, this happens. There are many who've felt they've known people online and have realised that lots of the things they thought they knew weren't true.

Then well... The money thing... That's just... No words.

I'm kind of inclined to think you're some dude from the "I hate ACF/camgirls" department who's coming in to shit stir and make it look like all camgirls are evil. Though I would have thought if that were the case this would be a brand new thread. It seems a bit low exposure to not start a new thread...

I hope all works out for you, but even if you and this girl are both two really genuine people and are really into each other, the risk you've taken is really serious. I suggest some sort of professional help, not because I think you're crazy, but because I think chances are you are missing something in your life to make you so keen to rush into such a massive commitment with someone you've never even met. Something that professional help may make it become easier to realise what that is and actually achieve it.

 

[AllisonWilder]

While I agree that just up and moving in with a stranger is a little risky and maybe even a little crazy, I don't feel like it's necessary to call someone an idiot for possibly being lead on by a camgirl.


@heatwave06-- I sincerely hope that it's a misunderstanding/miscommunication happening here and that if you were truly lead to believe that you would be with this girl, that it works out as planned. If not, shame on her for leading you on that way.

 

[eclipse76]

Joined: Fri Aug 12, 2011 1:21 pm

Either he's a very long con troll, either he is a fool. I can't believe someone who has been around for so long, even as a simple spectator as he has not posted before, would get involved so deeply.

Living with a girl you have never physically met… I can't even wrap my head around it

 

[GweenBlack]

While I agree that just up and moving in with a stranger is a little risky and maybe even a little crazy, I don't feel like it's necessary to call someone an idiot for possibly being lead on by a camgirl.


@heatwave06-- I sincerely hope that it's a misunderstanding/miscommunication happening here and that if you were truly lead to believe that you would be with this girl, that it works out as planned. If not, shame on her for leading you on that way.

I feel the same way. You are not idiot for believing into someone words. It happens, we make mistakes, people lie, we believe sometimes, other we raise an eyebrow.

Just be in mind its risky for both sides, moving with someone you've never met in person is too risky. Models know why i can't talk to much about this subject, i am stuck in a crazy situation that is actually similar. I don't have an answer, just be aware you might been fooled by her, or she is just busy with something and might come back and talk to you about it.

Wish you the best, try not to freak out about it too much, remember that Cam Modeling is a Job, but since you talked outside about deeper things and personal i can feel what you felt. Maybe she was just playing a game with you, maybe she just freaked about the idea.

Be safe, and hope for the worst, so you don't get disappointed if the worst case scenario happens

Sorry in advance

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I wasn't calling him an idiot for being led on by a camgirl. I'm calling him an idiot for planning to move in with a girl he has never even met who he intends on having a relationship with. Sure it's harsh, but it's the truth.

When you meet someone in real life you don't tend to just move straight in with each other. Many people I know who've moved in with their partners have broken up even though previously they had a great relationship. It's a very big risk. Living together is about more than fancying someone, it's about being able to live with them day in day out. Deal with all their bad habits etc. Without ever meeting someone you can never know this. It's one thing to get a roommate who you don't know (which is again risky), because you don't share a bedroom and probably won't spend that much time with each other, but in a relationship it's different.

I know it's easy to get carried away with things, and sometimes in your mind everything can seem very perfect and like it'll all work out, but there's a time to separate fantasy from reality, and that should come in when it's going to effect your life. I've had one terrible flatmate and it made my life unbearable. I've dated a member (briefly) and had him stay at mine briefly, and it was a nightmare. It could have been a lot worse, but I was stupid. But I had spent time with him in real life previously and had ended up staying at his for a weekend and he was most definitely not moving in with me. Having a bad living situation though is not a situation you ever want to invite into your life.

 

[heatwave06]

Well yes it totally seems stupid to move into with someone you havent met after 6 months far be it with a cam girl. However,I truly believe that this girl is someone who gets me and I get her. Honestly, what would think: we spent hours and hours talking about our respective families, past relationships, the future for me and her including living together and a family one day in the future. I'm definitely not some camgirl hater or anything like that. I've been a member of MFC for years. I have to think that if someone is a part Lounge10000, they're no camgirl hater. And actually I was engaged to a camgirl from 2007 to 2010. Just didnt work out in the end.

I hope that it is a misunderstanding/miscommunication of why I've been blocked on her twitter and getting my emails not sent on MFC or no communication since Sunday. Though I know that she or her twitter has been active today with lots of retweets and posting a picture and I'm still blocked. So I dont know what to think. I have to believe it will work out because she just doesnt seem capable of doing that someone she claims to care about and want a future with.

Thanks
J

 

[AllisonWilder]

I wasn't calling him an idiot for being led on by a camgirl. I'm calling him an idiot for planning to move in with a girl he has never even met who he intends on having a relationship with. Sure it's harsh, but it's the truth.

When you meet someone in real life you don't tend to just move straight in with each other. Many people I know who've moved in with their partners have broken up even though previously they had a great relationship. It's a very big risk. Living together is about more than fancying someone, it's about being able to live with them day in day out. Deal with all their bad habits etc. Without ever meeting someone you can never know this. It's one thing to get a roommate who you don't know (which is again risky), because you don't share a bedroom and probably won't spend that much time with each other, but in a relationship it's different.

I know it's easy to get carried away with things, and sometimes in your mind everything can seem very perfect and like it'll all work out, but there's a time to separate fantasy from reality, and that should come in when it's going to effect your life. I've had one terrible flatmate and it made my life unbearable. I've dated a member (briefly) and had him stay at mine briefly, and it was a nightmare. It could have been a lot worse, but I was stupid. But I had spent time with him in real life previously and had ended up staying at his for a weekend and he was most definitely not moving in with me. Having a bad living situation though is not a situation you ever want to invite into your life.

Idk. It's definitely harsh, but I can't say it's true. I knew my husband for all of 3 weeks in person before we got married. I met, dated and moved in with my current partner in the span of about 4 weeks (and have been with him for just shy of 5 years now). Maybe it's not something that would work for everyone, but that doesn't mean it can't work for anyone.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I don't think you're stupid for believing you shared a connection, though maybe naive. You may very well share a connection and have many things in common, but when things are online they can be very different for each person. I am a camgirl who is prone to talk a lot to regulars, especially when I was single. In many ways I was lonely and enjoyed having someone there to listen to me. Think a diary that talks back. You can talk about your deepest desires, things you don't tell anyone because it's easy. You're just talking to a box. You can make future plans, shape everything the way you want because it's easy. You can indulge in that fantasy. I'm sure you get on with this girl, but remember that camgirls are often girls who find it easy to get on with most people. The chatting lots in Skype and stuff, well when I was single I used to chat loads to one of my favourite regulars in Skype. He was very much a friend to me though. Sometimes I indulged in the idea that it might be more, as did he. With some members and models it genuinely is more. But when members and models meet up in real life they start their relationship from scratch. Sure they know each other to a point, but they only know a fraction of that person, however much that person told them, they only told what they wanted to say.

You're not stupid for believing that these feelings might be real and wanting to have a go at a relationship. The foolishness comes in when you wanted to push it too far, and this goes for the model too. I don't know if it was a scam or not, and she was clearly encouraging and instigating the idea of moving in together, but I'm not sure how old you are, and yes, even adults make mistakes, but as an adult I'd hope you'd have enough life experience to recognise that what was happening wasn't a good plan. Even if you guys were meant for each other, moving in would put tremendous strain and pressure on the relationship.

I very much hope that she hasn't run off with your money and that her feelings are real. I also hope that if her feelings are real that you will re think this mad plan and will decide to meet up first and maybe arrange her moving closer but not with you and being able to fend for herself. If things go well then maybe move in together after a while, but if you genuinely are meant for each other there's no need to rush things.

If this is a scam she may well have spoken to you about all these things. It may not have been an intentional scam. She may just have enjoyed chatting and may have seen a situation arise and may have taken advantage of it. It's often not black and white. She may have been able to give logic to the situation, seeing as you'd had so much free skype time she could have felt like the money was payment. Whether that logic is right or wrong, it may not have been as calculated as her sucking you in with conversation and planning the scam from the start. Or it may have been. I don't know what situation this girl is in, who she is or what her intentions were so it's impossible to say.

 

[LacieLaPlante]

So I need some advise on this particular subject manner.

I've definitely fallen for a camgirl on MFC in the last 6 months and I believe that she has as well. Things seemed happy as could be. We were getting to know each other outside of MFC by talking on skype for hours on end nightly before and after her shifts on MFC. One night for like 7 hours straight. I was helping with ideas of things that she could do in the her cam room when she worked. I was totally committed and supportive of her being a camgirl. Then we started having deeper talks over the last few weeks about seeing each other for real. Those talks lead to deeper talks about moving in together. So we made a plan and many lists of things to get all settled out and be living together ASAP. So I made a commitment to helping her get moved out of her parents place and with a decent car for the long trip.

Do you have these conversations to re-read? I suggest you do. You never know what you may have missed, blindly thinking you were on the same page when she was hesitant. I caution you, for the future to not assume that just because a girl talks to you for hours on end, that she is falling for you. I have had hundreds of internet friends over the years, HUNDREDS, that I have had literally no romantic feelings for, but GUSHED about life. I care a lot about my internet friends, but that doesn't mean I am falling for them.

Secondly. Moving in together? Are you fucking dumb? You shouldn't move in with a romantic partner until you're WELL aware of what your in person relationship is like. No sympathy here.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

If this is a scam she may well have spoken to you about all these things. It may not have been an intentional scam. She may just have enjoyed chatting and may have seen a situation arise and may have taken advantage of it. It's often not black and white. She may have been able to give logic to the situation, seeing as you'd had so much free skype time she could have felt like the money was payment. Whether that logic is right or wrong, it may not have been as calculated as her sucking you in with conversation and planning the scam from the start. Or it may have been. I don't know what situation this girl is in, who she is or what her intentions were so it's impossible to say.

haha I knew this was coming. Guy gets scammed and models make up excuses to justify terrible behavior. Vintage camgirl.

 

[JickyJuly]

You can't really expect anyone to know what happened except the two of you. That's the nature of relationships, but whatever went down, it sounds like it was much more effort on your end. That's always a red flag that maybe the person on the other end is not interested. Basically, if someone isn't meeting you halfway in the relationship you want (platonic or romantic), you're gambling. If gambling with your heart isn't something you want to do, pay attention to the other person's actions over their words. Sometimes people say what we want to hear. Sometimes we hear what we want to instead of what is said, but a person's actions are always clear.

 

[heatwave06]

I appreciate all the positive and negative feedback from everyone.

Yes I have re-read every conversation that we have had on MFC and try to remembered all the conversations on Skype. I'm an aerospace engineer by trade so I'm trained to look at everything in detail. And everything points to her being true and sincere about our relationship and moving in. Let it be know that I wasn't one that put out the suggestion of us moving in together. That was her. We were originally planning a small trip together. And then one those talks got really deep and here is the statement that set the snowball in motion for us moving in:

"Can we just say fuck the trip and focus on moving my kitty and I instead?"

After that, I made a commitment to make this happen for us because I believe that we are good people who have had bad luck and finally found the right combination to make our lives happy. So with that, I'm lost for words in what the next step is because we had plans and lists so that by April 18th, her birthday, we would be together. But being blocked on every communication avenue and being radio silent, I dont know if I give up on the faith that we have a connection that means something to the both of us.

 

[MintyFlowers]

Unfortunately being blocked seems to be a very clear sign of how she feels. I don't know the exact context of that quote... But she didn't explicitly say "I want to move in with you."

I say cut your losses and leave her alone. Sorry that you feel burned by all of this but don't stew in your negative emotions because it will make you feel worse as a person. Instead use your new found time and extra money to invest into yourself!

 

[heatwave06]

I can understand that the quote doesn't imply move in with me but later on she said this:

"I have a to do list for (hidden Cat's name) and my move to you now"

I'll hide the Cat's name for now because I dont wanna put her on blast and if I say his name I believe most who are conversing on this topic would know who she is. I'll just say that a cute picture of him was posted on twitter this afternoon.

 

[SatanJonez]

I can understand that the quote doesn't imply move in with me but later on she said this:

"I have a to do list for (hidden Cat's name) and my move to you now"

I'll hide the Cat's name for now because I dont wanna put her on blast and if I say his name I believe most who are conversing on this topic would know who she is. I'll just say that a cute picture of him was posted on twitter this afternoon.

 

[LacieLaPlante]

I can understand that the quote doesn't imply move in with me but later on she said this:

"I have a to do list for (hidden Cat's name) and my move to you now"

I'll hide the Cat's name for now because I dont wanna put her on blast and if I say his name I believe most who are conversing on this topic would know who she is. I'll just say that a cute picture of him was posted on twitter this afternoon.

For someone not trying to put anyone on "blast" you're doing an awfully good job of dropping little hints.

Anyway, I URGE YOU to look at your most recent conversations and look for signs of hesitation, not signs of proof that you were right, she did say she want to move in. She may have just changed her mind. Gotten cold feet. Maybe her parents weren't comfortable with her moving in with a stranger. Maybe it was all just TOO MUCH and maybe you didn't get the picture. Moving away from family and friends is a BIG decision, moving away from family and friends to a strangers place? I can see it being a good idea for a week, then coming down to it getting REALLY nervous.

Maybe she did burn you.

 

[SNATCH]

If this is a scam she may well have spoken to you about all these things. It may not have been an intentional scam. She may just have enjoyed chatting and may have seen a situation arise and may have taken advantage of it. It's often not black and white. She may have been able to give logic to the situation, seeing as you'd had so much free skype time she could have felt like the money was payment. Whether that logic is right or wrong, it may not have been as calculated as her sucking you in with conversation and planning the scam from the start. Or it may have been. I don't know what situation this girl is in, who she is or what her intentions were so it's impossible to say.

haha I knew this was coming. Guy gets scammed and models make up excuses to justify terrible behavior. Vintage camgirl.

Pretty sure there's TWO sides to EVERY story, yeah? So, sure, let's always just accept the dude-who-fell-in-love-with-a-camgirls-story as ABSOLUTE TRUTH why don't we. - smh. More often than not, what seems to happen, is the member doesn't know his boundaries, even when they are made clear... The 70 pairs of rose colored glasses they have on, just make the member refuse to accept that the model he is madly in love with, just doesn't feel the same way... So they keep pushing, they keep making the model feel uncomfortable enough to the point, that she needs to cut him off...

VOILA. All of a sudden, there is a member sob story about how he fell in love with a camgirl, && now she's a scammer.

WHAT.
The.
FUCK.
Happened.
To.
EVERYONES.
FUCKING.
COMMON.
SENSE.

 

[SexySteph]

I can understand that the quote doesn't imply move in with me but later on she said this:

"I have a to do list for (hidden Cat's name) and my move to you now"

I'll hide the Cat's name for now because I dont wanna put her on blast and if I say his name I believe most who are conversing on this topic would know who she is. I'll just say that a cute picture of him was posted on twitter this afternoon.

We can't really know if you're telling the truth without screenshots of the conversation. Otherwise, you're just typing what you want us to read.

I say, cut your losses and move on. Either she scammed you of you made a mistake. No matter what, it seems like it's over.